Life Beyond the To Do List

Why does desire seem to disappear in your 40s? In this episode we unpack hormones, mental load, exhaustion, body confidence, feeling “touched out” and why sex can start to feel like another item on the to do list. Plus, things take a very unexpected turn into the sex lives of ducks, bush turkeys and the octopus “penis arm.”See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When did life become one giant to do list? In this episode we talk about the mental load, constantly doing things for everyone else, and why so many women struggle to make room for joy and pleasure. From spontaneous chicken tenders to leaving the washing for tomorrow, this episode is about finding small moments that remind you life is happening right now, not six months from now when you finally get a holiday.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When your body feels flat, your mind can quickly follow. In this episode we chat about exhaustion, exercise, food guilt, social batteries, and that relentless voice in your head - and why sometimes the answer is simply cutting yourself some slack.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After Katie’s very memorable Bali massage story went viral, she and Rach discover there’s actually a sensual massage service designed entirely for women. They’re joined by Goddess Glow’s Alice and Andy to talk happy endings, orgasms, consent, body confidence and what really happens behind the massage room door.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Wax play is apparently a thing and we needs answers! Rach explains the world of temperature play, safe words and body safe candles before we call in someone who actually knows what she’s talking about. But while some people find it seriously sexy, Katie can’t stop thinking about the sheets, the carpet… and the fire risk.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode taken from This Is Me podcast a few years ago, Rach shares the story behind the life people thought they knew - from her childhood and lifelong friendship with Sam, to a terrifying health scare at 21, marriage and motherhood, and the postnatal depression that almost broke her. An emotional conversation about losing yourself, asking for help and slowly finding your way back.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After one innocent joke went viral, the internet had plenty to say! We read some of the wildest comments, talk about what happens when your content suddenly reaches the wrong crowd, and why Rach briefly put her Instagram on private.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fresh from a therapy session, Katie unpacks a pretty huge realisation: after losing her radio job, she didn’t just leave the career behind she almost convinced herself it never counted. Katie and Rach talk self worth, imposter syndrome, making ourselves smaller and why women can find it so bloody hard to own their success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Katie shares the unexpected chemist visit that left her questioning everything, while Rach admits how one innocent conversation during a photoshoot triggered all her insecurities. From ageing and dry skin to hairy knees and the pressure to look forever young!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Who Even Are We?, Katie and Rachel are joined by resilience coach and mental health educator Luke Evans to explore the powerful concept of parenting your inner child. Together, they unpack how past experiences influence the way we think, feel and respond, and why learning to become your own compassionate inner parent can transform your mental wellbeing, relationships and resilience. From overcoming self criticism and understanding trauma to building practical tools for emotional regulation, Luke shares simple, actionable strategies for navigating life's challenges with greater self-awareness and kindness. If you've ever felt like your own worst critic, this conversation will help you understand why and how to start changing that. If you'd like connect with Luke and the work he does head to www.emotivework.com or contact him on Instagram @lukeevans_See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.