Mini Episode: Loving a Man in a Patriarchal World

My essay, Practicing repair in a post-village worldSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

My essay, Was the Village Really Better?Subscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

My essay, Gossip was sacred until they made it dangerousSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

My essay, Loving a Man in a Patriarchal WorldSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

My essay What It Means to be Ready NowSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackJoin the Winter ‘26 live round of Circle Craft, my women’s circle facilitating trainingMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

In this solo episode, I reflect on this past year and look forward at what's ahead through the lens of the seasons. I muse on my experience of the second full year on our farm and how we have expanded, moved through challenges and triumphs throughout the growing season. I also talk about my upcoming winter plans and what I’m generally looking forward to during the darker months. Also…I’m pregnant! Surprise!Tune in to hear more from me on:Hyperlocal and bioregional involvement with the farm standHow and why I’ve been refining friendships and connections this yearDialing down the people pleasing and rooting into my own valuesHouses as living entities and the sign about my pregnancyHow winter is the season of gathering and how it impacts community buildingPicking up writing again and considering self publishing after multiple rejections of a book ideaMy passion for women’s circles and gearing up to share my Circle Craft training again this winterResources + LinksSubscribe to my newsletter, How We Come Back on SubstackMy essay The Summer I Got Stung A LotMy essay about the loss of our pregnant cow The First Big LossMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[03:19] How Farm Life is Going[14:18] An Update on Community-Building[24:25] What I’m Looking Forward to this Winter

On this episode, I am joined by Béa Victoria Albina, a trained nurse practitioner, master certified life coach, somatic experiencing practitioner and author of “End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits.” Béa coined the term ‘Emotional Outsourcing’, which describes our co-dependent, people pleasing and perfectionistic habits and how these behaviors cost us our joy, authenticity and true connection to self and others. In this episode, we talk about the cost of chronically and habitually outsourcing our sense of safety, belonging and worth. We dive into the root of these behaviours from a cultural and historical perspective and Bea shines a light on how we were trained up to be disconnected from the earth, magic and our own inner wisdom. Tune in to hear more from us on:How emotional outsourcing can influence all aspects of our lives and sense of selfThe true cost of people pleasing, perfectionism and codependency, and its root causesHow shifting to a place of trust is a liberating experience, and how to do thisTrad-wife culture and how to explore femininity as a gateway to empowermentEmotional outsourcing in a facilitator role and finding acceptance and surrender in the process of facilitationHow to learn the body’s language through somatic experience and understanding where survival patterns come fromManaging text message overwhelm as a recovering people pleaserResources + LinksBéa Victoria Albina’s book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits’Béa’s website beatrizalbina.com and Instagram @beatrizvictoriaalbinanpBéa’s podcast ‘The Feminist Wellness podcast’My book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[0:00] What is Emotional Outsourcing [10:55] The Origin of Codependency and Emotional Outsourcing [14:39] Weaponized Femininity and Glorified Codependency [22:04] Facilitating without Emotional Outsourcing [29:28] Practicing and Embodying Self Trust [39:38] Navigating Boundaries and Intimacy [49:00] Managing Text Message Overwhelm as a Recovering People Pleaser [45:20] Bea’s Book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits’

How can we add meaning and ritual to growing older? For my 40th birthday, I hosted and experienced a Threshold Crossing: an embodied and community-led ritual that initiated me into my next decade. In today’s episode, I sit down with my dear friend Mara Glatzel, who designed and led part of the ritual with and for me. With her, I share about how my desire to claim this threshold saw me move past feelings of cringe and embarrassment and embrace the process of creating something meaningful, incorporating others in it and feeling witnessed in the process.Tune in to hear more from me on:What it means to ritualize a threshold crossing and the transformational power it holdsHow I designed the celebration and what factors were involvedThe vulnerability I had to lean into throughout the whole experienceWhat it looked like and meant to me to leap across the thresholdHow I have been integrating the experience and the importance of the pause of becomingThe power of being witnessed and witnessing transformationHow Mara celebrated her own 40s threshold crossing and how it differed to mineWhat it means to us to grow older and different ways we’re embracing thatResources + LinksRooted Magic, my October 2025 retreat at the Kripalu CenterPrevious podcast episode #66 and episode #112 with Mara GlatzelFind Mara on Instagram @maraglatzel, her website MaraGlatzel.com and her book, NeedyMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[0:00] Introducing Mara and the Threshold Crossing Ritual[8:21] Claiming and Witnessing the Threshold of Turning 40[19:20] The Vision and Process of the Ritual[29:30] Leaping over the Threshold[44:55] The Transformational Power of Ritual[48:39] Embodying and Integrating a Threshold Ritual Experience[52:00] Different Ways of Experiencing the 40s Threshold[59:27] Experiencing the Joy of Being Alive and Growing Older

In this episode, I reflect on the significance of my roadside honor system farm stand on a personal, communal and environmental level. This small physical, and seasonal, structure is a prayer for community, an altar to trust, and a quiet form of resistance to disconnection and urgency. Join me in this musing on how meaning isn’t created from scale, but from depth.Tune in to hear more from me on:The embodiment of rightsizing and experiencing more tactile, IRL livingWhere my love for farmstands originatesReclaiming a sense of enoughness and building resilienceThe farmstand as an altar for people to feel nourished and connectedReconnecting with the earth and local communityThe joy of simple, sacred interactionsThe farmstand as a place of reciprocity and regenerationResources + LinksEpisode #133 with Stevie Storck on Rightsizing Life and the Sharing TableEpisode #136 with Carmen Spagnola on Satisfiability as a Collapse SkillMy Substack piece on ‘The Community Economics of a Roadside Farmstand’My book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[0:00] Introduction to my Farm Stand Journey [4:26] The Origin Story of my Love for Farm Stands [9:30] Rightsizing: The Intention behind my Own Farm Stand [13:52] The Embodiment of Satisfiability [20:10] The Farm Stand as a Sacred and Regenerative Tool of Exchange [27:15] Community Identity and Neighbourliness [30:25] The Farm Stand as a Place of Reciprocity

Today I am joined by my dear friend Erin Claire Jones, one of the world’s leading experts on Human Design and founder of Human Design Blueprint. Through her coaching content and digital products, Erin has empowered hundreds of thousands of people to overcome their biggest obstacles and find their flow in life, love and work. And she now has a gorgeous book out: How Do You choose? A Human Design Guide to What’s Best for You at Work, in Love and in Life.Personally, I love Human Design as a tool to understanding myself and the people around me. In this episode, Erin and I dive deep into my own blueprint as well as my family’s to illustrate how knowing one’s Human Design can empower your relationship with yourself, as well as with your partner, children and anyone else you are close to and/or care about.Tune in to hear more from us on:My family’s Human Design charts and what they meanUnderstanding the gifts and challenges of each of our designs (including my 4 year old’s)Being seen and recognized for your soul’s unique blueprintThe Types and Authorities in Human DesignHow your blueprint can define your relationships and ways to navigate thatResources + LinksOrder Erin’s book How Do You Choose? A Human Design Guide to What’s Best for You at Work, in Love and in LifeLook up your own design on Human Design Blueprint and use code ‘BELONGING’ for a 10% discount on your guideStudy Human Design with Erin: humandesignblueprint.comFind Erin on Instagram @erinclairejones and @humandesignblueprintListen to my first podcast episode with Erin, #105: Human Design for Parents and PartnersMy book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[0:00] Introduction and Celebrating the Book Launch: Making Human Design Practical [13:12] Understanding People’s Human Design [16:46] Finding Recognition in Relationships [20:17] Navigating Family Dynamics and Parenting through the Lens of Human Design [33:32] A Partnership between Two Sacral Authorities and Making Gut Decisions [41:32] Observing People as a Human Design Expert [45:53] Growing Up in a Family with Projectors and Manifestors [48:58] The Main Types and Authorities within Human Design