Holiday Expectations for Kids!

Alison (aka @alisonsaidno) is back this week to talk about the problems with filming and commenting on people and children in crisis to have a viral moment. We all discuss the viral video where the parents wrapped their child in Saran Wrap and filmed it for a "funny" viral video....However, the video went viral for the opposite reason the parents thought it would and there were very REAL WORLD repercussions for their viral moment.  0:59- The child in Walmart having a meltdown  3:00- People's first reactions to a child in distress 3:45- People chiming in on what they would have done, in a situation they have never been in  5:50- That moment will be online for the child forever 6:20- Calling the police on a child in crisis  8:30- Viral video of man having a meltdown- nephew speaks out  12:30- Someone recording us in our lowest moment- and how would that feel  13:00- Parents posting meltdowns for educational content  15:50- Kids speaking out about their social media presence their parents created  17:39- The Saran Wrap video  19:50- Parents push these vids w/ kids further and further for views-  20:00- The trauma of CPS being called  26:00- The danger of a person with 1M followers doing this  29:00- Being given the opportunity to exploit children for $ TT/IG- @alisonsaidno  /   @jesmartini @jes_martini

Today we dive in to the dangers of Social Media- the fun side of social media, and our behind-the-scene thoughts (as content creators) on how all of this effects our kids.  1:30- Why as moms do we feel like we do everything and nothing all at the same time?  3:30-Tips for getting started on social media if interested 4:30- The upside to social media  5:20- Every adult is probably addicted to their phones  7:00- What is the impact of our kids watching us not be present during the day?  8:15- How do you feel about social media for your kids?  10:00- Are we going to give these kids a pass for the embarrassing things they put on the internet as teens?  12:10- We have monetized human attention 12:50- Attention span since starting social media  14:20- "I love garbage"  15:28- My worry for teens on social media- they don't ever get a break from "trying to fit in"  17:30- Snapchat is the worst 18:50- One way to protect kids from dangers of social media 

You all probably know Menzennial from Tiktok where she narrates the Child's point of view in her "big feelings" series. Today we talk about the imperfections of parenting, unrealistic expectations we put on children, and the difficult parts of gentle/respectful parenting. Menzie always keeps it real, down to earth, and relatable...this episode is a ton of fun to listen to.  1:27- Catching up with Menzie  1:40- Story time about her child being lost!  5:50- unrealistic expectations of children  11:30- joining kids in the emotional dis-regulation 15:00- "No" is a powerful word 17:00- authoritarian parents often give in to a situation to regulate themselves  21:00- Kids need structure and routine and count on the parents to provide that 24:00- kids should know the "why's" behind what it is they are doing- we need to develop those critical thinking skills  27:15- Wrapping up with final thoughts 

FREE RESOURCE ALERT- Marcella and I will be hosting a masterclass with HIC Parenting- it will be February 21st- So, mark your calendar!!  We talk today about parenting with understanding and parenting neurodivergent kids, as neurodivergent parents.  We will be hosting a masterclass talking about 5 steps to working with our strong-willed or highly sensitive children. Marcella shares about her past growing up as a child undiagnosed with ADHD. She opens up about how she came to discover parenting with understanding and her journey raising children in foster care. This is an episode you won't want to miss! She has a very powerful story I think everyone should hear. Especially if you are feeling "these parenting styles won't work for my child".  MARCELLA- Tiktok- @highimpactclub/ IG- @highimpactclub/ Youtube- HIC Parenting Education Masterclass Registration Link-  https://masterclass.hicparenting.com/webinar-registration1673110500055?utm_medium=bio&utm_source=master_class_invitation&utm_term=mbio

 Mr. Chazz is an absolute wealth of knowledge for both parents and educators. He has a way of breaking down information in such a down-to-earth and obtainable way, you will absolutely leave this episode feeling both validated and confident in your parenting journey. Today we dive in to taking the first steps towards growth in your journey, allowing yourself to make mistakes, making space for children to make mistakes as well, and the challenges that face men specifically with gentle/respectful/conscious parenting. 2:05- Mr. Chazz breaks down how he became an educational specialist and what brought him to conscious discipline 4:46- Why is it that men tend to have a hard time with gentle/respectful parenting and the experience of men having to suppress emotions their entire life 7:15- It become engrained in men that it is not ok or safe to express emotions 8:30- Young children are like 90% emotion 10:20- The first step was realizing "this is not how I want to be"- and then the hard work comes in 13:30- Mistakes are an important part of the learning process 14:00- OOPS ( Our Opportunity to Problem Solve) 16:45- Teaching Perseverance 18:45- People have a tendency to treat little boys with more force than little girls 20:00- "This is why the men today are so soft" 24:00- Powerful Conversation that I got to witness in my own home 25:50- Punishment is NOT a requirement for learning- Kids learn a ton in these moments of connection 26:40- 7 Skills to teach children with Conscious Discipline 28:45- 2 Final thoughts from Mr. Chazz 1- See Child first before offering guidence 2- Perfection does NOT exist- the goal is not be perfect everyday, its to prove everyday Tiktok- @mrchazzmrchazz / @jesmartini Instagram- @mrchazz / @jes_martini Youtube- @Mr. Chazz Mr. Chazz Facebook- MrChazz MrChazz Podcast- Mr. Chazz's Leadership, Parenting and Teaching Podcast

Kayleigh has created a space of solidarity and support for parents who are navigating parenting after trauma. She has a powerful story and message that all should hear. Having experienced a traumatic pregnancy of my own- I am so grateful for the space that she has created online. The ending is a MUST watch.  0:30- Intro for Kayleigh 1:56- Kayleigh's birth story  9:43- Waking up from the coma and meeting her son  12:35- How did the trauma of the birth impact the first few months of parenting?  15:50- Coming out on the other side and feeling like "this is who I will be for the rest of my life" 19:10- Struggling with your partner after trauma  21:41- Having compassion for yourself  24:00- Final thoughts before wrapping up  25:33- Unspoken rule in motherhood- that you can't talk about something you are upset about when you are supposed to only be grateful 

If you are on social media- you know that teachers are having huge troubles in their classrooms- and a lot of this conversation happening revolves around parenting as well. Today, I talk with Heather- a 10 year veteran teacher- who was part of a nationally recognized teaching team. She has a huge focus on connection, relationships, and expectation for students and was able to share some amazing insight!  2:16- The importance of getting to know all the kids 2:35- Teacher turnover 4:30- Does it have to do with new parenting styles?  8:10- Tiktok and Social Media and what your kids are looking at  11:30- Kids are so cool today  12:47- Does gentle parenting effect the classrooms 17:00- Setting Expectations in a classroom  18:00- Are kids less engaged?  22:00- Gentle Parenting in the classroom  27:00- 2 Truths and a Lie

This episode is chaos!  Today we talk about gentle parenting and social media for  preteens and young children.   This is a new version of our show where we will have a new guest host every week!  This week we have Kayla ( aka kaylajaye_). She is known on Tiktok for her hilarious comedy, character skits, high kicks, and high energy but she is also one of my best friends and an amazing mother to 2 beautiful kids.   We also play FMK... ps. Sorry Scott D. Henry Todays Episode:  Intro- New Version of the Podcast  Gentle-ish Parenting  Misconception- If you are a gentle parent you can't use your own personality or sense of humor Differences in how most people were raised and how their kids ask  What does she think of gentle/respectful parenting online?  Paying for views  How long does it take to recover from a friendship breakup? Feels like a divorce  Should you always take the high road?  Listen to people close to you about red flags  Joking around with your kids  Redirecting little kids- harder with preteens  She has Millions of Followers- does not allow social media  We play FMK

We dive into expectations during the "holiday season" for ourselves, our kids, and others in our lives.  0:15- Weekly recap 1:48- Random poll- Do you do stockings?  3:08- Expectations around gift opening 4:15- Expecting kids to put on a big show for us  5:28- Set expectations for kids ahead of time  6:44- It's not a personal attack- it's just kids not knowing how to navigate these situations  9:00- expectations for kids during the actual holiday events  10:10- Feelings more lenient on holidays because day-to-day routine/expectations are well established  11:00- Do you have a kids table?  12:30- Preparing family members of our expectations in the moment  14:00- Personal rules for electronics during the holidays  18:15- Do you talk to kids ahead of time of expectations for behavior during the holidays?  20:20- 1 Controversial Holiday opinion

Let's talk about mom burnout during the holiday season- is there a way to avoid it? How do we ask for help from others?  2:15- Do you experience burnout during the holiday?  3:20- Limiting the amount of pressure we put on ourselves  8:06- Behavior from kids during the holiday season  10:15- Not taking behavior personally when we are already spreading ourselves so thin  13:40- Do partners pitch in the way they should?  19:40- Things don't need to be perfect for kids to have a magical time 20:20- Viral holiday videos- scaring kids  26:03- Let's Get Deep!