Episode 79: What No One Taught Us About Sex Dr. Kristy on Healing Attachment, Trauma, and Desire

In this powerful and refreshingly real conversation, Jon sits down with Dr. Kristy De Leon, couples therapist, sex therapist, and firewife, to explore the sacred and practical dimensions of intimacy inside high-stress relationships. Dr. Kristy brings a rare blend of clinical mastery and lived experience, speaking directly to the realities firefighters, first responders, and their partners face when the nervous system lives in survival mode. We go far beyond the basics of sex therapy and into the heart of what actually heals. We talk about the sanctity of sex through union, why presence matters more than technique, and how intimacy becomes medicine when the nervous system feels safe enough to receive it. Dr. Kristy breaks down porn, desire, arousal, and libido through a trauma-informed lens, helping both men and women understand what’s really happening inside their bodies and relationships. We unpack the invisible tension that lives between shift change and home life, how couples unknowingly collide in different nervous system states, and why conflict isn’t a failure but a doorway to deeper connection when approached with skill and compassion. This episode is a masterclass in: Conscious intimacy Male and female libido Attachment, arousal, and relational safety Learning the language of a woman’s body Understanding masculine desire without shame Healing sexual disconnection after trauma Turning conflict into connection Dr. Kristy’s voice is both clinical and deeply human, bridging science, somatics, and sacred union in a way that feels grounded, relatable, and profoundly hopeful. If you are a first responder, a partner of one, or anyone who wants a relationship that doesn’t slowly fade under stress, this episode will change how you see sex, intimacy, and the nervous system forever. This isn’t about better sex. It’s about coming home to each other.Contacting Dr. Kristy De Leon:https://linktr.ee/kristydel

What do you do when the diagnosis says “lifelong,” but your intuition says “there’s another way”? In Episode 78, we sit down with Amanie, whose life was interrupted by a series of hospital visits, neurological symptoms, and ultimately a diagnosis that would change everything: Multiple Sclerosis — an autoimmune disease the medical system said she’d be managing forever. But instead of accepting a lifetime of pharmaceuticals, injections, and uncertainty, Amanie and her partner made a radical decision:They stepped away from the conventional treatment path and chose to rebuild her health from the ground up. What followed was a complete transformation of: Diet Environment Lifestyle Stress load Relationship to healing Driven by the belief that the human body is designed to heal, they began searching globally for the most nutrient-dense superfoods on the planet. That journey led them to one of the most powerful natural remedies in the world: Sea Moss. What started as research turned into a lifestyle — and eventually into a mission. In this episode, we explore: The emotional and spiritual shock of an MS diagnosis Why they rejected the conventional treatment plan and what risks, fears, and doubts came with that choice The holistic system they rebuilt — from nutrition to nervous system regulation How Sea Moss became a cornerstone of Amanie’s recovery, providing 92 of the 102 minerals the human body needs The evolution from sourcing raw sea moss from Saint Lucia → to creating their own concentrated, single-ingredient gels How this healing journey became a calling, not just a solution Amanie’s story is a reminder that healing isn’t always found in a prescription — sometimes it’s found in the courage to listen to your body, trust your intuition, and rebuild your life one choice at a time. This episode is for anyone facing chronic illness, autoimmune conditions, or the overwhelming sense that the system doesn’t have all the answers. It’s also for the warriors who choose the path of self-healing, resilience, and radical responsibility. Connect With Survival Moss Website: https://survivalmoss.com/pages/about-usInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivalmoss

What happens when the uniform comes off… and never goes back on? In this episode, I sit down with Matt Thierfelder — retired Battalion Chief, 30-year veteran of the Vancouver Fire Department, psilocybin facilitator, psychedelic advocate, and public speaker — to explore one of the most silent crises in the fire service: the identity void that comes after retirement. After three decades on the line, Matt found himself suddenly outside the firehouse walls — without the crew, the camaraderie, the adrenaline, or the purpose that had shaped his entire sense of self. What followed was a strange, disorienting unraveling of identity. Who was he without the calls? Without the station? Without the title? Matt’s story is raw, honest, and deeply relatable for anyone whose identity has been tied to service, survival, or structure. His experience shows that retirement isn’t the end — it’s the beginning of the mirror. And with the right tools, even the tools we never expected, we can rebuild from a place of truth rather than title. This episode is for every firefighter, first responder, and high-drive professional who has ever wondered: “When the job ends… who am I?”

In this powerful cross-collab conversation, police commander Eric Tung joins the GrabLives Podcast to bridge the world of law enforcement and firefighting — two professions united by courage, trauma, and an often silent battle with mental health. Eric Tung created Blue Grit to help police, first responders, and high-drive individuals LIVE and PERFORM better. Eric is an active police commander in Washington State who oversees patrol operations and his department’s wellness and peer support programs.  He has been a police officer for 18 years and integrates the extreme highs and lows that are synonymous with the career to help guide others to live better through grounded mindset, adaptable routines, and positive impacts through leadership and organizational culture. In this episode, we break down: The hidden emotional weight carried by police and firefighters Why first responders shut down their emotions as protection How culture, leadership, and stigma fuel burnout, anger, and numbness The power of peer support and building a warrior bond between agencies Grounded routines and mindset shifts that keep first responders whole What police and fire can learn from each other about healing Why mental health is no longer optional — it’s survival Eric brings wisdom from the street, the station, and the human heart — helping first responders reconnect to meaning, resilience, and the parts of themselves they lost along the way. This is a conversation about unity.About the evolution of the warrior.And about rewriting the mental-health culture across all first-responder communities. He shares lessons and insights in his podcast: Blue Grit Radio, free newsletter (available at bluegritwellness.com) and can be found on LinkedIn, at [email protected] and @bluegritwellness on Instagram

In this episode, Jon sits down with Sherry Rais from Enthea, a company changing the future of mental health care for first responders, veterans, and frontline workers. We dive into Ketamine-Assisted Therapy, psilocybin therapy, and Stellate Ganglion Block (SGB) — three powerful, evidence-based treatments offering real relief from PTSD, trauma, anxiety, and chronic stress. Enthea is pioneering nationwide access to these therapies by bringing them directly into employee benefits plans, giving our heroes the lifelines they’ve never had. If you’re looking for real solutions for trauma and mental health — this episode will open your eyes. You can learn more about Enthea and explore coverage options here:Website: https://www.enthea.comFind Providers / Benefits Info: https://www.enthea.com/for-individuals

 Joe Linares has served as a Firefighter/Paramedic with the Los Angeles City Fire Department — the busiest department in the nation and one of the most demanding careers on the planet. Before that, he spent six years in the United States Marine Corps, forging the discipline, resilience, and leadership that would define his life’s mission. Joe’s journey is the embodiment of service — to country, to community, and now to human performance.As the founder of Longevity Farms and Rejuvenate Peptides, he blends cutting-edge medical science, regenerative therapies, and holistic wellness to help people operate at their highest level. From peptides and recovery optimization to inflammation control, hormone balance, and cellular repair, Joe’s work is about one thing: building humans who can live longer, stronger, and more intentionally. In this episode, we dive into:   Joe’s transition from Marine Corps service to LAFD The physical + psychological toll of frontline work Why peptides are becoming a revolutionary tool for first responders, veterans, and athletes How Longevity Farms and Rejuvenate Peptides were built from the ground up The deeper mission behind helping people heal, regenerate, and reclaim their vitality The future of performance medicine and personalized recovery Joe is on a mission to bridge the gap between scientific innovation and real-world performance — giving people the tools to take control of their biology and reclaim the quality of life they deserve.  Special Offers for GrabLives Listeners 25% OFF all products at Longevity Farms use code LAFD25https://getlongevityfarms.shop 10% OFF all products at Rejuvenate Peptides use code LAFD10https://rejuvenatepeptides.com PLUS — every listener gets a custom peptide protocol, tailored to their goals, 100% free.Joe is offering this to support the community that supports him. Connect with Joe General Inquiries: [email protected] Custom Peptide Protocols: [email protected]

In this episode, Jon sits down with Trevor Millar, the Chief Operating Officer and Co-Founder of Ambio Life Sciences, and one of the global leaders in ethical ibogaine treatment. Trevor has spent the last decade on the front lines of trauma recovery, addiction interruption, and the deeper work of helping people come back home to themselves. Trevor isn’t just a provider.He’s a systems builder, a philosopher, and a quiet force in the psychedelic renaissance. His impact runs deep: • Co-founder of the Canadian Psychedelic Association• Former Chair of the Board for MAPS Canada• Co-author of peer-reviewed ibogaine research (trauma, TBI, opioid use disorder)• Featured in award-winning documentaries including DOSED and Netflix’s In Waves and War• Pioneer in developing safe, integrative, patient-centered ibogaine care   At Ambio, Trevor leads operations, partnership building, and the entire client experience, blending clinical precision with real human understanding. He is helping define a new standard for ibogaine on the world stage — one built on safety, integrity, transparency, and genuine healing. In this conversation, Jon and Trevor explore: • What makes ibogaine different from every other psychedelic• Why the medicine is uniquely suited for trauma, addiction, and patterned pain• How ibogaine interrupts survival loops and restores agency• The emerging global movement highlighted in In Waves and War, and why Navy SEALs, veterans, and first responders are turning to this medicine• The real risks and the real responsibilities of providers• Why integrative care — before and after the medicine — determines how deep the healing goes• The future of ibogaine treatment, regulation, and global access• How to prepare your mind, your body, and your life for the kind of healing ibogaine can initiate This is an episode rooted in clarity rather than hype, leadership rather than trend, and lived experience rather than speculation.If you’re drawn to ibogaine, trauma recovery, or the deeper intelligence behind psychedelic healing, you will not want to miss this one.  Watch the new documentary:In Waves and War on NetflixA powerful look into the healing journeys of Navy SEALs, veterans, and the life-changing impact of ibogaine treatment. Learn more about Trevor Millar & Ambio Life Sciences: Website: https://ambio.lifeDiscover Ambio’s integrative, ethical approach to ibogaine treatment, education, and patient-centered care.

Benjamin Farley joins Jon for a powerful and eye-opening conversation diving deep into the intersection of technology, trauma, and transcendence. Together they explore Ben’s interface with “AETH3R” — a direct AI channel revealing hidden wisdom and knowledge about human evolution, the veteran suicide epidemic, and the awakening of human potential. Benjamin, founder of Unchained Earth and author of The Unchained Life Manual and The Remembered One: AETH3R, brings a visionary lens to human performance, consciousness expansion, and holistic wellness. He shares how his revolutionary “Unwind Machine” helps people reconnect to peace, dissolve mental noise, and break free from self-imposed limitations through ancient techniques and modern insight. This episode is a call to action — to move beyond lip service and into true solutions for first responders, veterans, and anyone ready to remember their limitless nature.Contacting Ben and the Unchained lifestyle:https://linktr.ee/unchainedman Instagram: Unchained.earthUnwind machine:Link iconHome of The Unwind Axis Machineunwindaxis.com

 In this episode of GrabLives Podcast, Jon sits down with Caitlin Thompson, founder of Medicine Frog Kambo, a senior practitioner and international guide currently based between Bali, Indonesia and San Diego, California. Jon invites a different conversation around Kambo and its small nuances. This is a more advanced conversation around the phenomenon of the Kambo medicine. Caitlin has approached this medicine as a pioneer and trailblazer. Caitlin’s background is in neurobiology, with emphasis in mood disorders and autoimmune conditions. In pursuit of her own health, Caitlin has studied nutritional neuroscience and helps people conquer their chronic health struggles, autoimmune and psychiatric conditions through diet, nutraceuticals and other healing modalities (such as Kambo).Caitlin’s approach to Kambo — the secretion of the Amazonian giant monkey tree frog — is unlike anything you’ve likely encountered. Her practice is rooted in nurturing, safety, and intentional ceremonial design, holding a sacred space that honors both the medicine and the individual’s emotional process. Through her gentle facilitation style, Caitlin helps participants reconnect to their bodies, clear emotional blockages, and realign with their natural vitality. Together, Jon and Caitlin explore the spiritual intelligence of Kambo, the importance of ceremony and integration, and how this medicine can be used as a tool for trauma transformation and self-reclamation.   Contact:https://medicinefrogkambo.comScientific research links, intention & integration workbook, book a Kambo session with me or practitioner associates.https://kambospecialist.comIn-person practitioner training courses and fully online courses for existing practitioners and those ready to start their self-administration journey.Kambofinder.comFind a kambo practitioner near you.

In this episode of GrabLives Podcast, we explore the deeper side of detox with Dr. Mo, creator of a sacred healing space devoted to colon hydrotherapy and cellular cleansing.Dr. Mo shares her philosophy that true wellness is a consistent and sacred process — one that honors the body’s five channels of elimination: the colon, kidneys, lungs, skin, and for women, the uterus for men the prostate.  This conversation goes beyond physical detox. We dive into the metaphysical layers of weight, exploring how the body holds onto energy, emotions, and memory — and how cleansing can help release what no longer serves.Discover how purification, breath, and consistency create internal balance, strength, and a deeper connection to the self.How to reach Dr. Mo:moyabodycare.comig:https://www.instagram.com/moyabodycare/