Why Asking for Commitment Can Push a Man Away

What This Episode CoversWhy the “Where is this going?” conversation often feels logical to women—but threatening to menHow men show commitment through consistency, protection, and integration rather than labelsThe difference between relationship progression and relationship pressureWhy anxiety (even when unspoken) undermines attraction and emotional safetyHow timing and delivery determine whether a commitment conversation brings a man closer—or pushes him awayKey InsightsMen often interpret direct commitment questions as a sign they’ve already failed to meet expectationsA man who is progressing naturally may feel there is “nothing more he can do” when pressed for certaintyEmotional safety—not verbal assurance—is what allows men to open up and move forwardPraise, appreciation, and acknowledgment of what is working create more clarity than interrogationActions over time provide more reliable information than verbal promisesPractical TakeawaysStart commitment conversations from appreciation, not concernReplace direct demands for definition with open-ended invitations to shareGive men time to process emotional questions instead of requiring immediate answersObserve behavior patterns rather than relying on verbal reassuranceTreat dating like a skill set—timing, tone, and awareness matter  Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

In this heartfelt and timely conversation, Lisa and Benjamin address the rising fear, frustration, and confusion many women feel around dating today. With reproductive rights rolling back, misogynistic voices getting louder, and gender tensions increasing, it’s natural to question whether emotionally secure, equality-minded men still exist.Inside this episode, they explore:Why today’s political and cultural climate is impacting women’s trust in menHow insecurity drives controlling or misogynistic behaviorWhy extreme male influencers gain traction—and why they’re not the normHow women can date with both softness and boundariesPractical ways to evaluate a man’s character over timeWhy slowing down is essential for emotional safetyHow to hold onto hope without being naïveThe kind of partnership both men and women are truly longing for Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin explore:🔹 The Hidden Cost of Survival ModeHow stress, overthinking, and constantly being “on” create invisible emotional armorWhy most accomplished women don’t realize they’re broadcasting tensionHow burnout leads to protection mode, emotional walls, and shutdown🔹 What Men Actually Feel Around a Woman in Survival ModeBenjamin breaks down:Why men physically feel your tension in their bodiesHow survival mode reads as rejection, dismissal, or “I don’t need you”Why men feel unsure, anxious, or useless when you’re overwhelmedHow this energy kills playfulness, chemistry, and romantic momentum🔹 The Dating DisconnectWhat happens when women confuse venting with vulnerabilityHow oversharing, rapid-fire questions, or emotional dumping shuts men downWhy many women walk away saying, “No chemistry,” when it’s really survival mode blocking connectionHow men interpret disconnection, busyness, or rushing from one task to the next🔹 Playfulness: The Missing IngredientWhy playfulness is essential for attraction — especially for masculine menHow survival mode narrows your perception and eliminates playWhat presence feels like to a man, and why it instantly creates chemistryThe difference between being independent vs. emotionally inaccessible🔹 Simple Shifts to Get Out of Survival Mode (Even On a Date)Lisa and Benjamin share practical tools:A single deep breath that resets the energy instantlyHow to acknowledge stress without dumpingHow to communicate authentically when you’re not at your bestSmall rituals that bring you back into your body before a dateA pattern interrupt technique to reset the tone mid-date🔹 What Men Do When They Are in Survival ModeWhy men may default to short-term relationships when overwhelmedHow masculine men pull themselves out of the dating poolHow stressed men may be drawn to stressed women for the wrong reasons🔹 The Path Back to ConnectionHow presence, softness, and playfulness draw in high-caliber menHow vulnerability (not oversharing) opens the door to real intimacyWhy partnership allows women to finally rest, soften, and feel supportedWhy being in a safe relationship creates space for authenticity, emotions, and ease Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

How do men know when a woman is “the one” — and what makes them decide to commit for the long term? In this revealing conversation, Lisa and Benjamin Shield unpack one of the biggest mysteries in dating: how men truly evaluate compatibility, emotional safety, and respect.You’ll discover:-The subtle signals men look for when deciding if a woman is long-term material-Why emotional safety and respect matter more than chemistry or shared goals-The difference between liking a woman and seeing a future with her-How to express vulnerability in a way that draws a man closer — not pushes him away-What successful, self-aware women unknowingly do that can make high-quality men pull backThis episode offers a rare look inside the real decision-making process of emotionally available men — and shows how to meet them at that level with authenticity and confidence. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin Shield explore:-The three biggest fears men face in relationships — losing independence, disappointing a woman, and emotional vulnerability.-Why even strong, loving men can feel trapped or judged — and how that impacts their ability to commit.-The emotional difference between “disappointing” and “shaming” a man (and why one word can shut him down).-How to create emotional safety that makes men want to open up, instead of withdraw.-The art of communicating boundaries and appreciation without losing your authenticity or feminine power.Key Takeaway:Understanding what drives men emotionally doesn’t mean shrinking yourself to fit their needs — it means mastering the dynamics that allow two powerful people to thrive together.Tune in for an eye-opening dialogue that helps successful women elevate love with the same intelligence and self-awareness they bring to every other part of their lives. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

In this quick but powerful episode, Lisa Shield shares four down-and-dirty tips every woman should know about what makes her unforgettable in the eyes of a man. With her signature warmth and insight, Lisa breaks down the essential traits that men are secretly craving in their dream woman. If you're ready to stop guessing and start attracting a high-quality man, this episode is your wake-up call.Key Highlights:PlayfulnessA light-hearted, spontaneous attitude is incredibly attractive.Playful teasing, laughter, and having fun together deepen the connection.You don’t need to be a flirt—just be open to having fun and being in the moment.SensualityEmbrace your senses—sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell.It’s not about being overtly sexual—it’s about being grounded and fully alive.Let yourself be present and expressive, and men will be drawn to your feminine energy.WarmthGenuine warmth makes a man feel safe, seen, and emotionally connected.Show empathy and emotional availability—especially when he's vulnerable.Small gestures, like a gentle touch or holding space for him, go a long way.Self-SufficiencyMen want women who are whole and happy on their own.Self-sufficiency means you can enjoy your life even when he's not around.Avoid appearing overly needy—be secure and confident in yourself.Memorable Quote:"Be the woman who makes him laugh, dream, and admire—not because you need him, but because you choose him."Want More?Ready to dive deeper into your romantic journey? Visit LisaShield.com to watch the free presentation and apply for Lisa’s Emotionally Naked Dating Course—a life-changing 4-month experience that teaches you how to attract the Guardian of Your Soul. **Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/#LisaShield #FindingTheGuardianOfYourSoul #DatingAdvice #SmartSuccessfulWomen #FeminineEnergy #ModernDating #PodcastEpisode #WomenEmpowerment #RelationshipCoach Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

Finding the Guardian of Your Soul with Lisa ShieldEpisode Title: “Is Your Success Intimidating Men… or Is It Something Else?”Welcome to Finding the Guardian of Your Soul! I'm your host, Lisa Shield, and I’m thrilled to have you here. Please share this episode with your single girlfriends, guy friends, and anyone navigating the dating world. What we discuss here is something you won’t hear from other coaches—I bring a unique lens to the challenges smart, successful women face in modern dating.In this episode, we’re diving deep into a common and frustrating narrative: “Men find me too intimidating.”You’ve worked hard, climbed the ladder, built a life you’re proud of—so why does it feel like your success is working against you in dating?I’ll share powerful insights from nearly 25 years of experience, including:Why it’s not your success that’s turning men away—but how you're presenting itThe difference between being confident vs. coming across as masculineHow to embrace your femininity without “dumbing yourself down”Why men do want strong, successful women—and how to let them inThe importance of learning to receive, not reject, a man's gesturesYou don’t need to be less of who you are—you just need to learn how to show up in your full, feminine power.Whether you're getting lots of first dates but no meaningful connections—or you're just tired of hearing that you're “too much”—this episode is for YOU. **Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/#LisaShield #FindingTheGuardianOfYourSoul #DatingAdvice #SmartSuccessfulWomen #FeminineEnergy #ModernDating #PodcastEpisode #WomenEmpowerment #RelationshipCoach Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

The SPECIFIC Dating Challenges Successful Women Face (and how to overcome them) In this episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa Shield, a love coach for over two decades, discusses the unique dating challenges successful women face and provides practical solutions to overcome them. Lisa covers key topics, including time management, dealing with intimidating men, and emotional availability. She shares actionable steps to fit dating into a busy schedule, the importance of embracing feminine energy, and becoming emotionally open with potential partners. Tune in for valuable insights and tips on finding your guardian of your soul.Highlights:Time Management ChallengesIntimidating MenEmotional AvailabilitySolutions and Closing**Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/ Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin Shields discuss the complex emotions and pitfalls surrounding the question, 'Can we still be friends?' after a romantic relationship ends. They delve into the reasons why people might hold on to these 'friendships,' the emotional distress and false hopes it creates, and offer advice on how to move forward in a healthy manner.Highlights:The Real Reasons Behind 'Can We Still Be Friends?'Consequences of Staying 'Friends'Personal Anecdotes and ObservationsThe False Hope CycleWhen to Cut TiesCase Study: A Year-Long ObsessionCompartmentalization and Friends With BenefitsImpact on Self-Esteem and Mental Health **Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/ Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]

Lisa Shield delves into the crucial distinction between love bombing and real love. She shares her own experiences and insights on how to identify a love bomber, highlighting red flags such as over-the-top affection, constant communication, lavish gifts, and pressing for quick commitment. Lisa contrasts this with the slow, steady development of real love, emphasizing the importance of boundaries, consistency, and mutual respect. She offers practical advice on protecting your heart, setting and reinforcing boundaries, and listening to your intuition. Lisa passionately encourages taking time to truly get to know a partner and underscores the value of emotional nakedness and vulnerability in fostering genuine connections. Tune in to learn how to safeguard yourself against love bombers and open the door to lasting, meaningful relationships.Highlights: Understanding Love Bombers  Love bombers overwhelm you with attention, affection, and gifts to quickly win your trust.  They often exhibit narcissistic traits and may have avoidant personality disorders.Characteristics of Love Bombers  Over-the-top affection too soon.  Constant attention and intense communication.  Lavishing gifts and grand gestures.  Putting pressure to commit quickly.Characteristics of Real Love  Develops gradually with mutual respect and understanding.  Establishing a foundation of friendship first.  Consistency, reliability, and genuine interest in each other's goals.  Willingness to have difficult conversations and respect for boundaries.Protecting Yourself from Love Bombers  Slow down and honor your own pace.  Set and reinforce clear boundaries.  Stay connected with friends and family who can offer objective perspectives.  Look for consistent actions over grand promises.  Listen to your intuition and trust your gut feelings.Key Takeaway  Authentic relationships build over time with open communication, mutual respect, and emotional vulnerability. Avoid rushing into commitments and prioritize finding a partner who truly values and respects you. **Resources:**- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page**Connect with Us:**- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisashieldcoaching/- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisashieldcoaching/  Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with LisaEmail the podcast at: [email protected]