Ep 8: I Like To Not Fit In (Solo Episode)

They didn't choose you by accident. And you didn't attract them by coincidence. There's a reason narcissists, manipulators, and abusers keep showing up in your life—and it has everything to do with you.In this eye-opening conversation with Richard Grannon, we're diving into the uncomfortable truth that most people avoid: why you became a target, what patterns you're unconsciously running, and how to finally become resistant to toxic relationships.This isn't about blaming yourself. It's about empowering yourself. Because once you understand what made you vulnerable, you can close the door for good.In this episode, we explore:Why self-awareness, not narcissist education, is the key to breaking the cycleThe psychological wounds that make you a "narcissist magnet"How trauma bonding keeps you stuck in toxic patternsWhat it really takes to become immune to manipulative relationshipsThe inner work that most abuse survivors skip—and why it matters mostIf you've spent countless hours trying to understand them, it's time to start understanding you. This conversation will challenge you, but it will also set you free.Richard Grannon is one of the leading voices in trauma psychology and narcissistic abuse recovery. His no-nonsense approach cuts through the victim mentality and gets straight to what actually heals.Watch until the end. This one hits different.

Are you stuck in a cycle of attracting the same type of partner over and over?? In this powerful conversation with Caroline Middelsdorf, we dive deep into the hidden trauma patterns that keep us repeating destructive relationship dynamics. Discover why we're drawn to people who aren't good for us, what shadow work really means, and the practical steps you can take to finally break free from these patterns. If you've ever wondered "why does this keep happening to me?"This episode will change how you see yourself and your relationships.-🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH

In this powerful and soul-stirring episode of Untempered, I sit down with storyteller, mentor, and heart-led leader and Tedx Speaker BC Serna to unpack masculinity, love, purpose, and the inner wounds that shape us all.We explore:What it means to be a man in today’s world—and the confusion surrounding masculinityWhy so many men fear emotional intimacy and vulnerabilityThe presence of feminine energy in male identityThe real reason so many people are cynical about loveHow pain can become purpose—and why your greatest wound might be your greatest teacherBC’s raw reflections on childhood, love, mentorship, and how he stays connected to truth✨ If you've ever felt lost in the noise, disconnected from yourself, or unsure of how to heal—this episode is for you.-🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH--Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly — about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. Through sharing my own therapy journey and life experiences, I hope to create a safe space for personal storytelling, real conversations, and honest reflections. Healing isn’t easy, and growth doesn’t happen overnight, but together, through vulnerability and support, we can find our way forward.If you’re on your own healing journey, know you’re not alone — and I’m so glad you’re here.#dating #love #couples #relationships #mentalhealth #selfdevelopment

A VERY personal story. So, this was my first attempt at dating after divorce and this happened. I realise now that I am the perfect target and its opening up a whole new world of work I have to do. Its exciting and terrifying at the same time. Here is the full story.The video I refer to by Richard Grannon is below👇🏽: https://youtu.be/t4rYOPcYz5g?si=ae7LrwpowPiSMZCT

Hello everyone, I'm back!!And from what? From total burnout. I set the bar so high and expected too much out o fmyself which inevtibaly left me broken and feeling unworthy. The next episodes are my comeback. Burnout taught me so much. So here's why I’ll never chase “enough” the same way again, and how you can also turn exhaustion into clarity.Note from the Creator: Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. Through sharing my own therapy journey and life experiences, I hope to create a safe space for personal storytelling, real conversations, and honest reflections. Healing isn’t easy, and growth doesn’t happen overnight, but together, through vulnerability and support, we can find our way forward.If you’re on your own healing journey, know you’re not alone — and I’m so glad you’re here.-#burnout #mentalhealth #motivation #relationships #marriage #mindset #breakups

🎙 In this episode of Untempered, I sit down with Uma Ghosh – former Mrs. India, award-winning TV host, and now a wellness entrepreneur leading a powerful pro-age movement.But this isn’t a conversation about glitz and glam. It’s about what you didn’t see.✨ Behind the beauty, there was burnout.✨ Behind the success, there was silence.✨ Behind the public persona, there was a woman doing deep inner work.We talk about:– The moment her anxiety forced her to stop and re-evaluate everything– How the beauty industry became a mask she had to shed– What it means to walk away from a “successful” life and start over– How she now builds her business with a blend of strategy and spirituality– Her bold stand for pro-aging in an anti-aging world– And the legacy she wants to leave—not for the internet, but for the people who love her mostThis episode is raw, reflective, and deeply inspiring. If you’re navigating a life pivot, battling burnout, or feeling the pressure to perform, this one’s for you.👇 Watch, comment, and share with someone who needs to hear this.And don’t forget to follow the podcast for more real, unfiltered conversations.#UntemperedPodcast #UmaGhosh #BurnoutRecovery #ProAging #FemininePower #SpiritualEntrepreneur #PodcastInterview #InnerWork🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH-0:00 - Intro 1:20 - Uma describes what turning 51 truly feels like 4:30 - The truth behind fame that no one knows about7:00 - Career change struggles and the big paradigm shift10:00 - Redefining success and the journey of trusting her gut11:20 - Reframing ageing for Uma14:00 - Western medicine solutions and their effects on society15:00 - Beauty standards that are hindering us22:00 - Protecting the coming generations from impossible expectations22:35 - My personal experience with Botox23:30 - Anti-Aging vs Pro-Aging25:15 - Embracing Ageing as it comes with all its beauty and advantages26:00 - Looking inwards and Uma's teachings in her Pro Academy33:00 - Internal research that is necessary 35:00 - Uma's mission and goals moving forward Message from your host: Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly — about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. Through sharing my own therapy journey and life experiences, I hope to create a safe space for personal storytelling, real conversations, and honest reflections. Healing isn’t easy, and growth doesn’t happen overnight, but together, through vulnerability and support, we can find our way forward.If you’re on your own healing journey, know you’re not alone — and I’m so glad you’re here.

In this powerful episode I sit down with the multifaceted and magnetic Rhea Jacobs—entrepreneur, content creator, model, and beauty ambassador—to talk about the layers beneath the surface. This conversation is for anyone who’s ever felt like they had to “perform” for acceptance. Rhea opens up about identity, self-worth, and what it takes to build a meaningful brand while staying grounded in truth.✨ Key Topics:* The pressure of image in the beauty and influencer world* Healing, growth, and inner work behind the scenes* Cultivating real confidence* Redefining what “being seen” truly meansTIMESTAMPS0:00 Introduction 3:34 Looking back: Rhea’s childhood and key milestones that made her strive6:10 Trying to feel safe in her identity and the struggles of self-doubt11:30 Unpacking her life-changing moment and healing journey 15:25 The challenges of success & facing the reality of hard work17:30 The fine line between overachieving and burn out25:00 pivotal milestones in creating a safe space and calming the nervous system 28:00 Rhea frames how she sees beauty and the standards women face 31:25 The most spiritually harmful beauty standard women face 33:50 Reclaiming yourself and the meaning of true self love as a woman 37:28 The balance of femininity and striving to achieve goals 42:26 Sneak peak prompts from Rhea’s bestselling journal 🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiHGUEST: https://www.rheajacobs.com/Her Journal : https://www.rhe.ae/https://www.instagram.com/therjacobs/?hl=en🎙️ Message from your host: Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly — about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. Through sharing my own therapy journey and life experiences, I hope to create a safe space for personal storytelling, real conversations, and honest reflections. Healing isn’t easy, and growth doesn’t happen overnight, but together, through vulnerability and support, we can find our way forward.If you’re on your own healing journey, know you’re not alone — and I’m so glad you’re here.#mentalhealth #selfimprovement #entrepreneurmindset #growthmindset #personalgrowth

What if parenting wasn’t about being perfect—but about being real?This episode goes deep with Asma Saleh (@dr.asmahan.sk), a behavioral analyst and child psychologist, as she unpacks what “gentle parenting” really means—and what happens when it gets misunderstood. We explore how to handle anger, discipline without shame, and how to help kids regulate their emotions even if you weren’t taught how. It’s honest, vulnerable, and packed with real-life strategies.Are you ready to challenge everything you thought you knew about parenting?-00:00 – What is gentle parenting, really? 02:29 – Does bribing kids work? 04:58 – Who is Asma Sal? 07:27 – Neurodivergent vs. neurotypical kids? 09:56 – How does motherhood reveal old wounds? 12:25 – How do we raise emotionally smart kids? 14:55 – Why modeling emotions matters 17:24 – Can kids absorb our trauma? 19:53 – How does trauma pass through generations? 22:22 – Can small comments hurt a child’s image? 24:51 – Why should parents share their struggles? 27:20 – Phrases parents should stop using 29:50 – How fear-based parenting backfires 32:19 – How do threats impact trust? 34:48 – Why do we parent the way we were parented? 37:17 – How does fear shape adult love? 39:46 – Undoing fear-based habits 42:15 – Is 7 too late to change? 44:45 – Bribery vs. reinforcement 47:14 – Why kids don’t listen 49:43 – Are tantrums really that bad? 52:12 – Validating big feelings without enabling 54:41 – How to teach kids safe anger outlets 57:10 – How trauma shows up later in life 59:40 – How to build emotional safety -🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH-Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly — about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. Through sharing my own therapy journey and life experiences, I hope to create a safe space for personal storytelling, real conversations, and honest reflections. Healing isn’t easy, and growth doesn’t happen overnight, but together, through vulnerability and support, we can find our way forward.If you’re on your own healing journey, know you’re not alone — and I’m so glad you’re here.-#gentleparenting #gentleparentingtips #parentingtips

What if healing isn’t pretty... and it’s not supposed to be?In this episode of Untempered, I’m opening up about the raw, lonely, uncomfortable process of true healing. From post-divorce grief to narcissistic recovery, I share what no one tells you about the pain, the setbacks, and the power of just beginning. No fluff, no fake positivity — just the honest truth and tools that helped me step into the most authentic version of myself.Have you started your healing yet… or are you still waiting for it to feel good first?Want to hear more of this? Check out:https://open.spotify.com/show/2rGe928PzDUPtftr9TEMkI?si=893990843c794d6b&nd=1&dlsi=978d8d581ce24cb6-00:00 – What does healing really feel like?02:06 – Why is healing so lonely?04:40 – How do you take accountability?06:08 – Why is stillness so hard?07:04 – What is inner child healing?10:32 – How do you grieve lost relationships?11:52 – How do you fight ego and self-doubt?12:50 – How does self-trust build confidence?13:43 – What’s the first step to healing?-Untempered is a podcast curated around deep conversations relating to self development, mental health, relationships and so much more. Here, I'm creating a safe space to have helpful sharing of knowledge, and be able to be vulnerable in order to spark a positive change in all of us.#healingjourney #traumahealing #emotionalhealing

Ever felt like you lost your confidence somewhere along the way? I’ve been there.In this new episode, I share how I rebuilt my self-worth from the ground up after years of bullying, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. I walk you through the exact mindset shifts, thought rewiring, and daily practices I used to go from doubting myself... to launching this podcast!This isn’t performative confidence. This is real. It’s quiet. It’s rooted. And it’s available to you too.If you've ever told yourself “I can’t,” let’s flip that script—starting now!Want to hear more of this? Check out:https://open.spotify.com/show/2rGe928PzDUPtftr9TEMkI?si=893990843c794d6b&nd=1&dlsi=978d8d581ce24cb6-00:00 – Why do I seem more confident now?01:16 – What is confidence really?02:16 – How did bullying mute my inner voice?04:45 – Is it possible to reboot lost confidence?05:27 – Why do confident people get more respect?08:22 – Why does external validation ruin confidence?09:37 – What if I just try, even if I fail?10:46 – How do I find my identity again?12:59 – How does meditation reconnect you to your self?13:39 – Why does taking risks build confidence?14:58 – What happens when you start keeping promises to yourself?15:45 – Can your emotions override your training?17:29 – How do I rewire my brain in real time?18:12 – How do I help my daughter build confidence?21:55 – Can anyone learn anything and become more confident?23:10 – Why asking for help makes you stronger, not weaker24:37 – What’s the real difference between arrogance and confidence?25:42 – What’s the worst thing for your confidence?29:30 – What’s real confidence actually look like?-Untempered is a podcast curated around deep conversations relating to self development, mental health, relationships and so much more. Here, I'm creating a safe space to have helpful sharing of knowledge, and be able to be vulnerable in order to spark a positive change in all of us.#confidence #boostingconfidence #howtobeconfident