237. The Personality Lie

Ever poured yourself a glass of wine and then quietly topped it up, hoping nobody noticed? Or found yourself being less than honest about how much you've had? There's a reason we do this, and it's worth getting curious about what's going on.In this week's podcast, I'm talking about sneaky drinking, resentment and the stories we tell ourselves to justify that extra glass. And why being honest with yourself about your drinking is one of the most powerful ways to change it.Ready to take control of your drinking? I'm currently offering 7 months of private coaching for the price of 6 as a special pre-holiday bonus. Let’s talk about what’s possible for you. Book a free consultation with me using the this link: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consultI'll show you how we can make drinking something you can take or leave.

Do you think you're more fun, relaxed or confident after a couple of glasses of wine? If you believe alcohol brings out the best version of you, it's hardly surprising that drinking less feels like giving something up.In this episode, I'm exploring why we associate alcohol with confidence and freedom, how that belief can make drinking less difficult and why the solution might be to become MORE of who you really are.Ready to change your relationship with alcohol? Book a free consultation with me using the this link: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consultAnd if you're listening in November 2026, I'm currently running a special promotion of 7 months of 1:1 coaching and support and accountability for the price of 6. More time with me supporting you as you go into the world and practice the new skills you learn with me.

Funny how nobody ever says, "I'll just have five." It's always "I'll just have one." Even when you know perfectly well that one has a habit of turning into two, three or the rest of the bottle. So why do we keep making ourselves a promise we don't really believe?In this episode, I'm revealing the hidden deal behind "just one," why that first drink can make you want another and how to break the pattern. Because when you learn to trust yourself to stop at one, something rather wonderful happens. You start to wonder whether you even want one in the first place. And if you'd like to get to that point yourself, book a free consultation with me. I'll show you how we can make drinking something you can take or leave.

Imagine pouring yourself a lovely glass of chilled white wine, then forgetting about it until it's gone warm. Or leaving your G&T so long the ice melts. If you've spent years thinking about your next drink before you've finished the one in your hand, this might sound impossible.But these little moments reveal an enormous shift. In this episode, I explore how alcohol becomes so important in our lives, how it gradually loses its special status and why forgetting about your drink might be the ultimate sign of take-it-or-leave-it freedom.Want to stop thinking about alcohol so much and start enjoying that freedom yourself? Let's talk about how I can help you get there. Book a free consultation call with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

Paul was already working on changing his drinking when he came to me. And he was having some success. But it was hard. It felt like a constant struggle. Working with me 1:1, we changed that. The struggle went away and his experience became completely different. In this week’s episode, Paul shares what made the difference and what drinking feels like for him now. If drinking less feels like far too much work, come and work with me 1:1. Your first step is to book a free consultation call: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

Were you “good” last night? Maybe you only had one glass. Maybe you didn’t drink at all. Or perhaps you planned two, drank four and woke up thinking you’d been “bad.” We attach an extraordinary amount of moral judgement to drinking, and it can feel completely normal. But turning what you drank into a verdict on you gets in the way of the very thing that helps you change: understanding what actually happened.In this episode, I’m exploring why planned drinking isn’t “bad,” why not drinking doesn’t earn you a gold star and how replacing judgement with facts helps you make better decisions about alcohol. You don’t need to become a good drinker. You need to get good at making decisions about drinking. Ready to stop fighting with yourself over alcohol and get to the point where you can genuinely take it or leave it? Book a free consultation call with me and let’s get started: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

If you’ve been telling yourself you’ll deal with your drinking when work calms down, life gets less busy or the holidays are over, this episode is for you.Because what if you didn’t wait? Imagine going into the holiday season already feeling differently around alcohol, enjoying the dinners, parties and wine without it taking over. If you want to start changing your drinking now, book a consultation call with me and let’s talk about what’s possible: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

What if thinking of alcohol as a “treat” is actually making you want it more? We attach wine to Friday nights, holidays and special occasions, then wonder why not having it can feel like we’re missing out on the good bit. And if your “treat” is happening every night, it’s worth getting curious about what’s actually special, the wine or everything you’ve taught yourself that wine means?In this episode, I explore the difference between having a treat and treating yourself, why simply replacing wine with another treat can keep alcohol on its pedestal and how to start taking some of that meaning back. Because the goal isn’t to find something that can compete with wine. It’s to get to the point where wine is no longer automatically the answer.Want to get to the point where you can genuinely take alcohol or leave it? Book a free consultation call with me and let’s talk about what’s keeping your desire switched on: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

Do you really enjoy dinner, Friday night or a holiday more with a drink? Or has your brain simply learned to connect alcohol with all the things you already enjoy?In this episode, I’m breaking down the learned link between alcohol and pleasure, and showing you how to start giving the pleasure back to the experience. Because wine might be enjoyable, but it doesn’t get to take credit for the sunset.Want to get to the point where you can genuinely take alcohol or leave it? Book a free consultation call with me and let’s talk about how I can help you make drinking less feel easier: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult

You KNOW you’re going to regret having another drink tomorrow. You know you’ll sleep badly. You know you’ll wish you’d stopped. And yet, right now, another drink still feels like the better option. Why does present comfort so often beat future regret?In this episode, I’m turning that question on its head. What if you took regret off the table completely? What if tomorrow you weren’t allowed to beat yourself up, make new rules or promise to do better? I’ll show you why that question might change the way you make decisions about drinking.Stop trying to figure this out on your own. Book a free consultation call with me and let’s talk about how I can help you make drinking less feel easier: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult