183. It’s Scary to Remarry: A Man’s Journey Through Divorce, Healing, and Embracing Love Again w/ Shon Hyneman

When navigating decisions in divorce—whether financial, legal, or related to co-parenting—every choice has long-term effects. Being an active voice in these decisions is necessary to ensure that your next chapter and your children's future remain secure and intact. Failing to be involved in these decisions can leave you vulnerable to outcomes that don’t align with your best interests.Decisions may be made for you that don’t reflect your needs, values, or long-term goals.You may agree to terms that create financial strain or unnecessary hardship.Your co-parenting arrangement may not fully support your children’s well-being simply because you didn’t advocate for what was best for them.Regret can set in when you realize you had the opportunity to shape your future—but didn’t take it.At the end of the day, this is your life, your future, and your chance to create a stable foundation for yourself and your children. Speaking up and being involved in these decisions isn’t just important—it’s essential.In this week's episode, join me as discus why self-advocacy is the #1 skill you need during the divorce process, the common misconceptions about advocating for yourself, 5 ways on what advocating for yourself looks like during the divorce process and seven 7 reflection questions to ensure that you're advocating for yourself. ** DOWNLOAD THE DIVORCE BLUEPRINT FOR FREE BELOW**https://www.tonyacarter.com/blueprint**PREVIOUS PODCAST EPISODE MENTIONED** ⬇️Divorce Prep 101: 7 Essential Steps to Prepare (Ep. #186)**REGISTER FOR DIVORCE MASTERCLASS ON MARCH 31ST**⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/divorcemasterclass**SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** ⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategyOrder my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCnLet’s Connect! Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Life-altering events like divorce can shift your entire life plan.  It’s crucial to recognize that this process requires active participation and effort. Divorce doesn’t automatically become smooth, easy, or organized by chance—it takes intentional preparation. While deciding to divorce is an act of courage, it’s equally important to get clear on the steps you need to take to ensure you’re educated and equipped for this journey. Being informed empowers you to: Make informed decisions with clarity on your direction. Take control of your journey, reducing overwhelm. Lay the foundation for the next chapter of your life, knowing that how you manage this stage influences the future.In today's episode, I’m sharing seven strategic steps to help you prepare for this transition. Tune in and learn how to take proactive steps to navigate your divorce with confidence and clarity.** DOWNLOAD THE DIVORCE BLUEPRINT FOR FREE BELOW**https://www.tonyacarter.com/blueprint**SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW**https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy**PREVIOUS PODCAST EPISODE MENTIONED** ⬇️#116 - "Assembling The Right Team During Your Divorce/Breakup...Your Top Four Advisors That You Need"#181 - "Breaking Up Without Breaking Your Kids: 7 Key Parenting Mistakes to Avoid"Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCnFollow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

A common statement I hear from those who have experienced divorce is the strong desire to build a better life afterward. However, what often gets lost after the process of uncoupling is the ability to reclaim control and intentionally design a life that allows them to thrive. It’s easy to slip into autopilot mode because: You’ve spent so much time navigating the emotional and logistical aspects of divorce that creating a new vision for yourself feels overwhelming. You’re accustomed to prioritizing survival over intentional growth. Old patterns, limiting beliefs, and self-doubt make it difficult to see what’s possible beyond this chapter. The fear of making the "wrong" choices keeps you from taking action toward the life you truly want. But here’s the truth: Thriving after divorce doesn’t happen by chance—it happens by choice. When you decide to take back the reins, shift your mindset, and cultivate the habits that support your growth, you reclaim your power and create a life that aligns with who you are becoming. On today's episode, join me as I share 10 powerful ways to step into a more confident version of yourself and intentionally build a thriving life after divorce. **DOWNLOAD MY FREE AUDIO GUIDE** ⬇️" Turning The Page: 7 Healthy Ways To Recover After Divorce/Breakup": https://www.tonyacarter.com/turningthepage **SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** ⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy **PREVIOUS PODCAST EPISODE MENTIONED** ⬇️ #107 - "What Does Doing The Inner Work Mean?" #117 -"The Skill of Self-Forgiveness & 4 Things You Must Do To Start!" #142 - "Your ex is a "non factor" to your healing" #173 - "Letting Go of Others' Opinions: 6 Questions To Break Free & Live Your Life After Divorce/Breakup" Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

2025 is here, and my personal message to you is to give yourself unapologetic permission to show up for yourself this year! So much can unfold in a single year, and while experiencing a divorce or breakup can bring challenges, it also opens the door to new possibilities. This year, I encourage you to embrace change, trust your journey, and step into your true potential without hesitation. You have the power to create the life you desire, and it starts by giving yourself the permission to take bold, intentional action. In this episode, join me as I explore the different things that may be holding you back from moving forward, and I’ll walk you through an exercise to help you start stepping into your full potential. **DOWNLOAD MY FREE AUDIO GUIDE** ⬇️ "Turning The Page: 7 Healthy Ways To Recover After Divorce/Breakup": https://www.tonyacarter.com/turningthepage **SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** ⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy **PREVIOUS PODCAST EPISODE MENTIONED** ⬇️ "Are You Self-Sabotaging? How to Identify and Four Steps to Break Free""Letting Go of Others' Opinions: 6 Questions To Break Free & Live Your Life After Divorce/Breakup" Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter ⁠Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Experiencing divorce, navigating its aftermath, and opening up to the possibility of love again—these steps carry a profound significance for men, often requiring them to face emotions they’ve long buried. It’s more than just rebuilding; it’s about redefining who they are as individuals and as partners. For many men, the journey to healing involves embracing vulnerability, overcoming fears of repeating past mistakes, and rebuilding trust in themselves and others. This transformation is essential for establishing genuine connections and rediscovering love. The end of a marriage can trigger intense feelings of shame, failure, and deep grief. Societal expectations frequently pressure men to suppress these emotions, leading them to face their pain in silence and sometimes adopt unhealthy or isolating coping mechanisms. We often overlook that men are dealing with more than just a loss of family structure and limited access to their children; they’re also facing a fractured sense of identity and, for some, the fear of entering a new marriage in the future. In this week's episode, join me as I sit down with Shon Hyneman—a seasoned pre-engagement coach, YouTuber, and host of It’s Scary to Remarry podcast. Shon shares his personal journey through divorce, healing, and his path toward embracing love again. Follow Shon on Instagram: @scarytoremarry Follow Shon on Facebook:  It’s Scary To Remarry Shon's Website:  https://scarytoremarry.com/ **SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** ⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

As we close out the month of October, it’s essential to shine a light on an issue impacting millions across the globe—domestic violence. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time to recognize the profound impact domestic violence has on individuals and families and to support survivors in their journey to healing and freedom. The statistics are staggering: in the United States alone, nearly 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men will experience severe intimate partner violence in their lifetime. Every minute, 20 people fall victim to physical abuse by an intimate partner—amounting to over 10 million individuals each year. These numbers represent real lives, with stories often hidden behind closed doors, filled with resilience, heartbreak, and bravery. Domestic violence isn’t limited to physical harm; it includes emotional abuse, financial control, and psychological manipulation, all designed to keep victims isolated and powerless. Breaking free from these circumstances can feel impossible, yet many survivors do find the strength to leave, rebuild, and ultimately, to thrive. In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, this episode serves as a reminder of the need to support survivors, raise awareness, and educate ourselves on the realities that victims face. On this week’s podcast, join me as I sit down with Executive Director Lisa Thiombiano, a survivor and advocate who shares her journey from victim to victor. Lisa opens up about the challenges survivors face, what people should understand about victims, and how one can thrive after abuse. She also shares invaluable insights on planning a safe exit and building a life of freedom and hope. Follow Lisa on Instagram: @lisathiombiano_ms Follow Stand Up Survivor on IG: @standupsurvivor For more information on Stand Up Survivor, please visit their website at: https://www.standupsurvivor.org/ **SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** ⬇️https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

Divorce can be a challenging and emotional time, not only for the parents but especially for the children. While there are many concerns parents have regarding their children's well-being, what can easily get overlooked are the subtle emotional impacts this transition can have on them. Parents may focus on practical aspects like custody, finances, and new living arrangements, but it’s essential not to lose sight of the emotional and psychological needs of the children during this time. In this week's episode, I highlight 7 critical mistakes parents should avoid before, during, and after divorce to ensure their children receive the love, stability, and support they need throughout the process. Tune in for valuable insights on navigating this challenging time with care and intention. **SCHEDULE YOUR 90-MINUTE INTENSIVE BELOW** https://www.tonyacarter.com/strategy Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When someone spends a large part of their adult life in an unhealthy marriage, feelings of regret often surface. They might feel as though they sacrificed what society deems their "best years" or "youth," and this regret can become overwhelming, leading to emotions like guilt, shame, embarrassment, and even anger. When dealing with the grief of a divorce, regret is a common feeling to experience. However, what becomes problematic is when that regret starts to dominate your thoughts and actions, preventing you from moving forward. It can keep you stuck in the past, replaying decisions over and over, and robbing you of the chance to heal and create a future that aligns with who you are now. The challenge is learning to acknowledge the regret without letting it control your present or dictate your future. On this week's podcast, join me as I give four powerful ways that you can break free of regret, reclaim your life and start moving forward. **DOWNLOAD MY FREE AUDIO GUIDE** ⬇️ "Turning The Page: 7 Healthy Ways To Recover After Divorce/Breakup": **PREVIOUS PODCAST EPISODE MENTIONED** ⬇️ "The Skill of Self-Forgiveness...Why It's Needed & 4 Things You Must Do To Start!" Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

We officially wrapped up our 7-Day "Beyond The Breakup" Workshop, and during that time, we hosted a Live Q&A to address some of the most pressing questions and challenges our participants faced. In this episode, we discuss the realities of moving on from a cheating boyfriend, the preparation of exiting a long-term marriage, and financial abuse. We also touch on the temptation to keep tabs on an ex-partner through social media, exploring the impact this can have on your healing process. **DOWNLOAD MY FREE AUDIO GUIDE** ⬇️"Turning The Page: 7 Healthy Ways To Recover After Divorce/Breakup": https://www.tonyacarter.com/turningthepage Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠@iamtonyacarter ⁠Follow me on Facebook - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠Tonya Carter⁠

When it comes to "healing" from a previous relationship, questions such as: "How long will this take?" "Will I ever get through this?" "When will I feel better?" Often come up, but the answer isn’t always straightforward. The truth is, everyone’s healing process is unique, but there are signs that can indicate you're making progress. In this week’s podcast, join me as I discuss common misconceptions about healing and share my top five signs to help you determine if you’re moving forward on your journey. Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - ⁠http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com⁠. Also available on Amazon: ⁠https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn Follow me on IG - ⁠⁠@iamtonyacarter⁠⁠ Follow me on Facebook - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠⁠ Subscribe to my YouTube - ⁠⁠Tonya Carter⁠