Ep. 393: Are We Accidentally Creating Second-Child Syndrome?

In the special segment "Gripe Water," Shanna and Laura share the hilariously petty parenting problems that have been bothering them lately, diving into the topics of stroller envy and screen time. Also, Laura reports on the people, gifts and baked goods that made her Christmas special, and Shanna talks about managing a hectic, cooped-up holiday week with a sick kid. Finally, they wrap up with their weekly BFPs and BFNs, including a fun family outing and an indoor activity that unexpectedly became a big hit. Shanna’s kids are 7 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.Topics discussed in this episode:A low-key, rainy Christmas week and what it’s like hosting visiting family (and dogs)Parenting your sick child during the holidaysStroller envy: missing the days when you had a mobile cart for all your kid gearManaging kids’ video game obsession, meltdowns, and tough transitionsProducts, links, resources mentioned in this episode:Harry Potter Lego setsFive Nights at Freddy's kids costumeCaptain America kids costumeAir drum sticksAmerica's Test Kitchen gingerbread cookiesPottery wheel for kidsSchool kit from Lakeshore LearningNex PlaygroundChemex carafeCuisanart water kettleHulken bagPickwick Ice CenterRansom Notes gameConnect with UsFollow us on social: Instagram, TikTok or Facebook at @bfppodcastJoin our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.Visit our website: bigfatpositivepodcast.comEmail us: [email protected] you enjoyed this episode, help spread the word by sharing the show or leaving a review. Thank you!Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment "Never Have I Ever: Parenting Edition," Laura and Shanna reveal the unexpected things they've never done before having kids, including a desperate attempt to complete a puzzle in inclement weather and a disturbing doctor's appointment that ended in tears. Also, Shanna talks about her attempts to have a low-key Christmas, and Laura reports on her family's festive week of ice dancing and dreidel spinning. Finally, they share their BFPs or BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 7 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.Topics discussed in this episode:Last-minute holiday decorating and keeping expectations lowA kid getting sick right before Christmas and deciding when to go to urgent careTaking your kids to festive holiday eventsCelebrating Hanukkah with friendsWhen you realize you are doing something wacky and unreasonable as a parentTough doctor visits with kidsNavigating fear, consent and advocating for your child in a medical settingHow kids misunderstand medical “threats” and why wording mattersA funny public moment involving a kids’ character and an unexpected song choiceVolunteering at your kid's school and reading a funny picture book to your kid's classA parenting win: getting your kid re-engaged in an extracurricular activityProducts, links, resources mentioned in this episode:Disney on IceHow to Play DreidelKanoodle - Brain Teaser PuzzleMuseum of IllusionsBlippi"Fat Bottomed Girls" by Queen"The Book That Almost Rhymed" by Omar AbedPast BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:Ep. 379 - (Shanna talks about going to the Museum of Illusions)Ep. 358 - (Laura talks about Auggie quitting parkour and starting jiu-jitsu)Connect with UsFollow us on social: Instagram, TikTok or Facebook at @bfppodcastJoin our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.Visit our website: bigfatpositivepodcast.comEmail us: [email protected] you enjoyed this episode, help spread the word by sharing the show or leaving a review. Thank you!Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment "Dear Past Me," Shanna and Laura give their former selves parenting advice based on what they know now, including wisdom about sentimental baby items and encouragement to advocate for yourself in the early days of new motherhood. Also, Laura manages to get her reluctant kids to go on an urban adventure, and Shanna celebrates her daughter's 7th birthday and travels to Phoenix with her family for a celebration-of-life event. Finally, they share their BFPs or BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 7 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.Topics discussed in this episode:Finding outdoor adventures close to home for your familyThe difficulty of transitions with kidsAttending a memorial/celebration of life and what it’s like to do meaningful rituals with kidsReflections on early parenting choices and what we wish we could tell our younger selvesWhy keeping up with milestone keepsakes for all your kids is importantNavigating career and creativity opportunities as a new momAnti-mom bias at work and within creative spaces, and why advocating for yourself mattersKids exploring the performing arts and the joy of seeing them come alive creativelyFinding helpful online communities and learning new routines that are rewardingProducts, links, resources mentioned in this episode:Flint Peak Trail"Big Fish" movieThe Baby-Sitter's Club #33: "Claudia and the Great Search""Flashback" (Shanna's short film)Shanna's WebsiteFine Hair SubredditPomeranian SubredditPast BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:Ep. 283 - (Laura discusses Auggie's reluctance to participate in his school's theater production)Ep. 285 - (Laura reports on Auggie's refusal to participate in the theater production on the day of the show)Ep. 374 - (Laura talks about her boys getting excited about their hiking "costumes" in Portland)Ep. 376 - (Shanna talks about her stepdad's passing)Connect with UsFollow us on social: Instagram, TikTok or Facebook at @bfppodcastJoin our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.Visit our website: bigfatpositivepodcast.comEmail us: [email protected] you enjoyed this episode, help spread the word by sharing the show or leaving a review. Thank you!Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment "Today I Learned," Laura and Shanna discuss the fascinating or unusual things they have learned about recently, including an unexpected baby boom on a remote island in the South Pacific and the surprising history of the Tooth Fairy. Also, Shanna shares the details about her daughter's 7th birthday party, and Laura reports on her experience babysitting Shanna's kids. Finally, they share their BFPs or BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.Topics discussed in this episode:Throwing kids' birthday parties with DIY flairFun ideas for a 7-year-old's birthday partyGetting kids together for a cozy “fake sleepover” nightReality TV crews, on-set romances and an unexpected family-friendly workplaceThe origins of the Tooth Fairy and the traditions that came before herWhether or not to send your kids to day camp over the winter breakDiscovering and using your employer's benefits for subsidized childcareWhen your child shows sudden changes in independence, fears and anxietyProducts, links, resources mentioned in this episode:6-7 trendPusheen the cat"Captain Underpants" moviePeople Magazine article: The Real Love Island? Survivor Crew Romances Have Led to 67 Babies...""Survivor" TV showForbes article: Where Did the Tooth Fairy Come From?Developmental leaps in childrenPast BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:Ep. 383 - (Shanna and Laura discuss the origins of the 6-7 trend)Connect with UsFollow us on social: Instagram, TikTok or Facebook at @bfppodcastJoin our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.Visit our website: bigfatpositivepodcast.comEmail us: [email protected] you enjoyed this episode, help spread the word by sharing the show or leaving a review. Thank you!Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

As 2025 comes to an end, Laura and Shanna reflect on their last 12 months of parenting with honesty, humor and insight in the special segment "Year in Review." As they look back on 2025, they share their biggest laughs, unexpected wins and surprising realizations, including the hilarious thing Laura's kids taught her this year, the shocking incident that sums up the vibe of Shanna's year, their favorite shows of 2025 and more! Also, Laura reports on her family's recent trip to Hawaii, and Shanna talks about how she got her kids involved in Thanksgiving meal prep. Finally, they share their BFPs or BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.Topics discussed in this episode:Taking a family trip with kids (the good, the chaotic and the realistic expectations)Thanksgiving routines that feel doable instead of overwhelmingLetting kids help more at home, especially during the holidays, and why that matters"Mommy Magic" and making the invisible work visible for our kidsLooking back at 2025 and reflecting on what this year actually felt likeSmall parenting wins that didn’t feel like a big deal at the timeThings our kids taught us this year (sometimes on purpose, sometimes not)Finding ways to have fun again as adults, not just planning fun for our kidsNavigating change, transitions and feeling pulled in a million directionsMedia, shows and pop culture that brought comfort, laughter or escapeLooking ahead to the new year with intentions about how we want to feelA vacation activity that will create a core memoryA fun board game to play with your familyProducts, links, resources mentioned in this episode:-Pasadena's Celebration of the Young Child-"Your Friend, Nate Bargatze" special on Netflix-Lita the dog on TikTok-Clara Batten on TikTok-Perimenopause-Baader-Meinhof phenomenon (aka Frequency Illusion)-Rainbow Baby-"Five Nights at Freddy's"-"Ordinary" by Alex Warren-"Severance"-"The Chair Company"-"The Carpool Detectives"-Snorkle Bob's-Humuhumunukunukuapua'a fish-TelestrationsPast BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:-Ep. 362 - (Shanna gets a concussion from a soccer ball)-Ep. 381 - (Laura hosts a booth at the Pasadena Celebration of the Young Child)-Ep. 221 - (Shanna and Laura go to a rage room) -Ep. 378 - (Laura adopts her new kitten, Pumpkin)-Ep. 355 - (Shanna tells her daughter about the Leprechaun and Santa)-Ep. 356 - (Where Shanna tells her daughter about being a "Rainbow Baby")Connect with UsFollow us on social: Instagram, TikTok or Facebook at @bfppodcastJoin our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.Visit our website: bigfatpositivepodcast.comEmail us: [email protected] you enjoyed this episode, help spread the word by sharing the show or leaving a review. Thank you!Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s Christmas week, and Shanna and Laura get festive answering listeners' holiday-themed questions in the special segment "Checkin' the Inbox!" They answer questions about handling the logistics of Santa, managing sibling jealousy during the gift-giving season, whether to do Elf on the Shelf and more! During the check-in, they share their families' plans for the holiday and discuss their gift ideas for their kids, their husbands (and each other!). In the special segment "Checkin' the Inbox: Holiday Q&A," Laura and Shanna. Finally, they share their BFPs or BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.Topics discussed in this episode:Navigating holiday overwhelm while juggling work, parenting and year-end transitionsShould I keep Christmas plans low-key and realistic or go all-out?Holiday activities that help kids burn energy (and parents stay sane)Navigating the mental load of gift-giving and holiday expectationsHow kids’ interests change faster than we can shopWhether or not to exchange gifts with other adultsThe pressure to give “perfect” gifts vs. embracing simpler onesFamily traditions we carried over from childhood - and new ones we’re creating nowHoliday light displays as a new seasonal traditionElf on the Shelf: love it, hate it, or skip it entirelyHow different families handle SantaBig gifts vs. small gifts (and who should get the credit)Fairness, siblings and navigating different ages during the holidaysDeciding which holiday expectations are actually worth the effortBlending holiday traditions from different backgroundsFinding ways to make the season feel special without overdoing itProducts, links, and resources mentioned in this episode:-Tiny Chef-Descanso Gardens Enchanted Forest of Lights-LA Zoo Lights: Animals Aglow-5 Nights at Freddy's Costume-Harry Potter Legos-Kids Pottery Wheel-Labubu-Menorahs at Target-The Boar's Head Carol-The Alex TheaterPast BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:-Ep. 343 - (Where Shanna talks about giving her kids a trampoline for Christmas)Connect with UsFollow us on social: Instagram, TikTok or Facebook at @bfppodcastJoin our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.Visit our website: bigfatpositivepodcast.comEmail us: [email protected] you enjoyed this episode, help spread the word by sharing the show or leaving a review. Thank you!Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment "Would You Rather," Shanna and Laura present hypothetical parenting situations and then discuss which choices they would rather make, diving into the topics of bringing your kids to your own doctor's appointments, handling your kids' questionable choices in music and more! Also, Laura reports on her 6-year-old's first week at his brand-new school, and Shanna gives an update on the caterpillar that her first grader unexpectedly brought home a few weeks ago. Finally, Laura and Shanna share their BFPs and BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.Topics discussed in this episode:-When you child starts a new school in the middle of the school year-When your child brings home a caterpillar to take care of and observe turn into a butterfly -Should I take my kids to my doctor's appointment with me?-When your kids constantly request music that you don't want to hear-Unexpected drama that prevents you from leaving the house on time with your kids-Taking life expectancy into consideration when getting a new pet for your familyProducts, links, resources mentioned in this episode:-Caterpillar to Butterfly Grow Kits-"Jaws Original Motion Picture Soundtrack" by John Williams-"Beetlejuice Original Motion Picture Soundtrack" by Danny Elfman-"My Bum Is Itchy" song by Poopy Man-"Macaroni with the Chicken Strips" song by Undignified Baby-Hamster Rolling Ball toy-Ball python lifespan-"Good to Go: A Fresh Take on Potty Training for Today's Intentional Parent" by Gia Gambaro Blount and Laura Birek-Amanda Troop, Voiceover ArtistPast BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:-Ep. 258 (Where Shanna talks about the softball party disaster when Cece was four)This episode's full show notes can be found here.Want to get in touch with Shanna and Laura? Send us an email and follow us on social! Instagram, Facebook or TikTok at @bfppodcastJoin our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.Visit our website!Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment "Big Topic," Laura shares a difficult decision she made recently that affects her entire family. She discusses the first moment that her gut instinct signalled that things were amiss in this particular situation as well as the events leading up to the decision. Also, Shanna talks about a smaller scale, but still significant, tough choice she recently made to take care of herself. Finally, Laura and Shanna share their BFPs and BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.Topics discussed in this episode:-Making tough decisions to take care of yourself and your kids-Learning from your past mistakes as a mom-Knowing when to trust your gut as a mom-What to do when your child is having a hard time at school-How to talk to your kids about a big change-Two fantastic, funny picture books for kidsProducts, links, resources mentioned in this episode:-Doheny State Beach Campsite-"Bathe the Cat" by Alice B. McGinty, Illustrated by David Roberts-"Strange Planet: The Sneaking, Hiding, Vibrating Creature" by Nathan W. Pyle-Nathan W. Pyle on InstagramThis episode's full show notes can be found here.Want to get in touch with Shanna and Laura? Send us an email and follow us on social! Instagram, Facebook or TikTok at @bfppodcastJoin our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.Visit our website!Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the brand-new special segment "Out of Context," Laura and Shanna share random text messages they have sent or received that shed light on their parenting life, diving into the topics of kids' crushes, classroom behavior, time management and more! Also, Laura reflects on her surprising feelings about staying up late with her kids, and Shanna reports on the situation that put her kids' Halloween party in peril. Finally, they share their BFPs and BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.Topics discussed in this episode:-Should I let my kids stay up late for special occasions?-Throwing a Halloween party for your kids-Being sick as a parent and pushing yourself too hard-Feeling overwhelmed by the amount of communication it requires to be a parent-Receiving a report from your kid's teacher that they have misbehaved at school-Lurking on your kids' social media posts-Trying not to act too excited when your selective eater tries new foods-A fun, family-friendly activity in Los Angeles-Feeling unsure when your kid brings home an intensive project from schoolProducts, links, resources mentioned in this episode:-Minecraft movie-"Steve's Lava Chicken" song-Zankou Chicken-Swan Boat Rides at Echo ParkThis episode's full show notes can be found here.Want to get in touch with Shanna and Laura? Send us an email and follow us on social! Instagram, Facebook or TikTok at @bfppodcastJoin our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.Visit our website!Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment "What the Hack?!," Shanna and Laura share some of their favorite parenting tips and tricks, including ideas for preventing toddlers from knocking over valuable items, being prepared when you're in the car with your kids, using honey bears in a fun way and more! Also, Laura reports on the unsettling reports she has been getting from her 6-year-old's school, Shanna discusses her attempt to power through her recovery from a recent illness, and both moms share their families' plans for Thanksgiving this year. Finally, they share their BFPs and BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.Topics discussed in this episode:-Laura and Shanna's plans for Thanksgiving this year with their families-Parenting while sick and trying to push through the recovery phase-Finding out your child is being bullied at school-Tips, tricks and hacks for making your parenting life easier-Disappointment about not being able to follow through on a commitment-Fun how-to drawing books for kidsProducts, links, resources mentioned in this episode:-Clear Museum Gel-Tissue box hack-Flashlight metaphor for pain management-Using honey bears in the shower-Rice-cooker pasta-The Food Lab: Better Home Cooking Through Science by J. Kenji López-Alt -Choking-hazard check-"Let's Draw Aliens and Spaceships with Crayola!" by Kathy Allen (Author) and Neil Clark (Illustrator)-"Ed Emberley's How to Draw Monsters and More Scary Stuff" by Ed Emberley-Cookbook stand (to use for holding kids' drawing books)This episode's full show notes can be found here.Want to get in touch with Shanna and Laura? Send us an email and follow us on social! Instagram, Facebook or TikTok at @bfppodcastJoin our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.Visit our website!Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.