Why Do People Cheat?

Life Lately: Brand Deals, Co Parenting Therapy & Letting It All UnfoldIn this very real and unfiltered life update episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, I’m sitting down for a full brain dump on everything that’s been happening over the past few weeks.From juggling content creation, motherhood, grad school, and my career in media planning to navigating co parenting therapy, emotional growth, and the behind the scenes reality of building a life that actually feels aligned, this episode is honest, messy, reflective, and hopeful all at once.I open up about:• The creator partnerships and campaigns I’ve been working on lately with brands like Truly Free, AlphaNom, Starbird, and campaigns featuring Emmy• What it’s really like balancing work, content creation, motherhood, and grad school• The reality of trying to “do it all” while staying mentally grounded• Going to therapy for co parenting and the emotional growth that comes with it• Learning how to regulate overwhelm and trust divine timing• Building a life and career that actually aligns with the future I envision for myself and my daughterI also share the affirmation that’s been carrying me through this season of life:Everything will get done at its time, the way it was meant to. I am able to do everything. I am happy, I am healthy, and everything is okay. I am great in this moment.And… a little Season 2 update 🤍Season 2 of Becoming Her, Unfiltered officially launches in June, and the very first interview episode will feature Jenny Curtis. I’m so excited to begin expanding the podcast into deeper conversations around healing, identity, motherhood, relationships, ambition, and becoming the version of yourself you’ve always dreamed of.This episode truly feels like sitting down with a friend and catching up on life lately. The chaos, the blessings, the growth, the uncertainty, and the beauty of becoming.If your brain has been overloaded lately too, just know:You do not have to have everything figured out today. You are allowed to grow through it in real time.https://www.instagram.com/leenie_flores?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qrhttps://www.tiktok.com/@southbaymoms?_r=1&_t=ZP-95xS60JzIjf

I got a boob job… but this episode isn’t really about my body.It’s about identity.It’s about self-concept.It’s about healing, control, and becoming someone new.In this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, I open up about my breast augmentation and lift after breastfeeding for two years — and the deeper psychological and emotional reasons behind my decision.Because the truth is… changing your body is rarely just about appearance.It’s about how you see yourself.💔 My Story: Postpartum Body, Identity & RebuildingAfter breastfeeding for two years, my body changed in ways I wasn’t fully prepared for.And while I’m incredibly proud of what my body did for my daughter… I also felt disconnected from it.This decision wasn’t about men.It wasn’t about validation.It wasn’t about attention.It was about me wanting to feel aligned again.At the same time, I was:    •    Navigating a breakup    •    Rebuilding my life as a single mom    •    Finishing my Master’s in Marketing Analytics    •    Stepping into a new version of myself mentally, emotionally, and professionallyAnd I realized… my internal growth and my external reflection didn’t match.⚖️ You Can Love Yourself… And Still Want to ChangeThis episode breaks down something we don’t talk about enough:You can love yourself and still want to change your body.You can be confident and still desire alignment.You can appreciate your body… and still want to reconnect with it.Wanting change doesn’t automatically mean insecurity — sometimes it means evolution.🧠 The Psychology Behind It: Self-Concept & Identity ShiftWe dive into the psychology of self-concept — the internal identity you believe you are.Your self-concept influences:    •    your confidence    •    your standards    •    your relationships    •    your decisionsAnd whether you realize it or not…👉 You don’t act based on what you want👉 You act based on who you believe you areWe also talk about the identity gap — the disconnect between:    •    who you are now    •    and who you feel yourself becomingAnd how that gap can create discomfort that drives transformation.🧠 The Neuroscience of a Glow-UpThis episode also explores the brain science behind transformation:    •    Neuroplasticity: how your brain rewires as you evolve    •    Dopamine: why change and “glow-ups” feel exciting and motivating    •    How your brain seeks identity alignment and consistencyYour brain is constantly updating your identity based on your experiences — including how you see yourself.👑 The Let Them Theory: Let Them & Let MeInspired by The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins:⚖️ The Honest TruthThis episode is not about promoting or discouraging plastic surgery.It’s about intention and awareness.For some women, changing their body is empowerment.For others, it’s avoidance.And sometimes… it’s both.The real question is:👉 Are you choosing this from self-love… or from lack?🌱 This Episode Is For You If…    •    You’re going through a glow-up or identity shift    •    You’re navigating postpartum body changes    •    You’re a single mom rebuilding your life    •    You’ve struggled with body image or self-perception    •    You want to understand the psychology behind why we change✨ AffirmationI release the need to stay the same for others.I allow my self-concept to evolve as I grow.I let them have their opinions…and I let me become who I’m meant to be.📝 Journal Prompts    •    What version of me am I becoming right now?    •    Where do I feel misaligned in my life?    •    Am I changing from self-love or self-rejection?https://www.instagram.com/leenie_flores?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Who are you… after the relationship ends?In this episode, I’m talking about the identity shift that happens after a breakup and why it feels like you lost yourself. We get into the psychology of identity fusion, how your brain processes heartbreak, and the role of neuroplasticity in rebuilding who you are.I’m also sharing my personal experience navigating single motherhood, choosing myself, and stepping into a new version of me…including decisions like getting surgery and redefining my identity on my own terms.If you’ve been feeling lost, stuck, or unfamiliar in your own life… this episode will help you understand why and how to move forward.✨ Topics:breakup healing, identity shift, anxious attachment, neuroscience of heartbreak, neuroplasticity, becoming your best self, single mom journey, self growth🧠 Affirmation:I am allowed to outgrow versions of myself.I am safe becoming someone new.I trust the process of rebuilding my life.🎧 New episodes every ThursdayFollow, rate, and share if this resonated 🤍Shoutout to 📍Adonis Plastic Surgery in Torrance, CADr. Kalaria

137 Days Later: Rebuilding My Life After Ending My Engagement137 days ago, I ended my engagement and stepped into single motherhood in a completely new way.In this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, I’m reflecting on what it really looks like to rebuild your life after a breakup — especially as a single mom.We talk about:​ healing after heartbreak​ rebuilding your identity​ taking accountability and growing​ creating a healthy co-parenting mindset​ committing to yourself and your futureI open up about the work I’ve been doing — from reading Atomic Habits, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and Crucial Conversations, to learning how to regulate my emotions and build better habits.We also touch on the neuroscience behind breakups, including dopamine withdrawal and neuroplasticity — and how your brain actually rewires as you rebuild your life.This episode is raw, honest, and a reminder that:you’re not starting over… you’re rebuilding.I also share what I’m calling into my next chapter — growth, community, career expansion, travel, and bigger opportunities.This marks the transition into Season 2, where we’ll go deeper into co-parenting, breathwork, emotional regulation, and real conversations with incredible women and experts.✨Affirmation:I am not perfect, but I am committed to growth.I take full accountability for how I show up.I am building a healthy, aligned life for myself and my child.I trust that everything is shaping me into who I’m meant to be.🎙 Follow Becoming Her, Unfiltered for more of my life journeyFollow me on socials ✨for more of my day to dayhttps://www.instagram.com/leenie_flores?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

🎙 7 Rules to Detox a BreakupPsychology, Neuroscience & Nervous System Healing | Becoming Her, UnfilteredBreakups don’t just hurt emotionally — they affect your brain chemistry, nervous system, and stress hormones.After a breakup, your brain experiences a shift in dopamine, cortisol, and emotional regulation, which is why heartbreak can feel overwhelming and all-consuming.In this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, we walk through 7 action steps to detox a breakup, inspired by The Let Them Theory from Mel Robbins.These steps combine psychology, neuroscience, and practical healing tools to help regulate your nervous system and begin rebuilding your life after heartbreak.The goal isn’t to instantly erase someone from your life.The goal is to gradually regulate your nervous system, reclaim your emotional power, and slowly move forward, until one day that person becomes a small moment in your past instead of the center of your present.🧠 In This EpisodeWe break down the 7 steps that help your brain heal after a breakup:1️⃣ Change your environment2️⃣ No contact3️⃣ Mute them on social media4️⃣ Get a new hobby5️⃣ Fill your calendar with supportive people6️⃣ Create a reset ritual to interrupt emotional spirals7️⃣ Schedule time to process griefEach step is explained through psychology and neuroscience, including:• How the brain’s dopamine reward system affects attachment• Why breakups increase cortisol and stress responses• The role of the amygdala and prefrontal cortex in emotional regulation• How neuroplasticity allows the brain to create new pathways after loss✨ Affirmation for HealingAt the end of the episode we anchor the healing process with this affirmation:I release what I cannot control and take full responsibility for my healing.Every day I choose actions that regulate my mind, strengthen my nervous system, and move me closer to the person I am becoming.🌱 RememberHealing after a breakup is not about pretending it didn’t hurt.It’s about regulating your nervous system, rebuilding your identity, and creating a life that feels aligned with who you are becoming.And over time, the person who once consumed your thoughts…Will simply become a chapter in your story — not the whole book.

🎙 Why Your Life WILL Get Better After a BreakupThe Psychology & Neuroscience of Heartbreak | Becoming Her, UnfilteredIn this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, we break down the psychology and neuroscience of breakups and explain why life often gets better after heartbreak.You’ll learn what’s happening inside your brain during a breakup, from dopamine withdrawal to the brain’s response to rejection and emotional pain and why these reactions are completely normal.If you’re healing from a breakup or trying to understand your relationship patterns, this episode will help you see why the pain you feel right now is temporary and part of the healing process.🧠 In This Episode• Why breakups trigger dopamine withdrawal• The psychology of attachment and emotional loss• Why heartbreak can feel like physical pain• How your brain processes rejection and emotional distress• Why breakups often lead to stronger boundaries and personal growth✨ Key TakeawayHeartbreak doesn’t mean your life is falling apart.Your brain and nervous system are adjusting to a major emotional change.And the version of you that emerges on the other side often has:• stronger boundaries• higher standards• deeper self-awareness• and a stronger sense of self🌿 AffirmationsI am not being rejected. I am being redirectedMy nervous system is recalibratingThis pain is temporaryI am becoming strongerI do not chase what leaves

Attachment Styles 101 — The Waiting GameIn this episode, we’re breaking down attachment styles from both a psychology and neuroscience perspective — and applying it to something we’ve all experienced:The waiting game.You sent the text.Now you’re staring at your phone.Why does that feel so intense?We cover the 3 insecure attachment styles:1️⃣ Anxious Attachment🧠 PsychologyDevelops when caregiving was inconsistent.Core belief: “I might be abandoned.”📱 The Waiting GameNo reply after 20 minutes feels like rejection.Thoughts spiral: “Did I say something wrong?”✨ Affirmations for Anxious Attachment • I am safe even in uncertainty. • Silence does not equal abandonment. • Someone else’s delay is not a reflection of my worth. • I do not have to chase love to keep it. • My nervous system can relax. • I am chosen, even when I am not reassured. • Calm love is secure love.2️⃣ Avoidant Attachment🧠 PsychologyDevelops when caregivers were emotionally unavailable.Core belief: “Needing people leads to disappointment.”📱 The Waiting GameIf they don’t text back?“Whatever. I don’t care.”(But internally, there may still be stress.)✨ Affirmations for Avoidant Attachment • It is safe to need people. • Vulnerability does not weaken me. • I can feel emotions without losing control. • Closeness does not trap me. • I can stay instead of shutting down. • Independence and intimacy can coexist. • I deserve love that feels steady and mutual.3️⃣ Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized)🧠 PsychologyDevelops in chaotic or unpredictable environments.Core belief: “Love is both safe and dangerous.”📱 The Waiting Game“I miss them.”5 minutes later: “I don’t even want this.”Push-pull energy.✨ Affirmations for Fearful-Avoidant Attachment • I can want love without fearing it. • Stability is safe for me. • Not all connection ends in chaos. • I do not need intensity to feel secure. • I can move slowly and choose consistency. • I am allowed to trust safe people. • I am healing the parts of me that learned love through survival.💚 What Secure Attachment Looks Like🧠 PsychologySecure attachment develops when caregivers were responsive and emotionally safe.Core belief: “I am worthy of love, and people are generally reliable.”📱 The Waiting Game (Secure Response)“They’ll respond when they can.”No overthinking. No shutdown.Just calm confidence.Secure attachment doesn’t mean you don’t care.It means your nervous system isn’t in survival mode.✨ Affirmations for Secure Attachment • I respond, I don’t react. • I am secure even when I am waiting. • I trust myself and I trust safe love. • My peace is not dependent on someone else’s timing. • I am worthy of consistent connection. • Calm is my new normal.🌿 Big TakeawayAttachment styles are not personality traits.They are nervous system adaptations.And through neuroplasticity — your brain’s ability to rewire — you can move toward secure attachment.Healing is possible.Security is learned.You are not broken.You adapted.Now you’re becoming secure.💚 Final Affirmation for the Episode:I am becoming securely attached.I respond, I don’t react.I choose calm.I choose stability.I choose love that feels safe

A Little Life Update (Why I Went Quiet)After two weeks of silence… I’m back.In this short, honest life update, I share why I stepped away, what I’ve been processing behind the scenes, and what this season of growth is teaching me.

Is This Intuition or Anxiety?SHOW NOTESAfter betrayal, it can feel impossible to tell the difference between intuition and anxietyA late textA shift in energyA feeling in your chest you can’t explainIn this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, we slow everything down and come back to the body — because clarity doesn’t come from spiraling. It comes from safetyWe talk about the difference between anxiety and intuition:Anxiety feels loud, urgent, and demandingIntuition feels calm, quiet, and steadyIf it needs an answer right now, it’s usually anxietyIf it allows space to pause, it’s usually intuitionThis episode is about learning how to ground yourself first, so you can hear the difference🌿 Grounding Breath (Do This With Me)When anxiety starts to take over:• Inhale through your nose for 4• Hold for 2• Exhale slowly through your mouth for 6Repeat 5 timesDeep breathing signals safety to your nervous system. When the body feels calm, intuition becomes clearerThis type of deep breathing tells your nervous system that you are safe right nowWhen the body calms, the mind becomes clearerYou don’t need answers in this moment — you need regulation✨ Affirmations From This EpisodeRepeat these slowly, or come back to them when you feel yourself spiraling:• I am safe in this moment• I am allowed to pause before reacting• My feelings are information, not commands• Anxiety does not get to lead my decisions• I trust myself to respond from a calm place• Clarity comes when I slow downTake what resonates. Leave the rest💭 A Gentle ReminderYou don’t need to figure everything out todayYou don’t need immediate answersYou can slow down and still trust yourselfIf something needs to be figured out, it can wait until you are calmYou are not ignoring your intuition by grounding yourself you are creating the space to actually hear it

Why Do People Cheat? — Betrayal Trauma, Psychology & the BrainIn this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, I share my personal experience with infidelity and betrayal, and break down why cheating happens through psychology and neuroscience. We explore how betrayal affects the brain, why self-blame shows up.This episode is not about excusing cheating.It’s about understanding betrayal so you can stop internalizing it and begin healingIf you’ve ever asked “Why wasn’t I enough?” or “How did I not know?” — this episode is for you.🌿 Affirmations for Healing After Cheating​Their cheating is not a reflection of my worth.​I am not responsible for someone else’s lack of integrity.​My intuition was not wrong — it was clouded by manipulation.​My nervous system is healing, not failing.​I release the need to replay what I cannot change.​I choose emotional safety and self-respect.​This experience will not define me — my healing will.🎧 New episodes weekly⭐ Follow, rate, and share Becoming Her, UnfilteredInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/leenie_flores?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr