how to crave doing hard things

We've all read the books, saved the screensavers and typed out affirmations in our notes apps... but why does the abundance we've prayed for still seem to be so far away sometimes?It's taken me a long time to unlearn the beliefs about abundance that I didn't know I had: like the idea that money is evil or that having more than you need is greedy. This week I'm sharing the three-step roadmap I'm using right now to rewire my thinking, pulled from teachings by Lacy Phillips and Joe Dispenza - plus a way to do gratitude on the difficult days without gaslighting myself into something I don't actually believe xlinks:As Young As This - Roxy DunnYou are A Badass At Making Money - Jen SinceroTo Be Magnetic - Lacy PhillipsExpanded Podcast -TBM Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself - Joe DispenzaHow to Survive Working for Yourself - Big Sister Diaries♡ more links! BSD on InstagramBSD on SubstackDanielle on Instagram

I love mindset work, I believe in neuroplasticity, and I will always have a soft spot for a motivational quote. But I also can't help but feel that all this advice about "being unbothered” might be actually... not so great? I want to talk about the other side of personal growth - the part that's not about becoming mentally tougher but actually about FEELING MORE because so many of us have learnt to intellectualise our emotions instead of experience them. Sacreligious but maybe there is such a thing as too much mindset work? What if the key to being more agile and resilient is actually using our head less and our heart and our nervous system more... and what if it's the key to becoming not just more productive and efficient and happier... but hotter too?linksTED Talk: the Gift of Emotional Courage - Susan DavidAtlas of the Heart - Brene BrownHow Emotions Are Made - Lisa Feldman BarettFeelings Wheel ♡ more links! BSD on InstagramBSD on SubstackDanielle on Instagram

If you've ever been afraid to decide because you're too afraid there might be a better choice out there you haven't thought of yet - this one is for you.Today we're talking about the paradox of choice… the feeling of being so frightened of making choices that we regret that we don't do anything at all. And whether you’re struggling with big decisions like your career path or who you choose to marry - or smaller ones like whether you should finally cut a fringe - I hope this episode will help you get out of the overthinking spiral so you can actually start moving towards the things you really want xlinks:Transformative Experience - Laurie Ann PaulThe Bell Jar - Sylvia PlathDaring Greatly - Brene Brown♡ more links! BSD on InstagramBSD on SubstackDanielle on Instagram

Before you listen, I want to be so clear: this isn’t just about hyping you up to do marathon or to take ice baths. Those are great, but they’re not the only hard things that change you.There’s a lot of other things that nobody will notice (or cheer for!) at first: like going to therapy, or putting yourself out there when you might get rejected, or keeping your promises to yourself even though no one is watching. They’re not as aesthetic and you don’t walk away with a Strava score that you can post on socials - but the ways they change your life matter just as much.This episode is about learning to rewire our brains so that we actively welcome hard things instead of just tolerate them, and of course the practical tools that have been helping a scaredy cat like me start craving hard things more xlinks:Dopamine Nation - by Anna LembkeStanford GSB "Last Lecture Series" - Graham WeaverStudy Writeup - Alia CrumStudy Writeup - Katy MilkmanThe Power of One More - Ed Mylett♡ more links! BSD on InstagramBSD on SubstackDanielle on Instagram

Walking down memory lane today through my time as a full time yoga teacher but just know... this one is for anyone who is building something with their name on the door.Because all the Instagram posts yelling "you are too creative for a 9-5" do have a point - but what they don't talk about is the unromantic side of being your own boss. It's a crash course in self-development, and it will test you more than you could ever have expected.So today, I want to share seven things I wish someone had told me at the start of my wellness career - and most of them have nothing to do with yoga x♡ more links! BSD on InstagramBSD on SubstackDanielle on Instagram

As we move through our 20s and into our 30s... I think we've all gone through specific moments when we've outgrowing our old self and we've left old version of ourselves behind. And often, it feels disorientating and awkward and really, really painful. But sometimes the hardest part of it is feeling guilty because you used to love your life!!! You used to be so driven to reach for the dreams that you now have... but you're in a place where it doesn't fit the way you thought, and you don't know what's next for you. So if you feel like you've outgrown the person you were but you're also not the person you want to be yet - you're not alone xoLinks:Lady Lady by Olivia DeanMessy Middle by Scott BelskyHow Emotions Are Made - Lisa Feldman BarrettRites of Passage by Arnold Van GennepMountain is You by Brianna Wiest♡ more links! BSD on InstagramBSD on SubstackDanielle on Instagram

If you've ever held back from something because you were scared of looking like you were trying too hard...this one's for you.I made this episode because the fear of being cringe kept me small for a longggg time, and it took me most of my 20s to finally realise that the there will always, always be something to be afraid of. And at the end of the day... I can either be afraid of embarrassing myself or of wasting my life. So here we go!♡ more links! BSD on InstagramBSD on SubstackDanielle on Instagram

If you were raised to be the good girl - the helpful one, the reliable one, the one who holds everything together - this episode is for you.Today we're getting into why over-giving isn't the same as being generous, the difference between being nice and being self-abandoning, and the practical tips on setting clean boundaries without blowing up your relationships. Links:Too Much by Terri ColeAtlas of the Heart by Brene BrownBoundary Boss Scripts by Terri Cole♡ more links! BSD on InstagramBSD on SubstackDanielle on Instagram

Before you press play... this isn't another episode about motivation!!! Self-sabotage isn't laziness, it isn't a character flaw, and you can't think your way out of it.It's taken me awhile to learn that self sabotage is the result of something called 'conflicting desires': a clashing between who you consciously want to become and what your subconscious currently believes is safe. Today we're getting into why we are so often our own worst enemy, four sneaky ways we get in our own way, and the concrete steps to start changing those patterns so we can live our best life... without toxic positivity or impractical mansplaining :)Links:The Mountain is You by Brianna WiestThe Big Leap by Gay Hendricks♡ more links! BSD on InstagramBSD on SubstackDanielle on Instagram

If you've ever said yes when you meant no, changed yourself to match the room, or realised you don't actually know what you like anymore... this one's for you.I spent wayyy too long trusting other people's opinions more than my own. For years, I stayed in a relationship where I had to constantly tip-toe around his moods. I ran myself ragged trying to please everyone around me, and I let pieces of myself be chipped away until I didn't even know who I was anymore. So today we're covering the subtle signs of people pleasing, the psychology behind why we let it happen, and four practical ways to start taking your power back and reminding yourself who tf you are xLinks: Untamed by Glennon Doyle♡ more links! BSD on InstagramBSD on SubstackDanielle on Instagram