Learning to Say 'I'm Sorry'

What if kindness wasn’t occasional—but a way of living? Kristina Joy Carlson, creator of Outrageous Kindness, joins me to talk about how everyday actions shape connection, relationships, and the lives around us. Find out more about Kristina Joy Carlson: https://outrageouskindness.com/ David Magee's Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://davidmagee.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Magee Foundation ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mageefoundation.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/davidmageeshow/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Two years out of college, they’ve built a New York–based talent firm—now expanding nationally—connecting top students and recent graduates with real opportunities. Hartwell Furr and Brenley Rinaudo are the co-founders of Hartwell, a New York–based talent firm focused on connecting top college students and recent graduates with meaningful opportunities. Find out more about The Hartwell Collective - https://www.thehartwellcollective.com/ David Magee's Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://davidmagee.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Magee Foundation ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mageefoundation.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/davidmageeshow/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch on YouTube ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@davidmageeshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Novelist Claire Gibson has spent years doing the part of writing no one sees—the showing up, the refining, the staying with it long before anyone pays attention. Now, with her novel Burst Into Song on the horizon, things are starting to move. This conversation lives in the long middle—the doubt, the quiet, the moments when it feels too hard. And why that’s often where the real work is happening. Gibson stayed with it long enough for the work to catch up. If you’re in the thick of it—still working, still waiting—this one’s for you. Find out more about Claire https://www.clairegibson.com/ David Magee's Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://davidmagee.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Magee Foundation ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mageefoundation.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/davidmageeshow/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch on YouTube ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@davidmageeshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Losing our son William changed everything. In the middle of that grief, I experienced something I still can’t fully explain—something that reshaped how I understand loss, connection, and what it means to say goodbye. Do the people we love completely leave us? Can they still reach us in ways we don’t expect? In this episode, I share that moment—and what it’s opened up for me about grief, presence, and the possibility that love doesn’t end where life does. David Magee's Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://davidmagee.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Magee Foundation ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mageefoundation.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/davidmageeshow/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch on YouTube ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@davidmageeshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s one simple practice that can change your life, and it doesn’t take discipline, talent, or effort the way most habits do. It’s something we often overlook, but the science and the lived experience both point to the same truth: gratitude has the power to transform how we think, feel, and connect. In this episode, I share why gratitude is so powerful, how it builds resilience and emotional strength, and the real-life moments that proved it to me. From a teacher who changed my life to the people who showed up for my family in recovery, this is about learning how to look inward, speak it out, and change not just your life, but someone else’s too. David Magee's Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://davidmagee.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Magee Foundation ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mageefoundation.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/davidmageeshow/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch on YouTube ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@davidmageeshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Few words are more powerful than “I’m sorry,” yet those two words can be some of the hardest to say. Admitting we’ve done something wrong challenges the story we tell ourselves about who we are. In this episode, I talk about why apologies are so difficult, what psychology and neuroscience say about it, and why learning to say a sincere “I’m sorry” can repair relationships, restore trust, and even double the likelihood of forgiveness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So many struggles stay hidden because of shame. Whether it’s an eating disorder, substance misuse, or just feeling like you’re the only one dealing with something hard, silence has a way of making things darker. In this episode, Kent, Mary Ivon Montgomery, and I join Tammy and Kevin as guests on their podcast Across the Table. They invited us to talk about faith, recovery, body image, and the courage it takes to tell the truth about what’s really going on. We’re sharing that conversation here because if you’re struggling, or walking alongside someone who is, bringing things into the light is often where healing begins. Across The Table Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/kh/podcast/across-the-table/id1843708720 David Magee's Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://davidmagee.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Magee Foundation ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mageefoundation.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/davidmageeshow/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch on YouTube ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@davidmageeshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are few things more uncomfortable than taking a real, honest look at ourselves. For me, a fearless moral inventory meant facing lies, the shame, and damage. But after the pain comes remarkable healing — and joy. In this episode, Kent and I talk about why step four is so hard but why it’s the turning point. Real change doesn’t start when we blame someone else. It starts when we ask, “What’s my responsibility?” David Magee's Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://davidmagee.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Magee Foundation ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mageefoundation.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/davidmageeshow/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch on YouTube ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@davidmageeshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For a long time, I thought the 12 steps were just for people battling addiction. What I’ve learned is that some of the most practical, life-changing lessons I’ve ever found are embedded in that process, and at the center of it all is something simple: love and service. In this episode, Kent and I talk about how helping others has a way of healing the one doing the helping. If you’ve ever felt restless, stuck, or like something’s missing, this conversation is really about finding purpose and having the courage to step into it. David Magee's Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://davidmagee.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Magee Foundation ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mageefoundation.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/davidmageeshow/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Watch on YouTube  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@davidmageeshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A lot of people think recovery is just about quitting something. Just stop drinking. Just stop using. Just get it under control. But what I’ve seen in our family and in so many others is that recovery isn’t just about stopping. It’s about building a different kind of life. What once felt like a curse can slowly become something you’re grateful for. In this episode, Kent and I talk about what we call “romancing the drink,” that mental habit that starts long before the behavior ever does, and the shift toward thinking it all the way through. It applies to addiction, but it also applies to money, relationships, attention, and all the things we chase thinking they’ll finally fix something inside us. David Magee's Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://davidmagee.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Magee Foundation ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mageefoundation.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/davidmageeshow/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Watch on YouTube  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@davidmageeshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices