Why You Keep Ending Up With Bad Friends

Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE hereWhy do you keep ending up with bad friends? If you feel like you keep attracting the wrong people, getting disappointed by friendships, or wondering whether good friends even exist anymore, this episode gives you 7 questions to help uncover the patterns that may be keeping you stuck—and what you can actually do about them.Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email [email protected] (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE hereI moved to a brand-new city knowing literally no one, and making friends has been harder than I expected. Some people haven't wanted to talk. Some haven't been looking for new friends. And I've had to confront one of the hardest realities of adult friendship: not everyone is going to want to be your friend.But what if that's actually useful information?In this episode, I'm sharing the real experiences I've had trying to make friends in a new city, dealing with friendship rejection, meeting people as an adult, finding community, overcoming the fear of rejection, and learning how to stop taking every failed connection personally.If you're struggling to make friends as an adult, feeling lonely, starting over in a new city, or wondering why making friends feels so hard, this episode is for you.Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email [email protected] (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

Making friends as an adult is hard—especially when you move to a new city and don’t know anyone. After moving somewhere completely new, I’m rebuilding my social life and community from scratch, and in this episode, I’m sharing the exact three-part plan I’m using to meet new people, make meaningful connections and turn those connections into real friendships.Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE here!Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email [email protected] (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

Have you ever watched a close friend change and wondered if the friendship can survive it?In this listener Q&A, we're tackling one of the hardest friendship questions I've ever received:"My friend's changing lifestyle offends me. What do I do?"Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE here!Maybe they've changed their values. Maybe their priorities shifted. Maybe you barely recognize the person they used to be. Does that mean it's time to end the friendship...or is something deeper happening?In this episode, I share why disagreement doesn't automatically mean incompatibility, how echo chambers quietly damage our relationships, and the three buckets I use to evaluate whether a friendship should continue, change, or end.Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email [email protected] (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

Ever feel like you're the one carrying every conversation?You're asking thoughtful questions, listening well, and genuinely trying to get to know someone... but they never seem to ask you anything back.Does that mean they don't care?Not necessarily.Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE here!In this listener Q&A episode, I'm sharing three things to consider before assuming someone isn't interested in getting to know you. We'll talk about why some conversations become one-sided, how to create more natural reciprocity, and when it's finally time to have an honest conversation instead of silently wondering if someone even values the friendship.If you've ever walked away from coffee feeling unseen, exhausted, or wondering, "Why am I always the one asking questions?" this episode is for you.Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email [email protected] (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

You've probably heard the advice: "If they don't match your energy, cut them off."But what if that mindset is actually causing you to lose really good friendships?In this video, I'm sharing a different perspective after spending the last 15 years studying friendship and sharing more than 500 meals with strangers. We'll talk about why friendship isn't a scoreboard, why reciprocity can quietly become transactional, and what you should be looking for instead when building meaningful relationships.Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE here!Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email [email protected] (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

Have you ever wondered, "Can I really trust this person?"Trust is the foundation of every healthy friendship, but knowing who to trust—and when to trust them—isn't always easy. Maybe you've been betrayed before, had your boundaries ignored, or watched someone disappear when life got hard.In this video, I'm sharing the biggest signs I look for when deciding whether someone is truly trustworthy.Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE here!Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email [email protected] (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

If you've ever felt anxious around someone because you're constantly trying to keep the peace, this episode is for you.Maybe you're choosing your words carefully. Replaying conversations afterward. Walking on eggshells because you're worried they'll take something the wrong way. The harder you try to keep the peace, the more anxious you become.In this episode, friendship coach Zoe Asher shares the mindset shift that helped her break free from years of people-pleasing, peacekeeping, and relational anxiety. Through a powerful story, biblical wisdom from Romans 12:18 and 1 Peter 3:16, and practical insights on integrity, boundaries, and self-control, you'll learn the difference between keeping the peace and living at peace.Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE here!Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email [email protected] (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

Networking can feel exhausting… especially if you’re introverted, socially anxious, or constantly overthinking every interaction afterward. But what if networking didn’t have to drain your entire social battery?In this episode, I’m breaking down how to network without feeling emotionally exhausted afterward, even if you hate small talk, struggle with social anxiety, or feel awkward meeting new people. We’ll talk about why networking feels so draining in the first place, how to stop performing during conversations, and practical ways to build meaningful connections without burning yourself out.Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE here!Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email [email protected] (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

If your fear of rejection has ever stopped you from reaching out, starting a conversation, or putting yourself out there… this episode is going to challenge everything you think you know.In this episode, I break down the science behind rejection and why you’re actually not getting rejected nearly as much as you think. Using research from Stanford, insights from the Gottman Institute, and the work of friendship expert Marisa Franco, you’ll see how your brain is exaggerating the risk of rejection—and how that fear is quietly holding you back from the friendships you actually want.Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE here!Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email [email protected] (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!