Changing Your Mind

There's no naming and shaming on this episode of Sunday Sanctuary. Instead, we're here to name what causes us shame and realise that we can move through it. To kick off this episode, Petra brings back an old segment of the show called Atlas of the Heart, where Grace McArthur digs into Brené Brown's book of the same name. Later on, Rev. Spanky Moore joins to explore the experience of shame and one experience he had of moving through. In-between there is a sacred text from author Hanya Yanagihara, a time for self-reflection and waiata from Sade and Michael Kiwanuka. Haere mai! Brené Brown's shame resilience exercise: Recognise shame - Can you recognise what it feels like? What triggered it? Become aware - Can you reality check the messages shame is telling you? Are they actually true? Reach out - Share your story with a trustworthy person. Open yourself up to receiving empathy. Unpack - Explain how it made you feel.  Sacred Text: An excerpt from Hanya Yanagihara's 2015 novel A Little Life Music: You are the Gold by Terrible Sons (intro song) Instrumental by The Fuzzy Robes Tesifa by Laney Tripp Cold Little Heart by Michael Kiwanuka Peace Piece by Bill Evans Trio Like a Tattoo by Sade Rivers That You Cannot See by North Americans  

Addiction is such a huge topic which can't be covered properly in one episode, so this episode of Sunday Sanctuary is primarily for those in the orbit of people struggling with addiction. How can we support those who we know are struggling? Do we need to seek support for ourselves? To start off, Producer Sam hit the streets to talk to everyday people about their experiences with addiction. Later on, Petra Bagust talks to Rev. Petra Zaleski, an Anglican priest and spiritual care practitioner. Petra has a graduate diploma in addictions and mental health as well as lived experience with alcoholism.  Come for the compassionate support for loving those in the grips of addiction and stay for the 'sacred text' from the film The Outrun as well as music from James Brown and Lily Allen. Sacred Text: - Scene from the 2024 film The Outrun Music: You are the Gold by Terrible Sons (intro song) Space is the Place by Ezra Collective Caja de la Sala by Kruangbin King Heroin by James Brown NIUEANS OF ARIKI STREET - HOME- 01 by Hanisi Garue Walk Alone to Hear Thoughts of Your Own by Laura Misch Eveyone's At It by Lily Allen memory as miniatures by Rachika Nayar  

Changing your mind about what you want for dinner is easy. Changing your mind about what you think about someone, how you vote, or what you believe, is not. In this episode of Sunday Sanctuary, Petra talks with friend of the show Spanky Moore and producer Sam talks to Jesuit priest Father Michael Smith in search of some guidance through the process of re-evaluating our opinions. Music: Losalamitoslatinfunklovesong by Gene Harris Bean by Orions Belte I Might be Wrong by Radiohead Pine Trees by Mary Lattimore Can I Change my Mind by Tyrone Davis Zionsville by Khruangbin

This episode originally came out in 2024 Holding a grudge is a tantalising temptation. Especially when someone has clearly wronged us. After all, they deserve to be held accountable for what they did, right? In this episode, Petra and her guests explore what the big fuss is with forgiveness. And we’re not just talking about the earth-shattering acts of forgiveness, but garden variety forgiveness that can be weaved into our everyday life as we inevitably bump into the people around us. Petra talks to counsellor and podcaster, Charlotte Cummings about the emotional world of forgiveness, and Rev Dr Malcolm Gordon about the nuts and bolt of the forgiveness process. So if you’ve got a grudge that won’t budge, you’ve come to the right place. Sacred Text: Excerpt from The Book of Forgiving by Desmond and Mpho tutu. Rev Malcolm Gordon's Podcast Series: A Field Guide to Forgiveness Featured Music: The Light by The Album Leaf I'm Not Sorry by Morrissey Brother by The Brilliance

The role of fathers in our lives can be a mixed bag. There are, of course, tremendous examples of good fatherhood around and yet the brokenness of absent or abusive fathers casts a long shadow. So what does that mean for our view of God, who is so often referred to as father? Petra's first guest is John Cowan, a broadcaster, parenting coach, father and grandfather who's spent decades examining family dynamics and can happily provide a bit of encouragement to dads listening. Sam Bloore also joins us with his thoughts on God as father, and how different framing of the devine can give fresh vitality to our unique spiritual journeys. Music: You are the Gold by Terrible Sons (theme music) My Old Man by Mac DeMarco Old Man by Neil Young Sweet Child O' Mine by Guns N' Roses

ADHD can make it harder to engage in many spiritual practices that we've been told we should do. What happens, though, when we embrace a more inclusive way of pursuing God? In this episode,  Petra's first guest is Mark Pierson, a worship curator. He has spent decades designing spaces for people to engage in worship that looks very different to a typical church service.  Later in the episode, Petra talks to Laidlaw College's Academic Dean, Rev Dr Maja Whitaker, about the research she began after some students came to her and said "hey, this spiritual formation course you're teaching isn't working for us, and here's why..." Maja's work since has lead to a book that will be coming out in November, so keep your ear to the ground for that one. Music: You are the Gold by Terrible Sons Innerspace by The Apples in Stereo Lalo o le Mauga by SANGUINE I'm Only Sleeping by The Beatles Free by Florence + The Machine Low Tides by Christoph El Truento

We all have rituals. Some might have deep cultural significance, but some we do without realising – like clinking glasses when we meet for a drink. Why has ritual been a central part of every known human society? What do rituals do for us? Are we losing our connection with ritual?  And do we need to rediscover it? In this insightful episode, Petra and her guests ruminate on the richness of ritual. So light a candle, boil the kettle, take a few deep breaths… and enjoy! Music: You are the Gold by Terrible Sons (theme song) Be Still and Know that I am God, Composition by Roman Hurko, Performed at Church of St. Francis Xavier, New York, Conducted by Michael Zaugg. Lights Are On – Instrumental, composed by Tom Rosenthal, performed by Edith Whiskers. Ritual Union by Little Dragon. Sacred African Music | Ethereal Zulu Humming & Tribal Voices

Judging others is something we all do, and we all want to do less often! "But how!?" we hear you cry! To begin our exploration of the root of judginess and what we can do tomove past it, Petra has spoken to a crack duo of guests. First up is former Stuff visual journalist, Abigail Dougherty. Abigail describes for Petra how she learnt the need to put aside judgement in her job as a journalist and how her faith has allowed her to keep a more open mind. Next up is Dr Graham Redding, the Douglas Goodfellow lecturer in Chaplaincy Studies at the University of Otago. Graham explores God's judgement of people and whether His character is actually different between the Old Testament and the New Testament of the Bible. If you're interested, here is Abigail's portfolio Sacred texts: This scene from Ted Lasso where Ted plays darts against former AFC Richmond owner, Rupert. Music: You are the Gold by Terrible Sons (theme song) Grazing in the Grass by Hugh Masekela Peace Blossom Boogie by Babe Rainbow You're So Vain by Carly Simon Tumutumu Mauga by SANGUINE Changes by David Bowie Equipoise by Max Roach

"Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It is a covenant between equals." - Father Gregory Boyle. This is the quote that guided this episode of Sunday Sanctuary. Petra gets into the history behind this quote, and along the way, talks with social worker Aaron Hendry of Kick Back and Sr Margaret-Anne of the Sisters of Compassion in Wellington. Sacred Text: Small Things Like These by Claire Keegan (The 2024 film adaptation with Cillian Murphy is well worth watching!) Music: You Are The Gold by Terrible Sons (intro song) A Message Especially from God by Robert Vanderbilt and the Foundation of Souls Girl by Jamie xx Talk by Coldplay Zionsville by Khruangbin Rescue Blues by Craig Finn Oh My God by Kevin Morby Slider - Lorenzo Saxophone Dub by This Is The Kit    

To Give, Or Not To Give? That is the question Petra is looking into on this episode. First up, Te Waka McLeod tells Petra how she was shaped by the generosity of her māmā. In the second half, Petra talks to others in the Love It Media staff team about their experiences of giving and receiving. In-between, there is a reading from Robin Wall-Kimmerer's book 'Braiding Sweetgrass' and music from Red Hot Chilli Peppers and Natalie Merchant. Sacred Texts: Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall-Kimmerer Songs: International Flight by Nathan Haines Beans by Orions Belte Give It Away by Red Hot Chilli Peppers Clair e Lune by Claude Debussy Exchange by Massive Attack Kind and Generous by Natalie Merchant Statue of a Woman by Novo Amor Tesifa by Laney Tripp