24. How Does The Patriarchy HURT Men?

Topics: -Difficulty Ending a Long Show -HIMYM It Wouldn’t Last Nowadays -Have You Ever Yelled at Someone and Felt Good Afterwards? -Scott Rudin -Being Yelled at in your 20s vs 30s -The F*** Budget -Working Customer Service -Character Pees on a Table -Good Quitting Stories Links: ‘I Rewatched ‘HIMYM’ After 4 Years and My Feelings Completely Changed: - https://edtimes.in/i-rewatched-how-i-met-your-mother-after-4-years-and-my-feelings-have-completely-changed/ Scott Rudin - https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/movies/movie-news/everyone-just-knows-hes-an-absolute-monster-scott-rudins-ex-staffers-speak-out-on-abusive-behavior-4161883/ Scott Rudin to Resign - https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/movies/movie-news/scott-rudin-to-resign-from-the-broadway-league-report-4172372/ Harvey Weinstein New Yorker - https://www.newyorker.com/news/news-desk/from-aggressive-overtures-to-sexual-assault-harvey-weinsteins-accusers-tell-their-stories Magic of Not Giving a F*** - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GwRzjFQa_Og Karen Olivo’s Video - https://www.instagram.com/p/CNqFSKBFBsj/ @karenolivo76 BOOKS: “For The Love of Men” by Liz Plank - https://eclectuals.indielite.org/book/9781250757203 “Man Enough” by Justin Baldwin - https://eclectuals.indielite.org/book/9780063055599 “Boys and Sex” by Peggy Orenstein - https://eclectuals.indielite.org/book/9780062666987 @feministabulous @justinbaldoni https://www.peggyorenstein.com/ @boyswillbehuman

Topics -1st Reactions to Having a Son -Extra Pressure raising a son? -Diversity in Children’s Books -Assuming the Dad is incompetent -“Everybody wants to tell you how to raise your child” -What Do You Want Your Son to Cherish? LINKS: 1. Dr. Tracy Baxley - @socialjusticeparenting 2. Molly and Sam's "The Hold Up" podcast The Hold Up w/ Molly Sanchez & Sam DiSalvo https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hold-up/id1531355208 Twitter: @thisholdsup Instagram: the_holdup_pod Facebook: The Holdup Podcast 3. Music by Polaroid Bear https://thepolaroidbear.com/ @boyswillbehuman

Today's Topics: “Katharine Hepburn needing to be taken down a peg” 1940 vs Now Female Character who didn’t want children the Passive Aggressive Husband Hays Code Women more successful than their partners Links Discussed in Episode: The Hold Up w/ Molly Sanchez & Sam DiSalvo https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hold-up/id1531355208 Twitter: @thisholdsup Instagram: the_holdup_pod Facebook: The Holdup Podcast “Man Enough: Undefining my Masculinity” by Justin Baldoni - https://eclectuals.indielite.org/book/9780063055599 For The Love of Men by Liz Plank - https://eclectuals.indielite.org/book/9781250757203 Hays Code link - https://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=93301189

Today we play Jeopardy that is ALL ABOUT WOMEN! Do you think you'll do well?  I wanted to do a game show episode with questions about women that men should know by now, and it's a very fun time. I left in big pauses to really show how long it takes for us to answer or not answer these questions! Hope you enjoy! Watch The VIDEO on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yco4wcuhad4&t=1s @boyswillbehuman

Catcalling - the act of shouting harassing and often sexually suggestive, threatening, or derisive comments at someone publicly Sexual Harassment - behavior characterized by the making of unwelcome and inappropriate sexual remarks or physical advances in a workplace or other professional or social situation. Today I speak to three of my female friends about being catcalled and/or sexually harassed. We discuss how close these two things are, they can be separated BUT catcalling leads to more more times than not. Great day for learning and talking to friends however they identify, let's talk! Topics: -It’s an EVERYDAY occurrence -Being Catcalled at 13 -“Are you afraid of having a daughter?” -Catcalling from different races, by Car, Walking on the Street, Elevator -Women Harassing Men -“What is your mental process for leaving your house?” -“Everyone knows a woman who’s been raped, almost nobody knows a rapist” -Survival Tactics -If Men are walking behind you, and don’t want to scare her, what should we do?” -“After all these stories, how do you function?” -Leaving Drinks Unattended -Learning and Educating Videos and Links Mentioned in Podcast -Catcalling VIRAL VIDEO - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1XGPvbWn0A -‘When They See Us’ Trailer - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YyoSErErnCE -Central Park Five Article - https://time.com/5597843/central-park-five-trump-history/ -Fred Hampton Article - https://www.zinnedproject.org/materials/assassination-of-fred-hampton -Black Wall Street Article - https://www.theatlantic.com/sponsored/hbo-2019/the-massacre-of-black-wall-street/3217/ -LA Human Trafficking pdf - https://www.castla.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/CAST-Prevalance-Study-County-of-Los-Angeles-2019.pdf -Jackson Katz TEDtalk = https://www.ted.com/talks/jackson_katz_violence_against_women_it_s_a_men_s_issue?language=en @boyswillbehuman Music by Polaroid Bear: https://thepolaroidbear.com/

Welcome to another BIG GROUP discussion! This week is about Social Perfectionism. I have no problem believing men try to be socially perfect because we want to look "perfect" to people to keep them away? Impress others with our 'success'? It's pretty on brand I think, and we talk about it! Follow us on IG @boyswillbehuman Some of Today's Topics: -Gender Identity Crisis -Feeling Different when Financially Stable -Getting The House, Spouse, Kids and Fence -Expectations one you’re “successful” -Taking People’s Advice at your pace -The Meisner Technique of Acting Article We Talk About in The Episode: https://www.psypost.org/2015/05/the-male-suicides-how-social-perfectionism-kills-men-34574 *National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish. 800-273-8255 *Better Help https://www.betterhelp.com/ *‘Leaves of Gold’ book: https://eclectuals.indielite.org/book/9780353501980 Music by Polaroid Bear https://thepolaroidbear.com/

Waves Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V5z3cr8AB5g Waves on Amazon Prime: https://www.amazon.com/Waves-Sterling-K-Brown/dp/B0815QZ5D9 Waves Video Essay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rG2rvf4bm6Q Kelvin Harrison Jr. Interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Shiq5xj2wFc Thanks you listening! Talk to you soon! IG = @boyswillbehuman @allmencry Music by Polaroid Bear https://thepolaroidbear.com/

Today I talk to my friend and children’s author Thomas Philips about: Men being Afraid to be ridiculed. A Very Good Life Lesson from Dad How Boys Learn about Sex Fulfilling Society’s Standards for Men How we both have been Toxic How we are all Masculine AND Feminine Check out my website for my online Script Supervisor Class scriptjosh.com Music by Polaroid Bear: https://thepolaroidbear.com/ @boyswillbehuman

BIG EPISODE. 7 Guests. Unedited episode, so you'll hear all the pauses and "what was that?"'s since we did this through zoom.  I think you're going to like this one. Should we do more? Let us know! IG = boyswillbehuman

Today I speak to my friend Njoroge and we discuss: Being 'tough' in high school Male Privilege Coming to the USA Why Women Live Longer Thank you for listening! ALSO check out Bri-tish podcast IG = britishwithadash Music by Polaroid Bear https://thepolaroidbear.com/