Ep 75. - Why Young Men Are Struggling with Sex & Connection

Sabrina Baldini—TEDx speaker, sex educator, and host of After Sex Ed—joins us to explore what she calls “The Third Sexual Revolution.” From porn literacy and ED to dating app burnout and non-monogamy, we dive deep into how young men are navigating sex, relationships, and connection in a post-digital world.We talk about what’s broken in sex ed, how porn is shaping sexual expectations, and why so many people are craving something real—both in and out of the bedroom.Whether you're a curious dater, a parent, or just someone questioning what sex means today—this episode will challenge, educate, and probably make you laugh.⏰ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro: Who is Sabrina Baldini?2:00 – Why adult sex ed is more needed than ever6:30 – Teaching consent in kindergarten: A Canadian model10:00 – Sex ed trauma in the US: Robot babies & scare tactics13:45 – Porn literacy and how young men learn about sex18:00 – Why erections ≠ love (and why many men think they do)23:00 – Premature ejaculation & what it really means26:30 – The problem with 25-minute sex scenes31:00 – The Third Sexual Revolution: What it is & why now34:00 – Dating app fatigue and the rise of in-person connection38:30 – Can men and women really be friends?45:00 – Why non-monogamy might be part of the future51:00 – Is monogamy a spectrum?55:00 – What the cheating numbers really say about monogamy🔗 Want to Connect with SabrinaTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@LearnwithSabrinaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/afters3xed/Sabrina's Website: www.aftersexed.com🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this! 🔥 Listen to all of our episodes on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4uOOhjA...🔥 Follow us on IG: / theunmasked_project 🔥 Follow us on TT: / themaskedswingers 🔥 Email us with your questions at [email protected]

Welcome back to The Unmasked Project, fka The Masked Swingers! In this live relationship coaching session, Layla opens up about the emotional intensity of dating while married in an ethical non-monogamy setup. Her partner, brand new to both polyamory and serious relationships, brings passion—but also insecurity and emotional dependency. With the help of renowned relationship coach Mary Jo Lorei, we dive deep into what happens when love overload meets emotional labor and blurred boundaries.If you've ever struggled to balance autonomy and connection in an open relationship, or wondered how to say no without guilt, this is the episode for you. Whether you're navigating non-monogamous dating, redefining love, or stuck in emotional overwhelm, this conversation is packed with clarity and courage.💥 In this episode:Breakup advice that honors love and self-respectA real-time live coaching session on polyamory coaching and boundary settingTools for overcoming relationship guilt, emotional burnout, and over-functioningInsights on conscious relationships and redefining the role of “boyfriend”🎧 If you're seeking polyamory advice, exploring relationship communication, or craving emotional clarity in love, don’t miss this one.We’ve dropped the masks, but kept the raw, unfiltered vibe. The Unmasked Project is the evolution of our show—still hosted by Brian and Layla, still diving deep into intimacy, identity, and human connection. Only now, we’re going even deeper. Same bold energy. New name. Fully unmasked.🔥 Bonus footage in Discord: https://discord.com/invite/TPBUgSxzwb🌶️ Products we love: https://www.themaskedswingers.com/products-we-love⏰ Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome to The Unmasked Project: Live Polyamory Coaching0:58 – Introducing Mary Jo Lorei: Relationship Coach & Self Mastery Mentor1:40 – Layla’s Polyamorous Relationship Setup: Married + Dating3:15 – Dating a Poly Newbie: The Risks of Being Their First4:50 – When Poly Love Moves Too Fast: Emotional Burnout Begins6:30 – The Breakup: Navigating Guilt and Emotional Overwhelm9:15 – Coaching Breakdown: What Do You Really Want from a Relationship?11:50 – Redefining the “Boyfriend” Role in Non-Monogamous Dating14:20 – Boundaries in Polyamory: When You Love Them, But It’s Not Enough18:40 – Coaching on Emotional Labor and Intimacy Fatigue22:30 – From Guilt to Clarity: Taking Back Your Energy27:00 – How to Stop Doing Their Work for Them in Relationships31:45 – Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset in Poly Dating35:00 – Redesigning the Relationship You Want—Not Just Finding a Person41:20 – What It Means to Be in Charge vs. In Partnership47:10 – How to Hold Space and Set Limits in Ethical Non-Monogamy52:00 – Monogamy vs. Polyamory: What Works for You?56:45 – Final Reflections: Intimacy, Autonomy, and Redefining Love🔗 Want more Mary Jo?🔹  Work with Mary Jo Lorei – Self Mastery Mentoring: Visit SelfMasteryMentoring.com– Coaching for conscious relationships, emotional clarity, and personal transformation.🔹 Follow Mary Jo Lorei on Instagram: @maryjolorei – Insightful posts, coaching gems, and a peek into her soulful world.🔹 Buy Mary Joe’s Book – Practical Inspirations: Where Bumper Sticker Wisdom Meets Real Life: Available on Amazon – A powerful collection of life lessons to live by, straight from the heart.🔹 Watch Layla’s Story Part 1 – She’s Married. She’s Poly. And He’s Brand New to All of It. She’s Married. She’s Poly. And He’s Brand New to All of It. – Start at the beginning for full emotional context.🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this! 🔥 Follow us on IG🔥 Follow us on TT🔥 Email us with your questions at [email protected]

Poly Breakups, Brazil Temptations & Billionaire Messes — This One Has It AllLayla’s breakup hits hard—and Brian’s response? He hires a relationship coach to get to the root of their patterns. This episode dives into the emotional chaos of poly breakups, why ending things can still feel like failure, and how coaching (yes, even for emotionally intelligent people) can uncover what therapy sometimes misses.Plus, Brian spills on a moment in Brazil where his commitment was tested, and the duo breaks down the recent scandals surrounding billionaires — like Diddy’s "Freakoffs" and Elon Musk’s wild family tree. What do power, ego, and control have to do with intimacy? Maybe everything.This one’s messy, honest, and unexpectedly healing.🖤 Come for the heartbreak. Stay for the billionaires.🎙️ Whether you're here for laughs, insights, or some spicy oversharing, this is The Unmasked Project — where love, kink, and chaos collide.Products featured in this episode: Twinkle Tongue Layla is obsessed with Twinkle Tongue. Get $5 off your order when you use our link: https://twinkletongue.com/TMSPOD or the code TMSPOD at checkout. HOP WTR Brian has been drinking this non-stop during all of our recent episodes. Use the code TMSFAM for a 10% discount on your first order: https://hopwtr.com/🔥 Bonus content in Discord: https://discord.com/invite/TPBUgSxzwb🌶️ Our favorite toys & tools: https://www.unmaskedpod.co/products-we-love📩 Email us: [email protected] Timestamps00:00 – Cold Open: Are We Cool? 00:45 – Layla’s Latest Obsession: Twinkle Tongue 04:30 – Layla’s Breakup: “I Had to Let Him Go” 08:30 – Dating Outside the Lifestyle: Can It Work? 12:30 – Breakups Still Hurt (Even in Open Relationships) 16:45 – Coaching vs Therapy: Which One Actually Helps? 19:00 – Brazil Temptation: The Loyalty Test 25:45 – The Bigger Test: What Happened Next in Brazil 31:30 – Billionaire Intimacy Problems: Diddy & Elon 35:45 – Life Updates, Uber Trunks & Final Thoughts

Formerly The Masked Swingers, Welcome to The Unmasked Project!In this powerful and candid episode of The Unmasked Project, Vudu Dahl opens up about her life as a cult survivor raised in the “House of Maro,” and how she began her healing journey through s*x work, kink therapy, and somatic healing. From escaping abuse to becoming a kink educator and running her er*tic wellness brand Dalier, she shares her inspiring path toward personal liberation and emotional healing.We’ve dropped the masks, but kept the raw, unfiltered vibe. The Unmasked Project is the evolution of our show—still hosted by Brian and Layla, still diving deep into intimacy, identity, and human connection. Only now, we’re going even deeper. Same bold energy. New name. Fully unmasked.🔥 Bonus footage in Discord🌶️ Products we love⏰ Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome & rebranding to The Unmasked Project01:30 – Introducing Vudu Dahl: cult survivor turned kink educator06:03 – Life in the cult & control dynamics (cult story, cultural trauma)09:04 – Isolation, homeschooling & early questioning12:06 – Groomed for servitude: early childhood lessons (consent education, female empowerment)14:01 – Deciding to escape: signs of abuse & questioning authority18:05 – Exit strategy, emotional fallout & being ostracized25:00 – Struggle after escape: abusive relationship & rediscovering autonomy32:00 – First forays into s*x work & kink therapy: reclaiming power37:04 – Navigating identity, trauma & dangerous patterns43:06 – The first play party & introduction to BDS* consent45:12 – How kink therapy and BDS* consent rules helped her heal49:00 – Defining boundaries, aftercare, and community building52:00 – Launch of Dalier: combining s*xual healing, somatic therapy, and empowerment tools56:00 – Why trauma-informed kink matters & intro to somatic release58:00 – Lighthearted Rants: bo*ty preferences & Uber pet peeves 😅1:02:00 – Final thoughts on somatic release, therapy techniques, and taking control of your body🔗 Want more Vudu?📸 Check out Dahlier📸 Vudu Dahl’s Instagram🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this! 🔥 Follow us on IG🔥 Follow us on TT🔥 Email us with your questions at [email protected]

BONUS EPISODE 🚨 In this raw and urgent drop, we break format to talk about what's really going down in LA — and across the country. From ICE raids and media spin to the fear of speaking out, we're confronting the uncomfortable truths behind today’s protests, immigration policies, and our own responsibilities.This isn’t just about politics — it’s about power, purpose, and protecting our communities. Layla shares how mutual aid is her quiet act of rebellion, while Brian unpacks why being angry might be exactly what’s needed. We don’t have all the answers, but we’re damn sure not staying silent.👊 Feeling helpless? You’re not. Let’s talk about what we can do — right now.📬 ⁠DM us on Discord⁠ if you want to get involved or need support📌 RESOURCES MENTIONED:Free Harvard course on the U.S. ConstitutionToday, Explained podcast episode on Project 2025Contact us if you can offer rides in the LA/OC area⏰ Timestamps:00:00 – BONUS drop: why this episode matters01:15 – The fear of getting political02:45 – Media distortion vs. protest reality05:30 – ICE tactics in LA — what we’re seeing09:10 – Family hypocrisy and immigrant scapegoating13:00 – What Republicans aren't saying out loud16:40 – The myth of the "model immigrant"20:30 – Why anger might be your power source24:10 – Mutual aid in action: Ila’s ride network27:40 – Should you still support Trumpers in your circle?31:00 – This is political — and that’s the problem35:00 – The land, the labor, and the lies we live by38:00 – The illusion of lawfulness42:00 – Starfish story: the power of helping one44:10 – Final thoughts + what you can actually do now🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this! 🔥 Follow us on IG🔥 Follow us on TT🔥 Email us with your questions at [email protected]

Layla’s got a new man—and he’s checking boxes she swore she’d never touch. A 32-year-old vanilla, new to non-monogamous relationships, with zero prior partners... and she’s in love.This episode dives deep into the wild emotional ride of dating your first boyfriend while married, what happens when a pansexual, demisexual, poly powerhouse falls for someone outside the lifestyle, and whether she’s love-bombing or just riding the new relationship energy high.Brian and Layla explore radical honesty, evolving intimate connections, and how to support someone learning the ropes of a poly lifestyle for the first time. It’s s*xy, real, sometimes messy—and full of insights for anyone navigating open relationships, emotional growth, or that sweet spot where s*x positivity meets vulnerability.🎙️ Whether you're here for relationship advice, laughs, or just spicy confessions, this is the poly podcast that tells it like it is.💬 Drop your thoughts below: have you ever broken your own rules in love?🔥 Bonus footage in Discord: https://discord.com/invite/TPBUgSxzwb🌶️ Products we love: https://www.themaskedswingers.com/products-we-love⏰ Timestamps:0:00 – Cold Open: Why’s Brian mad this time? 0:19 – Layla’s schoolgirl vibes + surprise date reveal 1:01 – “I said I’d never…” Meet James: Layla’s first boyfriend 2:18 – How singing lessons turned into emotional connection 3:52 – First kiss, first makeout… first time for everything 6:09 – Dating someone inexperienced at 32: what could go wrong? 10:32 – Navigating non-monogamous relationships & time imbalance 14:04 – Is Layla love-bombing? A poly reality check 17:03 – Layla’s types exposed: band boys, surfer boys, & awkward charmers 20:01 – Jealousy, open marriage, and radical honesty 24:13 – Discovering s*x as connection 26:03 – Power dynamics, caretaking, and Layla’s inner dom 28:58 – From pansexual dating to demisexual revelations 34:12 – Friends with benefits or emotional landmines? 36:02 – Setting boundaries after blurred lines 40:08 – Brian opens up on sexuality, performance, and party pressure 42:34 – What’s next for Layla’s alt-romance journey? 44:50 – Getting Off: baggy clothes and bad Uber trunk etiquette 47:17 – Final thoughts + the official launch of The Unmasked Project🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this! 🔥 Listen to all of our episodes on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4uOOhjA1H9K5psXdIFBqYz?si=ed807b83c7dc497d&nd=1&dlsi=b7fb3d960bb346da🔥 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/themaskedswingerspod/🔥 Follow us on TT: https://www.tiktok.com/@themaskedswingers🔥 Email us with your questions at [email protected]

This episode of The Masked Swingers is a women empowerment deep dive with a twist! We sit down with Stephanie Megan, host of Broke Girl Therapy, to talk about her life transformation—from broke and heartbroken in LA to podcast queen, cut queen, and non-monogamy advocate.From dating in LA and exploring open relationships, to navigating voyeur kinks, sexual exploration, and redefining love outside the rules—this is modern love done Stephanie-style: loud, honest, and hilariously messy.We get into it all: kink culture, cuckquean fantasies, dating app disasters, and the hot mess magic of healing through hookups. If you're into relationship advice, dating tips, or just want to laugh at some wild stories (hi, meth Adderall), you’re in for a treat.🔥 Bonus footage in Discord: https://discord.com/invite/TPBUgSxzwb🌶️ Products we love: https://www.themaskedswingers.com/products-we-love⏰ Timestamps:00:00 – Intro & Stephanie’s Life Transformation03:00 – Dating in LA vs. The Bay06:45 – Finding Love Through Twitter & SoulSwipe11:00 – Voyeur Kinks + What It Means to Be a Cut Queen17:30 – Open Relationships & Cuckquean Fantasies Explained23:45 – Non-Monogamy Boundaries + Relationship Dynamics26:40 – Has She Hooked Up With a Woman Yet?30:00 – Sex Parties, Snacks & Kink Curiosity34:00 – Redefining Alpha Males & Emotional Intelligence38:00 – Modern Love, Catholic Guilt & Crying Men40:30 – Mexican Meth Adderall?! (No, Really)43:00 – Dating Apps 2025 & Honest Dating Advice45:30 – Women Empowerment, Communication & Growth48:00 – Unsolicited Calls, Pet Peeves & Podcasting Rants🔗 Want more Stephanie?🎧 Broke Girl Therapy Podcast📸 Instagram🐦 Twitter🎥 YouTube🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this! 🔥 Follow us on IG🔥 Follow us on TT🔥 Email us with your questions at [email protected]

What happens when sobriety meets seduction? In this raw and revealing episode, Layla opens up about her 14-year journey from blackout nights and heroin highs to a higher power named... Britney Spears? Meanwhile, Brian gets real about porn, procrastination, and how quitting wasn’t about frequency — it was about facing himself.From late-night binges to spiritual awakenings, we unpack our most personal addictions and the rituals, breakdowns, and hilarious tools that helped us crawl out. Yes, there’s a vape replacement called “flavored air,” and yes, it’s surprisingly helpful.If you've ever battled a habit, a hang-up, or just wondered "Am I addicted or just attached?" — this one’s for you.🔒 Anonymous support available — DM us for private resources or to connect with an interventionist.🔥 Bonus footage in Discord🌶️ Products we love⏰ Timestamps:0:00 – The guilt of sobriety vs. the comfort of chaos 0:31 – Boobs, pasties & Instagram censorship 1:00 – Can you be addicted to anything... even Lucky Charms? 3:30 – Sports betting & the capitalism of addiction 5:00 – Layla's alcohol addiction story begins 6:45 – Blackouts, MySpace nudes & finding an identity 8:00 – Chaos, DUI & heroin: the spiral 11:00 – The obsession with substances we don’t even like 13:00 – Ginger shots & sobriety rituals 16:00 – 12-step breakdown & choosing Britney as a higher power 19:00 – Can you work the steps at home? Yes. 20:30 – Addictive personalities or just human behavior? 23:00 – Brian’s secret battle with porn 26:00 – Why porn wasn’t about sex 30:00 – How marriage, mindfulness & busy days help 35:00 – Quitting porn: algorithm detox, self-shot clips & control 40:00 – Final thoughts on boredom, busyness & breaking cycles 42:00 – Personal updates, secret boyfriend & Brazil teaser 44:00 – Clap for your pilot, your bus driver, your healing 🖤🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this!🔥 Follow us on IG🔥 Follow us on TT🔥 Email us with your questions at [email protected]

This week on The Masked Swingers… the face reveal is just the beginning.We finally unmask for real—and what comes next? A jaw-dropping confession about helping a couple start a family in a very unexpected way. This isn’t just another relationship podcast clip. It’s the kind of wild tale you can’t make up.Brian shares how a casual Facebook message turned into a life-changing DNA surprise, the emotional therapy sessions that followed, and what it means to have a biological child you’ve never met. We talk donor siblings, modern parenting, queer families, and the kind of identity questions that hit deep.Oh—and don’t miss our viral-ready rants on group chats, California traffic, and ungrateful motorcyclists. This one’s got it all.🎭 Missed Part 1? Catch up here 🔥 Bonus footage in Discord (yes, the donation story!)🌶️ Products we loveTimestamped Highlights 00:00 - Why We Finally Unmasked (And a Hilarious Height Debate) 01:59 - Face Reveal: Why We Took Off the Masks 04:00 - Why He Became a Donor: The Surprising Reason 07:00 - The Facebook Message That Changed Everything 10:30 - The Donor Process: Therapy, Consent & What Surprised Us 14:00 - How Do You Tell Kids They Have Half-Siblings? 16:10 - Did the Donor Ever Meet His Biological Child? 18:00 - When One Donation Turns Into Two 20:00 - Getting Off: Merge Lane Rage & Group Chat Drama 23:30 - What’s Next: New Guests, Unmasked Stories & More🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this!🔥 Follow us on IG🔥 Follow us on TT🔥 Email us with your questions at [email protected]

This week on The Masked Swingers… the masks start coming off.In Part 1 of our two-part unmasking, we dive into the why behind staying anonymous—and why we’re finally ready to stop. We talk parenting while poly, facing family fallout, what it means to live authentically, and how wearing a literal mask sometimes just made us smaller. It’s vulnerable, hilarious, occasionally sweaty—and just the beginning.🎭 Come back next week for Part 2 of the Unmasking🔥 Join our Discord✨ Mentioned in the episode: Flintts Mints🌶️ Products we loveTimestamped Highlights00:00 - Why We’re Finally Unmasking  01:00 - Flint Mints, Parties & a Mouthful of Chaos  04:00 - The Origins of The Masked Swingers  07:15 - Why We Chose to Stay Anonymous  10:00 - Family, Kids & the Fear of Being Seen  13:30 - From Sexuality to Self-Acceptance  17:00 - Are We Still Trying to Make Our Parents Proud?  25:30 - What to Expect in Part 2🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this!🔥 Follow us on IG🔥 Follow us on TT🔥 Email us with your questions at [email protected]