When a spouse complains about their partner's level of desire for sex, there are common misunderstandings. Did you know there are different but equally valid types of sexual desire? We loved the opportunity to sit down again with Dr. Michael Sytsma (second-time guest; see also Episode 3) for a science-based and super-practical conversation largely focused on original research he conducted along with fellow researcher, Shaunti Feldhahn (we were honoured to host Shaunti on Episode 9). For example, a couple may easily misjudge that they are further apart in what they want out of their sex life than they actually are. Find out solutions to some of the common mistakes and misconceptions couples struggle with and get on with making your sex life more of what you both want it to be.
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SFP 049 | The Self-Driven Child with Ned Johnson - How to Stop Fighting Over Homework or Chores; Bonding while Helping your Kids Succeed; Nurturing an Internal Drive to Learn
48:01Ned Johnson has decades of experience as an expert tutor working with teens and parents on standardized test performance. In their book, The Self-Driven Child, he and Dr. William Stixrud share the postures and practices that help kids optimize their performance, while nurturing their relationships with their parents. Hear more about how considering yourself to be a consultant as opposed to a manager makes all the difference. This episode gives you practical strategies to help you release your child into a bright future while maintaining the healthy, strong bond you desire with your child, now and into the future.
SFP 048 | Blending Families - How to Predict Common Issues, Define Expectations and Create Solutions Together As You Prepare To Blend - Advice From Ron Deal, Family Therapist
58:49We are so pleased to have marriage and family therapist Ron Deal back with us to discuss the blended family. If you are in a position of preparing to blend families with your new partner's family, or adding a step-parent to the mix, what are some pitfalls to avoid and issues to discuss? We ask all the tough questions: What do we call each other? Should we plan a wedding (and how?) What if there's animosity between families? What if kids aren't ready for the transition? This episode dives deep into one of the most common family units out there - the blended family!
SFP 047 | Separating Truth From Myth on Sex in Marriage; Practical Advice From Dr. Mike Sytsma Sex Therapist on Keeping Your Physical Intimacy Alive for Decades; Unpacking the New Findings of his Recent Study
1:11:10When a spouse complains about their partner's level of desire for sex, there are common misunderstandings. Did you know there are different but equally valid types of sexual desire? We loved the opportunity to sit down again with Dr. Michael Sytsma (second-time guest; see also Episode 3) for a science-based and super-practical conversation largely focused on original research he conducted along with fellow researcher, Shaunti Feldhahn (we were honoured to host Shaunti on Episode 9). For example, a couple may easily misjudge that they are further apart in what they want out of their sex life than they actually are. Find out solutions to some of the common mistakes and misconceptions couples struggle with and get on with making your sex life more of what you both want it to be.
SFP 046 | Drs Ed Tronick and Claudia Gold Discuss the Importance of Mismatch and Repair for all Healthy Relationships; Why Mental Health Problems are Often More Complicated than a Diagnosis; Trauma And Resilience
1:02:55"The brain is an organ sculpted by experience." In this episode we sit down with Dr Ed Tronick, a pioneer in the field of child psychology and Dr Claudia Gold, a pediatrician expert and advocate for the study of parent-infant mental health. We've delved into the importance of early experiences before but in this episode we look specifically at one of the most powerful paradigms in child psychology, the Still Face Paradigm, which Dr Tronick discovered. Both Ed and Claudia make powerful arguments for why being able to move from states of mismatch and repair is vital when developing healthy relationships and how this need for repair is wired into babies right from birth. We also discuss how this paradigm relates to trauma and resilience; and how mental health, development and attachment are so closely related.
SFP 045 | Managing Your Family Finances To Help Your Kids Start Off Well In Life; The Importance of Getting (and Staying) Out of Debt - with Anthony ONeal
32:09Whether it's helping your kids with college tuition or having the financial margin to help your kids start off in life, getting your family finances in order is key. In today's culture we are constantly bombarded with messages to spend, spend, spend and accumulating debt, rather than making sustainable decisions for long-term success. Financial expert, author, speaker and podcaster Anthony ONeal shares with us how he went from couch-surfing to financial security. Anthony shares with us some very practical tips on how to manage debt and move your financial position out of the red and into the black.
SFP 044 | How to Better Connect With Your Teenager; Influence of Empathy on your Conversations; Understand Your Teenager's (Maybe Hidden) Critical Questions
50:54"Every teenager is a walking bundle of questions." If you have a teenager - guaranteed! - your teen has questions that may leak out, or remain bottled up. Kara Powell and Brad Griffin of the Youth Fuller Institute did research prompted by their passion to help parents and others who work with young people to better address our teens' tough questions. While your teen's questions may be broad and varied including issues such as the environment or money or social justice, these experts uncovered three questions that every teen is asking, whether or not they're voicing them to you. Kara shares practical advice about the role of empathy in having real conversations about your teen's tough questions. She also provides valuable insights into which critical questions your teenager needs answers to.
SFP 043 | Marriage Lessons from a Trauma Expert, Dr. Anita Phillips; Distinguishing Traumatic from Stressful Events; Practical Tools for Trauma Recovery; And The Deep Pains of Racial Trauma
57:19"Most things that seem complicated are actually just hard." This is a central idea that grounds Dr. Anita Phillips' work as a trauma therapist and life coach. Marriage is a primary relationship where the impacts of trauma - often trauma that occurred prior to the relationship - show up. And when it does, labelling behaviours and laying blame may come easily for the other partner., However, untangling the deeper causes for the behaviour is hard work. Dr. Anita shares a very compelling analogy using seeds and plants to illustrate the process of getting back to the root of behaviours that are causing stress. There's probably no human alive who is untouched by the impacts of trauma in their circle of loved ones. That's why we bill this episode as one not to miss, and we're grateful to Dr. Anita for sharing her wealth of wisdom.
SFP 042 | Mental Health Q&A with Dr Rob Meeder - The Benefits (or Not) of A Diagnosis; The Role of Psychotropic Medications; Where Does Stress Come From; Healing From Trauma; And More!
48:47In this episode Smart Family Podcast co-host Dr Rob Meeder tackles common questions about behaviour and mental health. With over 20 years experience as a pediatrician, and now with a practice devoted solely to families and children dealing with behaviour and mental health issues, Dr Rob is well-equiped to talk about topics like behaviour, stress, trauma and resilience. Plus find out more about common mental health diagnoses such as anxiety, autism and ADHD, the role of medications, and why a diagnostic label might sometimes be less useful than we think.
SFP 041 | Alfie Kohn Explains Why Punishments And Rewards Are Really the Same Thing; The Impacts of Parenting Approach on Moral Character; And the Consequences of Conditional Parenting
44:02When you tell your child, "Don't let me catch you doing that again!", will they stop? Or will they just try harder the next time to make sure they don't get caught! That's one of the issues our parenting expert Alfie Kohn uncovers as problematic in the conditional parenting approach. He advocates for an approach to parenting that values children for who they are and not simply how they behave. Kohn argues that the conditional approach sends a message to the child that they are loveable when they do the right things and not loveable when they don't. Although conditional parenting is quite ingrained in our culture, the research shows it has a less than ideal impact on forming moral character. It raises the question: what do you really want for your child's future?
SFP 040 | Dr Stuart Shanker on Self-Reg: What The Marshmallow Test Really Means; The Domains of Stress; Misbehaviour versus Stress Behaviour; Calm versus Quiet; And Why No Child's Future is Pre-determined.
55:17The paradigm of understanding behaviour is shifting. Where we used to just see positive and negative reinforcement as our only options to address misbehaviour, we are now urged to consider how stressors lead to stress behaviour. Join us in this extremely informative episode as we talk with Dr Stuart Shanker about reframing the behaviour we are seeing in our children (and everyone else too). He will tell us how we can begin to help our children and ourselves self-regulate, allowing children to develop to their full potential. This is one you do not want to miss!