The Science Behind Self-Esteem

Friends, what a beautiful and exciting journey it has been! As we take a much-needed break to recharge our batteries, frolic in the sunshine, enjoy time with our loved ones and align ourselves with whatever our next adventure will be, we want to thank every single one of you in our season finale episode. Keep in touch on our socials, like and review our 150 episodes, find us on werenotfine.com and send us love notes, sign up for our stack newsletters, just stay in touch. It’s not over yet! We love each and every one of you and could not be more grateful for all of your support along the way! 🩷 Until next time!

In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia take on a write-in that asked ChatGPT to give advice on a long-standing issue he and his wife had been having for years. We HAD to jump right in and do a side-by-side response. DOUG & Talia vs Chat GPT. Winner takes all!

This conversation delves into the complexities of self-esteem, exploring its roots, the impact of external influences such as social media, and practical strategies for improvement. The hosts discuss the importance of self-worth, the effects of negative self-talk, and the role of assertiveness in building confidence. They emphasize the need for self-care and the significance of surrounding oneself with supportive individuals to foster a healthier self-image.

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia discuss the importance of timing in disclosing your invisible disabilities in dating. Do you have ADHD or OCD? Are you someone with a chronic health condition? A mental illness? Are you on the spectrum? Do you lead with it or wait for the right moment? Tune in to find out!

In this Mailbag, Dr Talia and Doug play around with a few differential diagnoses. Anxious disorganized attachment, relationship OCD, or is it just not the right fit? Tune in!

In this Mailbag Episode; Dr. Talia and Doug tease out whether the writer’s girlfriend is pouring her love and affection into her dog while avoiding our writer because of an avoidant attachment style, or… is she just not that into him? Tune in to find out!Shout out to @igototherapy for the Avoidant-Anxious dynamic reference.

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug take on the idea that having been either the Golden Child or Scapegoat in your family of origin had a lasting impact on you and is most certainly showing up in adulthood and in your romantic relationships. Both roles are toxic and either cursed you with a pressure to perform and please or an assumption that you can never do anything right. Tune in and weigh in, we want to hear from you!

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia take on “defensiveness” as the most common maladaptive self-protective coping strategy in relationships. As you all know, that doesn’t tend to go well. We feel attacked, defend ourselves, or maybe we roll our eyes, sigh heavily and tell our partner they misunderstood or they are too sensitive. We might not realize that we are creating a rupture by not validating their experience in that moment, but we are. Tune in to learn practical strategies to take that crucial momentary pause and learn to respond differently in those moments. Your partner will thank you!

Can differing ambition levels tank a relationship? When can it work and when is it a crack in the pavement? She loves him. He is happy to be who he is where he is, and there is no stopping her ambitious career path. An amazing mailbag episode honoring love from all walks of life.

In this poignant and emotional mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia touch on the painful realities of being in love with with a partner who is deep in addiction and not taking ownership of the issues or making efforts towards healing and changing. How much can a partner put up with? Can you force them to go to treatment? When do you leave? What if they are the love of your life?