088: Beyond the Basics: Diving Deeper into Polarity (Part 2)

Hi Desire on Fire fam! Ellie here. This week’s episode is all about celebrating new beginnings, because we're diving deep into something you may have seen us share online and wondered about: the beautiful world of baby blessing ceremonies. This episode is inspired by the baby blessing Aimee recently hosted for me, as I enter the 3rd trimester and move closer to birthing my baby girl into the world. I want every mama to receive this kind of love and support, so I wanted to share what actually goes into hosting something like this, so you can create one yourself, if you feel called! And who better to navigate this journey with me than Aimee, who's always got amazing insights on creating meaningful experiences. We shared clear and simple steps, from who to invite, how to set it up, and how to structure your ceremony.  So whether you're a soon-to-be mama yourself, a supportive sister, or just someone who wants to celebrate life passages in a way that truly matters, there’s lots of gold for you in this episode.    We also made an invitation at the end of the episode to an incredible free virtual event a sister of ours is hosting, all about creating a new paradigm for pregnancy, birth, postpartum and motherhood!   “REBIRTH EARTH is a FREE 5-day live online transformational journey to reclaim the roots of your innate feminine essence and deepen harmony in the world, which begins in our homes.   Are you ready to transform your life, your family, and create a ripple effect that spans for generations to come?   I hope you will join me and the other incredible speakers in these thought provoking and inspiring conversations as we cultivate this community!    Join us from June 24th - 28th, 2024   You can reserve your spot now by registering here: https://themotherstemple.krtra.com/t/8bpc5Iu160dT Chapters:    05:50 Creating meaningful rituals for life transitions is important. 09:32 Permission, love, and invitation for baby blessing. 11:36 Embracing rituals, learning from devoted friends. 14:24 Creating meaningful, reverent baby blessings with friends. 19:12 Balancing input and desires in event planning. 26:45 Encouraging mothers to share and co-create experience. 36:41 Receive blessings gracefully, breathe deeply, let go. 39:18 Touch, massage, music, and blessings in ceremony. 49:41 New virtual event for mothers, Rebirth Earth. Sign up for our mailing list:  https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

The last 8 months have been a season of massive transformation for Ellie and her inner circle, and in this week’s solo episode, she dives deep into sharing the juicy revelations she’s been having since her second pregnancy began last fall. She shares some of the BTS of her pregnancy journey– including the wild details of the conception, and how this baby girl is calling her forward into her fierce feminine– a reclamation like no other. Sign up for our mailing list:  https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Hey Desire on Fire fam, Aimee here! In March I attended ISTA level 2 (a deep, shamanic, initiatory training) in Bali, and I’m finally ready to share with you about it. This training was intense, forcing me to face my protective mechanisms (especially with men), my fear of rejection, and my deep yearning to be loved, chosen, claimed and taken by a man. In this episode, I share about the messy, vulnerable, and at-times-humiliating journey I went on in this retreat, and the healing that came out of it. I share a particularly hot moment, and let you in on my experience meeting a couple that changed my life. Enjoy the listen!   Chapters: 03:41 Interrupting my Bali vacation for a deep personal initiation 07:02 Seeking personal insights and healing through this retreat 12:13 Revealing my fear of rejection and desire for acceptance. 16:20 Practicing polarity, surrendering, and a hot moment. 20:27 Expressing gratitude, opening up about my fears and discomfort. 23:35 Sharing my insecurities about my attractiveness, receiving reassurance, and unexpected comfort. 24:36 Emotional experience, fear, joy, acceptance. 27:56 Sharing vulnerably led to feeling so seen, accepted, and loved by a man. 33:52 Sharing gratitude with a man who embodies what I'm seeking. Resources mentioned: Click here to learn more and join us on The Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th 2024: www.radiantwomanweekend.com Sign up for our mailing list:  https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER   Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Picking up where we left off in our last episode on polarity, Aimee and Ellie are diving deep into the trenches of their own journeys. We'll be sharing the nitty-gritty struggles (and the unexpected breakthroughs!) that comes from embracing your feminine energy. Forget the outdated housewife stereotype – this is about trading in the gotta-do-it-all hustle, shifting out of overwhelm and burnout, and creating hot, harmonious relationships with men. In this week’s episode we share how learning to ask for help, and receiving the support and love you need to embrace a more surrendered way of living, is the key for unlocking your feminine power— and we share practical tips on how to get there. Get ready to ditch the drama, embrace your radiance, and unlock deeper connections for relationship bliss!   Chapters: 00:00 - 01:32  Our journey with polarity teachings and learning to integrate them, versus taking them to the extreme  01:32 - 12:07  Ellie shares about her journey with alchemizing her boss-babe drive and opening to receive her husband’s reflections, support and provision on a whole new level… and what that has opened up for her  12:07 - 16:07  The backwards values in our culture and the deep work many of us need to do to truly embody our radiance and attract an aligned, devoted partner 16:07 - 17:50  How your out-of-balance masculine energy may be blocking the men in your life from feeling inspired to provide for and cherish you 17:50 - 20:22  Why it’s so helpful and important for women to be in community with other women who are embodied in their feminine energy, receptivity and respect for the masculine, in order to make this shift yourself  20:22 - 21:58  Invitation to the Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th!!   Resources mentioned: Click here to learn more and join us on The Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th 2024: www.radiantwomanweekend.com Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DofCommunity/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie  

The term “polarity” gets thrown around a lot… but have you ever wondered what it actually means, and why it matters?! In this episode, we break down our perspective and experience, and share examples of how our practice with empowered polarity is changing our relationships– and why we believe it’s the KEY to hot, harmonious relationships with men!   Chapters: 03:40 An update about our living situation and how we’re creating more work/life balance.  09:31 The dynamics of masculine/feminine energies.  12:11 The power of getting truly vulnerable, and asking men for help.  13:32 Aimee shares a story about what her dating life looked like BEFORE practicing polarity… and how her unconscious drive to protect herself drove men away.  17:41 How to communicate your needs and ask for support. 20:33 Our take on what’s behind the current climate around relationships… ‘toxic’ masculinity, failed relationships, 50% divorce rate.  24:09 We share the changes we believe are needed, like embracing mutual respect and understanding.  35:40 An invite to dive deeper into this work of embodying your feminine energy, and to join us in Austin, TX in June! If you’re craving sisterhood, community, and healing with the masculine, you’ll want to listen all the way to the end!   Resources mentioned: Click here to learn more and join us on The Radiant Woman weekend in Austin: www.radiantwomanweekend.com Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DofCommunity/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie  

This week, we have a very special, long-awaited episode for you. We sat down with Rob Montgomerie to finally get his story out into the world (this is part 1 of a multi-part series)! Up until now, Rob has been a private person, happily serving behind-the-scenes, coaching leaders of some of the most powerful companies in the world. You may not be aware that Rob has also been a huge supporter of our work at Desire on Fire, consistently backing us in a myriad of ways to grow as leaders and serve our community at the highest level.  But the birth of his son, Bear, two years ago, has ignited Rob even more deeply into his purpose, and called him step forward into a new role that’s more public-facing— in service of doing everything he can to support men especially, and do his part to create the world he wants to leave to his son.  Aimee and I have been asking Rob for YEARS to create a brother program to do the work we do with women at Desire on Fire, and I’m so thrilled to share that he finally said yes!! It begins mid-April, and it’s called The Kings Code. ❤️‍🔥 Rob has been walking his own deeply transformational path for close to two decades now, which he generously shares about (without holding back) in this episode. The incredible life he has created of impact, abundance, family, and contribution, is a reflection of how this man deeply embodies the King archetype, and we really can’t imagine anyone more qualified to guide men on their awakening journey.  Inside the program, men will dive deep into rites of passage and archetypal psychology to help them claim their birthright as potent kings and leaders in their lives, relationships, and in the bedroom. Expect to Uncover: The delicate balance of sharing transformative experiences authentically. How conventional success metrics can lead to personal emptiness. An invitation to explore the King’s Code, for profound personal growth. Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee; https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Dive into this episode for a deeply moving conversation that we hope will inspire, expand and ignite you on your spiritual path. We’d love to hear what you receive from listening!

Hey there, welcome back to the Desire on Fire podcast! Today's episode is a bit of a departure from our typical topics, but an important one! This week we’re diving into talking about money, abundance, and financial freedom, topics that go hand-in-hand with living a life led by your deepest desires, and expanding into a life of abundance and fulfillment. Ellie sat down with an amazing guest expert: Penelope Jane Smith. She's a true thought leader in the realm of financial freedom, empowering countless female entrepreneurs with her unique strategies. Penelope shares her incredible money journey, from building a real estate empire to navigating tough times during market crashes. Her story is a testament to resilience and determination, and we hope it inspires and educates you. Find out what's in store for you in this episode: Visioning a lifestyle without the need to trade time for money  Why it’s not as difficult as it might seem to understand, manage, and grow your wealth  Create ideas for how to create passive income and become financially free Penelope's "MESS" system for accelerating wealth creation and financial freedom The importance of having the right mindset about money and prosperity   Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie The Financial Freedom (free ebook) by Penelope Jane Smith: In this training, you’ll discover exactly what it’ll take for you personally to  become financially free so that you don’t have to depend on your business,  a job, the government, a partner, or anyone else for money. You’ll also learn: The Two Types of Passive Income (and How to Get More of Each) Why It’s Important to Create a Clear Financial Freedom Vision 3 Keys to Accelerating Your Journey to Financial Freedom Simple Steps You Can Take Right Now That Your Future Self Will Thank You For  (She’ll Have an Abundance of Money and Choice In Her Life!)  

Dive into an episode where vulnerability meets transformation, and authenticity challenges the status quo. Aimee and Ellie, joined by Ellie's insightful husband, Rob, peel back the layers of their personal and professional journeys, revealing the raw, unedited truths that lie beneath the surface. They touch on moments of struggle and the deep, often uncomfortable shifts that have defined their paths. The concept of “coherence” becomes a beacon of hope and a guide towards authenticity. But what does it really take to align your life and work with your deepest truths? Aimee, Ellie, and Rob don't just tell you; they take you on a journey through their own battles with resistance, fear, and the quest for authenticity in a world that often demands conformity. This episode is more than just a conversation; it's a gateway to a transformative experience. If you've ever felt the pull between who you are and who you're meant to be, between the safety of the known and the exhilarating fear of the unknown, then this is for you. Step into a space where the transformation is real, the vulnerability is palpable, and the journey towards authenticity is anything but linear. Prepare to be intrigued, challenged, and inspired! In this episode, you'll discover: The importance of stepping back and reflecting on the hidden wounds that may be driving our behavior and actions How identifying a “virus” at Aimee's birthday party sparked business changes and massive growth for all of us What we’re learning about polarity— what it actually means to us and how it’s playing out in our lives  Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

We are BACK with a very special episode series for you!!   If you’ve been plugged into our community for the last six months or so, you’re probably aware that we’ve been going through a major metamorphosis over here at Desire on Fire. Releasing scarcity, fear and control so we can open to being held by and receiving from the masculine on a wholeee new level.   And Ellie’s husband Rob has been a key player who has catalyzed and supported this deep transformation (while simultaneously undergoing his own changes + awakening!).   So, we invited Rob onto the podcast so that we can dive deep with him, and really let you into the behind-the-scenes of this journey of what it’s REALLY looked like for each of us (the messy, real and raw!)   In this episode, Rob opens up about his own journey of healing, personal growth and finding coherence.   Rob shares how the power of masculine and feminine energies has helped him overcome generational wounds, enabling him to break free from harmful cycles, and helped him become the amazing husband and father that he is today—as well as his passion for bringing this work to the world, to impact future generations.   Get ready to be moved by Rob's story!   In this episode, you’ll learn:    What past experiences changed Robert’s life How one tough family dinner conversation showed the need for healing Why it doesn’t end with addressing relationship issues and why it needs commitment How the “Sacred Initiation” retreat was the ‘setup’ he needed  The unfolding of the ‘medicine for the collective’ What shaped his new life principles as husband and father Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie  

To listen to Jordan Candlish now, you might never guess he was once an ambitious  ladder-climber in the corporate accounting world.    To the outside world, he was the picture of success: achievement, stability, recognition.    But deep down, he knew that staying in that world and doing things the way everyone else did them was actually playing small and safe with his life. He knew he was meant for more.    So he took the leap into his own healing and evolution, and it’s never been more clear to him that he made the right choice.    Today, Jordan facilitates The Path, a men’s coaching program that helps men heal old wounds, open up new possibilities and true purpose, and gain the maturity and confidence they need to live full-on in their lives and relationships.   Aimee sat down with Jordan in Austin for a wide-ranging and intimate conversation about why men’s personal growth work matters now more than ever, and why healthy brotherhood is so essential for men to thrive.    What you’ll learn in this episode: How Jordan went from high-powered corporate life to coaching men Who he had to disappoint — and why he got okay with it What propelled him into this work The main issues that get addressed when coaching men Jordan’s view of porn (and what he thinks men should do) How he deals with controversy, failure, and criticism Come join us Oct. 13-15 at Desire On Fire Experience LIVE in gorgeous Austin, TX! Get 50% off your ticket when you use the code COMMUNITY. https://www.desireonfirelive.com/desireonfire-experience   Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/