Talk Like A Leader - MTP469

Co-Host Dr. Laura Sicola (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sicola) VIDEO VERSION: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/youtube My returning guest is Dr. Laura Sicola, TEDx speaker and author of Speaking To Influence: Mastering Your Leadership Voice. The last time she was on, we meant to talk about how to master your leadership voice, but instead ended up talking about how your name matters in dating and attraction. So as promised, she's back to cover what we had originally planned. What's the first step to using your voice to get ahead in your career, and indeed in life? Find out about what Laura calls "the linguistic glass ceiling" and how to blast through it. What are the special communication skills that are unique to leaders? How can high IQ guys fall into traps that are uniquely set for them? As it turns out, the way to make people think you're smart and competent is very similar to how to make them think you're a cool guy. Laura explains that in detail, including how the "dance of communication" ties into it. How do we pigeonhole ourselves into poor leadership communication, simply by overlooking the nuanced finesse required in most situations? Better yet, how do we fix that? How do you adjust both the objective and subjective elements of your communications style based on who exactly you're leading, and in what context? How can you earn respect through your communicative leadership rather than demanding it? What's the real relationship between what you say and how you say it? (Hint: It may not be what you've heard in the past.) How can you "match the energy" of the person you're talking to in a way that builds respect and rapport? What are the big mistakes that even major companies make when attempting to communicate to their customer base in a way that creates admiration and goodwill? Get in on the new VIDEO version of the podcast at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/youtube === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === It's probably the harshest bit of dating truth out there: Whoever wants the relationship LEAST is in control. If you're in the habit of choosing vs. chasing in your dating life, you fully understand the notion. If you usually find yourself CHASING, however, you're probably trying to suspend your belief that it's true...and probably a little mad at me for even bringing it up. But here's the thing...what if you could go through life without ever having to even worry about the premise ever again? Not only is that possible, it's how it SHOULD be. In this brief episode I break it all down, revealing how couples who go the distance roll when it comes to this stuff. Make no mistake, the way out from under this trap might just shock you, but it's the secret to long and happy relationship with a woman you really want and who adores you in return. Check out the brand new Substack at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host G. Scott Graham (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/copilot) There's a lot of talk about men leading relationships compared to being henpecked by a dominant woman. But realistically speaking, shouldn't you and the woman of your dreams be co-equals in the relationship? But what does that mean? Do we as men need to back off from masculinity in order to make that happen? Well, in my humble estimation, my first-time guest Scott Graham has it all figured out. According to him, the woman in your life should be your co-pilot. When widowed after a 20-year relationship, that's what he asked for, and that's what he got. So then, what does such a relationship with your female "co-pilot" look like? And interestingly enough, what's Scott's strategy for never, ever needing couple's counseling? How can we as men collaborate with our wives and girlfriends without her wearing in the pants in the relationship? What communications styles should we be aware of and practice in a relationship with a woman? How does relational co-piloting fly in the face of (perhaps literally?) the trend toward transactional relationships? What are the two things all co-piloting couples must agree on? Can a man and a woman be dysfunctional in the same weird or toxic way and somehow be great co-pilots together because of it...and have a relatively happy relationship? Yes, starting next week there will be a VIDEO version for each weekly full episode. Getchasum at https://mountaintopodcast.com/youtube === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === If you've ever bought or sold a home before, you're already familiar with the term 'curb appeal'. If your house doesn't have it, it languishes on the market. But if it does, buyers might end up fighting for it on day one. So, what if I told you there's a very real human equivalent? The better your human 'curb appeal', the more value you have to women and the more 'buying signals' you get. So what in the world does it take to get your proverbial house in order? What if you don't necessarily live in a million-dollar neighborhood? And what if you're a real 'fixer-upper'? No worries...all the answers are in this brief episode. Check out the brand new Substack at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!  

Co-Host B.P. Greycastle (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/greycastle) It's a holiday weekend here in the US, so why not take a bit of a 'vacation' when it comes to topics? This time, we're going completely off the grid with my first-time guest B.P. Greycastle. He is the originator of a theory called 'name colorology', and the author of Your Name And Colors Key To Beauty, Career, Personality, Romance And Success. Basically, he believes your very name itself is color-coded, leading to all sorts of potential revelations...even when it comes to women, sex and dating. Okay, so first of all, how did B.P. come up with this? Hint: It turns out he's building on the work of others. Next, what is actually going on from an objective, physiological standpoint there? And what in the world is the scientific proof for name colorology? How do we 'teleport' information simply by invoking a person's name? And what different sounds in names invoke certain thoughts or emotions? How do the glands in your body govern all of this? And if our personalities and proclivities depend on the letters in our name, is this some sort of predestination gig? Are we either blessed or doomed with women (and by extension, in life) accordingly? Listen in for B.P.'s surprising answer. And what about when you marry a woman and she takes your last name? Are there practical ways we can consider our name and transform ourselves into better men who attract more and better women? All told, my guarantee is this episode is jam-packed with a perspective you've never heard before on women and dating. If this is all still too adjacent to Eastern philosophy or even astrology for your taste, I get it. Even if so, it's always interesting to have guys like B.P. on who bring a whole new perspective that challenges our temporal senses. These episodes don't come around often, but they're a fun change of pace. So the only question left to answer is, 'Are you a double flesh power person, or not?' Have you checked out the new Substack yet? https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Perhaps more than anyone else out there who talks and writes about relationships, Emily and I really advise against dating crazy people...no matter what. But sometimes it's not as easy as throwing a blanket over the word 'don't' and leaving it at that. In this episode, I finally elaborate upon some of the subtle ways crazy chicks will somehow find ways to get you to stick around...even when you know they're stark raving nuts and will likely ruin your life. One of the key ways is 'carrot dangling'. As much as it sounds like an old-skool PUA tactic, it's really sort of the opposite. It's a weird but frustratingly effective tactic that just about any woman can use, frankly, but crazy women are especially fond of. Why is that? Well, it has an, um...insane way of getting us as guys to stick around when we really should be running away. Check out the brand new Substack at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Jason Fierstein (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/settling) With 8 billion people in the world, how can so many of us end up settling for a woman we never really wanted to begin with? On the surface, it would seem it's all about lacking the self-esteem to believe we deserve what we want. But there's more to it than that. My guest is psychotherapist and counselor for men Jason Fierstein from Phoenix, AZ. So then, what is the psychology surrounding a guy who habitually settles? Has he bought into the mindset that women he wants are 'out of his league' and he'd better not try to 'punch above his weight'? As horrifying as it sounds, can lack of success with girls from an early age set us up for a lifetime of settling? One would think on the surface that if we believe we're settling for someone, then we must be granting her the feeling of having hit the jackpot. But Jason would tell you the reality is often very different...and extra unfortunate for everyone involved. And then there are those other weird kind of relationships where someone indeed feels like they've hit the jackpot when their partner has clearly settled, and it has nothing to do with looks at all. Is settling more common among 'Mr. Nice Guys'? What is the most common fear-based thought that traps men into a cycle of settling? Next, the ever-present question of 'emotional availability' came up yet again. Does that mean you're doomed to settle no matter what? I mean, is ANY dysfunctional relationship, for that matter, necessarily a situation where either one or both partners has settled? What are the actual concrete signs of settling? And wait until you hear what I believe is the most shocking sign of all. Finally--and importantly--how can we make sure never to settle ever again? The new EduMcKayTion Substack is often hilarious and always full of surprises: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== On the surface, he's got nothing on you. He's no taller, better looking or wealthy. But for some reason even women wistfully muse how 'there's just something about that guy'. They can almost never describe it, but there's this unmistakable aura surrounding him, and they LOVE him and WANT him for it. Well, in this brief episode I'll explain just what's going on there. The best news of all is you don't have to have won the 'genetic lottery', and you absolutely do not have to be some sort of arrogant d-bag to make woman feel this way. In fact, because it's yet another instance of it being all about mindset and learned skill, YOU can become 'There's Just Something About That Guy' in the eyes of adoring women in the workplace, in your social circle and/or wherever else you hang out. Check out the brand new Substack at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Ayush Prakash (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/ayush) The 'generation gap' is nothing new. Boomers complained about how 'square' their parents were, and then Gen X complained about how lame their parents' music was. But with Gen Z it's a bit different. This generation is the first to grow up 'neuro-plastically connected to technology'. Those are the words of my first time guest Ayush Prakash, author of the new book called AI for Gen Z. So how exactly has the Internet Age shaped young adults? What's more, how will AI do that from now on? Ayush is actually a Gen Z'er, so he knows what he's talking about. He starts by talking about the '3 Rs' that will affect all of us going forward, but especially the youngest generation coming up. How do technology companies and their prioritization of profit really affect all of us in unexpected ways, particularly as men? What specifically has happened in just the last five short years to rob the human race of its humanity, let alone your masculinity? How is AI tricking us into accepting the computer as an authoritarian power (yes, really), and dragging us down to a less-human level of existence with it? Are you cheating on your partner if you get an AI girlfriend programmed to give you what you're missing from your IRL relationship? Is there really any correlation between intelligent learning models as we know them and the possibility of a 'Skynet'-like AGI? What does it even mean to be human--and masculine--a quarter of the way through the 21st century? And if we've lost something there already, how to we get it back? Check out even deeper and more controversial takes to spark your curiosity at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack  === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Almost every one of us as men gets sweaty palms when we see an attractive woman and want to go talk to her. No matter how much courage we may have in other areas of our life, the fear really tends to grip us in that situation, doesn't it? Well, what do all of us have in common that drives that fear? And what's more, what does EVERY man who has ever OVERCOME that fear have in common? The answer is disarmingly simple, and its revealed in this brief episode. Could it be the answer that cures your case of approach anxiety forever? Check out the brand new Substack at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!