Eliminating Shame From Falling Asleep

In this episode, I brought in a very special guest, my client Phyllis, to share parts of her sleep journey, from insomnia and into a deep physically and spiritually restorative experience of sleep.We talk about the concepts and process of her new sleep ritual, informed by the 5-Step-Method but curated and embodied by her own intuitive experience. 

If waking up in the middle of the night and not being able to fall back to sleep has become your greatest sleep challenge, you may be looking in the wrong place and trying to fix the wrong problem. You also may be facing a couple of different dilemmas regarding nighttime routines:1) being too sleepy or lethargic to go through a sleep ritual 2) feeling like you have to trade quality for quantityIn this episode I talk about how these dilemmas occur, and how to reframe this very common problem so that you aren't spinning your wheels looking for right solutions for the wrong problem. There is an easier way to get quality AND quantity. Stick around and have a listen! Ready to learn more about the Art of Falling Asleep and your transformational path? https://calendly.com/derek-connect/1on1?month=2023-11

What does it really mean to sit with it? In this episode we'll get into the illusion of resistance and the reality of sleep. How waiting it out is the only way in, with sleep & with life. The monkey has a place to go, and so do you. 

What is sleep trying to tell us about grief? In this episode I discuss the daily role of grief in our lives and how experiencing grief every night supports a deeper, more spiritual experience of sleep. 

In this episode I explore the true essence of forgiveness, why it can feel so hard to offer and how we can better at it, to sleep better and to grow. 

In this episode I discuss our most valuable asset, space. Literally the space that exists all around us that feels restricted when we can't seem to sleep. It's not a novel concept but one that's easy to forget about. Tune in to learn more about how to practice developing a better relationship with space and claiming the space that is naturally yours. 

Have you ever tried surrendering but not really feel like anything happened?In this episode I'll explain my process for surrendering and walk you through the 2 steps I take to release back into the flow of life and sleep...

We all want to find out what's at the root of the problem, and taking that journey can be one of the most satisfying processes of the human experience. But it can also feel like a  hostage situation when finding the source of "that thing" feels like the only way you'll ever be able to sleep. I have made it my case since I reversed my own insomnia and started coaching that yes, achieving "resolve" is a wonderful tool for overcoming insomnia, but it's not the only one, and in the meantime you can still sleep. One of the keys to being able to do this is making distinctions with shame, shame the ally or shame the obstacle and being able to exercising the obstacle out of your body. In Episode 8, I will share a simple concept for making peace with shame. I do hope you listen and I do hope this episode helps you feel better on your journey. https://www.dereklaceycoaching.com/post/episode-8-eliminating-shame-from-falling-asleep

Sleep takes place with the body, but the creation of transformation starts with the mind, in particular the mindset. If you have been struggling with insomnia far too long, turning loose from it is more about the mindset than the sleep. In Episode 7, I'll breakdown the difference between the two mindsets used to achieve sleep, how  one is not inherently wrong, but how the other is  appropriate for breaking free from insomnia. 

The first stage of resistance is trying to let go of something that was never yours. Join me for Episode 6, we'll honor the concept of the Fall season and explore the essence of what it really means to "Let Go." ⁠If you've struggled with letting go in the past, this episode will serve you with a concept that makes it less complicated. ⁠Read the transcribed episode here.