48. Are we too emotionally dependent?

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE! To a great 2022, the best year everrrrrrrrr ✨ As you can tell, we‘re pretty enthusiastic about this new year because the last year was… umm… well many things! From frustrating to challenging to sad to great to once again simply a mess. But hey, here we are, and we‘re ready to start 2022 with new intentions (as we kinda forgot about the ones from last year lol) and new motivation, so let‘s go! Make sure to check out the first episode of the new year in which we reflect on the past year, share how far we‘ve come with our resolutions from 2021 and also tell you what our new resolutions are (pls hold us accountable this year, we need your help!). Sending you much love and energy for the start of this new year 💛❤️💛❤️ ps: this is actually our 50th (!) episode which is absolutely insane! Thank you SO MUCH for listening, it means the world to us.

We all know the situation: we feel that something is off. We haven‘t been feeling our best and want to know what’s wrong with us. Or maybe we‘re just sitting at the dentist and there‘s a magazine in front of us, practically inviting us to take a test about our mental health. Either way: we take the test. We get our „diagnosis“ - now what? In this week‘s episode we did just that. We took some mentalh health self- tests and share the results with you. Spoiler alert: it’s pretty hilarious. More importantly though, we talk about the advantages but also risks of these tests and diagnoses in general, as there are plenty and we all tend to get hung up on labels that supposedly tell us what‘s „wrong“ with us. As always, feel free to share your feedback with us and let us know what you think (and what your experience is with these self-tests!). Hope you enjoy the episode.

This week‘s episode is all about answering your questions! Starting with the topic of emotional dependence and asking ourselves if we can and should actually be emotionally independent from other people? Why is independence in that sense something we are pressured to strive for when, in fact, humans simply need other humans?! Also we talk about how to deal with constant changes in our lives and how you can (and should!) question your family and the roles everyone has within this construct. Hope you enjoy the episode and, as always, let us know if you agree with our points of views.

Hi everyone! This gloomy week we are coming to you completely unaware of the upcoming lockdown but almost having a psychic feeling that impending doom is on its way! (Trust your gut folks) 😂 You know what? Sometimes there are days or weeks where you just feel like shit, and that is how we are feeling right now. We don’t need a reason, we don’t need an explanation, it just is what it is, and it actually takes a lot to just accept that. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏾 We are such big advocates of therapy and psychoanalysis, but it’s so important to use your own judgement and also know when it’s time to step back from analyzing everything, and just give yourself a break! ❤️ The seasons changing and a challenging battle with moods and energy is real, and we are here to tell you we are going through it too. Hang in there 😊🥰 and thanks for tuning in!!!

It‘s Halloween and therefore time to share some truly spooky shit. What are the things you’re really scared of? And what were you scared of as a child? There might be a link between now and then as fears are often something we carry with us throughout our lives, even though they may manifest differently at various stages. In this week‘s episode we dive into some deep dark fears of ours and realize once again: we‘re not alone with it.

❗️FINALLY ❗️WE‘RE BACK ❗️ After a couple of months of not posting any new episodes, we’re back and we’re ready to give you all the glory details of what has happened in that time and what we‘ve been up to. Additional to the usual therapy and dating updates, there are also some pretty big, life-impacting revelations that one of us has had … go listen to the full episode to find out more! Also we discuss the future of the podcast, as there will be a few changes regarding uploading and upcoming topics. It was sooo fun to record again and we really once again wanna say a massive THANK YOU to our listeners and followers who have been so patient with us. We really appreciate it ❤️❤️❤️

Hey hey hey! Another episode has come around and we are just doing a good old catch up! We barely get to just update each other on what’s going on anymore because life got so crazy in the last couple months. It really went from zero to one hundred with no warning. 🚨🤭 Join us for the usual chit chat: dating, more dating, therapy, and some other random bits and bobs. 😂🙂 We went from telling funny stories to actually getting into a really serious topic that has been weighing on us lately. Tune in to find out what it was!!

Intimacy vs. Isolation aka the young adulthood stage defined by Erikson. What does intimacy actually mean? Our first association often immediately goes to a strong and close physical relationship, to sex but isn’t intimacy so much more? What about intimacy with friends for example, where it’s more about learning to have genuine, authentic relationships? As we dove into this week’s topic of the podcast, continuing with Erik Erikson’s developmental phases, we started to get a bit confused and skeptical of the theory on this stage particularly. Maybe it’s also a resistance as we are currently in it lol. As always, it’s important to take all these theories with a grain of salt, consider them in the context of time in which they came up and generally not to get too caught up in it. Listen the full episode and see if and how you can apply it to your life, which we also tried to do. Also you will hear us getting more and more confused but stick to the end to hear Lola having an AHA-moment and figuring it all out 🤓✨

When we think psychoanalysis one of the first things that comes to mind is early development and the insane impact it has on our adult lives. Many critics have said that there is too much of a focus on the infant life, and that psychoanalytic psychotherapy is hugely lacking in the here and now, as well as later development (beyond the age of five or six). Boy do we have great news for you! 🤓😌 Erik Erikson, a German/ American psychologist, came up with his own stages of development, covering one’s whole life span! This week we thought we’d focus on some more recent stages rather than ones we can barely remember. In this two part episode, we start with adolescence. Prepare for serious cringe, because yes, those teen years were quite a mess for all of us! 😂🥳🤩

❗️ NO is a complete sentence ❗️ Saying “no” is one of many expressions of creating personal boundaries that allow you to focus your time doing the things that you want to do, things that make you feel good. We all kinda know that, yet many of us struggle with not only saying no, but setting boundaries in general. Why‘s that? In this week‘s episode we discuss boundaries and everything surrounding them: reflecting on the boundaries we had growing up (or lack thereof), the way we learned to communicate boundaries, our struggles with it and - very important - the topic of boundaries in a therapeutic setting. Let us know how you deal with setting boundaries, if it‘s something that you‘ve learned or if it‘s also something you struggle with (we have the feeling most of us do) - as always, we‘d love to hear your feedback on this topic. Hope you enjoy the episode 💗