S7 E11 - Identity, with Tahlia Seinor

Its here. The final episode of Season 7 - with much to say. Love you x

Welcoming back to the podcast, the beautiful Kristina Gorgievska!We jumped on a (fkng very early morning) zoom to talk about why the hell perfectionism is such a gendered term, and why / how Women suffer so greatly from it.We also talk about the different ways perfectionism can express itself, and offer prompts to contemplate how you a) think of perfectionism and b) how it might be expressing itself in your life. All roads lead to : Women are holy and pure and this really needs to stop at once. But how do we stop it? Ah well, we talk about that too. Have a great listen. (Love you K xx)

Welcoming back to the podcast, my dear friend and all round glorious human being, Ruhee Meghani!Fresh topic, and it's a conversation we should all be having. Today we are speaking on the emotion; rage.Touch stones: Normalising anger as a healthy and even positive emotionWomen and rage: societal and cultural narrativesThe impact / outcomes of supressing our rageFeeling, holding and expressing rage@selfwithlisaclarke

It is with great delight that I welcome Francessca O'Donnell to the Self Podcast.For so many of you listening Miss Francessca will need no introduction - which is a good thing, because sometimes someones energy is a difficult thing to put into words, particuarly when they have had such a great impact on your life.For those that don't know her, you are in for a real treat. (If you love treats that provide both warm comfort and colourful inspiration simultaneously).Enjoy stepping into her mind in this episode where we speak on creative thinking, creative doing and creative living! There is not one aspect of the creative prism that we do not hit in this conversation.I hope it leaves you feeling re-energised and ready for life. 

Ugh! This episode is rich in depth and flavour. Let me delay no further and introduce our guest, Tahlia Seinor. Join us as we speak on Identity; culture, society, womanhood, female frienships, and losing your identity in relationships.If you are seeking your north star, this conversation is a place to start.Thank you Tahlia for your wisdom and storytelling. Let's do again soon my friend. Find more about Tahlia here.@selfwithlisaclarke@_healwell

Anyone else feel totally not okay with the invisible expecations placed on us once in a relationship?Like, you MUST share a bed with that person for the rest of your life otherwise your relationship isn't okay. Or YOU MUST HAVE CHILDREN. Living in seperate homes as a long term couple?... avoidance issues! Seeking pleasure and sexual experiences outside of your couple? Is there is something wrong with you? And NEVER have extended time alone, are you insane??? Also, it is completely frowned apon to ever have kindred friendships with those of the same sex. YOU ARE IN A COUPLE NOW, aka yet another jail created by society.It's time to get out. Think big. Go left... sounds political. It's not....Or is it? (It's all very criptic this season with these titles, so happy to have you along for the ride).Bottom line : it's time to rebel a bit. A least in thought, and then maybe action if it feels right. These rules as to how we must show up in our romantic relationships, specifically as women, is tiresome. Grab your rubber and let's erase these edges. Time to go for what feels right.Lisa@selfwithlisaclarke

In my 7 seasons offering this podcast there have been a handful special episodes that I felt over-joyed and proud to publish. This conversation is right up there with that crowd, not because it is joyful - but because it is very important. I am grateful to be joined by my friend Millie Mickle in this episode, discussing the sensitive topics of domestic violence (DV for short) and feeling safe within a relationship.   I want to share with you, our listeners, that Millie and I have had conversations about our intention of language used within this episode. We acknowledge that this could be a really hard conversation to listen to, and our last intention is to heighten your nervous system. Thank you for trusting us to share this conversation as we strive to be intentionally soft, speaking on a very strong topic. Its really important that we all listen to this, regardless of gender, to understand how our world is currently moving and be learn to be conscious of our environments, circumstances and options. Please share with every woman you know. Lisa@selfwithlisaclarkeSupport Contacts: 13YARN - Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islanders crisis support line (13 92 76)1800respect (1800 737 732 )13 11 14 - Lifeline000 - Immediate dangerWomen's legal service

In the social narrative construct of which women and relevance are concered, let'e be real: society views (consicously or not) the following statements to be true;Women are relevant only when something is to be gained from them. Women are only relevant if they squish into tiny boxes that make society feel more comfortable.Women are less relevant as they age. The above statements can not be argued in my opinion, they are facts within our societal landscape. They are also unconsciously (and sometimes very consciously) accepted.But they are not the truth. Far from the truth, beloved woman. So join me, in this solo episode as I pick apart these narratives and together we strive to remember, and inwardly action, the truth. 

This week we welcome to the podcast my dear friend, Jacqueline Alexander! Difficult to extract prominent touch stones, this conversation is one big melting pot of dialogue around embracing change internally and externally, and cheering yourself on for dancing (not marching.. no thanks) to the beat of your own drum! And of course all of the above is in relation to women, because this season of the SELF podcast is dedicated to the woman! Because she is everything. Love love loved recording this episode with Jacqueline.Hope you enjoy.@selfwithlisaclarkeOur sponsor for this season is Viva Life

This week, we welcome my sister Ellen on the pod!As well as many little shared throwbacks into our years spent together as kids our conversation touch stones are;Ellen's childhood experiences with ADHDThe history and stigma of ADHDKnowing limits, and how one can learn to accept and express them comfortablyEllen's journey of self acceptance MaskingStrengths of a neurodivergent brainI loved recording this episode with El, and I really hope you enjoy listening. Lisa x@ellenbryantsounds@selfwithlisaclarke