Why does having therapy sometimes feel worse than the problem it's supposed to help?

Why making your clients feel good at the end of the session might not be a good measure of your successHeads-upEpisode #20, "The Road Of Fire And Ice" will drop on 25th November 2026.LinksYou can read the article this is based on here.To find out about my monthly newsletter for tapping practitioners, click here.To find out more about my in person and group mentoring opportunities, click here. Image by RuyfBarros from Pixabay, intro music, 'The Beat Of Nature', is courtesy of folk_acoustic from Pixabay

People go to therapy because they want to feel better. Their lives may feel cramped and painful and they want to feel free. Sometimes the process of change can be quite uncomfortable, especially if their difficulties are deep rooted and pervasive. Why does this happen?Heads-upEpisode #19, "The Feelgood Factor Might Not Be So Good" will drop on 11th November 2026.LinksYou can read the article this is based on here.To find out about my monthly newsletter for tapping practitioners, click here.To find out more about my in person and group mentoring opportunities, click here. Image courtesy of lburgan from Pixabay, intro music, 'The Beat Of Nature', is courtesy of folk_acoustic from Pixabay

How to help your clients use mental rehearsal to explore the consequences of different choices so they can make better decisions.Heads-upEpisode #18, "Why does having therapy sometimes feel worse than the problem it's supposed to help?" will drop on 28th October 2026.LinksYou can read the article this is based on here.To find out about my monthly newsletter for tapping practitioners, click here.To find out more about my in person and group mentoring opportunities, click here. Photo by Kalle Kortelainen on Unsplash, intro music, 'The Beat Of Nature', is courtesy of folk_acoustic from Pixabay

Sometimes making the desired change can be uncomfortable for the client and the practitioner. Understandably they may want to move on quickly to escape that discomfort. If the practitioner is tempted to offer 'premature reassurance' this may not be nearly as helpful as it seems.Heads-upEpisode #17, "Preemptive Hindsight" will drop on 14th October 2026.LinksYou can read the article this is based on here.To find out about my monthly newsletter for tapping practitioners, click here.To find out more about my in person and group mentoring opportunities, click here. Image by  ElasticComputeFarm from Pixabay. intro music, 'The Beat Of Nature', is courtesy of folk_acoustic from Pixabay

On a good day, our clients tell us exactly what is going on with them in a way that makes it easy to tap.More often, our clients give us a mixture of straightforward descriptions of what is going on for them and hints about what might be going on that they might not even have noticed.We can often miss or dismiss these hints and implications as less important than the straightforward descriptions, but being able to spot implications and unpack them can be a helpful skill for the practitioner.In this episode we will explore common 'implications' in what our clients tell us.Heads-upEpisode #16, "Premature Reassurance" will drop on 23 September 2026.LinksYou can read the article this is based on here.To find out about my monthly newsletter for tapping practitioners, click here.To find out more about my in person and group mentoring opportunities, click here. Image by Tove from Pixabay intro music, 'The Beat Of Nature', is courtesy of folk_acoustic from Pixabay

A simple step-by-step approach for unpacking a client's problems when they are difficult to access during the session.Heads-upEpisode #15, "Explore The Implications" will drop on 9th September 2026.LinksYou can read the article this is based on here.Three Memories And A Fantasy is a more advanced version of this approach.For more about 'associated' and 'disassociated' memories, read A Crucial Distinction For Releasing Troublesome Memories With EFTTo find out about my monthly newsletter for tapping practitioners, click here.To find out more about my in person and group mentoring opportunities, click here. Image by Alexander, intro music, 'The Beat Of Nature', is courtesy of folk_acoustic from Pixabay

When your client brings you a problem that is vague and amorphous, how can you make it tappable?  In this podcast, I describe a simple approach to bringing the problem down to earth enough to be able to tap on it.Heads-upEpisode #14, "Tapping For Problems That Aren't There" will drop on 26th August 2026.LinksYou can read the article this is based on here.To find out about my monthly newsletter for tapping practitioners, click here.To find out more about my in person and group mentoring opportunities, click here. Image by ANDRI TEGAR MAHARDIKA, intro music, 'The Beat Of Nature', is courtesy of folk_acoustic from Pixabay

As we grow up, we learn strategies and behaviours that help us survive in our family of origin. Although we become adults and move away from our origins, those strategies continue to dominate our way of being in the world. Heads-upEpisode #13, "Make The Abstract Concrete" will drop on 12th August 2026.LinksYou can read the article this podcast is based on here.To find out about my monthly newsletter for tapping practitioners, click here.To find out more about my in person and group mentoring opportunities, click here. Image by Tom Statziker intro music, 'The Beat Of Nature', is courtesy of folk_acoustic from Pixabay

Being a tapping practitioner is hard, there is so much to do in a session, it's just you and the client.  One of the best ways of developing your skills, and lowering your stress levels, is to get regular mentoring from an experienced practitioner. In this episode, I make the case for the benefits of mentoring and how it can help you develop your skills and professionalism as a tapping practitioner.Heads-upEpisode #12, "Are You Stuck In Your Child's Car Seat" will drop on 22nd July 2026.LinksYou can read the article this podcast is based on here.To find out about my monthly newsletter for tapping practitioners, click here.To find out more about my in person and group mentoring opportunities, click here. Image by THỌ VƯƠNG HỒNG intro music, 'The Beat Of Nature', is courtesy of folk_acoustic from Pixabay

In the ‘be positive at all costs’ popular culture, experiencing resistance or engaging in self-sabotage is seen as a ‘bad thing’, something to be overcome or eliminated.If you experience resistance or self-sabotage you might feel lacking, defective or even morally defective and, if you are really unlucky, other people will agree with you.I think the conventional ‘wisdom’ that resistance and self-sabotage are bad and should be treated like some kind of mental leprosy is wrong and may even make things worse.I think there is a more useful explanation for resistance and self-sabotage.Heads-upEpisode #11, "In Praise Of Mentoring" will drop on 8th July 2026.LinksYou can read the article this is based on here.To find out about my monthly newsletter for tapping practitioners, click here.To find out more about my in person and group mentoring opportunities, click here. Image by 00luvicecream intro music, 'The Beat Of Nature', is courtesy of folk_acoustic from Pixabay