Episode 343: Building Real Confidence as an Actor

In this episode, I dive deep into one of the most important and misunderstood parts of an actor's journey: confidence. Without confidence, you're benched. Without humility, you're a liability. Confidence is essential in the entertainment industry, but it has to be real—not performative, not overblown, and definitely not hubris. I break down how to build real, grounded confidence that will keep you moving forward in your voiceover or acting career, using neuroscience-backed tools and personal experience from over two decades in the industry. Key Topics Covered: Why confidence is essential, and why too much of it (aka hubris) can end your career The underrated power of self-awareness and how to cultivate it "Talent blindness" and why some actors can’t see where they’re falling short Real talk on imposter syndrome and how it rewires your brain The difference between self-trust and self-delusion Three Neuroscience-Backed Tips to Build Confidence: Focus on Small Wins Create a "brag file" with positive feedback, wins, compliments, and proud moments Celebrate progress, not perfection, and let your brain build new confidence loops Use Visualization Imagine your future success in vivid detail to activate the same brain networks as real achievement Rehearse emotionally grounded wins before you step up to the mic or camera Interrupt the Cortisol Cycle Practice intentional breathing to calm your nervous system and stay present Use 4-4-6 breath work to reset stress levels before auditions or sessions 7-Day Confidence Challenge (Free Prompt Series): Day 1: Write down 5 wins or moments you felt proud as an actor Day 2: Visualize a successful performance, using all five senses Day 3: Record and review a short piece of work Day 4: Practice calming breath work for 2 minutes Day 5: Take a risk with your craft (bold choice, new tone, character) Day 6: Write and say 3 affirmations aloud Day 7: Journal your growth and what you noticed about trusting yourself Final Takeaway: Confidence is not just mindset. It's a habit. A neurological pattern. A cycle of self-trust, built one decision at a time. If you're struggling with imposter syndrome or feel like your confidence disappears when it matters most, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. Try the challenge. Start small. And keep going. Mentioned in This Episode: My TikTok: @astoryredhead Actors Index Substack Email: [email protected] Want More? Check out our Monthly Gyms and Weekly Classes at Acting Business Boot Camp for ongoing training, coaching, and confidence tools.

Today I want to talk about something that comes up in almost every coaching session I have with actors. Fear. Not just nerves before a big audition. Not just that pit in your stomach when you hit “submit” on a self-tape. I mean the kind of fear that quietly shapes your entire career. The fear that keeps you playing small, second-guessing yourself, or holding back in moments when you need to be bold. The fear that convinces you maybe this dream isn’t really for you. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “What if I’m not good enough?” or “What if I can’t handle it?”—you’re not alone. And that’s exactly what this episode of the Acting Business Boot Camp Podcast is all about. The Root of Fear in an Actor’s Life Fear is instinctual. It’s wired into us. Back when humans were being chased by saber-toothed tigers, fear served a purpose—it kept us alive. But today? That same adrenaline spike shows up when you’re waiting outside a casting office or uploading a tape for your reps. And here’s the thing: fear doesn’t know the difference between real danger and perceived danger. That’s why something as simple as a callback can feel like life or death. But what I’ve learned—both as a working actress and a coach—is that fear isn’t the enemy. The real challenge is how we respond to it. The Real Reason Fear Holds You Back There’s one core truth I want you to consider: At the bottom of every fear is the belief that you can’t handle what life throws at you. That’s it. That’s the root. Not the audition. Not the agent meeting. Not even the rejection. It’s the belief that if those things happen—or don’t—you won’t be able to cope. So what do we do? We avoid. We procrastinate. We shrink ourselves. But I’m here to tell you, you can handle it. You just haven’t built that muscle yet. Shifting Your Energy From Fear to Power In my weekly mindset class for actors, The Weekly Adjustment, we work on exactly this. We shift from what I call catabolic energy (draining, fear-based, victim-thinking) to anabolic energy (creative, empowered, growth-oriented). It’s not magic. It’s mindset work. It’s learning how to interrupt those thought loops and say, “Hey, I see you, fear. But you’re not driving the car today.” Once you do that—once you raise your energy—you start to attract the opportunities, collaborators, and outcomes that match your new level. Not because the world changes. But because you’ve changed. What Would You Do If You Knew You Could Handle Anything? That’s the question I leave you with. What would you do differently in your acting career if you had full trust in your ability to handle whatever came your way? Would you submit more? Would you stop apologizing in the room? Would you finally reach out to that rep? You don’t need to “get rid” of fear. You need to learn how to work with it. To build your handling muscle. That’s how we grow as actors and as humans. Ready to Try This Work for Yourself? If this resonates, I’d love to invite you to try two free classes of The Weekly Adjustment. No catch, no obligation—just real tools to help you feel more confident, more connected, and more in control of your career. This work has changed lives, including my own. It might just change yours too. 👉 Click here to claim your two free classes And remember—you’ll never be given more than you can handle. But you will be given more than you can control. Let’s build that muscle together. With love and belief in you, Peter Pamela Rose Certified Life & Career Coach for Actors Host of the Acting Business Boot Camp Podcast

Episode Summary: In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on something I think we all struggle with at some point—especially if you’re a voice actor, on-camera actor, or creative trying to “make it”: shiny object syndrome. You know the feeling. You see someone post about a fancy new mic, a game-changing workshop, a big booking, and suddenly you're wondering… should I be doing that too? I’ve been there. I’ve spent the money. I’ve chased the dopamine hits. And I want to talk honestly about how jealousy, comparison, and impulse spending can quietly erode your confidence, your clarity, and your career. This one’s for the overthinkers, the late-night scrollers, the folks who are constantly trying to prove they belong. You don’t need to spend your way into success. You need a strategy. And maybe a little tough love. That’s what this episode is all about. In this episode, I talk about: Why shiny object syndrome shows up so often in creative careers How to tell the difference between real growth and reactive spending The not-so-cute side of jealousy (and what it’s actually trying to tell you) Why a new mic or class might not be the thing that moves the needle What to track so you can make strategic, data-backed decisions A practical, free action you can take this week to reconnect with your voice and value What I Hope You Take Away: Just because someone else is booking doesn’t mean they’re better. Just because you feel stuck doesn’t mean you need to spend. You already have more than you think. The key is learning how to use it intentionally. Mentioned in this episode: 🎤 Join my Voiceover Gym – Monthly improv-based VO workout sessions with direct feedback 📬 Subscribe to my Substack – Real talk on creative mindset, VO coaching, and the business of being an artist 📱 Follow me on TikTok – For behind-the-scenes, soapbox rants, and the occasional mic drop Want to support the show? Share this episode with a fellow actor who needs to hear it. Leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts. It makes a huge difference.

How to Land Acting Work in Smaller Markets (And Why It’s More Accessible Than You Might Think) Have you ever thought that real acting work is only found in big cities? Like you have to be in New York or LA to make it? I used to think that too. But my conversation with actor Aaron Marcus on the Acting Business Boot Camp podcast really shifted that perspective. About Aaron Marcus Aaron Marcus has been a full-time actor for over 40 years, with nearly 1,300 bookings across film, TV, commercials, and more. You might have seen his scene with Tom Hanks in the film A Man Called Otto. Aaron started his acting journey in a small market, with no connections and no clue how to break in. After figuring it out through trial and error, he dedicated himself to helping others avoid those same pitfalls. He’s led over 800 workshops on three continents and offers private virtual coaching sessions to share his hard-earned wisdom. You can learn more about Aaron’s work, watch his free quick-tip videos, or sign up for his mailing list at howtoactandmodel.com. The Reality of Smaller Markets It’s easy to forget that acting isn’t only about movies and television. There’s a whole world of paid acting work in smaller markets that most people overlook: training videos, corporate films, industrials, standardized patient work at hospitals, even local commercials and role-playing jobs for law schools and agencies. Aaron shared how he built up a steady income and impressive résumé by seizing these opportunities. And he’s proof that you don’t have to be in a major city to find consistent, paid work as an actor. Finding These Hidden Opportunities Aaron offered some practical insights that really stuck with me: Reach out to local businesses and small chains. These places need content to promote themselves—commercials, training videos, even social media content. Connect with teaching hospitals and medical schools in your area. Standardized patient work is fascinating and pays you to improvise as a patient to help train medical professionals. Contact advertising agencies nearby, not just the national ones. Local agencies need real people with authentic voices for regional commercials and corporate videos. And maybe my favorite point: Aaron still believes in mailing hard copies of your materials. Yes, it’s old-fashioned. But it’s memorable. Most emails get deleted. A real letter can make an impression. The Importance of Staying Connected Aaron also talked about the value of looping in your agent, even when you book work yourself. It’s not about giving away part of your earnings. It’s about showing your agent that you’re proactive and working. It’s about nurturing relationships and building a sense of partnership. A Reminder: There’s Work for Everyone What struck me most in talking with Aaron was this simple truth: there’s work out there for everyone. You just have to know where to look and be willing to take action. If you’re feeling stuck or discouraged by the idea that you have to be in a big city to book work, I hope this encourages you. You don’t. The opportunities are out there. They’re in your community. And often, the first step is just reaching out and asking who’s doing the hiring. Until next time, remember: there’s work out there for everyone. Stay safe and treat yourself real well.

It’s Mandy Fisher here, your Voiceover actor and creative coach. Today I want to dive into something that’s been on my mind a lot: how the neuroscience of decision-making can help us as actors and creative professionals. Because we’re not just making choices in auditions or on stage. We’re making decisions every single day that shape our careers, relationships, and—let’s be real—our self-worth. How the Brain Guides Our Creative Decisions Let’s talk brain science for a sec. The prefrontal cortex? It’s the part of the brain handling complex thoughts and decisions, like our personal command center. Think of it like that alien in Men in Black—the one sitting up front, pulling the strings. Then there’s the hippocampus, which stores memories and helps us imagine what’s next. They’re constantly in conversation, helping us weigh options and see potential outcomes. Understanding how these parts of the brain work together is powerful. It reminds us that strategic thinking isn’t just some abstract idea. It’s already woven into the way our brains work, whether we realize it or not. A Simple Challenge to Build Strategic Thinking I want to offer you a challenge. Pick one decision you’ve been dancing around—something big or small, doesn’t matter. Think about the risks, the rewards, and what those future scenarios might look like. Then go ahead and make the decision. After a week, check back in with yourself. How did it feel? What did you learn? This exercise can help you see that you’re already more strategic than you give yourself credit for. It’s about bringing that awareness to the forefront, so you can start making choices with more clarity and intention. Limiting Beliefs: The Invisible Blocks to Your Success But here’s the thing: decision-making isn’t just about what’s outside of us. It’s also about what’s going on inside. I’m talking about those limiting beliefs. You know, the ones that say, “I’m not good enough,” or “There’s too much competition.” These thoughts show up for so many of us in the acting world. These beliefs often come from past experiences, family dynamics, or even well-meaning but misguided advice. And they can really hold us back if we’re not paying attention. Another Challenge: Reframe Those Old Beliefs So here’s another challenge. Name one limiting belief that’s been lurking in the background. Ask yourself: Is this really true? Where did it come from? Then see if you can reframe it into something more helpful. Like changing “I’m not good at public speaking” to “I can improve my public speaking with practice.” Write it down. Repeat it to yourself. And take one small action that lines up with that new belief—like volunteering for a presentation or sharing your work with a trusted friend. Living Authentically in Your Acting Career At the heart of all of this? It’s not just about making smart moves. It’s about making choices that feel authentic to you as an actor, as a creative, as a human. When you understand how your brain works, and when you let go of those old beliefs that no longer serve you, you start to make decisions that feel more like you. So that’s my invitation: try these challenges. And if you do, I’d love to hear about it. Shoot me an email at [email protected]. I love hearing from actors who are ready to ditch the autopilot and start building careers that actually feel fulfilling. If you know someone else who might need this gentle nudge, pass it along. Let’s keep this conversation going. Want to Take This Work Deeper? Join our Weekly Accountability Group for actors and get the kind of support that helps you keep growing, testing new ideas, and showing up for yourself. Two weeks free to see if it’s the right fit.

When we talk about acting tools, we usually mention headshots, reels, technique, or coaching. But punctuation? Not so much. And yet, punctuation—something you probably haven’t questioned since middle school—might be interfering with your most natural, honest performances. The Problem Most Actors Don’t Know They Have You get a script. Maybe it’s commercial copy, maybe it’s a scene. And without realizing it, your brain starts obeying the punctuation. Comma. Small pause. Period. Full stop, drop your pitch. Exclamation mark. Boost the energy, punch the line. Your body responds to those tiny marks automatically. But here's the thing: those cues might not match what your character is actually feeling. They might even contradict the emotional truth of the scene. If you’ve ever given a read that felt stiff, too “correct,” or like something was missing… this might be why. Why Punctuation Feels Helpful (But Can Hurt) Punctuation is meant to clarify meaning in writing. It’s useful when you're reading silently or trying to follow someone else’s train of thought. But acting isn’t silent reading. It’s expression. It’s listening and responding. It’s emotional and often messy. Here’s where things get interesting: studies show that your brain processes punctuation differently depending on the mark. Semicolons and dashes? They activate the left side of the brain. Exclamation points and periods? The right side. Each carries its own emotional weight. Each sends a signal, even if you don’t consciously register it. Which means your delivery may be less about what you’re feeling… and more about how your brain is reacting to a comma. How to Break Free (Without Losing the Script) As Mandy Fisher shared in this episode of the Acting Business Boot Camp podcast, one of the most helpful things you can do—especially for commercial reads—is to strip out the punctuation entirely. Remove the commas. Take out the periods. Uncapitalize everything except brand names. Why? Because when you stop being told where to pause or emphasize, you start making those choices from instinct. From character. From context. It might feel strange at first, but that discomfort is exactly where more interesting, more connected performances begin. A Simple Experiment to Try This Week Take 60 seconds of script. Could be anything—a monologue, a commercial, a scene. Delete every piece of punctuation. Then read it out loud. Notice what your voice does. Notice how your pacing shifts. See what happens when you stop “reading” and start speaking. You might stumble. You might feel a little out of control. But you’ll also find something new. A more honest rhythm. A stronger point of view. A version of the script that sounds less like a performance and more like a person. Final Thought: Punctuation or Presence? Punctuation has a place. It can help with rhythm and intention. But if you’re performing with one eye on the commas, you’re probably holding back. So ask yourself: are you punctuating for performance? Or are you speaking from presence? You already have a voice that’s worth hearing. You don’t need grammar rules to make it powerful. Let go. Experiment. Trust that you know how to connect without a period telling you when to stop. Ready to take your training deeper? Explore our upcoming classes and coaching programs to build confidence in your voice, your instincts, and your career. Check out what’s coming up → Prefer to keep learning in your inbox? Subscribe to Mandy’s Substack for more creative insights, voiceover tips, and honest conversations about the business of being an artist.

Feeling behind in your acting or voiceover career?   You’re not alone. But you might be burning through your creative energy in the wrong ways. In this blog, we’ll unpack something that rarely gets talked about in the entertainment industry: desperate energy. What it looks like, how it sneaks into your process, and why it might be the real reason you feel stuck. What Is Desperate Energy? Desperate energy is that anxious, frantic feeling that shows up when you think you're falling behind. It's applying to projects far below your rate just to stay busy Sending emails that sound like begging rather than offering value Obsessively checking job boards and refreshing your inbox Saying yes to everything, even if it doesn't align with your goals It feels like progress, but it’s just panic in disguise. And it doesn’t lead to your best work. Why Talented Actors Burn Out Most actors don’t fail because they aren’t good enough. They fail because they’re exhausted. The entertainment industry rewards people who are grounded and consistent. Not those who hustle out of fear. If you’re operating from a place of desperation, your decisions will reflect that. You’ll chase misaligned jobs, sabotage your rates, and create chaos in your outreach. A prepared actor is a powerful one. A desperate actor is a noisy one. Desperation vs. Preparation Here’s the difference in how each one shows up: Desperate Energy Prepared Energy Sends mass emails with no targeting Sends thoughtful outreach to aligned leads Auditions for anything and everything Submits only for strong-fit roles Overthinks every rejection Moves on with focus and perspective Chases opportunities from guilt Follows a repeatable business system   Prepared actors don’t rely on luck. They build habits that create consistency. You’re Not Behind — You’re Building Here’s a truth that might surprise you. You’re probably not behind. You’re just in a part of the story that no one posts about. You’re laying track for a train that hasn’t arrived yet. That doesn’t mean you’re late. It means you’re doing the work. Comparison creates fake urgency. Your timeline isn’t broken. It’s unfolding. Five Ways to Shift Desperate Energy This Week Create a morning check-in. Set one creative and one business goal to guide your day. Limit job board time. Give yourself 10 focused minutes instead of getting stuck for hours. Track your outreach. Use a CRM or simple spreadsheet to stay organized. Submit and let go. Don’t carry one audition’s result into the next. Post a reminder. Write this on a sticky note: Building does not mean behind. Put it on your mic. Your mirror. Your computer. Wherever you need to see it. Your Brain Thinks You’re in Danger When you feel behind, your brain can’t always tell the difference between a real threat and a made-up one. The nervous system doesn’t distinguish between missing a flight and watching someone else book a dream role. Both can feel like danger if you let them spiral. This is why structure matters. Habits and systems help ground you in the reality of what you’re actually doing — not what you’re afraid you're not doing. Final Thought: Keep Building The outreach that goes unanswered. The audition that goes nowhere. The early morning rehearsal no one sees. That’s building. You’re not behind. You’re in the part of the journey that creates the part everyone else sees later. These quiet days matter. They’re not wasted. They’re foundational. What’s one habit you’ll try this week? Tag @actingbusinessbootcamp with your sticky note mantra. Mandy wants to see what you’re committing to — and she’ll share hers too. 💛

Episode Summary: Feeling stuck? You are so not alone. In this episode, I’m diving into one of the biggest roadblocks I see actors (and creatives of all kinds) face: procrastination. I’m breaking down my signature framework—the **3 P's: Perfectionism, Procrastination, and Paralysis—**and showing you how procrastination is often just fear wearing a clever disguise. I’ll help you reframe your stuck-ness, understand what’s really going on underneath the delay, and—most importantly—take messy, imperfect, courageous action. And yes, I’m also sharing how the energy behind procrastination doesn’t just slow you down…it actually blocks your creativity, your confidence, and even your opportunities. Whether you’re stuck in your acting career, your voiceover hustle, or anywhere in life where you’re overthinking and under-doing—this episode is here to help you shift into action mode. What I cover in this episode: How perfectionism leads to procrastination…and then straight into paralysis. Why procrastination is really fear in disguise (and how to spot it). Fear of failure vs. fear of success—what’s really holding you back. Why you don’t need to feel ready (you just need to act). How procrastination sends out the wrong energetic signal to the universe. The simple truth: Clarity comes from commitment, not contemplation. My Favorite Quotes from this Episode: "Procrastination is fear in disguise." "Your desire for your dream needs to be bigger than your fear." "You can act your way into right thinking." Resources I mention: You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero The Universe Has Your Back by Gabby Bernstein 🎧 Help Mandy and Me Reach 100 Reviews! Mandy and I have been stuck at the same number of reviews for the Acting Business Boot Camp podcast for a while now...and we would be SO grateful if you could help us cross the finish line to 100 five-star reviews. If this episode resonated with you, it would mean the world to us if you left us that review. You could be that one small but mighty step that gets us there! Stay Connected: Website: ActingBusinessBootCamp.com Instagram: @actingbusinessbootcamp

Welcome back to the Acting Business Boot Camp podcast! 🎙️ I'm Peter Pamela Rose — casting director and certified life and career coach for actors. My mission? To help you break down the business of acting into clear, actionable steps that move your career forward. In today’s episode, I dive into a powerful concept from Energy Leadership by Bruce D. Schneider — the idea that we are constantly choosing between two mindsets: the dream and the nightmare. 💭 Are you focused on the dream of your acting career? Or are you unconsciously living in the fear-based nightmare? You’ll learn: The energetic difference between fear and love thought systems How most actors get stuck in low-level energy (victimhood, passivity, conflict) Journal prompts to help you shift into a dream-focused mindset Why your thoughts directly impact the speed and direction of your success A practical visualization exercise that will change how you show up Plus, I’ll share a few personal stories from my coaching journey — including what I’ve learned from over two decades of helping actors tap into the truth of who they really are and what’s possible for them. 🎯 Ready to refocus on your dream? Click below to book a free consult: 👉 Book your Working Actor Road Map consult with Peter Whether your focus is on commercials, film, television, or theater — I’ll help you clarify the next right step. Rate & Review If this episode helped raise your energy or shift your mindset, would you take a second to rate and review the show? Your support helps more actors find the guidance they need. Until next time, stay safe — and treat yourself real well. 💛

Episode Summary: In today’s solo episode, Mandy Fisher gets real and raw about something that far too many actors and creatives are experiencing but not talking about enough: burnout. This isn’t your typical “self-care” pep talk. This is a grounded, honest conversation about the soul-deep exhaustion that can hit even the most passionate, high-achieving creatives. Mandy shares her personal experience with burnout — how it feels, why it happens, and what it actually means — and offers a compassionate, human-first way to start recovering. You’ll learn: Why burnout isn’t a failure — it’s a warning light What it actually feels like (and how to spot it early) Why pushing through doesn’t work (and what to do instead) Small, sustainable ways to start healing — without quitting your career How to rebel gently against a system that demands constant output If you’ve ever felt like your passion is slipping away, your to-do list is a brick wall, or your self-worth is tied to your productivity — this episode is for you. Resources & Links: 📝 Mandy’s Burnout Recovery Guide: Check out her Substack post on Burnout with a 7-week stretch goal list to help you gently stay engaged with your creative life while recovering. 💛 Need support? Peter Pamela Rose’s Weekly Adjustment coaching group is a safe, nurturing space to reconnect with your creativity and confidence. Learn more & join here. 📬 Got questions or want to share your burnout story? Email us or DM us on Instagram @actingbusinessbootcamp. Memorable Quotes: “Burnout isn’t a failure of willpower — it’s your body saying, this isn’t sustainable.” — Mandy Fisher “You don’t owe the world your exhaustion. You don’t have to become a cautionary tale just to prove you were committed enough.” “Tiny exits count. Letting yourself be imperfect in public counts. You’re allowed to take the slow way home.” If this episode resonated with you, please: Share it with a fellow actor or artist who might be carrying too much. Leave us a rating & review — it really helps other creatives find us. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. Stay connected: Instagram: @actingbusinessbootcamp Website: www.actingbusinessbootcamp.com Substack: Mandy Fisher on Burnout & Creative Life