304 | things no one warned us about marriage & parenting

Marriage and parenting are often painted as beautiful, fulfilling journeys (and they are!). But there are also parts no one really talks about until you’re in the middle of them. In this episode, we’re getting real about the unexpected challenges that catch couples and parents off guard. From shifting identities and communication struggles to the mental load, loneliness, and loss of spontaneity, we’re unpacking the truths people don’t always share before saying “I do” or bringing home a baby. Whether you’re preparing for marriage, navigating early parenthood, or deep in the trenches, this honest conversation will help you feel seen, understood, and a little more prepared for what’s ahead. Love you guys! Shawn & Andrew IQBAR ➡ To get your twenty percent off, text EASTFAM to sixty-four thousand. Text EASTFAM to 6400 Wayfair ➡ Head to www.https://Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home! Olipop ➡ You can actually get a free can of OLIPOP when you buy any two cans in store. They’ll pay you back for one!! Head to www.https://drinkolipop.com/COUPLETHINGS to get a free can when you buy two BranchBasics ➡ Tossing the toxins has never been more convenient. And if you’re grabbing the Premium Starter Kit, you can still get 15% off at www.https://BranchBasics.com with our code EASTFAM (00:00) what a spring break that was (03:22) things no one warned us about (04:28) the “50/50” concept (08:00) biggest fear going into our first child (15:21) the different types of loads we all carry (17:58) how parenting brings out new nuances (21:38) connection vs compatibility (26:38) selfish vs selfless (29:16) the roommate phase (and the phases after) (33:39) intimacy isn’t just “sexy time” (37:00) how quickly we adapt (38:28) apologizing, grief, and missing the past (45:12) speed checks and finding the right cadence (46:43) not just having “yes men” + accepting help (47:30) having family nearby (48:02) protecting our time together (48:32) the “we” pronoun (49:10) the four-month window (52:54) don’t assume (53:30) life is WONDERFUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Marriage and parenting are often painted as beautiful, fulfilling journeys (and they are!). But there are also parts no one really talks about until you’re in the middle of them. In this episode, we’re getting real about the unexpected challenges that catch couples and parents off guard. From shifting identities and communication struggles to the mental load, loneliness, and loss of spontaneity, we’re unpacking the truths people don’t always share before saying “I do” or bringing home a baby. Whether you’re preparing for marriage, navigating early parenthood, or deep in the trenches, this honest conversation will help you feel seen, understood, and a little more prepared for what’s ahead. Love you guys! Shawn & Andrew IQBAR ➡ To get your twenty percent off, text EASTFAM to sixty-four thousand. Text EASTFAM to 6400 Wayfair ➡ Head to www.https://Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home! Olipop ➡ You can actually get a free can of OLIPOP when you buy any two cans in store. They’ll pay you back for one!! Head to www.https://drinkolipop.com/COUPLETHINGS to get a free can when you buy two BranchBasics ➡ Tossing the toxins has never been more convenient. And if you’re grabbing the Premium Starter Kit, you can still get 15% off at www.https://BranchBasics.com with our code EASTFAM Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Four years ago, we recorded an episode built entirely around questions from our community- real questions from you, and our unfiltered advice in response! It ended up being one of our most-loved episodes, and listening back, it still feels just as relevant today. We’re bringing it back because the core of it hasn’t changed: people are still figuring things out, still asking the same kinds of questions, and still looking for honest, thoughtful advice. There’s something special about revisiting where we were, what we said, and seeing how it all holds up now. Whether you were there the first time or you’re hearing it for the first time now, we hope you enjoy this throwback episode and maybe even find a few answers you didn’t know you needed. Love you guys! If you haven’t tried the SKIMS Everyday Cotton collection yet, it’s definitely worth checking out. Check out www.https://covesmart.com/EASTFAM or use code EASTFAM at checkout for up to 60% off your first order! Caraway’s cookware set is a favorite for a reason, it can save you up to $190 versus buying the items individually. Plus, if you visit www.https://Carawayhome.com/EASTFAM you can take an additional 10% off your next purchase. (00:00) bringing back an old favorite (00:40) advice from us 4 years ago (02:12) flying with babies (08:50) asking for a break from the kids (09:32) supporting your partner’s mental health( 13:05) first-time parent experiences (16:59) how to tell if a friend likes you romantically (20:05) encouraging healthy habits (25:48) living with intention (27:11) practicing less judgment (29:12) transitioning from one to two kids (30:43) sharing a family vision (33:10) knowing when you're ready for kids (34:34) finding purpose as a mom (35:12) handling in-laws with grace (38:06) postpartum body confidence (39:10) living life to the fullest Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we sit down with our friend, bestselling author, and speaker Jennie Allen. Jennie is also the founder of IF:Gathering, a global movement that equips and disciples women around the world. Jennie has just released her newest book, The Lie You Don't Know You Believe, which explores the hidden lies many of us carry about ourselves. In the book, she unpacks how these quiet but powerful beliefs influence our decisions, our identity, and the way we pursue success and fulfillment. One of the themes we explore in this conversation is the surprising emptiness many people feel after reaching the goals they once believed would finally make them happy- whether it’s career success, influence, financial stability, or personal milestones. Thank you for coming on our show, Jennie! https://www.jennieallen.com/ You can order her book directly here: https://www.amazon.com/Lie-You-Dont-Know-Believe/dp/1400249821?crid=1O55W1X8A66DJ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.z1ASMlbX_ciP8Y5YryxYPaJ6zdNjIGZIwzzOweF24-gj5K23Xjtj3dS0UlZPxaY63-awEySPdUnqKXOCW5riUYfytvqsFyjTN1v44h5iE7-Dl0TkySW2d2F4X0DONwSQ.Y1vMFOIBHK9RFIkiMQ4Tt8VaihRiQR0rSAvoOwIIxO8&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+lie+you+dont+know+you+believe+jennie+allen&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1772506059&sprefix=the+lie+you,aps,212&sr=8-1-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGY&psc=1&linkCode=sl2&tag=emilycanlette-20&linkId=35a9accd0c8fe7a2444f826bfe26acc5&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we’re talking about OUR NEW BOOK!! After years of conversations, ideas, and believing in this project, our book is finally coming out June 9 and you can pre-order it now! https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-courage-to-commit-shawn-johnson/1148323652 We briefly discuss the overlying topic of commitment and why it’s so hard, why it matters, and what happens when you decide to truly stick with something. We’re also incredibly excited because we’ll be going on a book tour to celebrate the launch. We’ll be traveling, hosting events, doing interviews and press, and most importantly, meeting so many of you in person!!! Getting to connect with the community that has supported us through this journey is something we’re truly looking forward to. Your opinions, feedback, and support have shaped so much of what we do. The conversations we’ve had with you, the messages you’ve sent, and the ideas you’ve shared have all played a part in bringing this book to life. Thank you for being part of this journey with us. Love you guys and wee can’t wait to see you on the road! Shawn & Andrew Get a free can of OLIPOP when you buy any two — learn more at https://drinkolipop.com/COUPLETHINGS David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.https://davidprotein.com/EASTFAM. Stick with your wellness goals. Go to www.https://kachava.com and use code EASTFAM for 15% off. Home Chef is offering our listeners 50% OFF and free shipping for your first box PLUS free dessert for life! Go to www.https://HomeChef.com/EASTFAM. (00:00) how has it already been almost 3 years(01:06) why we decided to write this book(04:00) how we actually wrote the book(06:20) the book format and how it reflects our personalities(08:11) how writing the book changed our lives(10:05) unlocking fulfillment through commitment(15:30) what the podcast has taught us over the years(20:20) breaking down the three sections of the book(27:10) the hardest and most surprising part of writing it(36:20) why the new thing isn’t always the better thing(38:31) who this book is really for(43:25) everything happening around the book launch Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we sit down with Hal Elrod, bestselling author of The Miracle Morning, to explore the habits and mindset shifts that can transform your life. Hal shares the story behind his life-changing morning routine and how the S.A.V.E.R.S. method — Silence, Affirmations, Visualization, Exercise, Reading, and Scribing — has helped millions take control of their days before the world takes control of them. We also dive into his personal journey of overcoming a near-fatal car accident and a battle with cancer, and how those experiences shaped his philosophy on resilience, emotional responsibility, and choosing faith over fear. This conversation is packed with practical strategies for building discipline, elevating your mindset, and creating extraordinary results through small, consistent actions. If you're looking to upgrade your mornings — and ultimately your life — this episode delivers both inspiration and a clear roadmap to get started. We enjoyed this interview so much and hope you did as well! Love you guys, Shawn & Andrew (00:00:00) how we met hal (00:02:45) the milestones that changed hal’s life (00:07:45) the five-minute rule (00:09:25) accepting what we can’t change vs resisting reality (00:13:30) unwavering faith — but faith in what? (00:21:15) the miracle equation (00:31:10) learning to pay attention to feedback (00:33:19) the miracle morning (00:40:20) discovering your gifts and “divine” calling (00:44:44) chosen convictions vs personality traits (00:49:10) navigating cancer (00:57:50) unlimited potential (01:00:30) the “there is no other option” mentality (01:04:52) choosing the mindset that leads to a fulfilled life (01:10:07) balancing miracle morning in different seasons of life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we dive into one of humanity’s oldest and biggest questions: faith. If thousands of religions exist, what does it really mean to choose a God? Is faith something we inherit, something we discover, or something we decide? This isn’t about winning an argument — it’s about exploring the deep questions that shape how we live our lives. Whether you're religious, spiritual, agnostic, or atheist, this conversation invites you to think critically about what gives life meaning. Join the discussion in the comments! Love you guys, Shawn & Andrew Check out www.https://covesmart.com/EASTFAM or use code EASTFAM at checkout for up to 60% off your first order! Sign up and get 10% off at www.https://BetterHelp.com/EASTFAM Join at www.https://RocketMoney.com/eastfam Head to www.https://Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. (00:00:00) our why for this (00:02:45) how we broke down our thoughts on this (00:04:40) faith in the uncertain (00:18:08) the difference between faith, hope, and knowing it isn’t all “you” (00:26:25) what faith really means (00:28:46) the game you play in life is an indicator of what you serve (00:39:25) what comes to mind when we think about god (00:45:08) the christian definition of god and what it means to us (00:52:34) how everyone makes sense of faith differently (01:02:42) the benefits of daily practices and how we see faith Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Two weeks. Countless moments. One unforgettable Olympics. In this final episode of the series, we look back at the biggest highlights, surprise upsets, breakout stars, and powerful stories that shaped the Games. With perspective from someone who has competed at the Olympics, we talk about what these moments truly mean for the athletes, the legacy of the competition, and what we’ll remember long after the torch goes out. Let us know in the comments, what was your favorite sport or moment to watch? Love you guys, Shawn & Andrew You can still get 15% off at www.https://BranchBasics.com with our code EASTFAM. Just use code EASTFAM for 15% off the Premium Starter Kit at www.https://BranchBasics.com. After you purchase, when they ask where you heard about them, please make sure to mention our show! Right now, IQBAR is offering our special podcast listeners twenty percent off all IQBAR products—including the Ultimate sampler pack—plus FREE shipping. To get your twenty percent off, text EASTFAM to sixty-four thousand. Text EASTFAM to 64000. If you want to try OLIPOP, you can actually get a free can — buy any two cans in store and they’ll pay you back for one. Just go to www.https://drinkolipop.com/COUPLETHINGS to learn more. Go-GURT Simply comes in flavors like Strawberry and Mixed Berry, and you can find it at a retailer near you. Just a quick note: Go-GURT Simply contains 16 grams of total sugar per serving and 5 grams per tube, while Original Go-GURT contains 23 grams of total sugar per serving and 7 grams per tube. (00:00) concluding the olympic series & lindsey vonn (02:19) the u.s. hockey teams coming out on top (06:56) medal count: the u.s. brings home 12 golds (09:14) alysa liu bringing a new wave to the olympics (13:33) a shutout streak & a few spoilers 😉 (15:07) all about the world of skating (19:27) slope standards & weather delays (28:45) the speed skating accident (32:26) freeski madness (34:40) monobob, monobob, monobob (35:35) the u.s. flag bearers (36:13) a married couple making history (38:48) sub-six-minute miles (40:34) most-watched u.s. games since 2014 (41:40) we love the olympics!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we sit down with Brianna LaPaglia (Brianna Chickenfry) for one of her most honest conversations yet. She opens up about her life, the relationships that shaped her, and what it was really like to face the grueling challenges of Special Forces: World’s Toughest Test. Brianna shares moments the cameras didn’t capture, the obstacles that pushed her to her limits, and the lessons she took away from an experience that changed her forever. On top of that, we dive into our unexpected friendship, how it started, and the bond that grew out of shared experiences. Laughs, raw honesty, and real-life stories make this conversation one you won’t want to miss!! Whether you’re a fan of reality TV, curious about the life of Brianna Chickenfry, or just love real, unfiltered conversations about life, love, and resilience, this episode has something for you. We love you Brianna!! Love you guys, Shawn & Andrew (00:00) all about brianna (01:06) end of an era (03:37) the start of her journey (05:57) the “party” background (09:33) why special forces (12:27) andrew’s soapbox (14:28) negative self-talk & healing (19:37) the impact of the internet (23:00) toughest special forces challenge (26:30) what really happened during “murder ball” (31:29) bri’s creative process & heart for family (39:17) how bri almost lost her leg (41:32) hobbies, work, goals & purpose (44:20) most shocking & favorite moments from special forces Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been absolutely hooked watching the 2026 Winter Games and after our last breakdown, it was clear you had a lot of questions about my experience and what it’s really like as an athlete at the Olympics! So we went straight to Instagram, pulled your questions, and nothing was off limits. In this Olympics Q&A, we break down: • What the Olympic Village is really like • The pressure of competing on the world stage • What’s changed heading into 2026 • My honest thoughts on this year’s Winter Games There’s so much that doesn’t make the broadcast and as someone who’s lived it, I’m giving you the real perspective! We mentioned this in the intro, but here is a list of our favorite sports movies for families https://familymade.com/sportmovies Also if we didn’t get to your question, drop it in the comments for part two, we love you guys!! Shawn & Andrew Check out www.https://covesmart.com/eastfam or use code EASTFAM at checkout for up to 70% off your first order. And if you get a survey, be sure to let them know you heard about Cove from this podcast!! Go to www.https:// kachava.com and use code EASTFAM for 15% off!! David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.https://davidprotein.com/EASTFAM. Caraway’s cookware set is a favorite for a reason, it can save you up to $190 versus buying the items individually. Plus, if you visit www.https://Carawayhome.com/EASTFAM you can take an additional 10% off your next purchase. This deal is exclusive for our listeners, so visit www.https://Carawayhome.com/EASTFAM or use code EASTFAM at checkout. Caraway. Non-Toxic kitchenware made modern. (00:00) olympics being so unified for everyone and our family (03:47) how do they navigate “cheating” and gear meeting all olympics standards (14:47) “patriotic” for the world (15:42) if we were in the olympic games… (17:16) the inside look at the olympic villages (23:58) food at the olympic villages (26:44) two cities how many olympic villages? (30:13) how often can you see family as a competing athlete? (31:38) olympic rings tattoo (32:30) dream olympic host city! (36:39) different sports getting different attempts (44:31) cherished olympic moment (46:26) tuning out the noise (49:00) navigating a hard coach vs a demeaning coach (52:48) easier to watch on tv :) (53:44) coming back to reality after the olympics Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices