Life as a Woman in the British Army

This week - Alex has a fresh batch of beef with TikTok for uniniviting her to an event (AGAIN) - so we’ve decided to spill the tea on influencer events... is it all just posing for pics and not speaking to each other? Em tells us the story of a rental handbag that came with a little extra suprise… and we’re also asking why people at weddings won’t explain the economy to us - and why can't they just print more money? If you have an Is It Just Me for us - email us on [email protected]! Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That? is produced by Faye Lawrence Music by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Six years ago, Helen Addis (aka The Titty Gritty) found a lump. Despite having no history of cancer in her family - it was an aggressive form of breast cancer. A week after her diagnosis - she had a masectomy, followed by 18 months of active treatment. Being well under the screening age, the only person who would have found Helen’s cancer - was Helen. During her treatment, Helen asked her friends and family if they checked their boobs - and when most of them said no - she made it her mission to spread awareness about checking your breasts. So, she launched the Change+Check campaign - it is a simple sticker which goes on shop and gym changing room mirrors reminding people to check themselves for signs of breast cancer. She also almost got the queen with a pair of boobs on a Royal Mail stamp…This Breast Cancer Awareness month - Helen is part of a campign to make a life-extending drug called ENHERTU available in England, Wales and Northen Ireland. Despite petitions, protests, campaigns and even government pressure the secondary breast cancer community is being met with constant rejection. They are now fundrasing to raise the legal fees to take legal proceedings to continue the fight for those who need this drug urgently and for the thousands upon thousands who will need it in months and years to come. You can read more about the campaign - and donate hereYou can stream and buy Love Is All Around with Marti Pellow and The Change+Check Choir here!Follow Helen on Instagram @thetittygrittyEmail us on [email protected] us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That? is produced by Faye Lawrence Music by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s podcast we have a live unboxing… is this the beginning of our new career as ASMR-tists? Alex also has a theory about drinking water… is it all just a conspiracy? We also take a mildly horrifying look at our average step counts and we delve into the world of rejection therapy. Em’s also had a DM saying that everything was better in our grandparents’ days. Could that possibly true and would we survive in a world without tuna baguettes? If you have an Is It Just Me for us - email us on [email protected]! Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That? is produced by Faye Lawrence Music by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re dating, if you’re dealing with a difficult break up or if you just need a postive spin on a tough situation - this is the episode for you. The brilliant life coach, activist and author Michelle Elman joins Em and Alex in the studio today - to speak candidly about her engagement ending earlier this year, and how she’s thrived in the subsequent months. One Instagram DM completely changed the course of Michelle's life - but she tells us why she chose forgiveness, why she started sharing that she was dating this summer, and how that has helped her to heal. Follow Michelle on Instagram @michelleelmanMichelle’s podcast In All Honesty is available on all podcast platformsYou can get your copy of Michelle’s book The Selfish Romantic here and you can pre-order Bad Friend now!Email us on [email protected] us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That? is produced by Faye Lawrence Music by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sooooo, we got stood up by a guest. Will it lead to a negative thought spiral? We’re about to find out! Em has a cringe wedding-related IIJM for us and we also attempt to unpack why pregnant women who cheat on their partners are treated differently to men who chat on their pregnant partners.Meanwhile - we’re back on the Housewives… and we find out about Em’s longest relationship… with a man called Gary.  If you have any thoughts, feelings, suggestions or people who you are desperate for us to talk to for our upcoming series on diet culture - email us on [email protected]! Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That? is produced by Faye Lawrence Music by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Alex is away this week - so Em has invited life coach, author, columnist and friend of the podcast Jacqueline Hurst into the studio for a bit of a therapy session... and we think it's well needed! Jacqueline shares some of her practical steps and ways in which we can change our thought patterns when we are entering a negative thought spiral. She also answers some of your questions about self-worth and feeling like we are a burden to others.For more of Jacqueline’s wisdom, you can follow her on Instagram @jacqueline_hurst_You can get your copy Jacqueline's book How To Do You here!And find out more about The Life Class hereEmail us on [email protected] us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That? is produced by Faye Lawrence Music by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Get ready to be fired up because today we’re bringing you an accidentally ragey episode - it's time to read the Daily Mail Showbiz section together… We’re also asking if pregnant women should be showing off their bumps more in public, and whether you can be friends with someone you disagree with politically. Do you have an Is It Just Me for us? Email us on [email protected]!Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That? is produced by Faye Lawrence Music by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TW: sexual assault, rape, suicideThis week on the podcast, Em and Alex are joined by Gemma Morgan. When Gemma joined the Army, she discovered very quickly how she had to behave as a woman to get by: prove your strength by pushing yourself harder than you ever thought possible, but ensure you act small enough so you don't step on the toes of your male counterparts. This balancing act proved near impossible under the weight of oppressive misogyny deeply entrenched within the structure of the British Armed Forces, where razors were supplied for men to shape their facial hair while sanitary products for her and others that needed them weren't even a consideration. Gemma's Army career didn't go to plan, with trauma, abuse and PTSD all featuring in her story. She explains how she went from outstanding soldier to suffering a near-fatal mental health crisis, and why she is now demanding change. Gemma found help and hope, and wants to show others that they can too.If you have been affected by any topics in this episode, or you want to talk to someone, you can call the Samaritans free, anytime, at 116 123If you are a member of the Armed Forces community and you need help, you can call Help For Heroes weekdays 9-5 on 0300 303 9888 you can also submit a form anytime at https://www.helpforheroes.org.uk/application/You can buy Gemma's book, Pink Camouflage, here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Pink-Camouflage-soldiers-resilience-leadership/dp/1804251232Follow us on Instagram @shouldideletethatEmail us at [email protected] by Daisy GrantMusic by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this week's IIJM, the girls discuss some hilarious awkwards one unfortunate listener has sent in, whether you should declare the state of your bumhole when you get a wax and how to know if your husband's having an affair with a peach...Follow us on Instagram @shouldideletethatEmail us at [email protected] by Daisy GrantMusic by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It is a HUGE day for the podcast... the girls are joined by Em's hero: Marian Keyes! A woman who needs little introduction, Marian is one of the most successful Irish novelists of all time. She released her debut novel, Watermelon, almost thirty years ago, after embarking on a journey of recovery from alcoholism. She tells the girls how becoming sober helped give her the sense of hope she needed to start writing a novel. She also discusses families, life, and the menopause in this fascinating interview. They say don't meet your heroes, but Em is overjoyed that she did!You can buy any of Marian's books from her website here: https://www.mariankeyes.com/books/ And listen to her podcast, Now You're Asking, with Tara FlynnFollow us on Instagram @shouldideletethatEmail us at [email protected] by Daisy GrantMusic by Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.