How To Carry & Communicate Expectations

This episode is with my beautiful friend and sister Laura and we talk all about how amazing introverts are and how we can be better friends with introverts and show up for them!  Here are some of the questions and thoughts we chat about…  01.11 - what do you think most extroverts think about introverts?   3.03 - what superpowers do friends bring to a friendship?  5.30 - how do you get the ball rolling to develop those deeper relationships?  6.57 - would you want to know something about someone before you went to a party?  9.30 - what are some signs to look out for to recognise you’re more introverted?  13.17 - What have you learnt from an extrovert? And vice versa?  15.50 - Pet peeves for introverts?  20.59 - Introverts can’t fake it!  21.56 - What advice would you give to a party host to help make people feel seen?  25.29 - how to communicate around parties - don’t personalise it!  26.10 - better communicate boundaries and expectations  30.49 - what are some of the myths to bust that have been put on introverts!  35.30 - introverts are magnetic people!  36.30 - the expectation of having to have regular communications.  Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag -  #whenfriendscomeover #whenfriendscomeover #beintentional #introversion #extroversion #introversiontips #introvertsbelike #goodfriends #friendshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshiptips #conversations #community #connection #communicationtips #communicationskills #selfawareness #letitgo #friendshipgoals 

Having a conversation with my friend Abi who is now a nutritionist with a focus on wanting to help people live a life of goodness. Her focus and theme is helping people understand nutrition without the fluff. 01.24 - The Importance of living a life of goodness 02.19 - Why did you decide to have a focus on nutrition for your life? 06.10 - what have been the biggest benefits for you personally living this goodness life? 08.50 - You want to be around the right people who get and celebrate you when you have a complicated order! 11.36 - How would you help encourage someone who is making in your own opinion unhealthy choices? 17.24 - What do you wish you knew 10 years ago that you would have put into practice? 23.00 - reflecting on micro choices that we make and how the affect our life. 24.30 - find the alternatives! 25.55 - Tell me your thoughts on the importance of knowing about our gut health. 29.58 - What are some ingredients you put into your day to make it full of goodness? Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag - #whenfriendscomeover

This conversation is about Expectations - why we have them, how to set and communicate them, how to let go of past disappointments and when you need to reinvent them.  0.50: Why do we have Expectations?  Expectations are what we assign our assumptions and experiences too.  2.50: What is your opinion on low vs high expectations when it comes to friendships?  It’s about having realistic expectations of people going through different seasons  4.47: When is it healthy to start having expectations?  It’s never too early to set some expectations  Having intentional expectations  When you start having consistency and routine within friendships  Asking questions will help to navigate clear expectations.  9.23: How do you communicate your expectations within your friendships?  Get good at asking better questions!  It’s about opening a dialogue to have both your expectations heard.  11.45: How do you stop from serving the other persons expectations more than your own?  The scales will always hopefully level out…  Friendship don’t always have to be 50/50.  You have to recognise if you are being self sabotaged  13.08: Let’s unpack what unspoken expectations look like in friendships?  Expectations unfold naturally within friendships  They can work like a personal roadmap  Be willing to talk about it.  18.15: Asking your friends what their expectations are of you?  And check if you are ok with it.  18.42: Scenario…Reinventing yourself in friendships and communicating your new expectations?  It’s hard, but it is an invitation to open the communication and let them show up.  Express your needs!  It’s creating a space of vulnerability  23.40: Celebrating expectations within relationships, and how to find the balance of knowing which relationships they are for?  Knowing people’s personalities will help cater to different situations  25.12: How do you stop the energy of past disappointments / let downs of expectations not affect future relational expectations?  It takes self awareness  Learning to hold expectations with an open hand (nothing good can get into a closed hand).  Having a foundation of expectations and leaving it open to be added to.  Have and set expectations for the people in your world.  32.22: What would you say to someone who wants to let go of past hurts, any journal / question prompts?  Put a name / label on them!  34.12: practical tips for communicating expectations at gatherings?  Know your audience on how to best show up for them.  36.16: what has been a lesson that has really helped you in expectations?  Expect people to show you who they are and say what they mean. Create environments where people can show up fully.  Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag -  #whenfriendscomeover #whenfriendscomeover #beintentional #expectationtips #expectations #friendshiptips #relationshiptips #conversations #community #connection #communicationtips #communicationskills #selfawareness #letitgo #friendshipgoals 

In conversation with my friend Grace from Jakarta Indonesia. Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag -  #whenfriendscomeover 01.05 - What does community mean to you?  It has helped navigate through so many transitional seasons  01.44 - Do you remember the first community you were a part of?  I had such a need for a community and journeying with people  Having a place that empathised with me helped me grow even further to my goals  A lot of big life transitions I had to navigate alone  Out of the growing pains I knew I had to start my own community  05.18 - What make a community be attractive to be a part of?  Belonging, where you don’t have to perform  Showing genuine interest in each member  Having common values and communicating what they are 07.25 - What makes a community last?  Consistency  Community happens throughout the week  Communities come in seasons  08.56 - Does it not cause the leader burnout if they are leading everything?  I was the leader that had to deal with everything, building with the next leaders in mind  It cannot be you alone!  10.46 - What advice would you want to give to someone thinking of starting a community?  The mission of why is important which usually comes from your own pain points  Our life story gives us a clue of what we want to build next  Don’t build on your own - find the people who share the same mission  13.20 - The Scenario….What advice would you give to someone who knows they want to leave the community, how would you suggest doing that well?  It can feel like leaving a relationship and you want to do it well.  Honouring the community and who it was, and the impact they made  15.23 - Can you recognise any signs to leave a community?  You’re feeling frustrated and unsettled  It could be about moving around within the community not just leaving  16.45 -  What has been a failure you’ve had from growing communities?  Doing everything on my own!  Dealing with my over perfection of how I want something  A strong community delegates and lets people take ownership.  18.19 - Any thoughts on managing being a part of multiple communities well?  Don’t lead them all! You need to give out as well as replenish.  Leadership health plays a big role in community health.  20.15 - What’s the community we should focus on the most?  The structured vs organic communities  My family and immediate inner circle, sharing common values  Then you have the more external communities that can shift and adapt  22.15 - Encouragement to someone who is struggling to find a community?  It can be extremely vulnerable to be a part of one  When you don’t see what you like, why not do it yourself - it doesn’t have to be super structured  Knowing when to add structure   24.24 - take initiative and go it alone - you have to have a community with yourself.  Being true to what you enjoy!  There’s no one way of making a community.  It takes one person to step out!  Sometimes you just need to try even if it’s not in your comfort zone and being more curious.  Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag -  #whenfriendscomeover

Today I am in conversation with Michelle @honeymoonalways a friend I met recently at an Axe Throwing Party in #Lisbon. 01.03: Who is someone really interesting you have met and how did you meet them? - Connection through social media 02.18: What were some if the things you chose to do when you relocated to step out and connect with people? - Initially saying yes to a lot of opportunities but realising that wasn’t sustainable for who we were. 0.508: What advice would you go back and give yourself to fast track deeper connections? - When you show up as your authentic self, it gives off the radar of who you want to genuinely attract. - Choosing similar interests and events to go to rather than going to anything. - Really asses what signal you are putting out. 06.30: What are some mind blocks that people have that stop them making connections? - Negativity and closed mindedness can stop people from forming connections 08.40: How to overcome rejection from past experiences? - Learn to present the things that you like about yourself in interactions - It’s not about rejection, it’s more not being the right fit - reframe it. 12:20: What advice would you want to give to someone to encourage them to initiate? - Believe that you can have a conversation with everyone - Everyone has something to offer - How to enter a room with a good mindset. 15.14: What’s some good question starters? - Don’t start with the ‘What do you do?’ card! - Finding a form of connection - outfit, tattoos, where they are from to where they are now? - Even superficial questions help. 17.05: How do I stop from coming across as someone who is interviewing energy…. - Learn to read the room! - You want to come across with a genuine energy that is about being curious and wanting to understand them better. - Practice and take improv classes. - Put yourself in uncomfortable settings 21.36: Ted Lasso episode - speaking to your younger child. - How to speak to yourself privately to get uncomfortable - You matter and deserve to take up space and contribute! 23.18: Scenario….What advice would you give to a host to make people who are new feel comfortable? - Create an environment of welcome. - Think of thoughtful ways to go the extra mile. - Set expectations for the guests to know what to experience. - Help find conversation starters for people to connect. 26.16: How have you handled social anxieties from showing up to a party? - Coming with the energy of hopefulness - It is on each of us to own our own experience to make it what you want it to. - See everything as a learning experience! - Knowing that you can enter a room empowered. 30.12: How can we become more approachable and connectable in the world that we live in? - It’s a gift to be able to see people ‘authentically’ online and what they give across. - You’re able to gain more information to find more connections. - Looking at social media as a positive tool. 34.15: What are some great body language and energies that help make someone feel more approachable? - Strong eye contact and smiling it can give off friendliness. - Easy to laugh. - Try not let the circumstances control your energy. - More mindful how you’re dressing and way you posture your body. 40.00: The gift of Europe and how inclusive it is to make people feel they belong without being an insider. Our encouragement is to come with a new mindset to meet new people and see people you meet as interesting! And you are responsible for your own enjoyment. Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag - #whenfriendscomeover

***Note at the end of the video on youtube there are 4 short personal video surprises to watch!  Here is the youtube link - https://youtu.be/0MbpoDjh9XM Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag -  #whenfriendscomeover Do you have examples of a great surprise moment?  What the word surprise means -  ‘To strike with wonder or amazement, especially because it’s unexpected.’  My thoughts on observations that I hope are an encouragement -  Moments -  1.50 - 1. The long term memories and gifts that surprises leave with you  4.10 - 2. Being thoughtful on who you’re wanting to surprise  5.54 - 3. Learning to plan and not control the outcome of the surprise  8.06 -  4. How to handle surprises when on the receiving end of them  10.54 - Creating micro surprises in your every day  Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag -  #whenfriendscomeover

Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag - #whenfriendscomeover Watch here on youtube - https://youtu.be/ZZAPIo1AbDshttps://youtu.be/ZZAPIo1AbDs Cultivating A Life Of Playfulness with @DaynaEvanow moments… 2.35 - Q: When you think of being playful, what comes to mind? - Embracing that childlike wonder 3.08 - Q: How can we bring back ‘play dates’ into our adulthood? - Balancing spontaneity with intentionality - Creating anticipation 5.46 - Q: Has living a playful life always been in you? - Having to go through a healing journey with it of being ‘too much’ for people and having it dimmed out. - When you truly feel safe is when it can be expressed best 8.10 - Q: What have been the benefits of being more playful? - Playfulness unlocks creativity! - Helps bring out my true authentic self - I feel more healthy in all areas 8.52 - Q: Playfulness brings out presence don’t you think? - It helps me to be more intentional with who I am with and my environment and more curious. 10.18 - Q: When I was doing research on playfulness…Do you often smile when you’re by yourself? How do you navigate being playful by yourself? - What I do everyday to cultivate playfulness for myself - Doing things that make you come alive - Coming alive to your senses and move your body - What I do called ‘Mirror Love’ and why it’s important to playfulness - How to celebrate who you are! 14.45 - Q: Being playfulness creates influence to around the world hey? - It is amazing when you see someone so secure in their own presence you are inspired by them. 16.45 - Q: It’s not every day that we can be at Disney - how do you navigate a sense of playfulness every when sometimes it is the last thing you want to express? - Being in tune with your spirit and being authentic and not about having a performance - Learning to not believe the lie that I always had to be strong and not show emotions - Its not a weakness to not be happy all the time - Playfulness is about being in time for yourself and others - knowing the atmosphere - You want to make people feel seen! - Playful energy and spirits can bring healing 21.17 - Gratitude moment… Sharing a story with my beautiful friend of the love and support she brought me 22.23 - The scenario - How would you handle the type of situation when it comes to cultivating playfulness? Dayna shares her tips of what she would do to navigate the mood killers in a calm and kind way. All about shifting the atmosphere. How to bring love and celebration and create a softness in the environment 25.45 - Q: What are 3 things/hacks/tips that help make you be more playful? 1. Approach life with curiosity 2. Ask your inner child intentional questions 3. Embody movement in your life

The Art Of Conversations - Effortless conversations! Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag - #whenfriendscomeover And thank you to my friend @TOMLANCASTER for being a part of this conversation! 0.30: Kickoff - Why I chose Tom to speak with about Conversations. 2.15: What is your perspective on conversations in the world today? - We can solve a lot of issues with good conversations and manage conflicts. - Conversations are a huge untapped resource and the better we will get at getting along. - How to approach our friends to serve them better as you get to know them. - When you listen you discover so much more! 6.24: Do you think texting/voice messages, is that a conversation? - Text is a great way to keep it live even if it’s shallow swimming. - Some things can’t be done about text it involves presence. 8.47: What do you think the role of small talk plays in a conversation? - When it’s used as a shallow end to a deep end. - There is a purpose to small talk, it’s like warming up! 11.45: What are some key elements of a good conversation? - A lack of agenda and the presence of purpose! - There’s a reason we are having a conversation not just because of proximity. - Look for where you can add value and celebrate. 16.15: Do you think locations play an important part in good conversations? - Creating environments for a better conversation setting. 19.30: What would you do in this scenario… How do you manage when a person isn’t a presence when in their company and are wanting to have a good conversation? - Find a way to do something / address it! - Some ideas on how to approach the setting in a calm way and be in their shoes. - Make the table more interesting than the phone. - Knowing who you can be more direct with. - How to protect your own boundaries and self worth. - Don’t play the victim and work out how to serve them as a friend. - The markers of a good friend! 25.59: Communicating your standards in relationships? - Knowing the difference between control and standards. - Skilfully articulate in a gentle and kind way. - Become more observant. - How to choose the environments for good conversations. 29.30: What are some ideas to create vulnerability in conversations? - You have to take the first step and show people you’re willing to go there yourself. - Create a space for authenticity and to be trusted. - Being a genuine human. - You’re not going to be vulnerable with someone who isn’t present. - How to shelve stuff to be able to show up and be more present in the here and now. 35.36: What are some things people are left with feeling after a good conversation? - You are left wit value being added! - Leave with more than you came with. Final fun question game! 1-49….What do you want to accomplish before the year ends and what’s stopping you? Let’s be more here and now in all our conversations : ) Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag - #whenfriendscomeover#connection #conversations #community #whenfriendscomeover #personaldevelopment #relationshipadvice #relationshiptips #communicationskills #friendshiptips #goodconversations #deepconversations #conversationtips #conversationskills #smalltalk #emotionalreading #dealwithconflict #bepresent #presence #boundaries #authenticself #boundaries101 #vulnerabilitytips #firstdatetips #firstdates #respectyourself #standards #observant #selfawareness #goodlistening

Hey, I'm Hannah - Thank you for stopping by! When Friends Come Over is a podcast about a range of topics that I want to add value to your world and give you tips and ideas for developing more intentional and genuine friendships.  Thank you for taking the time to listen or watch - I hope this added value to your world and got an idea or tip for your own journey. Please feel free to share with me your thoughts @HannahTruscott on social media and use this hashtag -  #whenfriendscomeover