Ep. 8 - Diving Deep On The Disconnect

Can you be estranged from someone you were never that close to? Brian welcomes a familiar face to break down a complicated relationship with her father, the importance of apologies, the bonding of blood, recognizing yourself, overcoming trauma, the fracturing of a family at a young age, and much, much more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Author, sociologist, and renowned estrangement researcher Rin Reczek joins to share her findings - has it become more prevalent, what are the most common breakdowns, why we need to destigmatize, how to heal, the process behind discovering data, and much more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do adult children suddenly cut ties with their parents? "Rules of Estrangement" author Dr. Joshua Coleman stops by to talk about the source of the disconnect, where resentment comes from, the age it is most common, how to heal the rift, the value of family counseling, and much more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How many people experience estrangement? Brian breaks down the stats and science, how common a parental break is, the true story between siblings, the average length, the steps to repair, and much more. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can family relationship issues affect romantic ones? Therapist, coach, and counselor Kimmy Seltzer drops by to talk about how not let unhealed wounds impact new relationships, how to recognize trauma, doing the work to compartmentalize, finding happiness in the holidays, what to reveal and when, and much, much more! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can you feel the effects of estrangement even at birth? "In The Know with KO" host Kristen Adams stops by to share her strange disconnection from an uncle, how to deal with divorce, getting left out of family functions, teaching new lessons to kids, and much, much more See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever wonder what it's like to be a guest at your own funeral? Writer and artist Jeffery Rudell shares his harrowing story of coming out to his parents at 21, their reaction, the heartbreak the followed, his attempts to amend, the pain of giving up and letting go, and watching his entire childhood go up in literal flames. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a father...simply chooses not to be there? Alicia reveals her on-again, off-again, off-for-good relationship with her dad, how it affected her as a mom, where and when she drew the line, the value of therapy, the keys to overcoming trauma, and much, much more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Is there any easy explanation when it comes to estrangement?  Brian kicks things off by breaking down his long, complicated experience with his family, where the disconnect began, the foreshadowing from childhood, the efforts at mending, the breaking of the olive branch, the realization of finality, the source of embarrassment, the damage of the toxicity, and more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you gone years and maybe decades without speaking with a family member or close friend? Welcome to Dead To Me...this is a podcast about estrangement. I'm Brian Howie, many of you know me as the host of The Great Love Debate, the top-rated dating and relationship podcast. Over the years of hosting that show, we listened to so many reasons why people can't find the right relationship, can't stay in a healthy one, leave one that has possibilities, or don't trust anyone enough to get into one in the first place.   And so much of that has to do with family issues, childhood trauma, or distance from those who are supposed to be the closest. And the more I revealed about my own, sad family situation - a source of great shame for me - the more people reached out to share theirs. So many emails, so many stories, so many times the bough simply...breaks.   So I am starting this podcast dedicated to the topic of estrangement. Maybe it's the flip-side of love, maybe it's the bookend. We'll be sharing, revealing, analyzing, growing, and hopefully healing. Open and honest, vulnerable and real, working through the guilt, the shame, the causes, the consequences, and ultimately letting go of the toxicity.   So please come along on this journey, they might be dead to you, but we are here and very much alive for each other. The show is Dead To Me. An estrangment podcast. Follow us now on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your shows.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.