47: The PIVOT...Not Going to Jamaica...

➡️ How to fix your relationship WITHOUT couples therapy: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com—What’s The Episode About:It’s Not Your Fault!We’ve been handed an old & broken relationship paradigm that stopped working DECADES ago… and relationships have been falling apart ever since. The breakdown in your relationships (all relationships) is NOT your fault (nor your partner’s). In this episode, I will show you the startling discovery I made about the old & broken relationship paradigm that we’ve been handed, the invisible ways it’s been destroying your relationships and the NEW relationship paradigm we invented to SOLVE the problem! This is revolutionary!! In this episode, I’ll show you the OLD relationship tactics and patterns (that you are unknowingly repeating every day) that BREAK DOWN relationships today… and the NEW relationship tactics and patterns that you can put in place instead… to BUILD UP your relationship!What’s great is… it will feel so much happier and peaceful to use the NEW way, and it brings a huge RELIEF to release the old & broken ways!!And the BEST PART… you don’t need to convince anyone else to DO THIS with you! Everything I will show you can be used by you, single-handedly, to build up any relationship in your life, even if the other person doesn’t want to learn this or hear about it!I made this discovery over 20 years ago… and for the last 14 years, we have taught thousands and thousands of people, from all across the globe, the NEW relationship approach to building up relationships (marriage, parenting, friends, family, work, etc.).And in that time, the students in our RelationshipU program have had a 1% DIVORCE RATE & a 99% success rate over a 6-year study period of their results! Those results are unheard of, and that’s because THIS WORKS! If you don’t know what I share with you in this episode, you are unnecessarily suffering and possibly likely to be blindsided by pain and upset in the future (and it’s not your fault). Don’t be left out… Find out what Demand Relationship™ and Relationship Development® are now!—Key Points Discussed:The old relationship way: Demand Relationship™ (00:00)The breakdown from the win-lose paradigm (03:40)The Two Roles in Demand Relationships™ (05:46)Introducing Relationship Development® (10:20)Final words (14:59)—Additional Links & Resources:🎧 Listen to the training on relationships being closed loops here: https://martinopodcast.com/podcast/02-can-this-unusual-cesar-millan-tactic-help-your-relationship/🚀 Catapult your relationship to the next level in just 3 days at our upcoming live online event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. Get your tickets here: https://relationshipbreakthroughretreat.com👉 (FREE VIDEO TRAINING): How to Fix Your Relationship Even If Your Partner REFUSES to Change: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com 👉 Before You Put Your Trust in the Hands of a Marriage Counselor, Watch This: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/lmt-optin-c 👉Get “The D.I.R.T.” Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers at http://MartinoPodcast.com/Dirt👉 Book a FREE 1:1 Session with an RDO Advisor: https://HelloRDO.com—We are Stacey & Paul Martino, the creators of the Relationship Development® Methodology. For 14 years, we have been helping thousands and thousands of people, from all over the world!Our Relationship Development Method empowers you to single-handedly transform your relationship, create your unshakeable love, and bring harmony to your home!Let’s connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceymartinordo/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StaceyMartinoLPC/—We are NOT mental health practitioners. The content in this podcast is based on our proprietary Relationship Development® Methodology, which is a skill-set based method for relating between humans. If you need mental health or safety assistance, please seek a professional immediately. 

➡️ How to fix your relationship WITHOUT couples therapy: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com—What’s The Episode About:Have you ever felt like everything around you — movies, social media, and society — insists it takes two to change a relationship? Couple’s counseling usually backs this idea, but let me tell you… it COULD NOT be farther from the truth!If there’s one thing we’ve proven from our 14 years of experience in transforming relationships, it’s THIS:One person is ALWAYS changing the relationship — whether they know it or not!In this episode, I share a personal (and unflattering) story from my days of being known as the “Ice Princess” — so NO JUDGING!This story is PROOF that it just takes ONE PERSON to change the dynamics of a relationship (and that ONE person was NOT even me!). If you feel like you’ve tried EVERYTHING to get your partner to change the relationship, this episode is a must!!Tune in to learn how you can single-handedly get the results you want in your relationships…without needing them to agree or get on board!—Key Points Discussed:Story time: That time Stacey threw a sandwich at a guy (00:00)How 1 guy changed everything in that moment (08:13)This 1 act can change someone else’s life forever (10:14)The Closed Loop tool you can reuse (11:30)Final words (13:24)—Additional Links & Resources:🎧 Listen to the explanation about relationships being closed loops here: https://martinopodcast.com/podcast/02-can-this-unusual-cesar-millan-tactic-help-your-relationship/🚀 Catapult your relationship to the next level in just 3 days at our upcoming live online event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. Get your tickets here: https://relationshipbreakthroughretreat.com👉 (FREE VIDEO TRAINING): How to Fix Your Relationship Even If Your Partner REFUSES to Change: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com 👉 Before You Put Your Trust in the Hands of a Marriage Counselor, Watch This: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/lmt-optin-c 👉Get “The D.I.R.T.” Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers at http://MartinoPodcast.com/Dirt👉 Book a FREE 1:1 Session with an RDO Advisor: https://HelloRDO.com—We are Stacey & Paul Martino, the creators of the Relationship Development® Methodology. For 14 years, we have been helping thousands and thousands of people, from all over the world!Our Relationship Development Method empowers you to single-handedly transform your relationship, create your unshakeable love, and bring harmony to your home!Let’s connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceymartinordo/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StaceyMartinoLPC/—We are NOT mental health practitioners. The content in this podcast is based on our proprietary Relationship Development® Methodology, which is a skill-set based method for relating between humans. If you need mental health or safety assistance, please seek a professional immediately. 

➡️ How to fix your relationship WITHOUT couples therapy: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com—What’s The Episode About:Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, it's NEVER enough to make your partner happy?Or you might be pleasing them at your own expense, and at some point you wonder “what about me?”If this is your reality, and you feel resentment bubbling up…let me be the one to tell you: NO, you're not crazy!!There’s a predictable pattern that CAUSES resentment! Until you see it, resentment can keep sneaking into your relationship, even when people have the best intentions.In a long-term relationship… I KNOW you’ve felt the INFURIATING feeling of sacrificing just to please someone else only to wind up in a situation where they are still unhappy!Unlike everything you’ve been taught… PLEASING others in relationship does NOT fix things and it usually BACKFIRES!This is a predictable pattern with a predictable outcome. In this episode, I’m going to REVEAL the predictable pattern that you UNKNOWINGLY keep falling into!There is a way to BUILD UP your relationship, without pleasing, without compromise and without settling for things you aren’t happy with! Let’s dive in!—Key Points Discussed:The predictable pattern loop of pleasing (00:00)In a long-term relationship and STILL pleasing? Here’s what to do instead (03:26)A real-life example of this strategy applied: student’s example (09:25)Final words (14:58)—Additional Links & Resources:🎧 Listen to the explanation about trigger boomerang loops here: https://martinopodcast.com/podcast/02-can-this-unusual-cesar-millan-tactic-help-your-relationship/🚀 Catapult your relationship to the next level in just 3 days at our upcoming live online event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. Get your tickets here: https://relationshipbreakthroughretreat.com👉 (FREE VIDEO TRAINING): How to Fix Your Relationship Even If Your Partner REFUSES to Change: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com 👉 Before You Put Your Trust in the Hands of a Marriage Counselor, Watch This: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/lmt-optin-c 👉Get “The D.I.R.T.” Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers at http://MartinoPodcast.com/Dirt👉 Book a FREE 1:1 Session with an RDO Advisor: https://HelloRDO.com—We are Stacey & Paul Martino, the creators of the Relationship Development® Methodology. For 14 years, we have been helping thousands and thousands of people, from all over the world!Our Relationship Development Method empowers you to single-handedly transform your relationship, create your unshakeable love, and bring harmony to your home!Let’s connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceymartinordo/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StaceyMartinoLPC/—We are NOT mental health practitioners. The content in this podcast is based on our proprietary Relationship Development® Methodology, which is a skill-set based method for relating between humans. If you need mental health or safety assistance, please seek a professional immediately.

➡️ How to fix your relationship WITHOUT couples therapy: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com—What’s The Episode About:Ever thought a dog trainer could teach you the secret to a happy relationship? (hehe)Before you run out and grab some puppy treats for your significant other (YIKES!) dive into this episode!There’s been an invisible dynamic happening in your HUMAN relationships… that is CAUSING kerfuffles! And it’s happening EVERY SINGLE DAY. In today’s episode, I’m going to reveal this POWERFUL dynamic and show you how you can use this Predictable Pattern to create the results you WANT in your relationship and stop some of the kerfuffles you do not want. And yes… I’m going to share a funny story about how Cesar Milan, The Dog Whisperer, has been teaching something about DOGS for decades…that can be applied to humans too! If you do NOT see these Closed Loop patterns in your relationship, then you are suffering unnecessarily! I’ll show you the piece you’ve been missing, so you can start creating the results you want!If you’re tired of the same old kerfuffles and ready for some harmony at home, this episode is here to help! Let’s dive in! —Key Points Discussed:How Cesar Milan’s approach to dogs is similar to relationships (00:00)How to apply this to humans (04:05)The closed loop of relationships (08:01)Examples of closed loops (11:20)Final words (15:50)—Additional Links & Resources:🚀 Catapult your relationship to the next level in just 3 days at our upcoming live online event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. Get your tickets here: https://relationshipbreakthroughretreat.com👉 (FREE VIDEO TRAINING): How to Fix Your Relationship Even If Your Partner REFUSES to Change: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com👉 Before You Put Your Trust in the Hands of a Marriage Counselor, Watch This: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/lmt-optin-c 👉Get “The D.I.R.T.” Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers at http://MartinoPodcast.com/Dirt👉 Book a FREE 1:1 Session with an RDO Advisor: https://HelloRDO.com—We are Stacey & Paul Martino, the creators of the Relationship Development® Methodology. For 14 years, we have been helping thousands and thousands of people, from all over the world!Our Relationship Development Method empowers you to single-handedly transform your relationship, create your unshakeable love, and bring harmony to your home!Let’s connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceymartinordo/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StaceyMartinoLPC/—We are NOT mental health practitioners. The content in this podcast is based on our proprietary Relationship Development® Methodology, which is a skill-set based method for relating between humans. If you need mental health or safety assistance, please seek a professional immediately. 

➡️ How to fix your relationship WITHOUT couples therapy: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/—We’re kicking off SEASON 2 of the Relationship Transformer Podcast with this Episode! Join Stacey Martino, founder of Relationship Development and inventor of the Relationship Development Method, as she dives into… What to do when “Love Isn’t Enough”When you feel STUCK because there’s “too much arguing”Eye-opening results that every-day students are getting using these solutionsThe ONE Mistake you can STOP making in relationships today to get better resultsHow you can get these results without convincing your partner to do this too.Stacey also dives into the 3 Things that MOST people think are the CAUSE of their relationship troubles…but they are WRONG, those 3 things are NOT the cause. She also REVEALS the eye-opening truth… the REAL CAUSE of relationship struggles (that no one showed you before).In this episode, Stacey dives into what WORKS to stop the arguments and increase harmony. She shares about the Relationship Development Method that she and Paul invented that has helped thousands of people, over the last 14 years, to single-handedly transform their relationship, save their marriage and bring harmony back to their home.So that you can be clear on whether or not Relationship Development could work for you, Stacey also shares what challenges the Relationship Development Method is designed to solve and gives a list of issues that the Relationship Development Method is NOT designed to solve.  This episode is packed with eye-opening revelations, so dive in. —Key Points Discussed:The old and broken relationship tactics (00:00)Relationship skill sets (04:36)Who Relationship Development does NOT work for (10:20)The results you can get with Relationship Development (18:28)Final words (22:21)—Additional Links & Resources:🚀 Catapult your relationship to the next level in just 3 days at our upcoming live online event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. Get your tickets here: https://relationshipbreakthroughretreat.com👉 (FREE VIDEO TRAINING): How to Fix Your Relationship Even If Your Partner REFUSES to Change: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com 👉 Before You Put Your Trust in the Hands of a Marriage Counselor, Watch This: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/lmt-optin-c 👉Get “The D.I.R.T.” Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers at http://MartinoPodcast.com/Dirt👉 Book a FREE 1:1 Session with an RDO Advisor: https://HelloRDO.com—We are Stacey & Paul Martino, the creators of the Relationship Development® Method. For over 14 years, we have been helping thousands and thousands of people, from all over the world with outstanding results!Our Relationship Development Method empowers you to single-handedly transform your relationship, create your unshakeable love, and bring harmony to your home!Let’s connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceymartinordo/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StaceyMartinoLPC/—We are NOT mental health practitioners. The content in this podcast is based on our proprietary Relationship Development® Methodology, which is a skill-set based method for relating between humans. If you need mental health or safety assistance, please seek a professional immediately. 

First things first, let’s celebrate the success of the July 2020 Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. This was the first RBR we did online. We reached so many more people than past in-person breakthrough retreats. We delivered multiple breakthroughs, and we were so happy to see people achieve great results.We are reimagining several of our programs to better serve you and we have several releases coming out this fall. One of them is the Relationship Development Parenting Program. It has three courses for you in the program - the 14-day boost program, the quick start program, and the yearlong program.With that said, we’ve retired the 2nd edition of the Relationship Breakthrough Quickstart Program. We are also creating a brand new Relationship Breakthrough Program that will be launching on September 23rd. We are so excited about this because the new program is completely reimagined with some awesome new features. The other huge announcement we want to make is that we will be holding, for the first time ever, a 2nd Relationship Breakthrough Retreat in a year in December. We’ve always wanted to hold two RBR events in a year and it is unbelievable that this year we’ll finally be able to do that.Key TakeawaysCelebrating the success of the July 2020 Relationship Breakthrough Retreat (02:45)Reimagining several of our programs to better serve you (07:07)The exciting new Relationship Development Parenting Program (07:34)How to get the RD Parenting Boost Program as a bonus (13:24)Retiring the 2nd edition of the Relationship Breakthrough Quickstart Program and creating a new Quickstart Program (15:58)Holding a 2nd Relationship Breakthrough Retreat in a year for the first time ever in December (23:17)Taking  our Relationship Development Methodology to as many families as we can (39:32)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share a talk that they recently had with their Relationship U students on what is going on in real life today behind closed doors when couples and families are stuck together because of the COVID-19 related self-quarantining. Paul and Stacey have been working very hard in sharing amazing tools and strategies on what people can do to avoid kerfuffles and all sorts of negative issues in their households, but it’s very hard for anyone to really tell just how effective they are. So they decided to share the raw, vulnerable, and real life testimonies of families that are successfully implementing those tools and strategies.One such testimony came from Joe and Adriana, a couple that has really benefited immensely from Paul and Stacey’s programs. The two have been married for 33 years, are empty nesters, and have been navigating the quarantine together so well despite the fact that a few years ago they could not even be in the same room together for even a few minutes. They’ve been having meals together, going out for walks every day, watching shows or plays, and doing many other fun things together. They had previously been separated for a year and a half, but finding Paul and Stacey’s programs changed everything, and now they are a true testament to just how effective Paul and Stacey’s tools and strategies are. Denise is another person who will share how the Relationship U program has changed her life in terms of teaching her to get deeper into the ownership of her happiness, and knowing that no matter what happens in the world, she’s responsible for her own happiness and needs in life. There are several other people who will share how relationship development has changed their lives, especially during the current pandemic where people are stuck together in their homes with each other. Tune in to find out how you can transform your own household and navigate this quarantine time in the best way possible.Key Points Discussed: How Joe and Adriana are navigating being together in the quarantine (01:33)How Paul and Stacey’s programs can make people better versions of themselves (03:34)Working on our happiness and needs before we can work on our relationships  (04:28)The true power of relationship development (08:25)The most appropriate time to practically apply the tools and strategies (11:08)Becoming the change that you want to see in your relationships (15:55)Taking a stand for your family so you can create a better legacy (18:53)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey will share part two of her talk on how couples (and parents) can maintain their sanity during these social distancing and self-quarantining times. She will talk about what she sees as two of the most common causes of kerfuffles that are going on right now and how to solve that, and how to deal with the effects of the current pandemic on our lives. She will also dive into how to look at everything that’s going on in a way that's empowering, as opposed to feeling like it’s all just happening to us.One of the things one must get rid of is unreasonable expectations and control. We must all drop a lot of our levels of control right now because our desire to want things to be a certain way will only lead to misery for us and others around us. One cannot control everybody else but they can set reasonable standards for others to follow when it comes to basic things in life. When something is complicated and out of one’s control, one should just let go of it. A great example of that is homeschooling. People have certain invisible expectations about what it should be like, but what they don’t realize is that it’s a full-time job, takes a lot of commitment, and is very stressful. Stacey will share her insights on how to really go about that and so much more, so stay tuned to learn how you can navigate this from the same place, increase the peace and harmony in your home, and decrease the kerfuffles. Key Points Discussed: Letting go of unreasonable expectations and certain levels of control (01:34)The difference between homeschooling and online schooling (04:01)The stress of trying to replace a teacher and give your kids the same learning experience they get at school (06:34)The temporary nature of more screen time for your kids during these challenging times (10:55)Using time chunks to focus on what’s important (14:21)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey will talk about how couples can maintain their sanity during these social distancing and self-quarantining times where parents have to be at home all day every day with their kids. She recently did training with their RelationshipU students on the same subject and it had immediate phenomenal results for those who applied the tools and strategies they learned in their households. Right now families are having a hard time being quarantined at home, and parents are having to navigate things that they’re not used to navigating. That is making frustrations and kerfuffles arise much more frequently and it’s causing more harm than good.Parents always have an uphill task of raising their kids while also working and making sure everything runs smoothly, and a lot of the times they take on too many things at the same time because they feel it’s their responsibility to do so. Running a household, for example, is a full-time job all on its own, and it can be quite taxing. Especially if the parent responsible also has to work a regular job to make ends meet. The first step to gaining some sanity is to look at all the things one takes on every day and dropping those that can be done by someone else. Stacey will talk about living a life in reaction and living a life by design, and how living a life by design is the only way to regain sanity, joy, and happiness in any household during these difficult times. Stay tuned as she shares some tools and strategies for reducing kerfuffles and increasing harmony during the current quarantine (and any other time you and your family find yourselves stuck together) to help you navigate everything as best as possible.Key Points Discussed: The importance of being reasonable about what can and cannot be done simultaneously (03:31)The frustrations of not being able to escape the craziness-relief pattern (06:38)The great opportunity the self-quarantine is creating (08:44)How to create sanity and predictability in your days (09:43)Creating a plan of how you're all going to operate together as a team (11:10)How time chunking can help in doing things more effectively and harmoniously (12:10)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey will share a recording that she made to talk about pivoting instead of canceling their Breakthrough in Paradise live event in Jamaica. She will talk about the decision that they made to pivot the event, what they will be doing instead, and how they made that decision in confidence and not fear. The live event was planned for next week, and Paul, Stacey, and 120 of their relationship students were going to Jamaica. They were all so desperate to get to that event and have an amazing time together on the islands, but it was not to be because with the whole Coronavirus pandemic going on, international travel was not so safe, and they wanted to ensure that their students were safe and protected. Despite that hiccup, they did not cancel the event and instead decided to pivot it and do it virtually. Stay tuned as she also shares how her and their team are working tirelessly to make the virtual event a reality, and hopefully, this episode will teach you how to make decisions in uncertain times in every aspect of your life. Enjoy!Key Points Discussed: Pivoting the five days unbelievable Breakthrough in Paradise live event (01:30)Decisions based on fear are always bad decisions (03:02)From live event to virtual event to keep the ball rolling (06:02)The need for all of us to give and support each other during this time (08:12)Teaching people how to reverse the kerfuffles in their households and increase harmony during this time of increased stress (10:59)Looking at the facts and what’s going on, and making decisions based on that (14:33)Being cautious, careful and smart, and avoiding crowded places (16:45)The foundation of demand relationship that pulls people apart (18:50)Don't do decisions based out of fear unless you want the boomerang (23:20)Additional Resources:The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com-Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat?Click here to get your ticket now!-You can find this episode and more at:MartinoPodcast.com-Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!