EPISODE 29: 6 Ways 'Naturally Thin' People Think Differently

Slow and steady wins the race, but dieters crave fast, fierce, and furious for their weight loss programs.   Instant gratification dominates the mindsets of most dieters. They want quick solutions and quicker results.   Consider what causes you to pursue a long-term project - like writing a book, building a relationship, learning an instrument, etc.   With long-term projects, sooner or later, we need evidence that we’re making progress. Without it, it would seem silly to continue pursuing it forever without the reward of accomplishment.   People don’t spend 20 years eating healthy and working their tail off at the gym without pleasure and reward mixed in. And if the goal is to maintain a lean physique for forever, we can’t rely solely on external validators, like a scale or mirror. Why?   1. Because those results aren’t immediate. 2. Because those results don’t continue changing after maintenance.   Unfortunately, this is where most dieters get stuck. Instead of chasing instant gratification in emotional and compulsive eating, what if you learned how to develop a new reward system? How would it feel to be able to delay instant gratification for permanent weight loss?   Dive into this week's episode as we discuss exactly how to do just that.   Connect with Leslie:   • Website• Instagram• Facebook   If you’re struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you’re interested in personalized coaching, apply here.   If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle alongside it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type    

If you want to be someone who rarely thinks about food and feels completely in control of what you eat in a way that feels easy, then you have to learn how to adopt the inner psychology and eating habits of a ‘naturally thin’ person.   The glaring difference between the lifestyle of Burned Out Dieter vs the lifestyle of the ‘Naturally Thin’ is that they’re both making drastically different decisions based on their inner psychology and daily eating habits.   So for example, a ‘naturally thin’ person who eats consistent portions at every meal for years is on autopilot.   And for Burned Out Dieters who are constantly getting on and off track with their eating — have created a habit of restrict-then-overeat.   They also do things like: Cleaning their plate at every meal Pick at food while they’re preparing it Eating when they’re procrastinating, bored, or stressed So, the question then becomes, how do we choose to do the things that ‘naturally thin’ people do consistently?   The diet industry will tell you that it’s about “eating less and moving more” and while that’s factually accurate, it’s shit advice and only half of the conversation.   Everyone already knows what they should be doing to lose weight. The question is WHY aren’t they doing it?   No one in the diet industry wants to touch this question.   It’s easier to talk about eating protein, vegetables, and tracking your calories…but it’s also why 95% of dieters are failing at long-term weight loss.   Answering this question requires understanding how your inner psychology influences your eating behaviors.   Join me on today's episode as we help you unravel your ties to emotional eating and develop the eating habits of the 'naturally thin'.   Connect with Leslie:   Website Instagram Facebook   If you’re struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you’re interested in personalized coaching, apply here. Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to our early action bonuses, you can join the interest list.    If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

Do you know why your diet isn't working? Join co-coach, Steph Miramontes, and me in this week’s episode as we dive into the 4 reasons why you still haven't lost the weight. Most people choose to follow meal plans and cookie cutter diets over a more mindful approach because the “rules” and boundaries have already been created for you. This helps you feel safe and confident in your decisions, but the truth is — diets never go as planned. If you don’t take the time to understand the purpose behind what you’re doing, you will be easily discouraged when times get tough. Diets won’t teach you how to navigate off the beaten path, and that’s where success is ultimately determined. sick days having a baby going through a divorce the loss of a loved one accepting a job offer in a different state If you want long-term sustainable weight loss, you must start educating yourself on how this process can be woven into the fabric of your every day life, not just for the next 12 weeks.   Give this episode a listen for multiple ideas on how to put this into practice.   Connect with Leslie:   • Website • Instagram • Facebook   If you’re struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you’re interested in personalized coaching, apply here. Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to our early action bonuses, you can join the interest list.    If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type

ANNOUNCEMENT: Are you a Burned Out Dieter Who's Struggling to Stay on Track? Join me and Coach Steph in the Outsmart Overeating program -- 6 weeks dedicated to helping emotional, binge, and compulsive overeaters STOP OVEREATING through psychology, NOT restrictive dieting or willpower. You can snag all the details on the enrollment page.   This week, I invited client, Dr Leah, onto the show to share her experience in my signature psychology-based weight loss program, Unstuffed.     As a doctor, Leah reveals how little formal nutrition education she actually received in her medical training. And as a struggling dieter herself, she found the standard medical recommendation to "follow a Keto diet for weight loss" to be nearly impossible to maintain, especially after having her first child.     In this episode, Leah talks about the power of habits and the benefit of having a deeper 'why' than simply wanting to lose weight for health and vanity. In Leah's case, she felt a strong connection to wanting to honor and respect a body that was made in God's image.     Also, it was important to her to pass down these habits to her children and create a healthy environment where she could thrive -- both in home and at the office with her patients -- by being a good role model. She's been enjoying the benefits of the program so much that she's now convinced her husband (another doctor) to join.      Healthy habits truly are the gift that keeps on giving!   If you're a burned out dieter who's feeling frustrated and hopeless, be sure to give this episode a listen. Dieting challenges usually get worse with time, not better. Do your future-self a favor and take action now. Connect with Leslie:   Website Instagram Facebook If you’re struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you’re interested in personalized coaching, apply here. Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to our early action bonuses, you can join the interest list. If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type  

ANNOUNCEMENT: Are you a Burned Out Dieter Who's Struggling to Stay on Track? Join me and Coach Steph on our FREE LIVE TRAINING as we share how to achieve Lifelong Weight Loss through psychology, NOT restrictive dieting or willpower. You can snag all the details when you register HERE.   As Nicolette was entering her 20's, she started developing an eating disorder. She eventually found a therapist, and at first her progress was significant. But slowly, over time, she noticed that she was still thinking about food in an obsessive and controlling way.   It wasn't as obvious as before, but the subtle behaviors -- like trying to eat 'clean' and stick to her macros -- still felt like they were consuming too much of her mental bandwidth.   This week, I'm excited to share the story of past client, Nicolette Tomaszewski. At 37 years-old, Nicolette is now a therapist, who has recently undergone one of the most transformative eating experiences of her life.   In this episode, Nicolette gets real by getting vulnerable. Some of the topics discussed:     She reveals the unconventional process that changed everything and how it turned out to be EXACTLY what she needed to break-free from the cycle of dysfunctional dieting for good. She shares why therapy didn't give her all the tools she needed to stop the weight loss obsession (and what has actually worked) How this going through this life-changing process has impacted the way she counsels her own clients in therapy in a way that's compassionate, yet goal-supporting How breaking up with dieting has opened up more ways for her to live a rich, rewarding life while maintaining a healthy, fit body in a way that feels easy and effortless. If you're a burned out dieter who's feeling frustrated and hopeless, be sure to give this episode a listen. Dieting challenges usually get worse with time, not better. Do your future-self a favor and take action now. Connect with Leslie:   Website Instagram Facebook If you’re struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you’re interested in personalized coaching, apply here. Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to our early action bonuses, you can join the interest list. If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type  

ANNOUNCEMENT: Are you a Burned Out Dieter Who's Struggling to Stay on Track? Join me and Coach Steph on our FREE LIVE TRAINING as we share how to achieve Lifelong Weight Loss through psychology, NOT restrictive dieting or willpower. You can snag all the details when you register HERE.   In this episode we debunk the lie that the fitness industry teaches about discipline being the key to a successful transformation and how that philosophy has kept dieters on a hamster wheel for years.   Every frustrated dieter wonders why they can’t just be more disciplined. They wonder why they can start off strong and the wheels inevitably fall off.   Generic dieting advice and the “just try harder” narrative is flawed. In reality, most people have tried harder to lose weight than anything else they’ve ever had to work at. So if trying harder isn’t the answer, what is?   Imagine waking up each day trusting that you aren’t going to overeat, that you won’t run out of willpower, and you’ll go to bed that night feeling proud that you broke the habit of overeating. How would it feel to be in control of food, instead of food controlling you?   Our habits shape our lives and finding the right system makes all the difference in the world.   Whether you’ve been a yo-yo dieter or a binge eater in dieting past, your current habits either work for you or against you.   When you understand the power of a habit, for better or worse, it’s easy to see how having the right habits, systems, and support in place is a game changer when it comes to fat loss.   In this episode, you’ll discover how to become consistent so you can not only achieve your goals, but you can maintain them with ease.   You’ll also learn:   How habits have all of the control and developing the right ones will save you years of frustration. How the pressures of life keep you circling the diet drain and how to practice being persistent no matter what obstacles you face. The real answer to sustainable fat loss that leave you feeling in control of food and never go on a diet again.   If forcing your body into a smaller version of itself through dieting worked, it would have worked by now. It’s time to try something different. Something that actually works.   Give this week’s episode a listen to learn how to create a system to build lean eating habits so you never have to diet again.   Connect with Leslie: • Website• Instagram• Facebook   If you’re struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you’re interested in personalized coaching, apply here.   If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle alongside it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type  

ANNOUNCEMENT: Are you a Burned Out Dieter Who's Struggling to Stay on Track? Join me and Coach Steph on our FREE LIVE TRAINING as we share how to achieve Lifelong Weight Loss through psychology, NOT restrictive dieting or willpower. You can snag all the details when you register HERE.   You probably realize that consistency is important for making progress, losing weight, getting in shape, and achieving success in most areas of life.   So if you’ve been struggling to lose weight it’s because there’s been a breakdown in consistency somewhere in your eating in a calorie deficit.   Without addressing this #1 problem, weight loss will become nearly impossible, because consistency is essential for success.   Unfortunately, this can breed an obsession with striving for perfection… which generally backfires.   It’s easy to convince yourself that if you don’t follow your diet perfectly, then you’ve failed… but in my case, striving for perfection is what eventually ignited my binge eating.   So if there’s anything I want you to take away from today’s conversation, it’s that it can be really easy to confuse being consistent with being perfect, but it's not required for success.   Join me as I share how to be consistent and how to avoid common mistakes and pitfalls, so you can turn your dream into a reality!   Connect with Leslie:   • Website • Instagram • Facebook If you’re struggling with emotional, binge, or feel out of control around food and you’re interested in personalized coaching, apply here.   If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type     Also, if you're interested in learning more about my signature psychology-based group coaching program, Unstuffed, you can join the Interest List HERE.

ANNOUNCEMENT: Are you a Burned Out Dieter Who's Struggling to Stay on Track? Join me and Coach Steph on our FREE LIVE TRAINING as we share how to achieve Lifelong Weight Loss through psychology, NOT restrictive dieting or willpower. You can snag all the details when you register HERE.   In this episode I debunk the two metabolic myths of a 'naturally thin' person.   Every frustrated dieter wonders why 'naturally thin' people have an unfair advantage. Why do they have faster metabolims or the ability to be more disciplined? Why can they start off strong in the morning without the wheels falling off later that night?   It must be their metabolism, right? WRONG!   Generic dieting advice says dieters just need to "try harder” but in reality, most of them have been 'trying harder' at weight loss more than anything else in their lives.   So if more willpower isn't the answer, what is?   Imagine waking up every morning with the deeply held belief that you aren’t going to overeat that day... and you actually succeed! No empty promises. No false beliefs. You said what you were going to do and DID IT.   What if you were able to BE this person, all day, every day all the way to your goal? What if you were able to break the habit of overeating and develop the mindset and habits of the 'naturally thin' so you never had to diet again?   How would it feel to be in control of food, all the time, everywhere?   Your habits shape our lives and finding the right system makes all the difference in the world.   When you understand the power of a habit, for better or worse, it’s easy to see how the right habits make ALL the difference in who you ARE vs. who you WANT to be.   In this episode, you’ll discover how to become consistent so you can not only achieve your goals, but you can maintain them with ease.   If you haven't achieved your dream body yet, this episode will let you know WHY. It's not because of your 'slow metabolism' it's because of your inner psychology and habits.    Give this week’s episode a listen to learn how.   Connect with Leslie: • Website• Instagram• Facebook   If you’re struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you’re interested in personalized coaching, apply here.   If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle alongside it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type  

In this episode I debunk the lie that the fitness industry teaches about discipline being the key to a successful transformation and how that philosophy has kept dieters on a hamster wheel for years.   Every frustrated dieter wonders why they can’t just be more disciplined. They wonder why they can start off strong in the morning and the wheels inevitably fall off later that night.   Generic dieting advice and the “just try harder” narrative is flawed. In reality, most people have tried harder to lose weight than anything else they’ve ever had to work at.   So if trying harder isn’t the answer, what is?   Imagine waking up each day trusting that you aren’t going to overeat, that you won’t run out of willpower, and you’ll go to bed that night feeling proud that you broke the habit of overeating and developed the habits of the 'naturally thin' so you never had to diet again.   How would it feel to be in control of food, instead of food controlling you?   Our habits shape our lives and finding the right system makes all the difference in the world.   Whether you’ve been a Restrictor or a Permitter in your dieting past, your current habits either work for you or against you.   When you understand the power of a habit, for better or worse, it’s easy to see how having the right habits, systems, and support in place is a game changer when it comes to fat loss.   In this episode, you’ll discover how to become consistent so you can not only achieve your goals, but you can maintain them with ease.   You’ll learn:   How habits have all of the control and developing the right ones will save you years of frustration. How the pressures of life keep you circling the diet drain and how to practice being persistent no matter what obstacles you face. The real answer to sustainable fat loss that leave you feeling in control of food and never go on a diet again (HINT: It all starts in the mind).   If forcing your body into a smaller version of itself through dieting worked, it would have worked by now. It’s time to try something different. Something that actually works.   Give this week’s episode a listen to learn how.   Connect with Leslie: • Website• Instagram• Facebook   If you’re struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you’re interested in personalized coaching, apply here.   If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle alongside it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type  

In this episode, we had the pleasure of interviewing two-time client, Rachael, a registered dietician. After losing weight using the strategies in 75 Hard, Rachael knew she was barely hanging on by a thread and couldn’t maintain the extreme restriction required that caused her to lose the weight.   At one point, her husband expressed concern about her dieting behaviors and feeling backed into a corner, Rachael relented and decided to give up dieting altogether.   As someone who experienced a classic history of yo-yoing with no long-term results to speak of, she decided she’d benefit from the structure and like-minded community offered in the Unstuffed program.    In this episode, Rachael opens up and shares the shame she experienced as a dietician who sought help in the very arena she had received a Master’s Degree.   She also shares her first experience in the program and why she later returned for more coaching.   In this week's episode, Rachael shares:   The biggest challenges she throughout the program and how she's been able to execute the psychological tools she learned to remain consistent in her habits Rachael shares why she decided to try hunger directed eating and how the program helped her identify herself as a struggling perfectionist What holiday and social eating looks like for her now compared to years previous (hint: no more food anxiety, fear of losing control or feeling left out) Rachael’s BEST piece of advice for those who fear they'll gain weight if they stop calorie counting and focus on weight loss through behavior change   For more conversations on topics like binge eating, emotional eating, and the all-or-nothing mindset, you can check out previously recorded episodes. If there’s a topic you’d like us to cover in an upcoming episode, let us know in the comments below.   This was an awesome client interview and I’m so excited to share it with you! I hope you dig in and find it helpful.   Connect with Leslie:   • Website • Instagram • Facebook   If you’re struggling with emotional, binge, or feel out of control around food and you’re interested in personalized coaching, apply here.   Or, if you want to be the first to know when we'll be opening the doors to Unstuffed and get access to exclusive FREE bonuses, you can join the Interest List. There's zero obligation to join.   If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, you can get started by taking the Weight Loss Psychology Quiz: Discover Your Diet Personality Type