BUT WHY REWIND - CODEPENDENCY WITH JO WESTWOOD

In this look back through the But Why best bits collection, we return to December 2022 when Clemmie talked to friend of the pod, mum of three, psychotherapist and bestselling author Anna Mathur about loneliness. Anna is passionate about taking therapy out of the therapy room and sharing her own personal and professional experiences to support mums through motherhood. Her podcast, 'The Therapy Edit', has over a million downloads and her new book, 'The Little Book of Calm for New Mums', is out now! Find Anna on Instagram @annamathur and check out Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford. You can also find more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's bitesize episode sees Clemmie delve into the world of style with East London based Art Director & Stylist Zeena Shah. Zeena trained as a printed textile designer at Chelsea School of Art & Design, she has a passion for colour, print and pattern AND she's also a print designer/maker/illustrator and Creative Workshop Tutor.  As if that's not enough, Zeena is also an author and her most recent book - Marbling: Projects, Design Ideas and Techniques for a More Colourful Life - is all about preserving the art of marbling. Oh, and her incredible wedding also featured in Vogue! Clemmie and Zeena discuss why style is so important, how shopping in your own wardrobe can bring unexpected delights and why men have it tough when it comes to fashion. You can check out Zeena on Instagram @heartzeena and why not follow Clemmie too @Clemmie_telford. You can also find lots more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's Rewind episode is all about CODEPENDENCY & PEOPLE PLEASING as Clemmie chats to Jo Westwood aka The Codependency Coach. Jo specialises in helping women to recover from codependency so they can feel content and secure alone, and have healthy fulfilling relationships in all areas of their lives. She's a recovering codependent herself, and the creator of the Wildly Worthy codependency recovery community, as well as The Anti People Pleasing Podcast.  Clemmie and Jo cover: WHAT IS CODEPENDENCY? WHAT ARE THE SIGNS TO LOOK OUT FOR? HOW DOES THAT RELATE TO PEOPLE PLEASING? THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN CODEPENDENCY AND NARCISSM THE ANXIETY GAP? HOW DO YOU RECOVER FROM CODEPENDENCY Find Jo on Instagram @JoWestwood, Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast episodes and content @ButWhyInsta. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's But Why bitesize is extraordinary and a little different. In normal circumstances, these mini episodes involve a very complicated edit, but not this week. In this episode Clemmie is looking at war with child genocide survivor Taban Shoresh, who founded Lotus Flower, a non-profit that supports female conflict survivors and refugees in Kurdistan, Iraq. And this shortened episode is simply her first answer. You can find the full episode wherever you get your podcasts. With a political activist father during Saddam Hussein’s regime, Taban was imprisoned with her family aged just four, and they narrowly escaped being buried alive.  After a year dodging bombs and bullets, they were finally flown to the UK by Amnesty to start a new life.  In 2016 decided to give up her successful City of London career and establish Lotus Flower. It now supports women and girls who lost everything at the hands of ISIS, including their homes and loved ones, and who also suffered barbaric crimes such as slavery, rape and torture. To find out more about Lotus Flower visit Supporting Women & Girls impacted by conflict I The Lotus Flower. And to check out more content and listen to previous episodes go to @ButWhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this look back, we head to May, 2022, when Clemmie explored burn out with writer, humourist, ex-professional actress & singer Caroline Dooner, who wrote the The F*ck It Diet, all about her relationship with food and dieting, and Tired as F*ck, all about her "exhaustion & two years of rest". Ten years ago Caroline started writing a blog called The Fuck It Diet as she tried to heal her relationship with food, and learn about the dark side of dieting. What she learned about food and weight changed her life. If you struggle with your relationship with food, the The F*ck It Diet is for you. In 2016, four years after she healed her relationship with food, she realised she was exhausted, burnt out, and...filled with existential dread. Her second book, Tired as F*ck, is about how she got back on her feet and her "years being a neurotic little b*tch". Read the beginning here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're taking another trip down But Why memory lane to find a chat all about your gut. Clemmie welcomed twins Lisa and Alana Macfarlane (aka DJs The Mac Twins), who set up The Gut Stuff website to empower gut health in everyone after taking part in a piece of ground breaking research. Lisa and Alana had tried every fad diet under the sun, including the cabbage soup diet pre-Magaluf 2005 (remember that?) and grew up in Scotland eating deep-fried pizza and chips That all changed when they volunteered to be part of the TwinsUK research at King’s College London. Twins are a great constant for medical research, and they became the ‘chief guinea pigs’ for the British Gut Project. They discovered that despite twins having 100% of the same DNA, their guts shared only 30–40% of the same microbiota (head to intro to the gut for more on the basics!), which could explain why all of our bodies behave so differently.  Check out Lisa and Alana on Instagram @themactwins and The Gut Stuff @thegutstuff. And visit Home - The Gut Stuff for more info on how you can improve your gut health. The episode was made in partnership with Bimuno.  Biumuno Daily is a unique, high in fibre prebiotic supplement that has been proven to need and stimulate the growth of good bacteria in the gut. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this rewind episode, we go back to June 2022, when Clemmie explored the topic of County Lines with Danielle Marin. Danielle grew up in London with first generation immigrant parents, she was accepted into a grammar school, however her life changed completely after a brutal attack led her to involvement with ‘gangs’ and drug crime. She later enrolled at university and graduated with a 1st. She has since advocated within the criminal justice system for many women: “the hidden victims and participants of organised crime”, and began her Masters in 2021. Clemmie and Danielle discuss what County Lines and 'country' means, why Danielle doesn't agree that she was in gang, and why nothing she experienced came close to the pain of having her son taken away from her. Danielle's book, ‘Top Girl’, is out now and comes highly recommended! Find Clemmie on social media @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's But Why Rewind episode is from March, 2022, when Clemmie chatted to author and journalist Grace Timothy about ADHD and her own chance diagnosis made in 2021 after an appointment to check on her hearing. Clemmie and Grace, who has written for publications including Style, Vogue, Glamour, Marie Claire, the Sunday Times and Teen Vogue and is about to launch her own podcast about ADHD, discuss: Clemmie's husband Ben's recent ADHD diagnosis How ADHD affects women How ADHD is linked to other conditions like depression and anxiety And how Grace's own chance diagnosis helped her make sense of her life. Check out Grace on Instagram @Gracetimothywriter and you can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's bitesize episode Clemmie talks about expectations and more importantly, how to manage them, with award-winning journalist, author and power lifter Poorna Bell. Poorna is the former Executive Editor and Global Lifestyle Head for HuffPost. She won Stylist's Rising Star award for 2019, Red Magazine's Big Book Award for 2019. Poorna has published three works of non-fiction: Chase The Rainbow, In Search of Silence and Stronger, which won a 2022 Sports Book award. Part memoir, part manifesto, Stronger explores society’s pressures and expectations where women’s fitness is concerned. She tackles everything from toxic environments and self-esteem to ageism, sexism, desirability and why choosing between your potential and social acceptance can be limiting. In Case of Emergency is Poorna's first work of fiction. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and Poorna @Poornabell. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's But Why Rewind, we revisit a chat Clemmie had with author Liv Thorne about the challenges of solo parenting. The pair discuss: How she reached the decision to have a baby alone. The process of choosing the sperm. What has surprised Liv about it? Hardest part? What it's taught her? How she talks to her son Herb about it. What advice would you go back and give yourself at the beginning of this process? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices