Regulating Emotions- #99

Navigating Youth Sports with Eric BellDiscover valuable strategies for supporting young athletes' development.Parents, welcome back to another insightful episode of the Parenting Athletic Kids Podcast. Today, we had the pleasure of speaking with Eric Bell, a former professional basketball player who has transitioned into youth athlete development. Eric's journey through sports has equipped him with unique perspectives on how parents can effectively support their young athletes.Eric's Journey in SportsEric grew up in Harlem, New York, where he started playing basketball at a young age. Thanks to his father's encouragement, he was introduced to the game with a basketball hoop on every birthday and Christmas. His early experiences in street basketball shaped his skills and passion for the sport. He fondly recalls winning championships at every level, attributing much of his success to the strong support system around him."A lot of times we make mistakes, but I was fortunate to have a good system around me to keep me at bay and keep me humble." — Eric BellHowever, like many athletes, Eric faced challenges during his college years, leading to a wake-up call that shaped his future. He emphasizes that failures can be blessings in disguise, as they often provide the motivation to improve.Lessons for ParentsOne of Eric's key messages for parents is the importance of stepping back and allowing their young athletes to express themselves. He advocates for open communication and being receptive to what the athlete needs."You have to be open enough, humble enough to take a step back and say, okay, we’re going at your pace." — Eric BellEric suggests that parents often come with preconceived notions about how conversations should go. Instead, he recommends adopting a flexible and neutral attitude, allowing the athlete to lead the discussion. This approach fosters a supportive environment where athletes feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and emotions.The Emotional Landscape of SportsNavigating the emotional ups and downs of youth sports can be tricky for both athletes and parents. Eric encourages parents to prepare for challenges by discussing potential hurdles with their children ahead of time. This proactive approach not only helps in managing expectations but also provides a framework for dealing with disappointments when they arise."Let’s prepare for these challenges and figure out how we’re gonna navigate through these tough stretches." — Eric BellFinal ThoughtsEric's insights remind us that the journey of a young athlete is not just about skill development; it encompasses emotional growth and life skills. By fostering open communication and being present for their children, parents can play a pivotal role in their athletes’ success.As Eric continues to develop his Players Development Club, he aims to fill the gaps in communication and support that many young athletes face. It’s a conversation worth having, both for parents and for the athletes themselves.If you want to dive deeper into Eric's experiences and insights, be sure to tune in to the full episode. #parentingathletickids #parentingathletickidspodcast #mentalperformance #mindrite #youthsports #sports #basketball

In this episode of the Parenting Athletic Kids Podcast, Travis Rogers and certified mental performance coach Paul Weidner dive into the essential character traits that every athlete should develop—Resilience and Competitiveness. Resilience is not just a buzzword; it's a critical skill for young athletes facing the ups and downs of sports and life.The Importance of Resilience-Resilience is about overcoming adversity and bouncing back when faced with challenges. Paul emphasizes that the lack of resiliency is often the root cause parents seek help for. Sports present numerous situations where things go wrong, and teaching kids how to handle these setbacks is vital."When something bad happens, how do you respond? That’s really the biggest thing." — Paul WeidnerTo build resilience, Paul suggests focusing on what athletes can control: their attitude, effort, and routines. By concentrating on these aspects, athletes can judge their performance on their efforts rather than purely on outcomes. This shift in focus helps them cultivate a mindset where they can recover from setbacks more effectively.Strategies for Parents-Travis shares practical steps parents can take to foster resilience in their children:Engage your athlete in conversations about what they can control in different situations—off the field, pre-game, in-game, and post-game. This clarity can empower them.Talk about strategies for resetting their mindset when things go wrong during a game. Whether it’s taking a deep breath or having a mental cue to refocus, having a plan can help them manage their emotions in the heat of the moment.Encourage your athlete to journal after games. Reflecting on what went well and what they want to improve can help separate the emotional aftermath of a game from their overall performance.Travis emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries around discussions about sports, ensuring they don’t linger on negative experiences and impact other aspects of life. "Set some parameters so it doesn't just drag and drag." — Travis RogersThe second trait discussed in this podcast is competitiveness. Paul and Travis discuss the importance of parents identifying what competitiveness looks like and means to the athlete. They once again discuss focusing on controllables to build competiveness.ConclusionFostering resilience and competitiveness in young athletes is crucial for their development both on and off the field. By encouraging them to focus on controllable factors, providing them with tools to reset after setbacks, and having structured discussions about their performance, parents can play a pivotal role in helping their children thrive.For a deeper dive into these insights, listen to the full episode of the Parenting Athletic Kids Podcast and explore how you can support your young athletes in becoming more resilient individuals.#parentingathletickids #mentalperformance #mindrite #resilience #compete

Discover the evolving strategies for training athletes effectively.In this episode of the Parenting Athletic Kids Podcast, we dive deep into the fascinating world of skill acquisition in sports with our guests Kyle Dupik, a pitching coach at Wartburg College, and Paul Weidner, a certified mental performance coach. Together, they explore how understanding the nuances of skill development can transform the way athletes train and perform.The Framework of Skill Acquisition-Kyle begins by explaining the role of a Certified Skill Acquisition Specialist and the underlying framework of ecological dynamics. This approach moves away from viewing athletes as mere computers to understand them as holistic individuals. Kyle emphasizes the importance of adapting training methods to suit the athlete’s evolving needs, rather than relying solely on repetitive drills.“Skill is a little slippery... one day you seem to be performing really well, and then the very next day you're not performing.” — Kyle DupikFixed vs. Variable Practice-A significant topic discussed is the difference between fixed practice and variable practice. Fixed practice involves repetitive drills in a controlled environment, while variable practice introduces unpredictability and adapts to real-game scenarios. Kyle explains that while fixed practice may build confidence, variable practice is crucial for developing adaptable athletes who can perform under pressure.“The research is really clear. Variable is more effective because it's what actually happens in the game.” — Kyle DupikWhen to Shift Training Approaches-Travis Rogers poses an important question: when should an athlete transition from fixed to more variable training? Kyle suggests that younger athletes, who naturally exhibit a wide range of variability, may benefit from more structured environments initially. As they grow and develop their skills, introducing variability can enhance their adaptability and performance in competitive settings.“We're really looking for that sweet spot... where can they have some sense of success, excitement?” — Kyle DupikConclusion-This episode is rich with insights for coaches and athletes alike. Understanding the science of skill acquisition can lead to more effective training methods that not only enhance performance but also foster a deeper connection between the athlete and their sport. For a deeper dive into these concepts and more practical tips from Kyle and Paul, tune into the full episode of the Parenting Athletic Kids Podcast!#mentalperformance #getyourmindrite #mindrite #skillacquisition #masterthementalgame #sports #parentingathletickids

In this week’s episode, we explore the remarkable journey of Ryan Vonderchek, a former player turned coach and head of pitching operations for the Minnesota Renegade Club baseball team. Ryan's story is a testament to perseverance, passion, and the transformative power of sports.Ryan's story starts in Cedar Rapids, Iowa, where he faced significant health challenges from a young age. Born with a hole in his heart, he learned early on that every moment is a blessing. This perspective shaped his understanding of life and sports."Every second of life is a blessing," Ryan reflects on his childhood experiences.As he navigated through therapy and bullying in school, baseball became his sanctuary. Despite being bullied for his appearance and needing glasses, the game offered him solace and a sense of belonging.The High School ExperienceIn high school, Ryan continued to face challenges, including being undersized compared to his peers. Yet, he found joy in the game and leaned into his faith, which played a crucial role in his perseverance. His hard work paid off when he contributed to his team’s historical success, helping them achieve a remarkable 41-2 record.College and CoachingRyan took his journey to Hibbing Community College, where he learned the true grit required in competitive sports. Under the guidance of impactful coaches, he discovered his passion for coaching and mentorship. "It’s important that we’re where our feet are at and we go where that connection is," Ryan emphasizes the significance of finding the right environment for growth.His commitment to the sport and dedication to improvement led him to Crown College, where he achieved notable accolades, including holding the lowest earned run average in school history.Building RelationshipsNow, as the head of pitching operations at Minnesota Renegade, Ryan emphasizes the importance of building relationships with young athletes. He believes that understanding each athlete's unique journey helps foster their development not only as players but as individuals."When we see them as people first, their athletic drive increases," Ryan shares.He advocates for allowing young athletes to explore their passions freely, ensuring that sports remain a source of joy and growth, rather than pressure.Final ThoughtsRyan Vonderchek's story is more than just about baseball; it’s about resilience, faith, and the relationships we build along the way. His journey reminds us to cherish the small victories and the moments that shape our lives.To hear more about Ryan's inspiring story and insights into coaching young athletes, be sure to listen to the full episode.#mindrite #getyourmindrite #parentingathletickids #parentingathletickidspodcast #youthsports #mentalperformance

As parents, we often find ourselves deeply invested in our children’s athletic journeys, sometimes to a fault. In this episode of the Parenting Athletic Kids Podcast, Travis Rogers and certified Mental Performance Coach Paul Weidner share five essential insights to help parents foster a healthier perspective on youth sports.1. It’s Not as Big a Deal as You Think Travis reflects on his son’s decision to step away from baseball after many years, prompting a reevaluation of what truly matters in youth sports. He emphasizes, "A game, a tournament, a season, even a bunch of seasons isn’t as big a deal as you think it is." Understanding this can help parents maintain perspective and reduce pressure on young athletes.2. Focus on ControllablesThe next step is to shift focus toward what young athletes can control. Paul notes, "When we talk about controllables, we are getting closer to building the competitor, the resilient person, the high character person, the relational person that we want." By emphasizing effort, teamwork, and attitude over outcomes, we can create a supportive environment for growth.3. Emphasize GrowthAs Travis and Paul discuss, the goal isn’t just about winning games but nurturing character. "What do I want my son or daughter to really get out of this experience?" Travis asks, urging parents to prioritize personal development over athletic success.4. Avoid Pressuring Your AthleteTravis highlights the importance of avoiding undue pressure on young athletes. He shares a personal strategy of taking notes during games to remind himself to keep the focus on the bigger picture, rather than the game’s immediate results. 5. Normalize Negative EmotionsLastly, it’s crucial to recognize that negative emotions are part of the journey. Paul reinforces this by stating that it’s okay for athletes to experience disappointment. "Understanding that negative emotions are okay is key to supporting our kids through their athletic endeavors." Reflecting on these insights can help parents manage their emotions and approach their child’s sports experience with a balanced mindset. Remember, the ultimate goal is not just about athletic performance but also about the life lessons learned along the way. #parentingathletickids #parentingathletickidspodcast #mentalperformance #youthsports #mindrite

Parents, welcome back to another insightful episode of the Parenting Athletic Kids Podcast. In todays podcast, we dive deep into the transformative power of fitness for young athletes with our guest, James Anderson, founder of Better Everyday Athletics.In our conversation, James emphasizes that exercise goes far beyond physical benefits. It’s not just about building muscle or improving performance; it’s about enhancing mental well-being. "Not only does exercise do so much more for you than just simply the physical benefits, it gives you endorphins, it gives you that dopamine release...When you're fit, your confidence goes through the roof. And that confidence shows in every area of life, not just sports.” – James Anderson When young athletes feel physically capable and healthy, they develop resilience and confidence that transcends the playing field, affecting their daily lives and overall happiness.James and I discussed the pressures young athletes face in competitive sports. Parents often focus too heavily on performance, but James suggests a shift in approach. Instead of criticizing, parents can ask open-ended questions that encourage self-reflection. For example, instead of saying “You need to try harder,” ask, “Do you think you're giving your best effort right now?” This helps kids focus on their effort rather than the scoreboard, fostering a healthier mindset.A significant takeaway from our discussion is the importance of parents modeling healthy behaviors. James shares insights from his book, *Legacy of Health*, which emphasizes that children learn more from what they see than what they’re told. To combat this, parents should engage in physical activities alongside their children, setting a positive example that promotes a healthier lifestyle.## Practical Steps for ParentsIf you’re a parent seeking to instill healthy habits in your children, consider these practical steps:1. **Set a Routine**: Incorporate family activities like walks or bike rides into your weekly schedule.2. **Be Active Together**: Join your kids in sports or fitness classes to show that exercise is fun.3. **Encourage Positivity**: Use positive reinforcement when discussing sports or physical activities, focusing on effort rather than outcomes.As you navigate the world of youth sports, remember that the ultimate goal is not merely to win but to foster joy, resilience, and confidence in your young athletes. For more from James and to dive deeper into these topics, listen to the full episode. Let’s work together to build a legacy of health for our children!#parentingathletickids #mentalperformance #youthsports #mindrite

As parents of young athletes, it's easy to get caught up in the highs and lows of their performance. You might find yourself fixated on stats, game outcomes, and playing time. However, there are foundational elements that can help your child succeed both on and off the field. In todays podcast with Mental Performance Coach Paul Weidner, we'll explore the four critical components all parents should encourage: resilience, being a great teammate, focusing on the process, and cultivating a growth mindset.#mentalperformance #mindrite #youthsports

Finding the right emotional balance can be pivotal for performance. In today's podcast with Mental Performance Coach Paul Weidner, we explore how you can help your son or daughter to better understand and regulate their emotions. #mindrite #mentalperformance #youthsports #parentingathletickids

Chris Ryan is a former Division 1 athlete from the University of Florida, where he specialized in the 800 meters. Now a father of three, Chris combines his athletic experience with his parenting journey. His unique perspective offers valuable insights for parents aiming to nurture their children’s athletic potential.#parentingathletickids #mindrite #mentalperformance #youthsports

Most athletes think they need to have success in order to compete with confidence. But, how will they ever have success if they don't first have confidence? This can be a confusing & potentially destructive cycle.In today's episode with Mental Performance Coach Paul Weidner, we discuss how parents can help their athlete cultivate confidence based on factors other than success. #parentingathletickids #mentalperformance #youthsports #confidence