Ep 178: Overcorrection, Overparenting, Context and Perimenopause

In this episode Cath and Carly talked about Carly’s path to motherhood, her own birth, dissociation as survival, freeze and how it can impact us, how our stress responses can turn up in our sex lived, erotic life force and vitality and using this in service of ourselves and much more.Carly Mountain is a somatic psychotherapist, sex therapist, sacred space holder, breathworker and author of Descent & Rising: Women’s Stories & the Embodiment of the Inanna Myth and Untamed Pleasure: Unleash Your True Erotic Nature. She is passionate about facilitating people to reconnect with their inherent erotic aliveness, power and pleasure. She lives in Sheffield, England with her husband and two daughtersWebsite: www.carlymountain.comInstagram: @carly_mountain Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath talks about how when we are (breaking) and (shifting cycles) in our families we may tend at times to overcorrect and over parent. She talks about things to keep in mind around this, how this is a dance and shares some stories and pointers that may indicate this is also happening with you.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram.Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath speaks about the process of rupture and repair with our children. We may imagine that this is a neat, easy process (and sometimes it is) and often it is more complex and messy.Cath shares a recent example from her life and provides a framework (in the context of attachment) for you to hold in mind as you negotiate rupture and repair in your own family and life.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In episode 176 Cath was joined by Dr Helena Vissing. Helena shared her path to motherhood, healing from birth and her perinatal specialisation. We talked about her book ‘Somatic Maternal Healing’, some of the concepts from it, sensory considerations and maternal bodyfulness and much more.Helena Vissing, PsyD is a licensed psychologist certified in Perinatal Mental Health and Associate Professor at the California Institute of Integral Studies, San Francisco. As a scholar of maternal studies and somatic psychology, she has published on the topics of the psychology of mothering and its somatic aspects. She is the author of “Somatic Maternal Healing. Psychodynamic and Somatic Trauma Treatment for Perinatal Mental Health”. She is also host on the podcast channels New Books in Psychoanalysis and New Books in Somatics and on the editorial board of the International Body Psychotherapy Journal.She offers trainings through Nurturing Mamas Network: nurturingmamasnetwork.comHelena's website: helenavissing.comContact details: [email protected] you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram.Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath talks about getting to know and understand our own family history to get more of a picture of what we are dealing with and carrying. She shares some of her maternal and paternal family history talking about premature death, family separation, loss, loss of place, grief and also an explanation of why it is helpful to understand our history and how it can work to reduce shame.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram.Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cath was joined by Dr Chloe Bedford this week and they talked about Chloe's path to motherhood, how much pregnancy can bring up, how Chloe tends to herself in motherhood, running and how her relationship with running has changed as she has grown herself up in motherhood.Dr Chloe Bedford is a counselling psychologist, runner and mother of two. She has been qualified for 15 years and spent much of the time working with children, young people and families in the NHS and private practice, including in specialist eating disorder services.Alongside her clinical work, Chloe is @the.running.psychologist on Instagram where she talks about running, mental health, motherhood and the pressures we place on ourselves. Through her account, she brings psychological insight to the messier realities of everyday life, with an emphasis on curiosity and compassion rather than getting everything right. Chloe is running the Royal Parks Half Marathon on 11th October and would love you to sponsor her. Details listed below.Sponsor Chloe: https://pandasfoundation.enthuse.com/pf/chloe-bedfordIf you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram.Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In our first episode after the summer holidays, Cath speaks to the complexities of recovering from chronic stress, how we need to approach it (and ourselves) in a different way, how our own shame may exacerbate stress and how ADHD can make things harder.She touches on biochemistry and physiological processes which are impacted by trauma and how the strategies we employ in childhood can become locked into our systems, using some of her own story as an example.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath talks about her concept 'Giving Up on Being Good' and the 'Good Girl Grid'. The experience of emotional neglect produces a set of coping strategies based on our stress responses and unwinding these as we grow and develop as adults is really important so that we can live our own TRUE lives.This work happens on multiple levels - cognitive, emotional, somatic, spiritual and we have to tolerate the discomfort of practising new ways of being in order that we live for ourselves, not to demonstrate goodness (for an imaginary audience!!)Cath shares ways she is 'not good' based on what society might expect and how she frees herself to live within the context of her life, so that you can figure out how you can 'give up on being good' in your own life.This will be the last episode now as we take a short break for summer.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In the episode this week, Cath is joined by Colleen Adrian. Colleen is an author and a connected parenting coach for parents of sensitive spirited children. She’s a Mom, a Stepmom, and a Grandma and lives on a small island on the west coast of Canada.Cath and Colleen talked about how Colleen has grown herself up in motherhood, how discovering neuroscience and better understanding her nervous system. And, why that of her child's shifted everything for her and how she continues to surrender to her journey. Colleen shared how astrology has supported her and how she tends to anxiety when it comes up.Colleen helps parents of sensitive spirited children who struggle with intense emotions, including anxiety, aggression, perfectionism, tantrums and rebellion. Through parent coaching, somatic therapy and online courses, she helps parents learn skills for connection and emotional regulation, both for themselves and their children so they can leave behind authoritarian parenting methods. And, have a strong bond with their kids that they’re deeply longing for. She specialises in creating secure attachment and somatic healing.She’s passionate about nurturing authenticity, connected relationships, creativity, and supporting kids to grow into their unique selves. She believes the world needs more compassionate human beings who are living authentically from their hearts. You can find more about Colleen below:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@colleenadrian1590/videosInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/colleen.parentwriter/Website: https://colleenadrian.com/If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Cath answers two listener questions. The first question is a short question related to attachment and trauma in our younger years. Have a listen to episode 14 which gives a broad overview of trauma and helps provide context for the first question. Cath will be doing a more detailed view on this material (from episode 14) in an upcoming episode.The second question relates to feeling seen and heard in our adult love relationships and how this is impacted by various factors, how our inner children play a role and some suggestions for how this need can be met. Cath shares a deeply personal anecdote to illustrate how and why different partners have different levels of comfort with discussions around emotions and how emotional neglect plays a huge role in this.The book she references is 'Mating in Captivity' by Esther Perel.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.