476: How To Not Settle In Your Relationship

As a relationship progresses most people will inevitably become more comfortable and complacent. In order to have a thriving long term relationship, we must take deliberate steps to avoid complacency, resentment and a loss of connection. Listen to today's show to learn the tools that will help you stay connected and create a loving and lasting relationship.  In this episode with Penny McGoey we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why it's important to remember that sometimes, "people change and forget to tell each other" How to use journaling to find out what is working and what is not in your relationship Getting clear and communicating what you want and need in your relationship The importance of nurturing gratitude in your relationship The value of making plans together and staying curious about your partner How Penny cultivated a positive mindset to be with "the best man I've ever known" And much more! Sponsored Amazfit is your own personal health management expert on your wrist. Head over to AMAZFIT.COM/IDO to get 15% off with the promo code "IDO". Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Relationships are difficult to navigate in the best of times. Dealing with infertility and other sexual health issues can add another layer of stress and disconnect in even the healthiest relationships. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to navigate these difficult times with grace and love.  In this episode with Gabriela Rosa we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to deal with the emotional challenges of infertility as a couple How to avoid blaming and communicate in a healthy way when dealing with sexual health issues The importance of communicating exactly what each person wants when it comes to having kids The value in distinguishing between venting and problem solving conversations How to communicate your needs effectively And much more! Sponsored BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. THESIS is a unique supplement with natural nootropic blends designed to enhance cognitive health and support memory over time. Head over to TakeThesis.com/IDO to take the free 3-minute quiz to find out what your brain needs and use code IDO to get $60 off your first subscription order when you sign up for Thesis. FIELD OF GREENS is a whole, organic fruit and vegetable supplement that provides real nutrition to support energy, sleep, and overall health. Go to FieldsOfGreen.com and use promo code "IDO" to get 15% off your first order and FREE rush shipping. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It may sound counterintuitive, but there are ways to embrace criticism to create more love in your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate criticism and communication in a more productive, loving way.  In this episode with Dr. Warren Farrel we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to not be defensive when dealing with criticism The importance of dedicated communication time with your partner each week Why loving someone is an art and a discipline that does not just happen on it's own What to do if you feel your partner is not putting effort into the relationship How to create and sustain a conflict free zone in your relationship Using journaling to process your emotions before communicating with your partner And much more! Sponsored Amazfit is your own personal health management expert on your wrist. Head over to AMAZFIT.COM/IDO to get 15% off with the promo code "IDO". Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating can feel overwhelming and challenging for many people. Navigating dating anxiety and fears can be easier when you have the right tools and awareness. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to date better while managing your anxiety and fears.  In this episode with Alistair Wolfe we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Recognizing our innate desire for connection while not losing yourself while dating Early steps for dating success and important questions to ask yourself Setting realistic expectations for what dating and relationships should look like What to do if you feel there is a lack of effort when you're dating The importance of being honest with yourself during the different stages of dating And much more! Sponsored BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. THESIS is a unique supplement with natural nootropic blends designed to enhance cognitive health and support memory over time. Head over to TakeThesis.com/IDO to take the free 3-minute quiz to find out what your brain needs and use code IDO to get $60 off your first subscription order when you sign up for Thesis. FIELD OF GREENS is a whole, organic fruit and vegetable supplement that provides real nutrition to support energy, sleep, and overall health. Go to FieldsOfGreen.com and use promo code "IDO" to get 15% off your first order and FREE rush shipping. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Money is one of the biggest causes of relationship conflict and divorce. Money can also be a personal strain that causes a great deal of stress and anxiety. Listen to today's show to learn how to get your finances in order and gain a deeper understanding of your relationship to money.  In this episode with Ben Hockema we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The different ways we think about money and the importance of understanding this for yourself and your partner Why we create different money mindsets and the biases we carry around money Creating agreements around money that work for your relationship Why some people look at money to increase security and others want to use it for experiences How to create real systems for your money management Understanding and communicating your goals around money And much more! Sponsored Amazfit is your own personal health management expert on your wrist. Head over to AMAZFIT.COM/IDO to get 15% off with the promo code "IDO" Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Betrayal is one of the hardest things to move through in life and relationships. Working toward forgiveness is a key factor in the healing process. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with betrayal, integrate it and forgive.  In this episode with Dr. Bruce Chalmer we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learning what exactly is betrayal and forgiveness  Why forgiveness is so hard How to manage the initial shock of betrayal Different ways to think about forgiveness How to deal with the fear that you may be betrayed again How to integrate pain and betrayal and rebuild trust And much more! Sponsored Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our childhood, religion, culture and many other factors all influence how we view sex and relationships as adults. Listen to today's show to better understand how these things have impacted your views so that you can take an informed approach to improving your sex and relationships.  In this episode with Ann Russo we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Religions impact on how we think about relationships How to understand our past and get to our authentic sexual selves Unpacking the cultural and religious messaging that women are not sexual Why we've been taught that women's sexuality is dangerous Promiscuity biases between men and women Shame around sex and how to create empowerment How to cultivate a flexible mindset and change your mind about sex and other relationship topics And much more! Sponsored BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some might say that the secret to happiness is managing your expectations. If you are operating with unrealistic expectations and frameworks, you can expect to be constantly disappointed and upset. LIsten to today's show to learn how to become aware of your thinking and create frameworks that serve you and your happiness.  In this episode with Nneka Symister we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to change your frameworks and expectations Social media's negative impact on relationships and expectations How to understand what it is that you want in a relationship The importance of creating agreements in your relationship and following through with them Why you must acknowledge that you will unintentionally hurt your partner and they will unintentionally hurt you as well And much more! Sponsored Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Defining your purpose in life and aligning it with your relationship is a big task. First we must get clear on many things and ask ourselves important questions. Listen to today's show to learn how to live a meaningful life and while thriving in your relationship.  In this episode with Molly Fletcher we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Important questions to ask yourself when performing an 'alignment audit'’ How to live into the most authentic version of yourself How to avoid complacency in your relationship The value in anticipating our partner's needs Getting clear on the legacy you want to leave behind And much more! Sponsored Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's easy to point the finger at our partner, friend or family member when things are not going well in the relationship. However, the solution to our problems often lies within ourselves. What an amazing thing to realize and embody! We have the power to create the change we want in our lives. Listen to today's show to learn how.  In this episode with Hilary Silver we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What is radical responsibility and how to start embodying the practice How we invite people to lie to us The importance of asking ourselves how we've contributed to a relationship issue How to create, and more importantly, hold your boundaries Why we get resentful when we don't fully express ourselves The importance of friendships outside of your romantic relationship And much more! Sponsored Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices