We're Finally Getting MARRIED

We're not engaged yet, but we have finally decided we are ready to take our relationship to the next level and get married!Some people say 10 years is too long but it was the right timing for us. In this episode we discuss why 10 years was the perfect amount of time and why after years of tough conversations, not seeing eye to eye, and  overcoming resentment, we finally feel like we're ready.Follow ushttp://Instagram.com/Hangingout4everhttp://tiktok.com/@hangingout4everSubmit a listener letterhttps://form.jotform.com/hangingout4everpod/hanging-out-4ever-submissionsComment Your Thoughts!Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!-Grant & Aja

Saying women’s pleasure is a MYTH when your wife tells you she’s unsatisfied is actually insane. Sir, she is giving you NOTES. 😭This week’s Bestie-Mail centers marriage dilemmas and we're here for it!You know Grant and Aja love love and love helping folks make better decisions in their relationships, set boundaries and be vocal about their needs and this episode calls for alladat. These Besties need help navigating their situations!Here are this week’s mail:My Husband Is Terrible at Sex, and I’m Thinking About LeavingShould I Propose Before I Can Afford Her Dream Ring?My Boyfriend Wants a Baby and Keeps Flirting With Other WomenAs you dive in ask yourself:Would you be wrong for fantasizing about your exes and considering leaving your husband after 12 years of terrible sex, even if you love the life you’ve built together? Or does how a person treats you during sex uncover thier TRUE intentions 👀Should a man wait until he can afford a dream engagement ring, or propose now so everyone you love can be there?And if you're dating someone who is talking about marriage and babies TWO MONTHS in while still entertaining other people, would you consider even planning a future with them? 👀Lock in, Besties because Grant and I have a lot to say, and we need to hear what y’all think. 👀Let’s talk in the comments.Thank you to the Besties who trusted us with their stories. ❤️Comment Your Thoughts!Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!-Grant & Aja

Apparently, you can just PAY to go to a stranger's wedding now, and yall, I'm about to RSVP!In this episode, Aja sits down with Jeff and Karina, the married couple behind Not a Wedding Crasher, who turned running out of date night ideas into a business that lets complete strangers attend your wedding.And after 22 years together, these two know a thing or two about marriage. We get into everything from keeping romance alive to surviving an eight-month separation, building a business together, and learning how to love the different versions of your partner.So besties, find something cute to wear and grab your plus-one because we're crashing a wedding! Who's coming with us?!Comment Your Thoughts!Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!-Grant & Aja

Dr. Nigel Marcellus is back on Hanging Out 4ever, and this time we're getting into some of YOUR relationship drama!We're reading Bestie-Mail sent in from Dr. Nigels community and talking about Black love, interracial dating, whether you can be pro-Black with a white partner, navigating sexual fetishes, going through your partner's phone, and sharing locations in relationships.And we're getting into some conversations that might ruffle a few feathers.Besties, we'd LOVE to know your thoughts on interracial dating dynamics and if that changes your opinion of a person.Let us knowGrant & AjaComment Your Thoughts!Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!-Grant & Aja

Baby, where the hell is my husband?!In this episode, Aja sits down with comedian and content creator Kali Scott to discuss her journey of trying to find a husband and one of the hardest cities in the nation to find love, LA.If you're from LA you get it. If you're not, you're about to find out.We get into everything from dating serial liars to teen pregnancy to self-worth.So call your job and tell him you're gonna be late or listen to this episode on the clock because it's a good one!Comment Your Thoughts!Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!-Grant & Aja

First off YES LEAVE YOUR FIANCÉE! It's a no brainer and when y'all hear the story, YOU WILL AGREE.The theme of this weeks Bestie-Mail is GIVE THEM THE BOOT. Because not everyone deserves to stay in your life and at some point, you have to be smart enough, strong enough and ready to make that decision.So lock in, it's that time again to give the good people of the Hanging Out 4ever community some guidance.Grant and I agree, everyone needs THE BOOT! but do yall agree? let us know 👀Here are the letters Aja & Grant read:I Want To Break Up With My Christian BoyfriendMy Cousin Wants My BoyfriendMy Fiancée's Sons Threaten My DaughterComment your thoughts!Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.Comment Your Thoughts!Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!-Grant & Aja

This week we’re Hanging Out with Dr. Nigel Marcellus, who has a PhD in communication and studied Black love, relationships and how we experience love.Nigel has shares how and why he has never been in an official relationship and that he's been abstinent for 9 years. So obvs, we talk about sex, abstinence and modern dating from a man’s perspective. We get into the pressure men feel around sex, masculinity, emotional safety, vulnerability and intimacy.We also get into self-worth, losing yourself trying to be what someone else wants, what men are looking for in relationships and why knowing what a healthy relationship looks like doesn’t necessarily make dating any easier.Aja and Grant talk to Nigel about his work, his experiences with dating and what it’s like to study love while still figuring out relationships for yourself.Besties, let us know how you feel about this episode. Could you go 9 years without sex? And what do you think men and women misunderstand most about each other when it comes to dating?Comment Your Thoughts!Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!-Grant & Aja

This week the Besties had us talking about loyalty, breakups and HIGH standards. Because apparently keeping your boyfriend's friends' ex-girlfriends as friends is enough to get the entire friend group to hate you 😭But the real question is... if your friends hate your partner, whose side are you supposed to be on?Here are the letters Aja & Grant read:My Boyfriend's Friends Hate MeWe Broke Up... But I Want Him BackAre My Standards Too High?Comment your thoughts!Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.Comment Your Thoughts!Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!-Grant & Aja

This is a BIG ONE YALL.Most people have heard about Abigail Porter, aka The Girl With The List, the internets most iconic and influential child free person with over almost 350 reasons to never have children. If you've seen her, you know its her mission to inform women on the risks and dangers of pregnancy told from the perspectives of moms around the world who have dealt with life altering complications of complete loss of self identity. In this episode Aja asks Abigail all about her mormon upbringing, leaving the church at 16, how her career has impacted her relationship with her family and of course, Abigails choice to never have children.Should I be a mom? or Should I have a kid? Will I regret having kids? These are some of the most difficult questions that women struggle with so of course we talk about the realities of pregnancy, postpartum and the expectation that women are supposed to enjoy being moms, even if they don't.Besties, let us know how you feel about this episode and if you have kids and regret it OR if you're thinking about having kids and arent sure if its the right choice.Comment Your Thoughts!Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!-Grant & Aja

This is another Bestie-mail episode for the books..There's a lot of kinks and fetishes in the world and most of them I don't judge and hell even the one we discussed in this episode I don't judge but the way he went about it was INSANE. And now pregnancy will never be the same for her.I guess the theme in this episode would be family. Here are the letters Aja & Grant read1. My Mom Hates Me2. My Husband is Obsessed with my Body3. I'm Pregnant at 17Comment your thoughts! Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.To submit your own listener letters, click here.Apply to be on our dating show, click here.P.S LET US KNOW HOW YOU KNOW SOMEONE IS HIDING SOMETHING SUSS!👀If you wanna watch our live reactions to this episode (which you should 👀), catch us on YouTube!Comment Your Thoughts!Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!-Grant & Aja