Ep 236: Discovering What Was Always There (a ONE THING conversation with Joy Cho)

This episode is for anyone who has looked at a photo of themselves and wondered if that's what they really look like. Professional photographer Jess Koehler is my guest today as we talk through all the hangups that keep us from taking, sharing, or displaying photos of ourselves, and how we can overcome them. This is not a typical "tips and tricks" episode (although we do weave tangible and emotional tips throughout). Jess and I are talking about WHY we should document ourselves, maybe even on our hardest days. We're talking about the benefits of having professional photos taken when our camera phones have become so advanced. And, yes, we're sharing all kinds of logistics on taking photos, from finding a professional photographer to using your Apple Watch as a selfie timer. Learn more about Jess Koehler Follow Jess Koehler on IG Sign up for Jess Koehler's newsletter FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 37: Who do you see in the picture? Fleabag: A Love Story (BONUS episode with Sueann Fortener) RELATED: Ep 123: How To Feel Pretty When You Don't   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is the latest episode in the ONE THING series, where I host conversations with interesting people and ask them the ONE THING they would tell you. You might know Joy Cho as the bright, stylish, happy face and founder of Oh Joy!, a lifestyle brand with millions of followers and whose products and designs have appeared in Target, Petco, House Beautiful (to name a few) and in collaborations with Keds, Casetify, Calpak (and more). But even with a soaring career, Joy experienced a midlife crisis after a hard season in her family and a series of professional setbacks. She tried all the things you're supposed to when you're struggling: therapy, a life coach, but there was really ONE THING that pulled her out of a long funk. In our conversation, Joy and I talk about how I fanned out on her not once but twice, how an outfit can change the way you move through the day, and why it helps to remember what we loved to do when we were kids. I knew Joy would bring wisdom and insight to the show, and of course she over delivered. Learn more about Joy Cho Follow Joy on Instagram Follow Oh Joy on Pinterest FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Find all of Joy Cho's books here Creative, Inc. (published 2010) Blog, Inc. (published 2012) Joy's mental-health-focused Substack   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is an episode for writers, aspiring authors, readers, and anyone who likes a peek behind-the-scenes. We're going to talk about the publishing industry as it stands, how it's changed in the last few years, the rise of self-publishing, conquering self-doubt, money, and so much more. I'm sharing 4 lessons I learned after achieving my lifelong dream of becoming an author. My first book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. published in 2021, and my second book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs published in 2023. RELATED Episodes: Ep. 73 I wrote a book! (Agents, publishing, writing, and editing) Ep. 111 Behind-The-Scenes of Publishing, Launching, and Marketing a Book Ep. 166 How to Write a Book (in 10 steps) BONUS: 5 Things About Writing Your Own Story (with author, ghostwriter, and book coach Allison Fallon) Ep. 205: 10 Things All Podcast Fans Should Know FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN SECRET STUFF FOR BONUS CONTENT MENTIONED in this episode: The Martian by Andy Weir Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James The Shadow Work Journal by Keila Shaheen How A Self-Published Book Broke All The Rules And Became A Best Seller (NYT)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is the best thing you read this summer? My guest Carmel Phillips and I are sharing the books that made the greatest impression over the last few months, including backlist titles and the buzziest books of the season. (And yes, of course we mention the NYT Best Books of the 21st century list that dropped in July.) Carmel Phillips is a design and style blogger who regularly shares bold interiors, budget-friendly fashion, and a splash of book talk! I've wanted to have her on the show forever and this felt like the perfect time to chat. Follow Carmel on IG Follow Carmel on TikTok Follow her book club @4ReadingWomen FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Carmel’s picks: Bastard Out of Carolina by Dorothy Allison The Island of Sea Women by Lisa See The Women by Kristen Hannah Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin Laura’s picks: The God of the Woods by Liz Moore All the Colors of the Dark by Chris Whitaker Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara You Like It Darker by Stephen King Sandwich by Catherine Newman ALSO MENTIONED: Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant The Humans by Matt Haig The Midnight Library by Matt Haig James by Percival Everett Salvage the Bones by Jesmyn Ward Long Bright River by Liz Moore The Nightingale by Kristen Hannah The Four Winds by Kristen Hannah The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry by Gabrielle Zevin We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman Ep. 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far) JOIN SECRET STUFF for regular book content and to hear the Stephen King Summer discussions SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The kitchen may be the heart of the home, but it's also the place most likely to collect clutter and be full to the brim of stuff. Professional organizer Tara Bremer of @house.peace shares with us 10 ways that we can achieve peace in the most used room in the house. FOLLOW @house.peace on IG SIGN UP for the House Peace newsletter As I'm in the middle of a kitchen remodel, I've been thinking a lot about how to make this space feel and function the way we want. I share a little more about the changes we're making to our home on Ep 230: Favorite Things Summer 2024 and Tara and I have a bonus conversation over on Secret Stuff about some of the crazy stuff she's come across while organizing for others as well as the mental health aspects that come up around hoarding and purging. JOIN SECRET STUFF TO LISTEN FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: The Home Edit organizing stuff at Walmart The Home Edit labels at The Container Store Talented Kitchen labels Brother P-Touch Label Maker   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is inspired by Snoop Dogg at the Olympics. In the early 2000s, I worked on Snoop's short-lived MTV show Doggy Fizzle Televizzle and when I made a joke about this on social media, my DMs quickly filled with questions and I realized this was a story I hadn't told in awhile. So in this episode I'm sharing 10 weird things I've done - from watching Drew Barrymore crawl through a second-story window to calling the cops on a teenage prank gone wrong. I hope you enjoy my weird stories, but even more than that I hope that they inspire you to tell YOUR weird stories. Text a friend, post on social media, or revisit your past in your journal. This is a fun one. * A list of these weird things originally appeared in my book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. 10 Questions To Take Your Friendships To The Next Level FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Snoop Dogg’s Doggy Fizzle Televizzle Jackass Wildboyz Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine (join to listen to the Secret Tapes episode with my friend Noah from Doggy Fizzle Televizzle)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

August is such a crazy month - the second "new year" as it's often called, except without the fresh start and instead with the idea that we're all gearing up for school, fall chaos, and, of course, all of that bleeding into the holiday season. But I don't want the second half of the year to feel frazzled, so I'm setting myself up for (better) success with a few rules and mantras to live by. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Secret Stuff Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara RELATED Episodes: Episode 227: Time Anxiety Ep 162: 10 Ways To Handle Overwhelm Ep 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations For Right Now   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back with all new episodes and kicking it off by sharing my favorite things of the summer! In this episode I'm recommending books, podcasts, documentaries, and more favorites from this season. I'm also sharing details on our current home renovation and an update on my sister's recovery from brain surgery. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Join my SECRET STUFF Patreon community for more favorites Join us for STEPHEN KING SUMMER FAVORITES in this episode: Home renovations  NYT 100 Best Books of the 21st Century list Kindle remote page turner The God of the Woods by Liz Moore Day Date Foodie Adventures with Jeff Changing up my artwork/Scout Design Studio art pieces Who Killed JFK? podcast Ashley Madison Sex Lies and Scandal on Netflix and The Perfect Wife on Hulu One Hundred Stars Stork Robe My sister’s recovery from brain surgery ALSO MENTIONED: Haus of Meeshie My personal ballot for the Best Books of the 21st Century Long Bright River by Liz Moore “American Nightmare” documentary on Netflix 11/22/63 by Stephen King   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode originally aired in November 2021 and is a very fun departure from my usual interviews. One of the strangest things about our life in Hollywood (and there are many, many strange things) is our enormous fish tank. Every time I share a little bit about our fish tank on social media, I get flooded with questions that I mostly can't answer.  So I finally recorded a conversation with someone who could! Nic Tiemens is the co-founder of Infinity Aquariums and not only does he take care of the Tremaine Tank for us every week, he has installed and maintained tanks for some of the biggest celebrities and most beautiful homes in the world.  In this episode, Nic shares how he stumbled into this line of work, why you shouldn't ever get a fish tank on a whim, and the insane new project he's been working on for two years in Bel Air.  My husband Jeff also joins us for part of the conversation, because he's the real reason we have a 1,500 gallon fish tank in our dining room.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Learn more about Nic and Infinity Aquariums Follow @infinityaquariums on Instagram   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode originally aired in August 2021, and is one of my personal favorites. Ready to bust out the air mattresses?  This episode is FULL of practical, logistical, and emotional tips for hosting people in your home. I'm sharing everything from the 4 things that keep (most) guests happy, to the mindset shifts that will keep you from being overwhelmed or resentful. Look, if there's one subject I can give many (many) words to, it's hosting houseguests. Since I moved to Los Angeles 20 years ago, I've hosted friends and family of all group sizes, from couch crashers in a tiny apartment to my entire extended family at our new home last month.  Our lovely lake house has also been a revolving door of guests over the years, where I've become an expert at managing meals, airport pickups, activities, and downtime for families and groups. I know that having guests can be an absolute honor and also completely exhausting. I hope this episode gives you the tools to plan and the freedom from pressure the next time you're the host. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices