115. The Do’s & Don’ts of “Fake It till You Make It”

We all want partners who love and respect us. But does that also mean that they should obey us?In this week's episode, I talk about love and respect vs. obedience and why it's so easy to confuse the two. Even though obedience feels good, it does not have a place in a healthy, adult relationship.Life would be a lot easier if everyone just obeyed us all the time, but that's not how it works. And we need to learn to be okay with that.Work with me:https://www.katrinberndt.com/Contact:https://www.katrinberndt.com/https://www.instagram.com/elitegirlfriendpodcast

Expecting ourselves to be on top physically and mentally 24/7 is entirely unreasonable. Being an Elite Girlfriend is not  about being super-human and never struggling with anything.In this week's episode, I share what it means to show up as an Elite Girlfriend even when life gets you down. Whether it's hunger, stress, lack of sleep, grief, PMS, or any other issues you might be struggling with.  Work with me:https://www.katrinberndt.com/Contact:https://www.katrinberndt.com/https://www.instagram.com/elitegirlfriendpodcast

Is there a superior way of living your life regarding being calm and collected vs. emotional and explosive? Is one better than the other or can you just pick and choose which fits you?In this week's episode, we explore the possible pros and cons of the two and I explain how I personally decided what was right for me. Work with me:https://www.katrinberndt.com/Contact:https://www.katrinberndt.com/https://www.instagram.com/elitegirlfriendpodcast

Your partner is not a problem to be fixed. They are not your child, your project, or your responsibility. And 9 times out of 10, we stay out of your partner's brain because you have no power there anyway.But in this week's episode, we do dive into your partner's brain. We explore how it works and how it might show up in your relationship. Understanding how their brain works can be a very powerful way for you to stop judging and show some more compassion for the person you love.PS. I just changed the name of my Instagram to EliteGirlfriendPodcast! So head on over there to follow. xoWork with me:https://www.katrinberndt.com/Contact:https://www.katrinberndt.com/https://www.instagram.com/elitegirlfriendpodcast

"I'm obviously triggered right now and all I want to do is ___... I know I shouldn't, but doing ___ is also reasonable in this situation! HELP!"Sound familiar? If you have ever struggled to decide whether or not to act on something because it's both unhealthy AND reasonable, this episode is for you. I give you my rule of thumb for situations like this and give you a peek into the next step once you master the first one.Remember! Not acting on reasonable behavior is not a forever kind of thing. But when it's being fuelled by negative, unhealthy emotions, you need first to break that cycle before you can take the healthy action.Work with me:https://www.katrinberndt.com/Contact:https://www.katrinberndt.com/https://www.instagram.com/elitegirlfriendcoaching

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are clearly triggered, you feel awful, you can feel the urgency inside of you to act, and you know exactly what you want to do to punish your partner in that moment?If so, this is the episode for you. I will walk you through three powerful questions to ask yourself in that moment that will help you slow down, pause, and regain access to your "intelligent" brain.Work with me:https://www.katrinberndt.com/Contact:https://www.katrinberndt.com/https://www.instagram.com/elitegirlfriendcoaching

One of my most important coaching tools when working with my clients is to never trust that we have the same definitions of what things mean. Good communication, healthy boundaries, love, empathy... what do all these things really mean?How we define our own positive (and negative) traits really matters and it's important to not mislabel your unhealthy, disempowering behaviors.Listen to today's episode to learn more about 5 common traits that are often mislabeled as "positive" but are really unhealthy in disguise.Work with me:https://www.katrinberndt.com/Contact:https://www.katrinberndt.com/https://www.instagram.com/elitegirlfriendcoaching

Fake it till you make it is nothing new. But it has always puzzled me when it comes to becoming a new and improved version of yourself. On the one hand, it doesn't help at all. On the other hand, it's one of the biggest keys in any transformation journey.Tune in to this week's episode to learn the do's and don'ts of faking it and what makes the difference between eventually making it and just continuing your downward spiral.Work with me:https://www.katrinberndt.com/Contact:https://www.katrinberndt.com/https://www.instagram.com/elitegirlfriendcoaching

Ladies!! I have not forgotten about you. I promise. The season of change I've been in for a long time now is culminating and I'm making a lot of big decisions in my life and business.Listen to this episode to find out all about my new plan and then check out my brand new (tiny) Instagram account here:https://www.instagram.com/elitegirlfriendcoaching/

"I just want to feel better." Sound familiar? Then you're a lot like my clients who struggle to dream big and go after their fullest potential.In this week's episode, I talk about the benefits of setting big goals, aiming high, and deciding to transform your life completely rather than just tweaking what you've already got.That growth experience and the process of becoming you 2.0 is too good to miss out on just because your brain is a little worried about the effort required. Let's go.Work with me:https://katrinberndt.com/program