Ep 36: Going Beyond The Ego, Why Your Thoughts Aren't You! w/ Martin O'toole

🎙 In this episode of Untempered, I sit down with Uma Ghosh – former Mrs. India, award-winning TV host, and now a wellness entrepreneur leading a powerful pro-age movement.But this isn’t a conversation about glitz and glam. It’s about what you didn’t see.✨ Behind the beauty, there was burnout.✨ Behind the success, there was silence.✨ Behind the public persona, there was a woman doing deep inner work.We talk about:– The moment her anxiety forced her to stop and re-evaluate everything– How the beauty industry became a mask she had to shed– What it means to walk away from a “successful” life and start over– How she now builds her business with a blend of strategy and spirituality– Her bold stand for pro-aging in an anti-aging world– And the legacy she wants to leave—not for the internet, but for the people who love her mostThis episode is raw, reflective, and deeply inspiring. If you’re navigating a life pivot, battling burnout, or feeling the pressure to perform, this one’s for you.👇 Watch, comment, and share with someone who needs to hear this.And don’t forget to follow the podcast for more real, unfiltered conversations.#UntemperedPodcast #UmaGhosh #BurnoutRecovery #ProAging #FemininePower #SpiritualEntrepreneur #PodcastInterview #InnerWork🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH-0:00 - Intro 1:20 - Uma describes what turning 51 truly feels like 4:30 - The truth behind fame that no one knows about7:00 - Career change struggles and the big paradigm shift10:00 - Redefining success and the journey of trusting her gut11:20 - Reframing ageing for Uma14:00 - Western medicine solutions and their effects on society15:00 - Beauty standards that are hindering us22:00 - Protecting the coming generations from impossible expectations22:35 - My personal experience with Botox23:30 - Anti-Aging vs Pro-Aging25:15 - Embracing Ageing as it comes with all its beauty and advantages26:00 - Looking inwards and Uma's teachings in her Pro Academy33:00 - Internal research that is necessary 35:00 - Uma's mission and goals moving forward Message from your host: Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly — about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. Through sharing my own therapy journey and life experiences, I hope to create a safe space for personal storytelling, real conversations, and honest reflections. Healing isn’t easy, and growth doesn’t happen overnight, but together, through vulnerability and support, we can find our way forward.If you’re on your own healing journey, know you’re not alone — and I’m so glad you’re here.

In this powerful episode I sit down with the multifaceted and magnetic Rhea Jacobs—entrepreneur, content creator, model, and beauty ambassador—to talk about the layers beneath the surface. This conversation is for anyone who’s ever felt like they had to “perform” for acceptance. Rhea opens up about identity, self-worth, and what it takes to build a meaningful brand while staying grounded in truth.✨ Key Topics:* The pressure of image in the beauty and influencer world* Healing, growth, and inner work behind the scenes* Cultivating real confidence* Redefining what “being seen” truly meansTIMESTAMPS0:00 Introduction 3:34 Looking back: Rhea’s childhood and key milestones that made her strive6:10 Trying to feel safe in her identity and the struggles of self-doubt11:30 Unpacking her life-changing moment and healing journey 15:25 The challenges of success & facing the reality of hard work17:30 The fine line between overachieving and burn out25:00 pivotal milestones in creating a safe space and calming the nervous system 28:00 Rhea frames how she sees beauty and the standards women face 31:25 The most spiritually harmful beauty standard women face 33:50 Reclaiming yourself and the meaning of true self love as a woman 37:28 The balance of femininity and striving to achieve goals 42:26 Sneak peak prompts from Rhea’s bestselling journal 🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiHGUEST: https://www.rheajacobs.com/Her Journal : https://www.rhe.ae/https://www.instagram.com/therjacobs/?hl=en🎙️ Message from your host: Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly — about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. Through sharing my own therapy journey and life experiences, I hope to create a safe space for personal storytelling, real conversations, and honest reflections. Healing isn’t easy, and growth doesn’t happen overnight, but together, through vulnerability and support, we can find our way forward.If you’re on your own healing journey, know you’re not alone — and I’m so glad you’re here.#mentalhealth #selfimprovement #entrepreneurmindset #growthmindset #personalgrowth

What if parenting wasn’t about being perfect—but about being real?This episode goes deep with Asma Saleh (@dr.asmahan.sk), a behavioral analyst and child psychologist, as she unpacks what “gentle parenting” really means—and what happens when it gets misunderstood. We explore how to handle anger, discipline without shame, and how to help kids regulate their emotions even if you weren’t taught how. It’s honest, vulnerable, and packed with real-life strategies.Are you ready to challenge everything you thought you knew about parenting?-00:00 – What is gentle parenting, really? 02:29 – Does bribing kids work? 04:58 – Who is Asma Sal? 07:27 – Neurodivergent vs. neurotypical kids? 09:56 – How does motherhood reveal old wounds? 12:25 – How do we raise emotionally smart kids? 14:55 – Why modeling emotions matters 17:24 – Can kids absorb our trauma? 19:53 – How does trauma pass through generations? 22:22 – Can small comments hurt a child’s image? 24:51 – Why should parents share their struggles? 27:20 – Phrases parents should stop using 29:50 – How fear-based parenting backfires 32:19 – How do threats impact trust? 34:48 – Why do we parent the way we were parented? 37:17 – How does fear shape adult love? 39:46 – Undoing fear-based habits 42:15 – Is 7 too late to change? 44:45 – Bribery vs. reinforcement 47:14 – Why kids don’t listen 49:43 – Are tantrums really that bad? 52:12 – Validating big feelings without enabling 54:41 – How to teach kids safe anger outlets 57:10 – How trauma shows up later in life 59:40 – How to build emotional safety -🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH-Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly — about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. Through sharing my own therapy journey and life experiences, I hope to create a safe space for personal storytelling, real conversations, and honest reflections. Healing isn’t easy, and growth doesn’t happen overnight, but together, through vulnerability and support, we can find our way forward.If you’re on your own healing journey, know you’re not alone — and I’m so glad you’re here.-#gentleparenting #gentleparentingtips #parentingtips

What if healing isn’t pretty... and it’s not supposed to be?In this episode of Untempered, I’m opening up about the raw, lonely, uncomfortable process of true healing. From post-divorce grief to narcissistic recovery, I share what no one tells you about the pain, the setbacks, and the power of just beginning. No fluff, no fake positivity — just the honest truth and tools that helped me step into the most authentic version of myself.Have you started your healing yet… or are you still waiting for it to feel good first?Want to hear more of this? Check out:https://open.spotify.com/show/2rGe928PzDUPtftr9TEMkI?si=893990843c794d6b&nd=1&dlsi=978d8d581ce24cb6-00:00 – What does healing really feel like?02:06 – Why is healing so lonely?04:40 – How do you take accountability?06:08 – Why is stillness so hard?07:04 – What is inner child healing?10:32 – How do you grieve lost relationships?11:52 – How do you fight ego and self-doubt?12:50 – How does self-trust build confidence?13:43 – What’s the first step to healing?-Untempered is a podcast curated around deep conversations relating to self development, mental health, relationships and so much more. Here, I'm creating a safe space to have helpful sharing of knowledge, and be able to be vulnerable in order to spark a positive change in all of us.#healingjourney #traumahealing #emotionalhealing

Ever felt like you lost your confidence somewhere along the way? I’ve been there.In this new episode, I share how I rebuilt my self-worth from the ground up after years of bullying, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. I walk you through the exact mindset shifts, thought rewiring, and daily practices I used to go from doubting myself... to launching this podcast!This isn’t performative confidence. This is real. It’s quiet. It’s rooted. And it’s available to you too.If you've ever told yourself “I can’t,” let’s flip that script—starting now!Want to hear more of this? Check out:https://open.spotify.com/show/2rGe928PzDUPtftr9TEMkI?si=893990843c794d6b&nd=1&dlsi=978d8d581ce24cb6-00:00 – Why do I seem more confident now?01:16 – What is confidence really?02:16 – How did bullying mute my inner voice?04:45 – Is it possible to reboot lost confidence?05:27 – Why do confident people get more respect?08:22 – Why does external validation ruin confidence?09:37 – What if I just try, even if I fail?10:46 – How do I find my identity again?12:59 – How does meditation reconnect you to your self?13:39 – Why does taking risks build confidence?14:58 – What happens when you start keeping promises to yourself?15:45 – Can your emotions override your training?17:29 – How do I rewire my brain in real time?18:12 – How do I help my daughter build confidence?21:55 – Can anyone learn anything and become more confident?23:10 – Why asking for help makes you stronger, not weaker24:37 – What’s the real difference between arrogance and confidence?25:42 – What’s the worst thing for your confidence?29:30 – What’s real confidence actually look like?-Untempered is a podcast curated around deep conversations relating to self development, mental health, relationships and so much more. Here, I'm creating a safe space to have helpful sharing of knowledge, and be able to be vulnerable in order to spark a positive change in all of us.#confidence #boostingconfidence #howtobeconfident

Have you ever had a gut feeling you couldn’t explain—but ignored it anyway? I just had a crash landing that reframed the way I see the skydiving sport going forward.In this video, I take you through the moment I dismissed my intuition—and the accident that followed. But this isn’t just about skydiving. It’s about identity, purpose, and the wake-up call I never saw coming.If you’ve ever silenced that inner voice, doubted your instincts, or felt lost in a life that doesn’t quite feel like yours… this story is for you.🔗 Watch till the end to hear how this crash taught me one of the biggest lessons I've learned to date.#SkydivingAccident #GutFeeling #TransformativeMoments #Untempered #intuition #motivation #selfimprovement

🚩 10 Red Flags You Shouldn't Miss in Dating! | Untempered Podcast Are you ignoring the signs that could save you from heartbreak? In this eye-opening episode, we’re diving deep into 10 subtle but serious dating red flags that most people overlook and that I certainly have missed in the past. Whether you're navigating a new relationship or reassessing an existing one, these warning signs could make or break your emotional well-being.From love bombing and boundary issues to emotional unavailability and inconsistent communication—we break down the behaviors that often go unnoticed until it's too late. Don't let the honeymoon phase blind you. Your future self will thank you for learning to spot these patterns early!🎙️ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:🔸How to identify toxic relationship patterns early🔸Why ignoring your gut feeling can cost you🔸The psychology behind red flag behavior🔸Real-life examples and personal experiences🔸What to do when you spot these warning signsWhether you're dating casually or looking for something serious, this episode is a must-watch for anyone who values healthy relationships. Knowledge is power—don't miss these critical insights that could protect your heart and your peace.👍 Like, 💬 comment, and 🔔 subscribe for more raw and real conversations every week on the Untempered Podcast!#datingredflags #relationshipadvice #toxicrelationships #moderndating #redflagsindating #datingtips #untemperedpodcast #emotionalintelligence #healthyrelationships #lovewisely #selfawareness #knowyourworth #emotionalhealth #datingculture #realtalkpodcast

4 Brutal Divorce Lessons That Made Me Unstoppable!|From Broken to Unbreakable: 4 Divorce Lessons|Untempered PodcastDiscover the 4 brutal divorce lessons that transformed pain into unstoppable strength! In this raw and unfiltered episode of the Untempered Podcast, we share powerful insights on rebuilding, resilience, and thriving after heartbreak. Tune in and get inspired!Welcome to the Untempered Podcast—where raw truths meet unfiltered conversations! In today’s powerful episode, we’re diving deep into one of life’s most challenging and transformative experiences—divorce. Whether you’ve been through it, are going through it, or know someone who is, this episode will resonate on a profound level.💔 From Broken to Unbreakable Divorce is never easy. It’s a journey through pain, heartbreak, and self-discovery. But what if I told you that it could also be the catalyst for becoming unstoppable? In this episode, we’re sharing 4 brutal but empowering lessons learned from going through the darkest moments of a divorce and emerging stronger than ever before.🔥 Why You Should Watch This Episode:▶️Real and Relatable: We’re not sugarcoating anything—this is the raw truth about what divorce can teach you.▶️Life-Changing Lessons: Discover how pain can fuel growth and how to turn setbacks into comebacks.▶️Unstoppable Mindset: Learn how to rebuild your life, regain your confidence, and become unbreakable.▶️Inspiring Journey: Hear personal stories of resilience and transformation that prove it’s possible to thrive after heartbreak.✨ What You’ll Learn:✅The Power of Letting Go: Why holding on to the past can destroy your future—and how to finally break free.✅Rebuilding Self-Worth: How divorce can challenge your identity and how to reclaim your sense of self.✅Setting Unbreakable Boundaries: Why boundaries are essential in healing and moving forward.✅Turning Pain into Power: Transforming heartache into motivation and using it to fuel your personal growth.💡 Who This Episode Is For:🔷Anyone struggling to heal after a divorce or breakup🔷Those looking to find strength after hitting rock bottom🔷Individuals seeking motivation to rebuild their lives🔷Listeners who want to turn pain into personal power🎙️ Why Listen to the Untempered Podcast?At the Untempered Podcast, we believe that life’s toughest challenges can lead to the most profound transformations. Our mission is to inspire and empower through authentic conversations, real stories, and practical advice that resonates. We don’t shy away from the hard topics—we face them head-on to help you grow and thrive.💬 Join the Conversation:Have you been through a divorce or major breakup? What lessons did you learn? Share your story in the comments below—we’d love to hear your journey and support each other through the healing process.🔔 Subscribe to the Untempered Podcast for more raw, unfiltered conversations that push boundaries and challenge norms. Don’t forget to like, share, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on new episodes!Divorce can feel like the end… but for me, it was the beginning of something powerful. In this video, I’m sharing 4 life-changing lessons that shaped me in ways I never expected. From losing myself to finding unshakable confidence, this journey was messy, raw, and real—but also my greatest transformation.If you’re struggling with heartbreak, identity shifts, or starting over, this is for you. Let’s talk about the hard truths, the hidden blessings, and why sometimes, losing everything is exactly what we need to find ourselves again.🔥 Which lesson hit home for you? Drop a comment below!🔔 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications for more real, unfiltered life talks.#DivorceLessons #startingoveragain #healingjourney #untemperedpodcast #divorcerecovery #personalgrowth #selfempowerment #resilience #lifelessons #mentalhealth #healingjourney #rebuildinglife

I wish I had heard this conversation years ago. Do you relate to feeling trapped by the voices in your head—self-doubt, fear, or old patterns you can’t seem to break? In this powerful episode, I sit down with mental health expert and psychedelic integration coach, Martin O’Toole. We explore the hidden forces shaping our thoughts and behaviors.We dive deep into:✨ The truth about your inner voices, how they're formed and how they show up in daily life situations🧠 Internal Family Systems (IFS)—how different parts of your mind influence your actions🔗 Breaking free from conditioning—understanding the past so it no longer controls you💡 Going beyond the ego—finding your true self underneath the noiseIf you’ve ever felt stuck in negative thinking or old habits, this conversation will help you shift your perspective and reclaim your power. Watch until the end for practical steps to start healing and transforming your inner world today.Meet the guest: Martin O'toole is a best selling author and trauma informed coach. His approach, rooted in Humanistic and Transpersonal Psychology, incorporates the 'Anatomy of Happy' framework, a process designed for profound self-expansion and personal growth. Book a session with Martin: https://www.martinotoolewriter.com/Link to Martin's Free Breathwork: https://mailchi.mp/82d68c64d5e4/free_breathwork🔔 Follow the show more episodes on self-growth, mindset, and healing!📩 Let me know in the comments—which part of this conversation resonated most with you?#Mindset #SelfAwareness #Healing #Ego #InternalFamilySystems #PersonalGrowth

Hey everyone, thank you so much for landing here on my channel. Today's episode was a remarkably hard decision to make for me but I promised you raw and open content and this is exactly what I'm going to give you.I asked my therapist Dr Mohammad Yaseen Aslam to do a live sit down with me in studio and despite his hectic schedule he finally said yes!Dr Yaseen is a licensed head consultant at the Psychiatry Center in Dubai. He is one of the leading consultants here in the UAE and has over 16 years of experience in the mental health field. Want to know what my conversations with my therapist are like? This episode might give you a little insight on what a therapy session is like.Time Stamps: (2:00) The Story of Our First Session(3:24) Dealing with a breakup(10:00) Do's & Don'ts in Relationships(12:20) The Inner Voice(15:00) Therapy Behind The Scenes (17:00) A touching story (29:00) What Couples struggle with(32:12) Mindset before relationships(37:48) Repeating Cycles (42:40) Important conversations in Relationships(48:30) Toxic Patterns(50:00) The art of Self Reflecting(52:25) Childhood Trauma(54:00) Mother Wounds(56:30) Abuse and its aftermath(1:00:00) Dr Yaseen on his own mental health If you liked this epiosde and want to see more like this please support the show and click the subscribe button. I promise to bring you amazing content always and truly will return the favour by always bringing great guests and discussing unique and impactful topics!✨Guest: Dr Mohammad Yaseen Aslam ✨Book a session with him here: https://psychiatryandtherapy.ae/✨Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dryaseenaslam/?originalSubdomain=ae✨Host: Naila Nazer✨TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8sSbPrf7Ex8✨ Lifestyle IG Page: https://www.instagram.com/naila/?hl=en✨ Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/untempered_podcast/?hl=en