Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

In this episode you’ll learn about:Two main insights I’ve been having as I take on some big and challenging projects. These might be game changers for your own projectsA big upcoming change to the podcast and the opportunity to watch video style podcasts on my new Youtube channel, Tina Elle CoachingMy new 1:1 coaching program, Finish the Dang Thing, designed get you across the finish line of a meaningful project in just 3 months. Find out more at ADHDProductivityLab.com

In this episode you’ll learn:The red-flag signs that you don’t trust yourselfWhat is it about ADHD that makes us tend to not trust ourselvesWhy self-sabotage is not a thingHow to rebuild self-trust and re-align the parts of yourself that are at odds

In this episode you’ll learn:Why we ADHDers depend on negative self talk, negative emotions and negative consequences to get ourselves into motion–and the negative long-term effects it has on our motivation.Why motivation is such a struggle for the ADHD brainHow to stop this mad cycle and generate a form of motivation that’s more effective

In this episode you'll learn:The 5 part recipe for creating the short term rewards and stimulation necessary to stick with long term goalsFun prompts and challenges to get your brain back in the game once you're feeling boredWhy it makes sense--from a neuroscience perspective--that ADHD brains don't maintain interest and enthusiasm over time

In this very short episode:Feel better in just 3 minutesLearn the most important question you could ask yourself to turn your bad aroundUnderstand why shame, blame and self hatred are counterproductive to your goals

In this episode you’ll learn about:The identity of the Four Dark Horsemen of our Procrastination Apocalypse and how they keep us stuck in surprising and often subconscious waysA powerful exercise to break through fear and uncertainty in just 10 minutes“The arrogance of belonging” and the benefits of acting entitled

In this episode you’ll learn:What it actually means to have self acceptance and why saving it for your future, better self is a bad planHow to accept ADHD as an explanation and not an excuse for your behaviorWhat committing to self acceptance can look like. I offer a contract (a copy of which you can find below) you can sign between you and you that spells out exactly how to create self acceptance on the daily. I encourage you to copy and paste it, print it out, sign it and keep it somewhere where you can see it. I, the undersigned ADHDer and incredible human commit to:Having compassion for myself when in the midst of struggle. No matter how much I screw things up—and especially when I screw things up—I will be kind to myself. I will create a safe space within myself where I have a soft place to land. This space is free from negative self talk, blame and shame. And from that place of safety I know the bravery to take the leap into action toward my goals will come naturally. I know that fear of a fatal jump is what keeps me in procrastination. Creating this safety is one of the key ways that I free myself to take brave action. I celebrate myself for small wins. If it felt hard for me and I did it, I celebrate it—even if I think no one else would consider it a win. Actually running the dishwasher: winWorking out today even if you haven’t been consistent with it for weeks: winShowing up and writing for 35 min when you thought you had zero minutes in you: huge freaking winI accept my recurring ADHD symptoms without personal judgment–including distractibility, time blindness, impulsiveness, forgetfulness and disorganization. Acceptance doesn’t mean that I don’t work on improving my skills—it’s simply a recognition that because of the structure of my brain I have the natural tendency toward certain behaviors. I accept that I’m responsible for any negative results of these symptoms–and I do so with an attitude of self-kindness and self-supportI set realistic standards for myself that account for my neurological disadvantages and I create accommodations to support myself. Your signature here: ______________

In this episode you’ll learn:The science-based reasons that ADHD brains are destined to fail when trying to follow neurotypical rules for success–and 4 better ways to work with our unique brain structure and chemistryHow following neurotypical rules for success is like having a really bad fashion senseHow to create a capsule collection of strategies for your ADHD brain that truly show off your brain’s best assets

In this episode you’ll learn:Why self doubt is the obvious consequence of living with ADHDA way to re-imagine who you areThree powerful and practical ways for overcoming self doubt immediately

In this episode you’ll learn:Why Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) happens and why it’s a core part of ADHD, despite not being recognized as a clinical symptomThe immediate and long-term consequences of RSD A 5 step process for managing RSD