You’ve Only Learned 5% of What SELF-LOVE Really Is

If your worth depends on being liked, you’re not free.In this episode, Elizabeth Gilbert reveals the hidden cost of people pleasing.We explore what happens when we abandon ourselves to be loved, the subtle ways we betray our truth, and how to finally break the cycle of “being good” at the expense of being free.You’ll hear:Why people pleasing is often a trauma response, not kindnessHow self-betrayal hides in our daily choicesWhat love asks of us — and what it never shouldI’m Laura Malina Seiler — bestselling author, speaker, and host of The New Normal.Thank you for being here. 🎧 Follow for weekly episodes on healing, truth, and the journey back to your soul.✨ I’ve created a free 10-minute guided Power Talk to help you bring your energy back to yourself and reconnect with your true essence — ⁠download it here.⁠With Love, LauraChapters:0:00 How to Say: This Is Not Working for Me2:31 Put It All on the Fire: What You Must Let Go to Be Free9:19 The Fear of Being ‘Bad’: Why We Betray Ourselves to Belong19:19 Truth Is the Fire: How to Free Yourself When You Feel Trapped25:39 What It Really Means to Choose Yourself32:44 The Gift of Silence After Setting a Boundary35:42 The God of Elizabeth Gilbert’s Understanding41:40 How Elizabeth Hears God’s Voice48:45 The Question God Will Never Answer54:43 Discipline Is Devotion1:05:49 Elizabeth Gilbert’s Final Message#thenewnormalpodcast #elizabethgilbert #peoplepleasing #healingjourney

What if everything you’ve learned about self-love isn’t self-love?This episode might change the way you see yourself forever.If you’ve ever felt like self-love isn’t working, like you’re doing everything “right” but still feel stuck or disconnected, you’re not alone.There is a deeper truth that most people never learn. And once you see it, something inside you begins to shift.In this first episode of The New Normal, I’m sharing the part of self-love that often gets overlooked.We’ll explore:Why self-love isn’t something you achieveHow to stop abandoning yourself when you need love the mostWhat your inner critic is really trying to show youA guided moment to reconnect with your inner worldI’m Laura Malina Seiler, the host of this podcast, and I’m so grateful to have you on this journey.💌 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.✨ I’ve created a free 10-minute guided Power Talk to help you bring your energy back to yourself and reconnect with your true essence — download it here.🔔 Follow The New Normal for weekly episodes on personal growth, spirituality, and the journey back to your soul.In Love, Laura—Chapters0:00 Welcome to The New Normal Podcast2:02 Why We Struggle With Self-Love4:06 Self-Love Is Not a Destination6:12 The Truth About Loving All Parts of You9:52 The Inner Critic and the Room of Failure13:57 How to Stop Abandoning Yourself16:37 The Power of Shadow Work20:17 You Are So Much More Than Your Body23:04 Daily Check-ins and Inner Parenting25:31 Reclaiming What Was Never Yours27:44 The Real Meaning of Self-Love28:26 Building a Safe Inner Space30:12 Self-Love Meditation: Return to the Temple Within33:42 Outro

What if one podcast could shift your entire perspective on life?Hi! I’m Laura Malina Seiler — bestselling author, spiritual teacher, and host of The New Normal.This podcast is a space for soul-level questions, truth-telling conversations, and transformative insights that awaken your inner wisdom.You’ll hear from global voices like Matthew McConaughey, Sadhguru, Elizabeth Gilbert, Robin Sharma, Dr. Martha Beck, Michael Singer, Tony Robbins, Dr. Edith Eger, and Dr. Jane Goodall — all sharing their deepest truths and life lessons.Every episode is an invitation to remember who you really are.💫 The New Normal launches June 10th, 2025.🎙️ Stream on Spotify🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts▶️ Watch on YouTube✨ Subscribe now and turn on notifications so you don’t miss a single episode.💬 What’s one big question your soul is asking right now?I’m so grateful you’re here for this beginning.With love,Laura