LIFE DEBRIEF + Can Parenting Be Rewarding?

We’ve saved the best for last! In our final episode of season 3, we debrief on all YOUR parenting questions. From dealing with parenting guilt and expectations, managing kids and partners who have very different personalities to you, negotiating identity as a parent to avoiding projecting achievement onto your children, we explore it all. Hope you enjoy and a very special thank you if you’ve been following along our parenting season, this has been an extra special season for us. 

We had a life-giving chat with Kylie Butler – Enneagram 3, professional coach, parent of two young adults and CEO of Arrow Leadership Australia. She reflects on how being an Achiever showed up in the different seasons of parenting, and how she uses the Enneagram for growth and transformation. From debriefing on the mental load, parent guilt, the opinions of others and work-life 'balance', this is a multifaceted episode for all Achievers and parents at any life stage!

How do we create a holding environment for our children to flourish, build resilience, and become comfortable with the uncomfortable? We reflect on what it means to be a good enough parent to an Achiever, and how parents can create a safe space that allows their children to feel uncomfortable in this era. 

Lets talk about what makes an Enneagram 3 a great parent. We have innate qualities that we can tap into that help us parent! From efficiency ++, instilling a growth mindset, self-care to planning memory making moments, this is a feel good episode for 3 parents. 

Today we're making the unconcious conscious, or at least attempting to… as we discuss the pitfalls or watchouts for Achiever parents. From managing our kids' image as an extension of our own, prioritising the 'to-do' list over being present with the kids to bypassing their emotions, there are a few things we can grow in together as Enneagram 3 parents. 

We're debriefing on all that’s happened over the last couple of years (for those of you following at home), and we download on what it looks like parenting a newborn with Tabs sharing her live reflections with a three month old and the age-old parenting question - will this ever become rewarding? 

In the final episode for Season 2, Tabs and Michelle debrief on where the season has taken them and jump into some of your very smart questions! From exploring FOMO to delving into ‘when is enough enough’, they open up about what they’re learning along the way.

Special episode this week as Michelle chats to Bruce and Ursula (both Enneagram 9s) about what the 3 can learn when we move towards the 9 in health or stress! They explore all the hot topics from being without doing, prioritising relationship over goals and tasks, to being connected to others without losing yourself, there’s lots for us 3s to learn from the Peacemaker 9. 

This one is for all our parent friends… and those thinking about starting a family…We discuss the highs and lows of parenting as a 3. Michelle takes us through her parenting journey and how her 3-ness manifests at each stage. Meanwhile, Tabs explores how being an Achiever has informed her view on what it means to family plan. They unpack how parenting can bring more depth and light to our 3-ness, and shape us for the better, if we allow it! And in true Achiever fashion, they chat about how to create some #parentinggoals.

Tabs sits down with the excellent Enneagram coach and The Nine Design podcast host Sarina Sherring (an Enneagram 6) who shares how 3s and 6s are intrinsically connected, how we access Type 6 behaviours and what we can learn from the Type 6. They discuss the behaviours of the 6s in stress like anxious planning and negative thought spirals, and how it plays out for the 3s. And, they explore how 3s tap into the healthy 6 behaviours like asking questions to scenario plan, slowing down to reflect on who you are and sitting with your emotions.