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Play is available to us as a powerful tool to bring more play into intimacy. When we are having “problems” in the bedroom, play is a wonderful way to break us out of the frustration. It’s also a wonderful tool to help us be more open to our partners and the pleasure available to us. Play is a tool that sets a foundation of safety and allows us to move through zones of discomfort with the greatest level of ease. It gets you out of your head, without being dismissive. Intimacy can be birthed from fun, play and laughter. How to amp up the play: -Don’t censor your weird -Be willing to laugh at yourself -Remove the expectation of what it’s supposed to look like -Open yourself to the possibility that laughter can live in intimate spaces -Allow the joy to grow and spread Remember, laughter is the one one thing worth faking in the bedroom! Wishing you orgasmic joy, fun and all the playfulness you can muster. We’ll see you next season! --- You can connect with both Alise and Lisa online. OMG-Spot Podcast Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/OMGSpotPodcast Pod.Link: https://pod.link/1505607260 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyZpVQR3uzMCNsZzOebAGeUnMrFYmWUgA Alise Shelman YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDcF0jOCzguNyXQtnlFIuqQ Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: The Other Side of Broken: An Empath’s Guide to Overcoming Depression Coming Home: Soul Discovery Sessions in the Akashic Records Website: Lisa Wade YouTube:  https://youtube.com/c/LisaWadeAlchemy FaceBook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/sealchemy Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: Real. Big. Love. A Difference Maker’s Guide to Gain Greater Clarity, Energy and Impact for Your Cause and Life Dirt Road Divinity (forthcoming in 2021) Website:  https://lisawade.mykajabi.com

Radical honesty is saying things just as they are. It is not shaping or filtering your language in a way that you think the other person is willing/able to receive it. What is required for to be in place for radical honesty to be the next step on your journey of intimacy: -Is communication a value? -Are you able to hold safe space for each other without immediately being triggered and shutting down? Are you clear on how to set the stage for this? -Are you willing to surrender to vulnerability and get emotionally naked and bare? -Is this level of honesty consensual? We resist sharing ourselves with others to the extent that we are making our past/fears/perspectives mean something about us that it doesn’t. Radical honesty with a partner begins with radical honesty within ourselves. We can only be as intimate with someone else as we are willing to be with ourselves. You won’t really know if you’re ready for radical honesty until you set the stage and give it a try. And willing to fail and willing to try again. Wishing you happy, radical and deeply intimate orgasms that are birthed from radical honesty. You can connect with both Alise and Lisa online. OMG-Spot Podcast Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/OMGSpotPodcast Pod.Link: https://pod.link/1505607260 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyZpVQR3uzMCNsZzOebAGeUnMrFYmWUgA Alise Shelman YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDcF0jOCzguNyXQtnlFIuqQ Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: The Other Side of Broken: An Empath’s Guide to Overcoming Depression Coming Home: Soul Discovery Sessions in the Akashic Records Website: Lisa Wade YouTube:  https://youtube.com/c/LisaWadeAlchemy FaceBook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/sealchemy Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: Real. Big. Love. A Difference Maker’s Guide to Gain Greater Clarity, Energy and Impact for Your Cause and Life Dirt Road Divinity (forthcoming in 2021) Website:  https://lisawade.mykajabi.com

Does the “Upper Limit” in pleasure really exist? Or are we creating a glass ceiling to prevent too much pleasure, joy, connection, in our lives? And if so, how can you get out of your head and back into the flow of pleasure? Join Lisa and Alise as they dive into making your brain an ally to create a more fluid, joyful life. The Upper Limit problem, and all that goes along with it, represents way too much thinking and not enough feeling.Pleasure doesn’t exist in our head…it’s in our body in the physical sensations and emotional response.  When we are in our heads about it, we disconnect from the real embodiment of pleasure. Some solutions to explore: -Move the body. Be connected to the body. An intentional movement practice can help enhance embodiment of pleasure when the brain attempts to intervene. -Energy follows intention, so moving our thoughts / attention to what feels good in our body can help focus attention on the pleasure rather than on the potentially complicating thoughts. -Reframing unhelpful thoughts, even in throes of intimacy, can help the brain be an ally rather than adversary. -Presence matters.  Thoughts are feedback. What do you need most right now to be supported? -Every act is either an act of love or a call for love. Looking at intimacy through that lens can help heal and lead to greater intimacy, or show where change may be needed. -Accountability for our thoughts is critical.  If we are taking accountability for 80% of our stuff and spending 20% in victim mode, that 20% is where the limitations and toxic/wounded thoughts and disconnection grow. Ultimately, rather than claim the brain is an asshole and push it away and ignore it, can we love the brain anyway and allow ourselves to upgrade the programming – alchemize it through love – so we have more space and openness to receive. --- You can connect with both Alise and Lisa online. OMG-Spot Podcast Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/OMGSpotPodcast Pod.Link: https://pod.link/1505607260 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyZpVQR3uzMCNsZzOebAGeUnMrFYmWUgA Alise Shelman YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDcF0jOCzguNyXQtnlFIuqQ Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: The Other Side of Broken: An Empath’s Guide to Overcoming Depression Coming Home: Soul Discovery Sessions in the Akashic Records Website: Lisa Wade YouTube:  https://youtube.com/c/LisaWadeAlchemy FaceBook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/sealchemy Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: Real. Big. Love. A Difference Maker’s Guide to Gain Greater Clarity, Energy and Impact for Your Cause and Life Dirt Road Divinity (forthcoming in 2021) Website:  https://lisawade.mykajabi.com

Highlights from this exploration include: -Do I feel safe? Safe to be fully seen and fully expressive? -Is there communication during the act? Can I request that I be touched in a certain way? -Is there room to explore? An opportunity to push the edges and see what else is available? -Are we enhancing intimacy or detracting from intimacy? -What limiting beliefs may be getting in your way? Are you shaming yourself for wanting good sex? -Is getting stuck in your head cockblocking your sexual potential? -How does approaching sex from a heart-centered space impact your receptivity of pleasure? -Are you allowing yourself to experience intimacy through the eyes of your partner? -Is permission to take baby steps present? -Are you making your current situation mean something about your, your partner or your relationship that may not really be true? Ultimately, Lisa and Alise hit on the notion that a heart-centered and communicative approach, surrendering expectation of a specific outcome, and a willingness to explore help make up the recipe for good sex. Wishing you better and better sex. --- You can connect with both Alise and Lisa online. OMG-Spot Podcast Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/OMGSpotPodcast Pod.Link: https://pod.link/1505607260 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyZpVQR3uzMCNsZzOebAGeUnMrFYmWUgA Alise Shelman YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDcF0jOCzguNyXQtnlFIuqQ Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: The Other Side of Broken: An Empath’s Guide to Overcoming Depression Coming Home: Soul Discovery Sessions in the Akashic Records Website: Lisa Wade YouTube:  https://youtube.com/c/LisaWadeAlchemy FaceBook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/sealchemy Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: Real. Big. Love. A Difference Maker’s Guide to Gain Greater Clarity, Energy and Impact for Your Cause and Life Dirt Road Divinity (forthcoming in 2021) Website:  https://lisawade.mykajabi.com

In this episode, co-hosts Alise and Lisa explore the importance of sensual communication – not *just* sexy talk, but a willingness to have real, meaningful conversations about all things pleasure. What bedroom topics have you explored with your partner? Lisa and Alise are here to remind you: Your partner is not a mind reader. Keep the crystal ball expectations out of the bedroom and let open, honest communication lubricate the fun! Our brains like to fill in the blanks.  If we fail to communicate, it leaves the brain open to make up all kinds of stuff.  These assumptions and stories can be pleasure and connection killers. Intentional communication helps deepen connection that allows for more pleasurable intimacy. Communication creates receptivity.  The sacral and throat chakras are a natural pair to work well together to help enhance enjoyment on all levels. Sexy Talk vs Total Turn-Off Words: Different people have turn-ons and turn-offs in the word choice and story-telling departments during steamy times.  Do you know your preferences?  Have you communicated those preferences?  Do you know your partners preferences, too? Whose Responsibility is Your Pleasure?  WHOA!  Lisa and Alise open a whole can of worms when they dive into the differences between codependency, independence, and inter-dependency when it comes to pleasure. Co-Dependence:  My pleasure is your job. Independence:  My pleasure is my job. Inter-dependence: Taking ownership together that we are going to strive toward mutual pleasure and satisfaction together. Let’s not make challenges in the bedroom “problems to solve.” Rather than being “problems to solve,” challenges in the bedroom can be seen as “mysteries to explore.” And that feels a hell of a lot more fun! --- You can connect with both Alise and Lisa online. OMG-Spot Podcast Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/OMGSpotPodcast Pod.Link: https://pod.link/1505607260 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyZpVQR3uzMCNsZzOebAGeUnMrFYmWUgA Alise Shelman YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDcF0jOCzguNyXQtnlFIuqQ Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: The Other Side of Broken: An Empath’s Guide to Overcoming Depression Coming Home: Soul Discovery Sessions in the Akashic Records Website: Lisa Wade YouTube:  https://youtube.com/c/LisaWadeAlchemy FaceBook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/sealchemy Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: Real. Big. Love. A Difference Maker’s Guide to Gain Greater Clarity, Energy and Impact for Your Cause and Life Dirt Road Divinity (forthcoming in 2021) Website:  https://lisawade.mykajabi.com

How are past lovers impacting you? What lasting energetic influence do sexual encounters really have? Are you being programmed in a way you’ve yet to even imagine? Join Lisa and Alise as they dive deep into the lasting impacts of your sexual past. In this episode, Lisa shares how she unraveled money stories, health problems, heart walls, and so much more that were tied to her first sexual encounter. Features from the show include the exploration of: How SEX is sexual energy (e)xchange. Are you holding energetic residue from past lovers and what impact is that having in your life? If past lovers impact our sacral chakra and our sacral governs money, health and relationships, what programming might we be holding that isn’t ours? How to stay in our sacral power and operate as a light activator in the bedroom How is our response to those encounters additionally charging sexual experiences? Is it possible to fully release the energetic residue of others when we haven’t fully received all the wisdom from it? May pleasure and orgasms find you with ease. --- You can connect with both Lisa and Alise online. OMG-Spot Podcast Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/OMGSpotPodcast Pod.Link: https://pod.link/1505607260 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyZpVQR3uzMCNsZzOebAGeUnMrFYmWUgA Lisa Wade YouTube:  https://youtube.com/c/LisaWadeAlchemy FaceBook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/sealchemy Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: Real. Big. Love. A Difference Maker’s Guide to Gain Greater Clarity, Energy and Impact for Your Cause and Life Dirt Road Divinity (forthcoming in 2021) Website:  https://lisawade.mykajabi.com Alise Shelman YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDcF0jOCzguNyXQtnlFIuqQ Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: The Other Side of Broken: An Empath’s Guide to Overcoming Depression Coming Home: Soul Discovery Sessions in the Akashic Records

Sex comes in many forms. In addition to the physical aspect, there is also a mental, emotional and spiritual component. How do these aspects intertwine and can the quickie be just as intimate as making love? Join Lisa and Alise as they dive into sex energetics and what’s at play behind each act. Features of this exploration include: Is your brain an asshole and getting in the way of receiving pleasure during sex? Is Lisa really the Queen of Down + Dirty? What determines our level of intimacy and how does being seen play a role? How can you meet your partner half way and are you willing to communicate your needs and desires? Making someone else’s actions mean something about you can have a dark side and a light side. What side are you playing on? Sexual mindset and affirmations are where it’s at Becoming a sexual Goddess May pleasure and orgasms find you with ease. --- You can connect with both Lisa and Alise online. OMG-Spot Podcast Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/OMGSpotPodcast Pod.Link: https://pod.link/1505607260 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyZpVQR3uzMCNsZzOebAGeUnMrFYmWUgA Lisa Wade YouTube:  https://youtube.com/c/LisaWadeAlchemy FaceBook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/sealchemy Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: Real. Big. Love. A Difference Maker’s Guide to Gain Greater Clarity, Energy and Impact for Your Cause and Life Dirt Road Divinity (forthcoming in 2021) Website:  https://lisawade.mykajabi.com Alise Shelman YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDcF0jOCzguNyXQtnlFIuqQ Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: The Other Side of Broken: An Empath’s Guide to Overcoming Depression Coming Home: Soul Discovery Sessions in the Akashic Records

Lisa and Alise discuss the energetic differences between root chakra sex and sacral chakra sex, and why opening to sacral sex is empowering for pleasure and personal growth. A sexy, satisfied sacral inspires us to live a more turned on life in so many juicy ways: It’s the seat of creativity – the womb of creation. The inner muse is fired up here. Passion is rooted in the sacral Willingness and ability to receive pleasure and other benefits in life Willingness and ability to be seen in all your glorious splendor Joy, flexibility, and adaptability Willingness and ability to experience the full range of emotions Financial flow Enhanced manifestation and magnetization The sacral influences how we experience money, health, and sex.  When the sacral is open and supported and flowing, these can be experienced through pleasure rather than fear or constriction. Societal conditioning and religious dogma have attempted to shame, frighten, and guilt us out of our sacral power.  Having a sacral conversation is a rebellious act. By reminding people of the power of their sacral, the more we take away the power of those who would like to control us as sheep. The sacral relationship with the root chakra (center for safety and security energies) is essential for fully opening to the power, pleasure, and meaningful connection amplified through sacral energy. Sacred self-pleasure is a powerful tool to intentionally shift our relationship with pleasure, to move us out of our critter brain and shift us into the quantum field where all things are possible. And, so much more juiciness… --- You can connect with both Alise and Lisa online. OMG-Spot Podcast Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/OMGSpotPodcast Pod.Link: https://pod.link/1505607260 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyZpVQR3uzMCNsZzOebAGeUnMrFYmWUgA Alise Shelman YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDcF0jOCzguNyXQtnlFIuqQ Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: The Other Side of Broken: An Empath’s Guide to Overcoming Depression Coming Home: Soul Discovery Sessions in the Akashic Records Lisa Wade YouTube:  https://youtube.com/c/LisaWadeAlchemy FaceBook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/sealchemy Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: Real. Big. Love. A Difference Maker’s Guide to Gain Greater Clarity, Energy and Impact for Your Cause and Life Dirt Road Divinity (forthcoming in 2021) Website:  https://lisawade.mykajabi.com

In this “super fucking fantastic” episode, Alise and Lisa dive into the idea of Grace in the Receive of pleasure. Highlights include: Fully receiving is a continually evolving process that requires us to shift our stories so we open our heart and our mind to allow greater pleasure. Magnetizing through sacral energy brings yummy goodness your way. The trick is to receive it with grace, rather than cockblocking the Universe. The stories and shoulds and guilt that run rampant in our brain can be a huge turn-off and roadblock to our pleasure. Sacred pleasure may require us to shift our stories and elevate our sense of worthiness to completely receive the enormous pleasure available to us. Brains can be tricky little bastards. It’s easy to feel good, until we start overthinking the pleasure and receive. Intentional Big O and work with our own inner sacred energies powerfully supercharge manifestation. Our job is to not cockblock pleasure that other people or the Universe are trying to deliver. When it comes to manifestation, the moment we try to control the process, we contract the process. We have two jobs when it comes to manifesting:  know what you want and know how to receive it. Don’t muck up the process by focusing on the how. To allow greater grace, shift your perspective. Make it less about you and more about partnership.Then, we don’t block the giver’s pleasure in giving to us. Our opportunity is to allow the receive to feel good, to feel pleasurable, instead of making it feel bad through our thoughts and stories that don’t feel good. Stories:  constrictive and restrictive or expansive and limitless? The stories are there for a reason, often to perpetuate the perception of safety. But as we stretch to receive more pleasure and our heart’s desire, then we need to shift our stories to stretch our willingness and ability to receive them. How to shift thoughts requires awareness first. Then, asking what else is possible and throw in some self-pleasure and work it out for real. Fuck yes! we can enjoy the non-sexual, non-orgasmic pleasure, too.  Let’s feel “super fucking fantastic” about the receive, too. OMG-Spot Podcast Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/OMGSpotPodcast Pod.Link: https://pod.link/1505607260 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyZpVQR3uzMCNsZzOebAGeUnMrFYmWUgA Lisa Wade YouTube:  https://youtube.com/c/LisaWadeAlchemy FaceBook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/sealchemy Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: Real. Big. Love. A Difference Maker’s Guide to Gain Greater Clarity, Energy and Impact for Your Cause and Life Dirt Road Divinity (forthcoming in 2021) Website:  https://lisawade.mykajabi.com Alise Shelman YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDcF0jOCzguNyXQtnlFIuqQ Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: The Other Side of Broken: An Empath’s Guide to Overcoming Depression Coming Home: Soul Discovery Sessions in the Akashic Records

In this episode, Alise and Lisa share the big shifts taking place in their lives as they continually dive into sacred self-pleasure practices and the ever-expanding journey that unfolds as a result. Features from the show include the exploration of: Pleasure sourcing from the mind  Lisa living in a state of perpetual blush as she replaces her battery operated boyfriend with some major mental stimulation of a real live man How we are capable of emotionally hurting ourselves more than anyone else could ever do to us Sacral pleasure creating the foundation of safety for opening the heart Holding on to the past is the only way it becomes part of the future story Starting where you are and allowing pleasure where it feels safe as a means of expanding pleasure everywhere Including a partner in sexual alchemy practices Allowing intention + surrender to be the ultimate guide Becoming an activator of sexuality for others Cheers to exploring all the ways in which pleasure may present itself! --- You can connect with both Lisa and Alise online. OMG-Spot Podcast Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/OMGSpotPodcast Pod.Link: https://pod.link/1505607260 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyZpVQR3uzMCNsZzOebAGeUnMrFYmWUgA Lisa Wade YouTube:  https://youtube.com/c/LisaWadeAlchemy FaceBook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/sealchemy Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: Real. Big. Love. A Difference Maker’s Guide to Gain Greater Clarity, Energy and Impact for Your Cause and Life Dirt Road Divinity (forthcoming in 2021) Website:  https://lisawade.mykajabi.com Alise Shelman YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDcF0jOCzguNyXQtnlFIuqQ Books available on Amazon and other booksellers: The Other Side of Broken: An Empath’s Guide to Overcoming Depression Coming Home: Soul Discovery Sessions in the Akashic Records