106. Do it Scared - The Perfectionist Diaries, Chapter One

Courage is not the absence of fear but the willingness to act despite it. Waiting until you're fearless will keep you stuck in perfectionism forever. And fear cannot live in a moving body. So, Move. -The Perfectionist Diaries is a mini-series on Figuring Sh!t Out about breaking free from habitual perfectionism and learning to create through fear.This first chapter explores divine timing, creative resistance, and why waiting to feel “ready” is the biggest trap of all.On this episode, we cover:The False Ideal of Fearlessness & How Perfectionism is the Deepest form of Self-SabotageHow Ideas are Divine Assignments, why we must ActWhat Creative Self-Worth Means & EntailsNot needing to Know the End-Game, Just the Next Aligned Step (thank u erifili!!)Moving through The Perfectionist Paralysis with the Willingness to be SeenxIF YOU <3 FSO, RATE THE PODCAST, LEAVE A COMMENT & SAY HI, AND STAY CONNECTED!COSTA RICA 2026!!!COMMUNITY / ROAD LESS TRAVELED INVITE: DM Me "Invite" On IG (@byvanessafontana)MAILING LIST (10% off Merch + a Free Energy Protection Meditation <3)IG: @byvanessafontanaTIKTOK: @butterflyfountain MERCHWRITE TO ME FOR A CHANCE TO BE FEATURED ON AN UPCOMING EPISODE My Substack <3Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Decision is the bridge between your current reality and your highest potential. It is the pathway from survival to creation, from fear to embodiment, and from wishing to CHOOSING. Because maybe you're not stuck - maybe you're just.. undecided. And maybe, without realizing it, your lack of decision has already become one: the choice to stay disconnected, half-alive, half-in.This episode is a wake-up call. A reclamation of your creative power through the art of choosing. We explore how fear, numbness, and ambivalence keep us suspended between worlds, and how reconnecting to your body allows clarity, creativity, and conviction to return.You'll learn: Why hope without action can become a disguised form of fear.How emotional numbness and ambivalence block your creative energy.Somatic and practical tools to reconnect with your desire and direction.How trauma shapes indecision and how to reprogram your body for clarity.An 8 step framework to shift looping thoughts into embodied, decisive action.The energetic process of turning decisions into lasting change.xIF YOU <3 FSO, RATE THE PODCAST, LEAVE A COMMENT & SAY HI, AND STAY CONNECTED!COSTA RICA 2026!!!COMMUNITY / ROAD LESS TRAVELED INVITE: DM Me "Invite" On IG (@byvanessafontana)MAILING LIST (10% off Merch + a Free Energy Protection Meditation <3)IG: @byvanessafontanaTIKTOK: @butterflyfountain MERCHWRITE TO ME FOR A CHANCE TO BE FEATURED ON AN UPCOMING EPISODE My Substack <3xGET 40% OFF OF YOUR CALM SUBSCRIPTION HERE: calm.com/vanessaFSO Episode 82: How EMDR HealsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I don't know about you - but cynicism has never brought me more life. Judgement towards myself or others has never given me more purpose. Feeding resistance and resentment has never watered the seeds of my growth. Contrary to popular belief - joy is not naive. It is imperative. And this radical, yet simple decision to take the unserious seriously is what enables us to let go a little deeper into the necessary whimsy of life that makes it worth living. This week, we explore why learning to feel, experience, and hold a state of joy is THE most important work you'll do for yourself, others, and dare I say... humanity. My intention is that you leave this episode with powerful reframes that root you deeper into the presence of your being and allow you to feel more ease in the more-than-enough purpose of simply being alive. xIF YOU <3 FSO, RATE THE PODCAST, LEAVE A COMMENT & SAY HI, AND STAY CONNECTED!COSTA RICA 2026!!! (feel free to reach out over insta to chat more about it if you want!)COMMUNITY / ROAD LESS TRAVELED INVITE: DM Me "Invite" On IG (@byvanessafontana) & let me know which one you're interested in!& SIGN UP FOR THE MAILING LIST TO BE NOTIFIED WHEN THE NEXT ITERATION OF THE COMMUNITY OFFICIALLY LAUNCHES:MAILING LIST (10% off Merch + a Free Energy Protection Meditation <3)IG: @byvanessafontanaTIKTOK: @butterflyfountain MERCHWRITE TO ME FOR A CHANCE TO BE FEATURED ON AN UPCOMING EPISODE My Substack <3xGET 40% OFF OF YOUR CALM SUBSCRIPTION HERE: calm.com/vanessaSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week, we explore the tender space between solitude and connection, moving deeper into the theme of unapologetic self-expression (especially for those of us who learned to hide in self-protection.)For those of us who have long identified as "introverts," I ask you a very important question: are you ACTUALLY an introvert? Or do you just have social anxiety and are you scared to be seen?On today's episode, we explore the spectrum of introversion / extroversion as it relates to the safety to be seen and explore the truth behind these labels, social anxiety, and the self-preserving patterns that make us believe we're safer unseen and how to gently unravel them and find aligned community.We root into this theme of community and belonging - something so many of us strive to find in a chronically online, disconnected world - and how to find it when you're in the process of finding yourself.I take you through my own story of social anxiety, self-preservation, outgrowing friendships as a result of coming of age, coming into rediscovering platonic love in a new way, and explore how self-connection can expand into communion with others.If you take away one thing from this dialogue, let it be this:WHEN YOU LET YOURSELF BE SEEN, YOU LET YOURSELF BE LOVED! & YOU DESERVE TO BE BOTH SEEN + LOVED.(but how???? well, just sit back, relax, and listen <3)This episode is a part 2 to episode 102 (Unapologetic, Unconditional Beingness) (no need to listen in order!)xIF YOU <3 FSO, RATE THE PODCAST, LEAVE A COMMENT & SAY HI, AND STAY CONNECTED!COSTA RICA 2026!!! (Reach out over IG to chat if you are interested!)COMMUNITY / ROAD LESS TRAVELED INVITE: DM Me "Invite" On IG (@byvanessafontana) & let me know which one you're interested in!& SIGN UP FOR THE MAILING LIST TO BE NOTIFIED WHEN IT OFFICIALLY LAUNCHES:MAILING LIST (10% off Merch + a Free Energy Protection Meditation <3)IG: @byvanessafontanaTIKTOK: @butterflyfountain MERCHWRITE TO ME FOR A CHANCE TO BE FEATURED ON AN UPCOMING EPISODE My Substack <3xGET 40% OFF OF YOUR CALM SUBSCRIPTION HERE: calm.com/vanessaSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Many of us have come to know our true selves and what alignment feels like to *some* extend, but how do you ~stay~ aligned, even when life isn't? Even when your environment.. isn't?This episode is all about staying rooted in love, alignment, and authenticity - no matter what’s happening around you. We explore the continuum of contrast, the wound of rejection, and the habit of people-pleasing that pulls us out of ourselves and keep us small - especially when faced with people who project, misunderstand, or drain our energy..Because here’s the truth: the world does not have to comply for you to feel good. You do not have to change anyone or anything to be at peace. Alignment is because of *you*, not your circumstances.In this episode, you'll learn how to take radical responsibility for your alignment, understand your conditioning, and release control-oriented patterns that keep you small.We talk inner child healing, shadow work, and the truth about introversion (& social anxiety) as self-preservation - and how to bring your full, radiant self into every room. (BECAUSE THE WORLD NEEDS MORE OF YOU BEING YOU <3)xIF YOU <3 FSO, RATE THE PODCAST, LEAVE A COMMENT & SAY HI, AND STAY CONNECTED!JOIN ME IN COSTA RICA 2026!!!IG: @byvanessafontanaTIKTOK: @butterflyfountainMERCH MAILING LIST (10% off Merch + a Free Energy Protection Meditation <3)WRITE TO ME FOR A CHANCE TO BE FEATURED ON AN UPCOMING EPISODE FSO Episodes Referenced:Episode 43: Speak your Truth & Protect Your Peace: The Energy of Alignment & InfluenceShadow-Work Series, Part 1CHAPTERS:0:00-4:00: how to stay aligned, relentlessly love, + be YOU5:30: the continuum of contrast & choosing love over fear 7:00: addressing the wound of rejection + the habit of people pleasing / molding ourselves / control-oriented behaviors8:00: step 1: radical responsibility9:30: becoming aware of your conditioning 11:00: when you ask for more, you will be met with opportunities to choose MORE. relationships & opportunities are our mirrors 14:00: inner child healing, shadow-work, the WHY behind when we start hiding 18:00: when empathy & emotional attunement becomes maladaptive22:00: introversion as a self-preservation tactic / why you're actually drained by socializing30:00: you are here for a reason. you’ve done half the work - how do you take the work / alignment with you? 27:00: alignment is because of YOU, not your circumstance. why we feel a fresh perspective when we travel / go somewhere but have trouble integrating. the love you see in anything is a reflection of you34:00: you don't have to cut people off to protect your peace 37:00: if you love someone take them off the pedastal of expectation: it's not fair to them, it's not fair to you.36:00: the shift that changes everything.40:00: believe so radically 44:00: unconditional love  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

On this episode, we’re breaking down the real mechanics of manifestation and demystifying the heavily marketed *woo-woo* behind it.(....Coming from a girl who loves and firmly embraces the woo-woo.)Spirituality and science are finally beginning to speak the same language, and on this episode, we’re translating both. This is a deep-dive into the inner physics of creation: how emotion shapes matter, how the heart bends time, and how the future already lives inside of you.We dive into the fundamental power within all of us to access emotional alchemy - dissipating past pain and creating a more expansive future and we do this by covering it alllll - the neuroscience, the energetics, and the emotional regulation behind true transformation.Pens & Papers out today folks because Class! Is! In! Session!xLove FSO? Let me know your thoughts on this episode with a comment! Let me know what you want to hear next! Rate the podcast 5 stars on your preferred streaming platform! & STAY CONNECTED xIG: @byvanessafontanaTIKTOK: @butterflyfountainMERCH MAILING LIST (10% off Merch + a Free Energy Protection Meditation <3)WRITE TO ME FOR A CHANCE TO BE FEATURED ON AN UPCOMING EPISODE COSTA RICA 2026FSO Episodes Referenced:Part 1: Law of Attraction, Living in Alignment, Surrendering & Trusting your intuition Part 2: Law of Attraction, Romanticizing your Life, Self-Fulfilling Prophecies, and Gratitude into LuckinessMARATHON EPISODE Shadow-Work Episodes: Inner Child HealingSelf-Expression & Creativity Further RESOURCES Mentioned: HeartMath InstituteFree Heart Coherence Meditation About VipassanaInsight timer - Free Meditation App DavidJi 40 Days of Transformation (Paid Version) CHAPTERS:0:00-3:00: Time is Non-Linear3:00-7:00: Manifestation is not what you think it is: skepticism & discernment is necessary7:00-12:00: CLASS IN SESSION! The Mechanics of Energy & The Basic States of Creation12:00-15:00: Concepts of Time15:00-18:00: Felt Sensation 18:00-22:00: Energetic Pathway of the Heart, Heart Math, Heart Coherence22:00-30:00: How I accidentally quantum Leaped30:00-35:00: The Most Important Emotion 35:00-37:00: What this REALLY all means. Simplifying it all. 37:00-49:00: Practices for Collapsing TimeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Season 4 opens with an invitation: to break subconscious contracts, to honor the duality of being and becoming, and to claim the inevitability of who you already are, embracing the fullness of your dreams with bravery and commitment. This episode walks you through the arc of survival, fear, and limitation - into freedom, expression, and truth. It maps the narrative arc of survival into self-expression, exploring the psychology of subconscious contracts and the practice of choosing your own inevitability over fear. xJOIN THE MAILING LIST FOR 10% OFF YOUR FIRST ORDER OF MERCH + A FREE GROUNDING & ENERGY PROTECTION MEDITATION: (BOTTOM OF THE PAGE) EXPLORE MERCH: Here! COSTA RICA MARCH 2026 RETREAT: 2 EARLY BIRD SPOTS LEFT IG: @byvanessafontanaTIKTOK: @butterflyfountainYoutube Video: Watch HereAdvertising Inquiries: [email protected]: 0:00 - Figuring Sh!t Out - SEASON 4 2:00: the narrative arc - when the road less traveled becomes.. the road you're on 9:00: you are inevitable14:00 the profound responsibility of taking responsibility for your own life 18:00: your subconscious contracts + failure pre-emption20:00: ways that I break my own subconscious contracts22:00: the myth of working "hard": let it be easy 23:00: the loyalty we pay to our fear vs our dreams & the contract of unworthiness25:00: PRACTICAL TIPS TO TURN survival into self-expression 30:00 the responsibility of being inevitableSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

gentle reminders for when you're overthinking, overwhelmed, and over-doing it.the art of let oneself be (without guilt) is a love letter to the magic that appears when you let go and it is done with the intention of:taking the BEING very seriously and the DOING very unseriously. this is the last episode of season three and the last page of the road less traveled chapter. so much more to come. see you very soon for episode 100. xWATCH THE VIDEO EPISODE HEREFSO COSTA RICA RETREAT 2026: LIMITED 10% OFF EARLY-BIRD SPOTSFSO InstagramPersonal Instagram: @vanessaafontanaTikTok: butterflyfountainIF YOU LOVE FSO, RATE THE PODCAST ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM, LEAVE A COMMENT, SHARE THIS EPISODE &STAY CONNECTED:Artist's Way Community Sign-Upfor partnerships or inquiries, please contact:[email protected]:0:00-5:00: the art of intentional living and the radical act of beingness5:00-7:18: the inevitable highs and lows, inhales and exhales, and sitting in between7:18-12:30: potential portals to beingness12:30-14:00: this is your sign to live more fully, freely, and joyfully14:00-18:00: embodying See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

every day is dress rehearsal for the life you want to live and the person you want to be.if you're trying, you're trying too hard.let this episode remind you of the truth of who you are - stop trying. start being.let go of the story & start LIVING your truth.and start now.xWATCH THE VIDEO EPISODE HEREFSO COSTA RICA RETREAT 2026: LIMITED 10% OFF EARLY-BIRD SPOTSFSO IGPersonal Instagram: @vanessaafontanaTikTok: butterflyfountainIF YOU LOVE FSO, RATE THE PODCAST ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM, LEAVE A COMMENT, SHARE THIS EPISODE &STAY CONNECTED:Artist's Way Community Sign-Upfor partnerships or inquiries, please contact:[email protected]: 0:00-4:00: You're Not Special, but You Are Powerful 4:00-8:00: Coming Clean 8:00-10:00: your worth starts right now10:00-12:00: What you want reveals who You Are 12:00-14:00: what is driving you? Fear or love?14:00-16:00: what if I don't believe it?16:00-18:00: the distinct polarities18:00-20:00: don't stare at fear. don't linger. 20:00-21:00: the trap of "trying" and how it keeps us stuck without realizing it21:00-23:00: life is a process of creation, not discovery.23:00: let go of the story & start LIVING your truthSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

"What aspects of myself do I wish to experience now in the face of this calamity? What aspects of being do I choose to call forth? For all life exists as a tool of your own creation, and all of its events merely present themselves as opposites for you to decide to be who ou are. There are no victims. Only creators" - Neil Walsch, Conversations with GodThought-Daughtering my way through every major challenge and transition in my life and remembering:Everything is an opportunity to deepen your most high truth - especially, your biggest challenges. Layers within them, are blessings.CHAPTERS:0:00-7:00: life update & backstory: where am I... living?7:00-19:00: challenges & hardship are opportunities to go deeper into who we really are19:00-25:00: we are pure creative potential25:00-29:00: you are not a victim!!!29:00-31:00: the misconception of the higher self31:00-35:00: how lucky are we to have a last time?x:WATCH THE VIDEO EPISODE HERE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4OKOGbozAagFSO COSTA RICA RETREAT 2026: LIMITED 10% OFF EARLY-BIRD SPOTSFSO IGPersonal Instagram: @vanessaafontanaTikTok: butterflyfountainIF YOU LOVE FSO, RATE THE PODCAST ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM, LEAVE A COMMENT, SHARE THIS EPISODE &STAY CONNECTED:Artist's Way Community Sign-Upfor partnerships or inquiries, please contact:[email protected] Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy