Perfection

In this episode, Dr. Gary Salyer discusses a new take on attachment theory, based on his groundbreaking research into this science of how our brain gets wired to love and be loved. He shares a technique for breaking the cycle of picking partners that mirror early childhood experiences which left us feeling unloved or unworthy.Dr. Gary Salyer is a transformational relationship mentor. For the last decade, Dr. Salyer has been in private practice offering singles and couples heart-centered transformation so they can re-write the rules for love in their brains and create a love that lasts. Dr. Gary speaks to a national audience as a featured expert on various celebrity TV and radio shows such as Hay House Radio and Coast to Coast AM. He is the author of the ground-breaking book, Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Create the Love You Deserve.www.garysalyer.comLearn more at absentfatherproject.com | rodneymueller.comEmail me at [email protected] song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.www.scottginsberg.com

In this episode, I interview Mytrae Meliana, who is a trained holistic psychotherapist and sound healer. What does it look like to address the pain or the wound of growing up with an absent or distant father? We explore the concept of re-parenting - finding your own inner parent who will be with you no matter what. We also discuss how to tap into the inner parent and our innate ability to heal ourselves.Mytrae, who is A WOC immigrant from India, shares her own story of healing and empowerment in her memoir "Brown Skin Girl: An Indian-American Woman's Magical Journey from Broken to Beautiful".www.mytraemeliana.comSign up at her Temple of Sound Healing website to receive a free Crystal Singing Bowl recording:www.templeofsoundhealing.comLearn more at absentfatherproject.com | rodneymueller.comEmail me at [email protected] song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.www.scottginsberg.com

In this episode, we learn the deeper meaning of super-resilience fromDr. Scott Mills, creator of the Human Evolution System: A GentleApproach to Creating More Resilience, Abundance and Joy in the Lives ofPeople. He shows us how we can finally free ourselves from our hiddentraps.Learn more at absentfatherproject.com | rodneymueller.comEmail me at [email protected] song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.www.scottginsberg.com

In this episode, I talk to Mikey, a young father of two boys, who grew up with an absent father and has never met, nor seen a picture of his father. He shares about father figures that helped him along the way, coupled with the slow, steady experiences of pain and loss of growing up with an absent father. We also explore what the super powers he's created in becoming a father and his commitment to being present and connected. It's inspiring for any parent, especially if you grew up with an absent father. Learn more at absentfatherproject.com | rodneymueller.comEmail me at [email protected] song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.www.scottginsberg.com

Today’s episode is a conversation with Courtney, a successful sales person and the mother of two young men who shares her story of starting with the idyllic family, a divorce at a young age and a father who slowly faded away.Vulnerably and courageously, she shares many painful moments, big and small, throughout her life and some deep wisdom that she has learned along the way. She shares how her experience with an absent father impacted her romantic relationships and the healing she has gained from raising two young men. Her superpowers shine through the entire conversation, from her being the leader and care taker at her father’s bedside as he passed away to the extraordinary success she has had in her career and the dedicated, self-aware mom she is today.Learn more at absentfatherproject.com | rodneymueller.comEmail me at [email protected] song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.www.scottginsberg.com

In the second episode of Season 2 of Absent Father Podcast, I interview Nile. In his own words, he is “the product of a bi-racial, lesbian couple and was conceived through the process of artificial insemination.”His story is fascinating in that he shares all of the traits and super powers and yet, his father never left him, he just never existed. We talk about the challenges he faced trying to understand and come into his own identity, being bi-racial, having two moms and trying to figure out how to be a "man" without the guidance of a father.Nile is a deeply insightful and thoughtful human being and he vulnerably shares the challenges he faced growing up, the struggle of his parents not knowing how to deal with his big emotions and the amazing super powers he has created from that experience that has him doing deep, healing men’s work and life coaching.Learn more at absentfatherproject.com | rodneymueller.comEmail me at [email protected] song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.www.scottginsberg.com

An interview with Toni, a mid 20's cosmetologist who has never met her father, although she knows its one of two men. One, she would be happy to have, and the other would bring even more pain to her absent father story. Learn more at absentfatherproject.com | rodneymueller.comEmail me at [email protected] song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.www.scottginsberg.com

Exciting announcement about what to expect in Season 2. And a call for your stories. Please reach out to me if you would like to be featured on the Absent Father Podcast, be interviewed by me and share your story related to Absent Fathers in service of bringing awareness and healing to the impacts of growing up with an absent father.Also in this episode, we have a conversation about our extreme desire for reliability and where that comes from all spurred my car being stolen in February and lessons from that experience.In addition to discussing reliability, I dive into the other thing I crave which is value. Value is essentially getting the most quality by parting with the least amount of money.Check out this episode to learn how all of that relates to growing up with an Absent Father.Learn more at absentfatherproject.com | rodneymueller.comEmail me at [email protected] song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.www.scottginsberg.com

Today's episode explores perfection and the crippling impact of always comparing ourselves to some fantasy version of life. I share two stories that really illustrate how perfectionists latch on to what's not working, in the face of all the things that are working.Finally, we also look at the superpowers that come with this curse of seeing a path to perfection in everything.Learn more at absentfatherproject.com | rodneymueller.comEmail me at [email protected] song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.www.scottginsberg.com

Last month, I was interviewed by Mytrae Meliana, acclaimed women's empowerment and Divine Feminine teacher, speaker, author, and sound healer.In this one hour interview, we go in depth on the origin of the Absent Father Podcast, as well as the pain and learning from my own absent father story.I absolutely loved this conversation and something about it unearthed some emotions I hadn't access to in a long time.Toward the end of the interview, we discuss masculinity and leadership in the 21st Century.I hope you enjoy the conversation as much as I did.Learn more at absentfatherproject.com | rodneymueller.comEmail me at [email protected] song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.www.scottginsberg.com