299: They Don’t Commit Until These 4 Things Are True

I have something really cool to share today, This is a conversation I had with Jay Shetty for his On Purpose podcast, where we talked about the modern dating dilemma of endless options and the fear of settling. We discussed the danger of always looking for “someone better” as a dating strategy, why we miss out on meaningful connections, and how to find a real relationship rather than optimizing for the perfect partner. If you’ve ever felt like you’re always torn between chasing someone exciting or someone who brings you peace, this episode will help you create a love life that actually works for you. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com  

What could possibly be more painful than rejection? Turns out, there's one feeling that IS. In this week's Rewind episode, I reveal what it is and share the one mindset that will get you over your fear of rejection once and for all so you can finally put yourself "out there" without worrying about getting hurt again... --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Momentum Texts → http://www.MomentumTexts.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners? Are you dating someone who pulls away just when things get close? When this happens, it’s easy to feel lost and wonder if the person you’re dating is avoidant or simply not that interested. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive deep into the topic of avoidant attachment, exploring how it develops, signs to look for, and what you can do if you’re dating someone with avoidant behavior. Topics Covered: The 5 key traits of avoidant partners. Why avoidants and anxious people are magnetically drawn to each other. Whether we overuse the “avoidant” label as a defense mechanism. How early experiences shape attachment patterns. What to do if you’re anxiously attached and dating someone avoidant. How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone who just doesn’t want a relationship. How to anticipate the needs of a more independent partner. The importance of not mistaking emotional unavailability for “value.” Links: DatingWithResults.com – Free training for finding love without the chaos of modern dating. JoinLoveLife.com – Become a member and access exclusive live coaching sessions and courses. AskMH.com – Try Matthew AI and get real-time coaching from an AI trained on Matthew’s advice. MHRetreat.com – Book your place for the October Miami Retreat (virtual + in-person options available). Cozy Earth – Get 40% off loungewear and bedsheets with code LOVELIFE at CozyEarth.com

What makes someone truly irresistible in the early stages of dating? In this episode, I share four powerful ways to boost your attractiveness in the first weeks of getting to know someone . . . so you can create intrigue and keep things moving forward. If you’re over surface-level chats, have a hard time balancing your heart and your head, or just feel stuck, this one’s for you. I also tell a personal story that shows how small changes can make a huge impact on your dating life. Don’t miss it!   ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

This week’s video will help you cut through all of the anxiety, uncertainty, and stress. I go deep on three very specific questions you can ask yourself to determine whether staying or leaving is the right decision for you. I also break down a new model that will help you identify what to watch out for and the dangerous cocktail of certain traits we must avoid in someone . . . these are the traits that can make a relationship so toxic that over time, it will erode our confidence and identity to the point that leaving the relationship is the only option. Understanding this model may just save your self-respect, sanity, and happiness. And once you know how it works, red flags will be much easier to spot. This is a video you’ll also want to return to anytime you’re stuck in that fog of fear and confusion and want to feel a sense of clarity . . . so you can stop second-guessing your choices and move on with confidence. --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Momentum Texts → http://www.MomentumTexts.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

In this episode, Matthew sits down with artist, activist, and author Mary Fisher (@maryfisher), whose landmark 1992 speech at the Republican National Convention changed the face of AIDS awareness and made her a global icon of truth-telling and compassion. Now in a new chapter of her life, Mary reflects on what it means to grieve not just people, but old lives, family, identity, and the loss of a place in the world. Together, she and Matthew explore how we rebuild, find chosen family, use creativity to heal, and speak up after a lifetime of being told to stay quiet. This conversation is for anyone feeling disconnected, disempowered, or unsure of how to move forward when life has drastically changed. Mary’s words are a reminder that it’s never too late to reinvent your life, speak your truth, and create beauty from pain.   Topics Covered: The distinction between grief and depression—and how naming grief gave Mary her life back What it feels like to lose family who are still alive, and how to navigate that emotional terrain How to build a chosen family when your biological one isn’t safe or supportive The courage behind Mary’s 1992 speech and how mortality shifted her priorities Why radical honesty can be the foundation for deep connection Finding the right level of vulnerability early in relationships How to let go of the fantasy of who someone was “supposed to be” Creating through pain—how art and creativity became her medicine Learning to speak up after a lifetime of silence, guilt, and being told to “be a good girl” How to rewire your inner voice and create safety to be heard Understanding the difference between connection and one-sided emotional dependence in relationships   Resources & Links: Mary Fisher’s new book: Uneasy Silence Mary’s website: MaryFisher.com Instagram: @maryfisherart Project Angel Food (charity supported by Mary’s book): angelfood.org   Matthew AI (24/7 coaching): AskMH.com Join our retreat in October: MHRetreat.com

Are you stuck comparing everyone you meet to an ex who felt like “the one”? In this new video, you’ll learn why we hold on to past relationships, and discover a surprising truth about closure that might just change how you see your breakup. If you’ve ever felt like no one measures up to the chemistry or excitement you had before, this is a must-watch. A powerful mindset shift I share will help you (finally!) let go of the fantasy and open yourself up to the love you truly deserve. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

When you’re texting with someone you like, do you struggle to know what to say next? Or maybe it feels like you’re in a texting rut, and keep having the same conversations . . . Today’s episode is a mini toolkit for these exact situations, with 5 high-value texting suggestions that restart attraction, lead to a date, or just bring you more emotional connection. Use these practical messages to inspire better communication in any dating situation! --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Momentum Texts → http://www.MomentumTexts.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

What really makes someone commitment-worthy in dating? And what qualities do we need to make sure are there if we want someone to choose us?  In this episode, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey look at 4 crucial must-haves for commitment. If you’ve ever been unsure if you’re choosing the right person (or want to make yourself someone who is seen as a great potential partner), this is for you. Topics include: Why chemistry isn’t enough for commitment How to decide what is “enough” in the qualities you need in a potential partner Attractive micro-behaviors that make someone see you as the person they want to commit to A listener question on whether you should keep trying to get commitment from someone working through their own blocks and traumas The importance of a “shared vision” in commitment   Links mentioned: 💬 Try Matthew AI and ask your first questions for free: https://www.askMH.com 🎟️ Join us at the Miami Retreat (October 18–19): https://www.MHRetreat.com 💞 Become a Love Life Member and join future live events: https://www.JoinLoveLife.com   📧 Have a story, question, or want to share your favorite podcast moment? Email us at: [email protected]  

Why does commitment seem so hard right now? In this week’s video, Matthew sits down with entrepreneur and speaker Anas Bukhash to talk about everything from the addictive pull of dating apps to the unrealistic expectations created by the seemingly endless “buffet” of people from which we can choose a partner. The conversation also unpacks a better approach to finding love that stops you getting caught in the same trap as everyone else. (This may just change how you approach dating!) --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com --- ▼ Connect with Anas ▼ Website → https://www.abtalks.ae Instagram →  / abtalks   YouTube → ‪@AnasBukhash‬ TikTok →  / abtalks