Give First

GIVE FIRSTThis is the counter-balance prompt to SIMPING.Simping is a man over-provisioning a woman.  It’s a man giving to a woman way more than she is giving back to him.  A Simping dynamic is one that is way out of balance on reciprocity.**************I also encourage men and women to both GIVE FIRST in their interactions with others.  Giving First is where we demonstrate our capacity and attractiveness.  Giving First is where we demonstrate our relationship value.Giving to the people we care about is also how we build and strengthen our relationship with them.Complaining that the other is not giving us enough is a position of victimhood and whining.  It is anti-inspirational and weakens us.If you truly are in a connection with someone who is not reciprocating with you, cut your losses and end that connection.  That is the power move.  Don’t reduce your giving.  And don’t complain too much about their lack of giving.  Maybe have one adult conversation with them about how you feel the energies between the two of you are not balanced.  After that, if no shift follows, see the person for who they are and move on.If you stay for a long time in relationships with takers and parasites, that’s on you.If you let your relationships with good people deteriorate through laziness and lack of investment in them, that is also on you.**************This video discusses these and related matters.— Om RupaniOmRupani.orgwww.OmRupani.org

A SIMP OVER-PROVISIONS THE WOMAN‘SIMPING’ has become part of the modern man-woman vocabulary.  The word has a negative connotation regarding the man it applies to.  I have not used this word myself, but these days, while coaching men on their NICE GUY syndrome, men themselves are describing their own behavior as simping and wanting to stop.Within my framework, I would define ‘Simping’ as a man over-provisioning for a woman.  He is OVER-provisioning, because she is not reciprocating with him with her own energies and affections in exchange for what he is pouring into her.This video discusses this phenomenon.DOMINANT MAN:  SELF-STUDY COURSE: OmRupani.comwww.OmRupani.org

THE FIRST AGREEMENT IN MAN-WOMAN DYNAMICThe first agreement a man and a woman should create between them is what kind of dynamic they want to create.For couples who are considering creating a dynamic where the man is leading his woman well, and his woman is desirous of that, the two of them coming into agreement that this is in fact the dynamic they both want to create is the big first step.Many couples get stuck at this initial step.  There are several anxieties that exist on both their sides.  And these anxieties should be properly addressed if they are to arrive at Agreement.  The list of anxieties is long.  Let’s examine 3 common concerns on each side.WOMEN’S ANXIETIES REGARDING HAVING THEIR MAN LEAD HER IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP: Am I giving up power?  Am I choosing the weaker or subordinate position? How often will I regret agreeing to being the follower in this dynamic? What if I am unsatisfied in such a dynamic?MEN’S ANXIETIES REGARDING LEADING THEIR WOMEN Is this something I will win at?  Or am I being set up to lose? Am I being asked to lead a woman who has no intention of following or cooperating with me or appreciating my leadership?Leading looks like a lot of work.  What do I get for putting in all this extra work in this relationship?COUPLES’ COURSE : https://omrupani.org/dscoupleswww.OmRupani.org

AGREEMENT IS THE FOUNDATION OF A FUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP1.  If you want to lead your relationship as a man, your foundational drive needs to be to create Agreement within your relationship unit.2.  This means, don’t bring people into your relationship unit who are not interested in coming into Agreement with you.3.  Contentious women are bad relationship partners.*********************4.  Any voices and influences in your life that are driving a wedge between men and women coming into Agreement are poisonous to your relationship harmony.5.  Any voices and influences simply stirring you up into the energy of discontentment and antagonism are sabotaging your relationship mastery.  Please note, even these darker forces are working to bring you into Agreement with THEM.  *********************6.  Being a great partner to our partner involves us coming into deeper Agreement with our partner’s true nature.7.  Becoming a better lover to our partners involves understanding and coming into Agreement with our partner’s erotic makeup.*********************8.  At the spiritual level, wisdom is in coming into Agreement with life and the shape of the present moment.*********************9.  At the interpersonal level, the more we associate with people we cannot come into Agreement with, the more discordant and antagonistic our life energies will become.  The more we associate with people with whom we are invested in creating Agreement, the more harmonious our lives will be.*********************10.  Building greater things in life requires a greater level of Agreement between people.  Building a 10-story building requires that we first know how to build a 1-story building well.  Discord and disagreement are the equivalent of never being able to successfully build even a 1-story building.  Building anything greater with such a person becomes impossible.  Our relationships keep going through the same cycle of deterioration soon after starting.  Such a life becomes a ledger of failed relationships of discord.  Unfortunately, this is how most people’s lives look today.*********************OBISIDIAN.  October 4-8, 2026.  Catskills, NYCOURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/obsidian/*******************COUPLES’ COURSE.  Dominican Republic.  November 12-17, 2026COURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/dscouples*******************SUBMISSIVE WOMAN - SELF STUDY COURSE : https://www.omrupani.com/spaces/18894018/contentwww.OmRupani.org

PODCAST - Creating the Dominant ManOBISIDIAN.  October 4-8, 2026.  Catskills, NYCOURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/obsidian/*******************COUPLES’ COURSE.  Dominican Republic.  November 12-17, 2026COURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/dscouples*******************SUBMISSIVE WOMAN - SELF STUDY COURSE : https://www.omrupani.com/spaces/18894018/contentwww.OmRupani.org

OBSIDIAN, Q&A.  DEEPER JOURNEY IS ANCHORED IN RELATIONSHIP.I give information and answer some questions about my new BDSM training.This training will emphasize foundational skills for this realm.  It will also focus on each student mapping out their own erotic make up.  And it will emphasize relationship skills for creating a functional and sustainable dynamic.Please reach out if you have any questions.  [email protected] plans and limited scholarships available for this course.Course date : October 4-8.  Catskills, NY.COURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/obsidian/www.OmRupani.org

OBSIDIAN - SAFE MEN DON’T MAKE WOMEN FEEL SAFECourse Date : October 4-8.  Catskills, NY.Course Page : https://omrupani.org/obsidian/www.OmRupani.org

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COURSE PAGE : https://www.omrupani.com/spaces/18894018/contentwww.OmRupani.org