Choose Your Better

*Content note: there is some discussion of domestic violence in this episode.*Sometimes we think of courage as something we want to have before we do something. But, we have to start moving to generate the courage!There are many versions of self-sabotage, such as procrastination, imposter syndrome, and "shoulds," to name a few. Luckily I have a 4-step process to work through those and get the damn thing done.Clear your shit. Detox your mind and clean up your environment so you can see clearly.See yourself to be yourself.Build your net and it'll catch you.Done is better than perfect - do the thing scared!Resources:Watch the NYC I Am Courage talk here, https://youtu.be/cIzvEUkwmaAThe Big Leap by Gay HendricksThe Crossroads of Should and Must by Elle LunaScene from 911: Lone Star (warning: depicts domestic violence), https://youtu.be/scVnmSuNJ7ABreak Your BlocksLife Change. Connection. Community. If you want a deeper dive into ditching crappy mindset and stepping courageously into that life you want, the Midlife Remix Sistermind (the c.René version of a mastermind) starts January 2022. Subscribe to The Midlife Remix newsletter to not miss any of the details! Subscribe at themidliferemix.life for resources and opportunities to interact with me, our guests, and our vibrant community. A Podcast Launch Bestie production

I've mixed up the remix to invite in even more amazing!In order to live up to my own best life, I've done some decluttering and I encourage you to do the same. If you're finding yourself confused, overwhelmed, or disconnected, it's time to clean something out.Declutter your closetDetox your mindClean up your environmentResources:BARE by Susan HyattTake The Trip! 4 Journeys Every Midlife Woman Needs To Live In Purpose and FreedomThe Crossroads of Should and Must by Elle LunaTao Porchon-LynchB.SmithIf you aren't a part of our private community, correct that now!  Subscribe at themidliferemix.life for resources and opportunities to interact with me, our guests, and our vibrant community. A Podcast Launch Bestie production

If we hang on to shit, if we suppress and refuse to deal with it, it'll back up and cause problems. Literally - constipation is a problem, and repressed rage is a problem! Both can, and will, cause discomfort, illness, or worse.Today I'll draw some parallels between some medical facts and myths, and the way we live our lives.#1: Holding it won't hurt. MYTH - it can land you in the hospital! Holding on to resentment can, too.#2: Workouts get you going. TRUE - the more you sit around, in a chair or an undesirable situation, the harder things will get.#3: Coffee and castor oil will cure all. MYTH - neither is a great option, and just because something worked for someone else doesn't mean it'll work for you too.#4: Laxatives work immediately. MYTH - it depends on what kind it is, and many times when we try something new it takes some time to see the results we want.What is your level of expectation for your life? What is some shit that you need to let go of in your life?If you want more of the shitty details, this is the article I reference: https://www.webmd.com/digestive-disorders/ss/slideshow-constipation-facts-10If you aren't a part of our private community, correct that now! Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/midliferemix and subscribe at https://www.themidliferemix.life/podcast for resources, why it’s private, and opportunities to interact with me, our guests, and our vibrant community.A Podcast Launch Bestie production

I’m not here to be right. I’m here to be revelatory.First things first - take a moment to celebrate something for yourself.  And remember, if at first you do succeed, but know you can do better, try again.I had a business coach that had entrepreneurs do an IP audit, an intellectual property excavation of all your business ideas, plans, copy, that you can use to repurpose in a new plan.  It’s a great way to move past believing you have to reinvent the wheel every time you pivot.  I was looking through my old journals, wearing my Yogi Dada Funky Guru People ear bangers, and I was reminded of how far I’ve come and how far I have yet to go.  I’m not preaching down from a mountain top, I’m down in the valley with you.Enjoy hearing my “femifesto,” and maybe you’ll be inspired to write your own.Yogi Dada Funky Guru People ear bangers image and website, https://www.yogidada.com/Links to book, Take The Trip! 4 Journeys Every Woman Needs To Live In Purpose and Freedom by c.René Washington:Amazon, https://cReneCoach.com/4JourneysBookshop, https://crenecoach.com/FourJourneysIf you aren't a part of our private community, correct that now!  Subscribe at themidliferemix.life for resources and opportunities to interact with me, our guests, and our vibrant community. A Podcast Launch Bestie production

There’s so much going on inside The Midlife Remix and you really want to be in on this!Women in particular live under a lot of obligations. Today I’ll talk about “should” versus “must,” and what we can do to relieve the pressure of obligation. First, write down the top 3 things you must do this week.  Read them aloud, then change “should” or “must” to “could.”  Because really, everything is a choice.  I have a couple announcements too!  I’m starting The Midlife Remix Book Club on October 7th, starting, appropriately, with “The Crossroads of Should and Must” by Elle Luna.  I revisit this one frequently and I’m sure you’ll love it.I’ll also be starting a “Fall In Love With Yourself” challenge soon - watch the Facebook page for that! You can also participate in the challenge without joining the facebook group through email. Join the newsletter, https://www.themidliferemix.life/If you want to share this podcast with your friends, share this link with them. https://www.themidliferemix.life/podcast What’s got you shackled?  If you aren't a part of our private community, correct that now!  Subscribe at themidliferemix.life for resources and opportunities to interact with me, our guests, and our vibrant community. A Podcast Launch Bestie production

There’s so much going on inside The Midlife Remix and you really want to be in on this!Women in particular live under a lot of obligations. Today I’ll talk about “should” versus “must,” and what we can do to relieve the pressure of obligation. First, write down the top 3 things you must do this week.  Read them aloud, then change “should” or “must” to “could.”  Because really, everything is a choice.  I have a couple announcements too!  I’m starting The Midlife Remix Book Club on October 7th, starting, appropriately, with “The Crossroads of Should and Must” by Elle Luna.  I revisit this one frequently and I’m sure you’ll love it.I’ll also be starting a “Fall In Love With Yourself” challenge soon - watch the Facebook page for that! You can also participate in the challenge without joining the facebook group through email. Join the newsletter, https://www.themidliferemix.life/If you want to share this podcast with your friends, share this link with them. https://www.themidliferemix.life/podcast What’s got you shackled?  If you aren't a part of our private community, correct that now!  Subscribe at themidliferemix.life for resources and opportunities to interact with me, our guests, and our vibrant community. A Podcast Launch Bestie production

One thing most of the women I coach have in common is living under the tyranny of “shoulds” and “oughts.” A should can be innocuous, but it can also be horribly destructive.  Point is, living by the “shoulds” is choosing to live on someone else’s terms.The thing about menopause is that through the major physiological and psychological change, things that have been suppressed must be addressed.  Deal with them, or they will deal with you, typically with a mental or physical health issue.Choosing your “must” is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. If you want to know your “must,” get to know your “shoulds.”When a “should” comes up for you that’s tied to some sort of resentment or frustration, ask yourself:Where did it come from?Is this really true for you?Do you want to keep holding on to it? Be honest!I have a couple announcements too!  I’m starting The Midlife Remix Book Club on October 7th, starting, appropriately, with “The Crossroads of Should and Must” by Elle Luna.  I revisit this one frequently and I’m sure you’ll love it.Book: The Crossroads of Should and Must by Elle Luna, https://bookshop.org/books/the-crossroads-of-should-and-must-find-and-follow-your-passion/9780761184881Domestic Awareness month resources:The YWCA: https://www.ywca.org/?fbclid=IwAR0esfRia4uoOZYjqO6In4HJ9TKrIV7iqzaQAsuAvPr9Y8DsZq78MrcJLhEWomen For Women International: https://www.womenforwomen.org/National Bailout, https://www.nationalbailout.org/Canadian Domestic Violence Organizations, https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/domestic-violence-provincial-groups-canadaUK Domestic Violence Support, https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/en/How-can-we-support-you I’ll also be starting a “Fall In Love With Yourself” challenge soon - watch the Facebook page for that! You can also participate in the challenge without joining the facebook group through email. Join the newsletter, https://www.themidliferemix.life/If you aren't a part of our private community, correct that now!  Subscribe at themidliferemix.life for resources and opportunities to interact with me, our guests, and our vibrant community. A Podcast Launch Bestie production

Are you ready for what you want? It’s your time. You have everything you need to create the next chapter you want. Keep going through, but don’t go through alone! Link to others in alignment with who you are and what you want.This show is for every woman who’s ready to drop living obligated to everyone else’s priorities, particularly those in their late 40s and up. I’ve made this podcast private because I’m creating more space in my life while still showing up in my gift. We’ll have fabulous guests, transformative conversations, and a good time!If you aren't a part of our private community, correct that now!  Subscribe at themidliferemix.life for resources and opportunities to interact with me, our guests, and our vibrant community. A Podcast Launch Bestie production

Back in my corporate chapter, I was asked the question, “do the potential clients want to be coached?” That coach chose not to work with anyone who didn’t want it. That day my eyes were opened to the option that maybe I didn't have to be bound by protocol and tradition.The coaching I do holds up the mirrors of epiphany and revelation so you can see who you are and the woman you desire to be. You have permission to honor this truth.If I could give you a permission slip to do anything you want to do right now, what are you doing? What would keep you from accepting the slip, even if it cleared away all barriers?If you aren't a part of our private community, correct that now!  Subscribe at themidliferemix.life for resources and opportunities to interact with me, our guests, and our vibrant community. A Podcast Launch Bestie production

When women turn 50, the world starts to tune us out. Employers see us as less valuable and Hollywood disproportionately portrays us as unattractive, unfriendly, and even stupid. In reality, this is a time when women start to feel an energy shift.You may find yourself asking, "When is it my time? What do I want now?" I know that when women show up and invest time and effort into answering these questions, not only do they benefit, but their people benefit, and so does the world.Midlife is generally considered to be between the ages of 45-65, but for me it's a state of mind. We've been some places and done some things, we're coming out of (or well past) raising children, successful careers, or being a community volunteer. Are you stuck in the "what now?" questions, or are you having the time of your life answering those questions over and over again?Forget what you would tell your 20-year-old self. I hate that question. My question for you to sit with today is, "what do you want your 99-year-old self to say about your life?" She's the queen who's waiting on you. Don't disappoint her!If you aren't a part of our private community, correct that now!  Subscribe at themidliferemix.life for resources and opportunities to interact with me, our guests, and our vibrant community. A Podcast Launch Bestie production