340 - 90% Of Your Relapses Are Predictable

In this episode, we explore the idea of "high bottom" porn use—when your life isn't falling apart, but you're still stuck and it's costing you. We discuss how people in this situation can break through denial and rationalizations to take more action. There is more freedom to be had! Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/348   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

One of my podcast heroes, Dan Miller, had a goal setting practice which I love.  “When I set my goals for the new year, I ruthlessly eliminate 15% of the things I’ve been doing to make room for the new things I want to do.” — Dan Miller, 48 Days Podcast Dan shares how it's important eliminate things you're doing before creating new commitments. In this episode, you'll learn how this goal setting practice is easily adapted to recovery and our big goal of being porn free. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/347   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

In this episode, I’m joined by my brother Sam Dobschuetz, as we open the Porn Free Radio mailbag answering questions like… What percentage of guys that do coaching with you achieve a porn free life? Any recommendations on a porn blocker or firewall? What is it actually like when you are in recovery for 60, 90, 200 days, a year, 5 years? How does the struggle change? Can you ever go back to the way things were, in any area of life? And finally… what constitutes a relapse and what constitutes a slip? Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/346   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

We just picked a new president here in the States. Maybe you heard? This season, I noticed my news consumption went way up. As I look back now at my feelings and motivations, I found some interesting connections to my old porn struggle. On this episode, I consider my vulnerability with consuming content and media as a recovered man. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/345   PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery:   Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear   Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com   Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev   1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

When solving a crime, detectives use motive, means, and opportunity to catch the criminal. In recovery, after a troubling episode, we can use the same logic to solve our relapse. Our ultimate goal is to prevent future crimes.    Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/344 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2024 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., Sammy D. (Sam Dobschuetz) and your host, Matt “The Dobber” Dobschuetz Join us for our fourth annual episode about our shared passion, NFL football. If you’re not an American football fan, you might just be after you listen to this episode! Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/343 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

A favorite trick of value investor Charlie Munger was inverse thinking. It's where you reverse the problem you're trying to solve. In this episode, we invert the challenge of going porn free. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/342 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

On this episode, I invite Dr. Amy Johnson, author of Just a Thought, to help us start examining our thoughts in a new way. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/341 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

Most relapses are predictable. So why are so often surprised by them? On this episode, Matt shares an episode from his Coffee with the Dobber series for contributors to Porn Free Radio. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/340 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching

Men use porn because they like the effect produced by it. The elusive sensation changes our state while we are using it. It provides a timely escape from our present reality. And even though we have taken steps to stop using porn we often are still are looking for the escape. I call this the bubble.  Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/339 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coaching