Getting Off on the Right Foot

Happy belated Halloween! This week we’re discussing fear play, and how fear can be interwoven into kink scenes in hot ways.Halloween | Teenage Sex & Death at Camp Miasma (2026) | Spectatoring & Dissociation Essay | Embodiment & Anxiety | Taboo | Coercive Roleplays | Fear vs. Excitement | Real Fear vs. Pretending | Characters & Stories | Childhood Experiences | Resolution | Bravery | Edge Play | Disgust & Discomfort | Roleplaying Incompetence | Choking | Empty Threats | Fear & Lust | Crash (1996) | Red Eye (2005) | Media Influences | Promising Young Woman (2020) | Get Out (2017) | Hypnosis Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

In our continuing discussion of foot fetishism, this week we talk about how feet integrate with power, money, latex hoods, and more!Pedicures | Findom | Power Dynamics | Only Feet | How Fetishes Are Formed | Socks During Sex | Foot Insecurities | Products | SoleHole | Lubes | “Baby Foot” Peels | Tell Them What You Want | Foot Worship Hoods | Smell vs. Taste Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This episode is sponsored by Beducated (coupon code DILDORKS)!Feet are one of the most commonly fetishized body parts, and yet foot fetishism still carries a surprising amount of stigma. This week, we discuss our experiences doing foot stuff.Our History | Why Is It Hot? | Ticklishness | Sensitivity | Feet vs. Boots | /r/FootFetishTalks | Stigma & Shame | Creeps | Foot Massages | Dirty & “Gross” | Beducated (Code DILDORKS) | Specific Activities | Trampling | “The Pose” | SoleHole | Footjobs | Things We Want To Do | Bastinado | Sock Tea & Callous Shavings | Gay vs. Straight Trends | Solemates | Licking Feet vs. Eating Ass | Boots | High Heels | Ainsley-T Shoes | Kate’s Feet | Use Code DILDORKS20 for 20% Off Kate’s Audiobook Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

When you change the way you look, you also change the way you feel and the way you’re perceived. This week, we discuss our favorite ways we’ve modified our appearance, from tattoos to haircuts to gender-affirming surgeries.Surgeries | Gender Euphoria | Tattoos (Pink Bows) | “Cool Enough” | Hair | Femininity | Partners’ Influence | Committing to an Idea | Threshold for Change | Fear & Apprehension | Criticism | Use Code DILDORKS20 for 20% Off Kate’s Audiobook Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Can you believe that we’ve done this 500 times?! This week, we reflect on the past decade in our sex lives, reminisce about our favorite guest interviews, and help a listener stock a hanky-code-themed piñata!Biggest Changes | Lists of Sexual Partners | Being a Slut | Surprise Developments | Dominance & Submission | Punny Titles | What We Were Wrong About | Titillation | Ratings & Rankings | Trust & Attraction | Guests | Effects on Our Sex Lives | Hanky Code Prizes | Use Code DILDORKS20 for 20% Off Kate’s Audiobook Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

If you’ve ever craved a spanking (as a receiver or a giver), what was it that you were craving, exactly? This week we discuss some of the psychological motivations behind our love of impact play, among other things.Primal vs. Careful | Something to Prove | Casual Swats vs. Spanking Scenes | Pain vs. Pleasure | Embodiment vs. Overthinking | Connection | Quality of Pain | Implements | Face-Slapping | Standing Up | Warm-Up vs. None | Bruises & Hickeys | Pain Processing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Do you like sleeping with people – not having sex, but literally sleeping? This week, we discuss the joys and annoyances of co-sleeping, and how to navigate sleepovers if you’re polyamorous or live with your parents.10 Years! | Insomnia & Noise | Rain Sounds | Morning Conversation | Separate Bedrooms | Temperature | Conflict | “The Done Thing” | Sleep & Sex | Consensual Non-Consent | Scent | Aftercare | Sleepover Energy | Hotels & Airbnbs | Cuddling & Alternatives | Romantic Feelings | Long-Distance | Intimacy & Vulnerability | “No Sleepovers” Rule | Sleepover Logistics | 3 People, 1 Bed | Parents | Biosphere (2022) and In the Cut (2003) Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Why is it so hot sometimes to take things slow? This week, we discuss the joys of sexual and romantic “slow burns”!What is a Slow Burn? | Denial | Pandemic | Sustained Attention | Fun, Painful, or Both? | Non-Monogamy | Letting Things Build | Bad at Flirting – Please Be Blunt | Demonstrating Interest | Making a Move | Long-Term Relationships | Chastity & Cuckolding | Disappointments | “Yes, And”-ing | The Ick | Demisexuality | Savoring Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week we’re discussing interesting fetishes from the internet, including extra-large Fleshlights, opening Magic cards naked, a straight couple roleplaying Heated Rivalry, and more! Sex with Strangers | Fraysexuality | Anticipation & Flirting | “Hotdog in a Hallway” | Loose Fleshlights | Opening Card Packs | Guys Doing “Girl Voices” | Heated Rivalry Roleplay | Prone Masturbation | Breast Against Dick Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Does group sex hit different in your thirties? This week, we reflect on our evolving relationships to threesomes, foursomes, orgies, etc.   Party Trick | Popular Fantasy | The Invite (2026) | Why Is It Hot? | Essay on Spectatoring in Teenage Sex & Death at Camp Miasma (2026) | Through Their Eyes | Desirability & Self-Worth | Pleasure Distribution | Who’s In Charge? | Co-Bottoming | A Different Perspective | Negotiation | Aftercare | Limits | Safer Sex | Feeling Left Out | Finding People | Unicorn-Hunting Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.